I have this friend(13) who has been getting raped by her older brother(15)every day while their parents are at work ussually from 9 A.M.-7 P.M since last sumer. so he likes to do her for at least an hour or two.He uses protection so he wont get introuble if she gets pregnant and she wants to tell her parents but her brother says he'll rape her soo hard that it kills her if she ever did.So I was wondering what should I do?Should she tell her parents and risk getting raped harder or just let herself continue the way she has been getting?Please help,ASAP!!

Put an end to this rubbish by telling their parents. The goat should be punished for the shameful act.

the best thing is to call those domestic violence/rape people. they have their # in the phone book and at the bus stops.
it's confidential too. your friend won't know it's you who made the call. I think what they do is tell you to leave the house and you stay w/ them for a while till they clear the issue. obviously your friend won't be seeing his brother for a long time. He deserves to go to jail (even though he won't end up in jail because he's underage (only 15). probably some correctional place. idk? )



the easiest way is to call 911 !!!!

Put an end to this rubbish by telling the parents. And tell the police, too. Be decisive and make sure the girl is protected from her wicked brother. You do not need to be nice or soft at all in a situation like this. The boy is only going to get worse as he grows older; this is not 'playing' at all.

AngelBaby, I am surprised that you haven't made the call yet. Do your part... NOW.

Yes,But I am the only person she has told I'm not afraid of her getting mad at me for telling but I"m afriad of her getting raped harder shes been my bestfriend since 1st grade.Are you sure I should call the policeMy friend and I were thinking of telling my parents then putting our money together($950)to stay with MY aunt who lives at least 700 miles away.And her brother doesn't know where that is.Is that a good idea?I mean my parents are most likely going to call the police so this way she will be far away from him,he'll be in jail or whatever,and I'll be with her so she will feel safe and have someone to be with.What do you all think?

Hmmm ... I can see that both of you are afraid. If you want to play safe, then
- invite your friend over to your house
- and then call the police.

The police will know what to do about this case because it's not the first time it has happened. Just call the police and keep us updated about your progress, ok?

AngelBabyl, Hunnie, u have to help your friend. I know it's hard for you to do this because you might be scared of your friend's brother. But the best thing you can do is to tell somebody. it don't neccessarily have to be your friend's parent. Just tell somebody ASAP. Here's the Toll free number for USA Rape, Abuse and Incest Hotline : 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

When u call the line, they won't tell nobody that you made the report.. just call them and talk to them. They'll find a way to help you. Another thing you can do is call 911 when u know that your friend's brother is going to be home alone with your friend. 911 will go there and help your friend. I'm sure you don't want your friend to be raped every day of her life, and also you wouldn't want her brother to rape her soo hard that she'll die. So just ask for help before it's too late. Good luck hun.

[b]P.S: [/b]telling your friend's parent or your parent is not always the best way to go... They might think that "you don't know wat you are saying". So proffessional help is always the best.
Another way to go by it since school is now in session, is by telling a counsellor you trust. Or a teacher that helps you with your "girly" problems. The school nurses are sometimes also really good.

I hope she reads this

I hope so too.

yeah me too! ohhh! thats sooo bad i feel for her o!

i sent her a PM.

HotAngel's advice is the best. Parents sometimes dont know how best to handle such plus emotional might becloud their sense of judgement.
But it amazes that a guy would do that to his blood sister. Thats pornography at work.

GOD HELP US.

That's not pornography at work, Layi. 99% of young boys who have access to pornography do not behave like that. The boy is simply a monster. A real monster. If he grows up, he will be a very dangerous person. Poor parents.

What sort of monster? He is as humane as u are. His actions are a result of external influence. Moreover he needs to commit incest once to become a habit coz sex is like a loop. "Dont taste" is the word.

Layi, it is not normal to force sex on a girl. If you are a normal person, you will only enjoy sex when you know that the other party is enjoying it too. Sex in which the object of your "affectiong" is crying and saying "please leave me alone" and bleeding is not the kind of sex that a normal young boy dreams about. Sex in which you are telling the object of your "affection" that she musn't tell anyone or else you will rape her harder is not normal. You need to understand the psychology of a rapist and distinguish it from that of a normal person who likes sex.

i think seun is right? i can also say maybe the boy has some psichological problems and he is not well-loved by his family, so he throws his anger against his sister.
i remember when i used to stay with my aunt. she beat me up for any reason while she pampered her son. the only way i could push out my anger was to do to my cousin what his mother had done to me. i'm not proud of my actions, but the pain and the injustice were too much.
so i guess it might be the same for this boy. maybe he also had some sexual desire for his sister that she didn't accept, so the only way to get her was to use power.
we also have to see the way he relates to others! and if he hasn't been raping other girls as well. as for me i believe if is not the sister herself to tell the fact, noone will ever believe. some adults are block-headed and won't admit the truth even though they see it with their naked eyes.
external help is the best solution, or better place a videocamera in the house.

We cannot simply guess what the cause of this behaviour is. All we can do is help the poor girl.

Whatever that boy is doing is simply WRONG. And he needs Jesus. For real... I told my friend abt this n he was like "nigga has been watching too much porn". I guess that contributes to it.

Anyways.. i pray that God save that girl. (i prayed for her).

i don't think Indecency has to do with this! i have friends who watch pornos night and day and they don't go around raping girls! eventhough the fact is reported and the girl is saved, what guarantees us that the boy won't rape another girl? it's not only the girl who needs help, they both do!
the guy doesn't olny rape, he's the protagonist of an incest! he's definately sick!

WORD! He's sick and that's why he needs Jesus.

i'd rather recommend a psichologist and a very good one!

Well I also recommend police and hot-angel's toll free number for USA Rape, Abuse and Incest Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

The case has been resolved. The girls called the hotline and the boy is in a correctional facility while the girl is in a protection programme. I don't know what to say.

Seun is right.My friend and I did what you suggested and she is happier with what has happened.I want to thank you all for posting,you were of much help.I dont know what to say except you saved my bestfriend from getting hurt anymore or possibly worse.I know she and I will never forget any of you who have helped us.You all rock!!Lol. ~Lizilami~

Awww.... I'm glad we could help you.

Say hi to your friend...

great news! justice has won again!!!!!!!!!!!!

Young women should learn to take action and seek help from authorities when they are abused. Gentleness is good but timidity is bad! When you are in trouble, set aside your emotions and try to use the left side of your brain to get yourself out of trouble. Ok, enough preaching for today.

wat da heck? a brother raping his sister, da boy is insane really.sumthing should be done b4 itz late

As a race we can be horrible people at times. How can somebody rape his own sister. Angelbaby we thank God that your friend had the courage to report it, a big weldone to hot-angel & Seun for their advise it obviously helped.

I know about a similar situation involving somebody in my family (Wife's side), where the guy has raped all 4 of his sisters whilst growing up and living at home. I still can not decide what to do re this guy, he is married now with kids (2 boy's thankfully) and is not really involved in family matters. As a Christian I am trying to forgive but I am struggling as occasionally when I see him around I want to rip his head off. He may have changed I don't know but he still deserves a good kicking in my book. I am not a Nigerian citizen so it would be extra foolish if I was to intervine with violence. After saying all that I must add I don't condone violence in any form. I just go a little to pot when I think of the damage he has done to my family members and close friends.

love to all.

I think she should write a letter to her parents & on the day she is planning on telling them she should mail it. That way they'll find out even if she is too scared to tell them.

Also, she or you should call the police, because the brother should not go unpunished and your friend needs some real PROFESSIONAL support right now. I know that you want to keep your friend's secret but when you are older you will know that telling someone & getting your friend out of this horrible, horrible situation is the BEST THING YOU CAN DO! Please, before anymore damage is done, TELL SOMEONE!

She already did.

SIBLI_06:

As a race we can be horrible people at times. How can somebody rape his own sister. Angelbaby we thank God that your friend had the courage to report it, a big weldone to hot-angel & Seun for their advise it obviously helped.

I know about a similar situation involving somebody in my family (Wife's side), where the guy has raped all 4 of his sisters whilst growing up and living at home. I still can not decide what to do re this guy, he is married now with kids (2 boy's thankfully) and is not really involved in family matters. As a Christian I am trying to forgive but I am struggling as occasionally when I see him around I want to rip his head off. He may have changed I don't know but he still deserves a good kicking in my book. I am not a Nigerian citizen so it would be extra foolish if I was to intervine with violence. After saying all that I must add I don't condone violence in any form. I just go a little to pot when I think of the damage he has done to my family members and close friends.

love to all.

Raping has nothing to do with being black.