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Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by swoosh(m): 9:53pm On Jul 04, 2010 |
My wife dated several men before we met and eventually got married- she told me about most of these men and I thought it didnt matter, now however Im finding it very difficult to cope with these facts- I often imgine her making love to different men and its really draining the respect I should have for her Is this something other married men also feel? or is there something terribly wrong with me? I really i'm not happy about these thoughts but how to I get them out of my mind? Need some advice please |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 10:28pm On Jul 04, 2010 |
- were you virgin when you met her?! - she did told you about all these men before you guys got married, so complaining now wouldnt be fair. as much as it may be difficult to accept, you can just picture yourself with all the cuties you had before you met your wife. i dont think there is anything wrong with you but, depending on how long you guys have been married, the thoughts of wifey with other men should have faded in your mind by now. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by coolier(f): 3:22am On Jul 05, 2010 |
swoosh: maybe |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Seun(m): 3:24am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Yeah, it's you. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Sissy3(f): 4:02am On Jul 05, 2010 |
MRbrownJAY: i want to know to. more reason why, certain personal issues should be kept in the cupboard as long as it doesnt/wouldnt disrupt the function of the marriage/relationshipi in the present/future |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Outstrip(f): 5:01am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Yes it is you |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 5:30am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by swoosh(m): 7:16am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Ok granted - its me. So what do I need to do? I need advice not just blame |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 7:44am On Jul 05, 2010 |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Africanqueen2(f): 9:01am On Jul 05, 2010 |
chaircover:good question |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by mutter(f): 10:08am On Jul 05, 2010 |
You know when we want to do something "wrong", we have to look for a reason to justify what we are doing or about to do. Beware that you don`t fall into temptation. On the one hand it is not wise for a wife to talk about her past to her husband on the other hand, she wanted to be honest to you. Why are you now betraying that trust. Look at it this way, she knows and appreciates what she has in you. Do you realise that many women enter a marriage naive but then in the marriage they go astray and get carried away.She belongs to you now what more do you want. You cannot stop thinking about it but you certainly can tell yourself that it is normal that when you meet a woman she has had a past. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by swoosh(m): 10:43am On Jul 05, 2010 |
mutter: MRbrownJAY: These are only helpful posts so far. I know its wrong to be having those thoughts and I dont let my wife know about them. I realize its wrong and im battling to get rid of them- so what I need is advice - and from married people (especially men)- not the single ladies who are probably just worried that they will find themselves in similar situation or the single guys who dont know what it means to call a woman your wife (im not talking about a girlfriend here) |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 12:03pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by swoosh(m): 12:26pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
chaircover: NO |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Spyker: 12:52pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Stop asking her about her ex's and stop troubling yourself. If she is faithful, that's all you need. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by e36991: 1:35pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
swoosh: @swoosh Does your wife share your https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=105339.msg6277954#msg6277954 Shameless Pot-calling-Kettle-black timewaster |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by ifyalways(f): 2:01pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
swoosh:@Poster http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=280920 |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Gadols(f): 2:26pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Bros u don't need the load. Is she still dating them? Love her cos she is now ur wife. Suppose she never told u? Would that have made u better? I think u ar just fuming over ur vain imagination. She is ur wife now. We all have our pasts. Let ur past as a family be in d past. Love her and pls respect her. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by e36991: 2:54pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
swoosh #864 on: June 20, 2010, 11:21 PM : @swoosh . . . also does your wife know about your past escapades and recently nursed fantasies (i.e. the above past escapades and recently nursed fantasies excerpt from https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-105339.864.html#msg6252117 ) Or is this a double standard game you're playing here uh? Pinocchio! Pfft!! |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 4:03pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
swoosh: Lair! It wouldnt 'bother' you so much if you weren't trying to justify your philandering! |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
e36991: Ewwww! He's a perv too . . |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by denzel2009: 4:17pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
See as they dug out his past |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by netotse(m): 4:20pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
@ujujoan i almost started on your case till i saw the OPs post about the specifics of knacking the different bootay sizes. . .i woulda felt soooo stupid in the end. . . |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 4:39pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
netotse: Really? Well, I didn't need to see his previous posts before . . It's just plain psychology! If he wasn't a virgin is hating on his wife who he married knowing fully well she wasn't a virgin either, then he has something to hide! |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by swoosh(m): 10:41pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Thanx Ifyalways- thanks so much, you're a star I would advise some of you to visit this site and see how civilized people post I have found the answers I need from this other site and can see that many other people feel this way so now I know there's nothing abnormal with me so I'd just need to work at clearing these thoughts Thanks again Ifyalways I dont need anymore advice - so if you're posting anything else on this thread, you're simply jobless and wasting your time |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by prittigrrr(f): 11:42pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Another 'outed' hypocrite bites the dust. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 2:35pm On Jul 06, 2010 |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by prittigrrr(f): 3:13pm On Jul 06, 2010 |
chaircover: As always Chaircover, well reasoned and well said. Girl, you are a wise and respectful lady. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Jul 06, 2010 |
swoosh: That's because they dont' know you are such a fibber 29 huh? isnt' that 34 I see on your profile? Plus they don't get to see your previous posts here on NL! You only slept with one girl my behind! Lair! |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Fhemmmy: 4:28pm On Jul 06, 2010 |
Never a question that you never wanted an answer to. So it is you and you alone. Deal with it before your home is scattered |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Jul 06, 2010 |
swoosh your feelings are perfectly normal and has nothing to do with your wanting to cheat on your wife. I have the same feelings now with an ex. She and i are trying to get back together but i cant just overcome the fact that i know she lost her virginity to another guy . . . someone i know very well and once lived with for a yr and my junior! What annoys me most is that while we were together she was always sensitive to being touched. Unlike you however, i have made up my mind that is going to be a major stumbling block and i cant bring myself to marry her with that hanging. Get over it . . . sometimes i have realised the less you know about a woman's past the better. |
Re: Do Married Men Really Feel This Way Or Is It Just Me? by Nobody: 12:20pm On Jul 07, 2010 |
awon boiz and performance/size anxiety |
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