funkybaby:

I cant really place a figure but i think 2million naira (excluding Sunny Ade's perfomance fee  ) should be enough for a decent and modest traditional wedding.

It depends really on what the couple wants/what the family wants. . . .

some families will prefer a low key wedding. will some will want it done in an extravagant way.

However, i think number 1 (introduction) should not cost too much. This is because it is more like hosting a 'house party' for 20 people.

Number 2 (engagement) might be a little pricey . . . . depending on the venue. Costs of good halls in lagos are high but if it is going to be held at the bride's parents place, then that cost is out of the picture.

I think it is the wedding reception that gulps the highest sum of money

Thanx for the info!!
Make i go find Igbo babe wey i go marry.

~Sauron~:

Thanx for the info!!
Make i go find Igbo babe wey i go marry.

Okay. Goodluck

Just a quick hint : Prepare to pay heavily for her bride price.

You might be given 20sticks of broom. Each stick representing 200,000 naira.
Also prepare to pay for the attire her parents, siblings, grandma, grandapa, etc will wear to the wedding.

You are bearing the entire 100percent cost of the wedding

funkybaby:

Okay. Goodluck
Just a quick hint : Prepare to pay heavily for her bride price.

You might be given 20sticks of broom. Each stick representing 200,000 naira.
Also prepare to pay for the attire her parents, siblings, grandma, grandapa, etc will wear to the wedding.

[b]You are bearing the entire 100percent [/b]cost of the wedding

That's no problem. . . .

This a enlightening topic, I hope that more folks will share their experiences. I grew up in the States, and of late have been entertaining the idea of marrying a Nigerian lady. But all the "extra" stuff involved (like traditional marriage, bride price, etc) all seem a little daunting. Or maybe I've just been misinformed,
Carry on,

~Sauron~:

That's no problem. . . .

come back here jo

you should keep it within the west

funkybaby:

come back here jo

you should keep it within the west

U are the only option i have got in the West.
Since you won't marry me. . . . . .The West can rot for all i care.
Eastside till i dieeeeeeeee.

~Sauron~:

U are the only option i have got in the West.
Since you won't marry me. . . . . .The West can rot for all i care.
Eastside till i dieeeeeeeee.

Alright . . . . . .

I will reconsider your proposal

so you know: 2010 range rover sport HSE is number one on my 'engagement list' oh

^^ You mean the picture or the real car itself?

^^^ I tire o!. dis kin engagement request fit give bachelor heart attack

dayokanu:

^^ You mean the picture or the real car itself?

funkybaby:

this is how i know yoruba traditional wedding is done [s]and it is also how i want mine done as well [/s] 

1. Introduction
After bobo has proposed and i have accepted and both families have been informed, he will decide a date to bring his family (no more than 10, his father inclusive) to come to my parent's house for a formal introduction. Naturally, they are not to come empty handed. They are to come with little gifts (usually fruits, big bunches of plantain, etc)

This will be a 'sitting room' gathering. No 'aso ebis', 'live band' and the likes. Now this introduction will consist of nicely prepared meals where both families will exchange banter and eat together and my bobo's dad will inform my dad that his son wants to marry me and they are in full support of his son's decision. My dad will then inform them of the likely date/month the formal engagement will hold.

When they are about to leave, my 'in laws' to be will be given gifts from my folks (prolly fruits, drinks, etc).

The 'engagement list' will be sent to my bobo's family later. The list is usually complied after consultations within my family/extended family. Each family has their own requirements. For example, my dad will never ask for schnapps or dry gin. While some family, it is complusory.

2. Engagement
For this, friends and family will be invited. Venue might be my parent's house or a rented hall. Bobo and I will wear 'aso-ebi'. There will be 'alaga duro'.
During the engagement ceremony, bobo prostrates to the bride's parents as demanded by yoruba tradition.There is the usual drama of bride price which is usually a little token. Few collect it, and most do not. Usual line is that they are not selling their daughter. 
Bobo gives me ring, we cut a little ceremonial cake and share a few kisses in the full glare of our parents 
Bobo's family also presents what was required in the engagement list.

There will be a live musical band. Dancing and spraying of naira notes

3. Church wedding
Exchange of vows in God's temple

4. Reception
After party. Plenty food, drinks, souvenirs, etc

5. After party at the groom's family home
Depends largely on the groom's family. Some will have a small party welcoming the bride to their family. Others will do it in a big way. . . . . Live band with Sunny Ade or KWAM 1 jamming all night 

funkybaby:

I cant really place a figure but i think 2million naira (excluding Sunny Ade's perfomance fee  ) should be enough for a decent and modest traditional wedding.

It depends really on what the couple wants/what the family wants. . . .

some families will prefer a low key wedding. will some will want it done in an extravagant way.

However, i think number 1 (introduction) should not cost too much. This is because it is more like hosting a 'house party' for 20 people.

Number 2 (engagement) might be a little pricey . . . . depending on the venue. Costs of good halls in lagos are high but if it is going to be held at the bride's parents place, then that cost is out of the picture.

I think it is the wedding reception that gulps the highest sum of money

Sometimes, I just feel sorry for Yoruba men

And yet they have the money to go find wife #2 and #3.

dayokanu:

^^ You mean the picture or the real car itself?

Both

birdman:

^^^ I tire o!. dis kin engagement request fit give bachelor heart attack

Sauron is not complaining

'mr capable' lo'mo

dont be scared o, all you Yoruba husbands-to-be,
for the 21st century couple,
the guy doesnt pay so much for the wedding.
its the settling down that gulps the funds

my dear, you ask a very good question, because what you don't know you need to ask, but my answer to your question is that you should try and google it out because every answers to every questions are on google, by the time you search you will find the right answer, i think i do well?, you can also give me your wedding invitation so as to know the kind of BABARIGA and KEMBE strouser which i will put on@lol

^^is this sarcasm or something.

i dont get it.

wow thank u guys soo much for your help, its much appreciated

abiola4rea:

my dear, you ask a very good question, because what you don't know you need to ask, but my answer to your question is that you should try and google it out because every answers to every questions are on google, by the time you search you will find the right answer,

trust me ive tried that already but was not helpful enough so i thought let me ask my beloved fellow naijarians, as i was sure i would get more help from here and i did , so thanks again guys!

could anyone also help me out here?
i would very much appreciate to know about the Igbos'.
starting from the Intro, 1st, 2nd and 3rd visits, etc.
thanks

^^^^ 2nd and 3rd visits?? why?.
I tire oo!!
If na so how person go dey do visits like water from here?
this marriage palaver sha.

funkybaby:

I cant really place a figure but i think 2million naira (excluding Sunny Ade's perfomance fee ) should be enough for a decent and modest traditional wedding.

It depends really on what the couple wants/what the family wants. . . .

some families will prefer a low key wedding. will some will want it done in an extravagant way.

However, i think number 1 (introduction) should not cost too much. This is because it is more like hosting a 'house party' for 20 people.

Number 2 (engagement) might be a little pricey . . . . depending on the venue. Costs of good halls in lagos are high but if it is going to be held at the bride's parents place, then that cost is out of the picture.

I think it is the wedding reception that gulps the highest sum of money

Not only the Igbo can be insulted for selling their daughters. I think all the southern Nigerian groups do the same thing.

ask you grandmother, aunties and uncles back home.

For anyone looking for a comprehensive step by step overview of the Yoruba Wedding Ceremony, then check out this page http://www.weddingfeferity.com/traditional-nigerian-wedding-pictures/yoruba-traditional-wedding-ceremony-igbeyawo/

damilola15:
I didn't know yoruba traditional wedding still existed.

it still exists, but not everyone does it.