SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

CanadianNaija:


I guess you're looking for someone malleable that you can control, if not why don't you have the confidence to approach people in your age group?



You'll marry her now and stifle her, then when she acts her age as a young woman that should be discovering herself you will now come and write stories that touch.

Na you know.

CanadianNaija:


I guess you're looking for someone malleable that you can control, if not why don't you have the confidence to approach people in your age group?



You'll marry her now and stifle her, then when she acts her age as a young woman that should be discovering herself you will now come and write stories that touch.

Na you know.

Zoharariel:


Baba, the OP is even a small boy. With my age, the girl I am planning to impregnate na 16 (highest 17 years old).

It is not about having the confidence to approach people in my age group or not.

Yahoo Boys & Ritualists have finished all the women in my younger brother's age group, not to talk of women in my own age group.

I was at Ijebu the last weekend and na so dem tell me say a married man was caught recently & beaten to pulp before he confessed.

The guy went to an herbalist at Ago Iwoye to look for a shortcut to wealth and he was given a ring.

The ring was meant to hypnotize any woman he touches until he sleeps with them & then all their virtues will automatically be transferred spiritually to the guy.

Now, listen carefully. The guy confessed that he went to 911 (a very popular bar in Ijebu-ode where myself & friends go to drink too) and all the women (Olosho) he touched with that ring have already been used by other Yahoo boys & ritualists.

He went to another bar and all the olosho there too have been used.

He now became skeptical of the ring - thinking maybe the Babalawo gave him a sakamanje

Na so the guy enter house & touched his wife (who had just given birth) with the ring and it worked.

Omo, na so the wife start to dey sick & shrink until her people asked her and she told them her sickness began the night her husband touched her.

They started beating the husband until he confessed.

Baba, dem talk say all the girls wey dey TASUED, Yahoo Boys don use all of them finish. Even Unilag, Laspotech & LASU female hustlers (Oloshos) are not left out.

As I dey so, if my 16 or 17 year old babe no gree for me on time, Omo last last, na 12 or 13 year old girl I go go impregnate.

Highest, the court will settle it for us by pronouncing us husband & wife.

I really pity guys wey still dey carry Olosho - I swear!

Zoharariel:


Baba, the OP is even a small boy. With my age, the girl I am planning to impregnate na 16 (highest 17 years old).

It is not about having the confidence to approach people in my age group or not.

Yahoo Boys & Ritualists have finished all the women in my younger brother's age group, not to talk of women in my own age group.

Highest, the court will settle it for us by pronouncing us husband & wife.

I really pity guys wey still dey carry Olosho - I swear!

SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

Opinionated:


Don't let age be the deal breaker in this. If you like the qualities in her, go for it.

Elder0001:



Go and marry your age mate.

Ladies below 26 aren't emotionally mature and financially stable enough for marriage.

ahnie:
Kid you not...the guy above me z a clown!

UjuJoan2:


You are having doubts for a reason. Maybe because you know deep down that it doesn't feel right. Wonder why she's so desperate to get married at 20, and to a much older man for that matter.

I think you need to take a step back and reevaluate the situation before you proceed. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Is she really emotionally ready to make that commitment to you? Does she really understand what she is getting herself into? When the realities of life hits, when she realizes what she got herself into, is she emotionally mature to handle it? Or will she strike out and make you the enemy?

Many women are living with severe resentment for their husbands, that's actually what makes them cheat eventually. Is that a chance you are willing to take?

Elder0001:


A fool has no delight in understanding

Perfectdanny:


A coconut head is filled with water.

Elder0001:

Kid!

Zoharariel:


Baba, the OP is even a small boy. With my age, the girl I am planning to impregnate na 16 (highest 17 years old).

It is not about having the confidence to approach people in my age group or not.

Yahoo Boys & Ritualists have finished all the women in my younger brother's age group, not to talk of women in my own age group.

I was at Ijebu the last weekend and na so dem tell me say a married man was caught recently & beaten to pulp before he confessed.

The guy went to an herbalist at Ago Iwoye to look for a shortcut to wealth and he was given a ring.

The ring was meant to hypnotize any woman he touches until he sleeps with them & then all their virtues will automatically be transferred spiritually to the guy.

Now, listen carefully. The guy confessed that he went to 911 (a very popular bar in Ijebu-ode where myself & friends go to drink too) and all the women (Olosho) he touched with that ring have already been used by other Yahoo boys & ritualists.

He went to another bar and all the olosho there too have been used.

He now became skeptical of the ring - thinking maybe the Babalawo gave him a sakamanje

Na so the guy enter house & touched his wife (who had just given birth) with the ring and it worked.

Omo, na so the wife start to dey sick & shrink until her people asked her and she told them her sickness began the night her husband touched her.

They started beating the husband until he confessed.

Baba, dem talk say all the girls wey dey TASUED, Yahoo Boys don use all of them finish. Even Unilag, Laspotech & LASU female hustlers (Oloshos) are not left out.

As I dey so, if my 16 or 17 year old babe no gree for me on time, Omo last last, na 12 or 13 year old girl I go go impregnate.

Highest, the court will settle it for us by pronouncing us husband & wife.

I really pity guys wey still dey carry Olosho - I swear!

SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

olatuneji:


What guys are really into these days is really unspeakable.Believe me bro,i sincerely understand what you meant.i quite understand your drive.People will tag you insane for saying this,but you arent.
It's pitiable seeing slayqueens out there slaying about either online or offline.Higher percentage number of them have been used unaware.They are just empty.Na jst body and flesh.That's all.Even those smart ladies who think they cant be used or better still those who think they covered because one baba don do work for them i feel sorry for them.Each days guys are going extreme for money.They dont give a damn,they dont care destroying lives.Also,Due to ignorance on the part parents,a lot of inocent babies will grow up to amount to nothing in life.This is just the simple truth.
I do tell people who cares to listen that there is nothing like Yahoo yahoo.What guys are involved now adays is Money Ritual and majority of there victims is Women.The urgue these guys have for money(kudi) is something else.
Ladies who covet,who are greed,who dont want to use there hands to work,who dont want to have anything doing with a broke brother,ladies who love hanging out and sleeping with married men are those who largely fall there victim.upteem number of married men preferably uses singles ladies or married women to renew there charm/ritual not there wives
Ladies who still think those who appear flashy and lousy are those who to run away from are doing there self great harm,those guys now come coded and appear on a low-key until they successfully carryout there evil intention.Guys are really not smilling.

Zoharariel:


Baba, may Obatala & Shango bless you. I am an Ijebu boy but if I tell you wetin young boys dey do in Ijebu to get money, omo your heart go cut.

Their motto is - "Money Is A Must"

I thank the irunmoles for making me a very contented person otherwise me sef for don join the gang of skull miners.

Shey na wetin I no do when I was in my 20s & 30s - na him I go talk say I wan go do now ?

All I know is - I will never marry an empty basket (apere ajase) or any woman that has been ritualized.

If dem like, let them continue following Yahoo Boys inside their Venza, Cross tour & Muscle - na their glory & virtues go suffer am.

Clarathomp:


They say ''Like fine wine, men get better with age.'' I find this to be true even for women (I'm speaking exclusively for myself while assuming this is the case with most of my gender too)

My point? I like the older me better than the younger me. I mentally cringe at how naive, younger me was and I really wish life occurred in a way that the wisdom we attain at an older age (about different things) could come/happen faster at a younger age, to save us the misery we cause ourselves as youths.

I hope I made sense to you, with that preceding paragraph. At 20, I don't think I was well informed or well suited for marriage in any way. I lacked patience, easily quit things that frustrated me, was indecisive, quick to anger, could hold a grudge and the list goes on. But I considered myself mature and some folks may say I was mature for my age in certain aspects, like the way I spoke and related with people (I was cultured & well mannered) but all my other issues didn't show on the outside .

I'm not sure that what I was like at 20, is any different from what most 20 year olds are like today (I may be wrong but I seriously doubt it) because life happens in stages/phases. You do not escape being a teenager with all the usual tantrums and self esteem issues. The same way you do not escape being an inexperienced young adult bound to make silly mistakes. In a nutshell we do not jump straight from being babies to being well adjusted adults, capable of tackling life's issues. We will all pass through the stages/phases of life.

I don't mind the age difference because personally I like my men older than me BUT can you, really handle a young wife? We are talking marriage not dating abi? In marriage, there is extended family, bills to be paid, investments to be made, budgeting & serious planning to avoid financial strain & borrowing, bad days and good days, etc

Women are hardly educated about these things. Nobody tells us that there's more to being married and staying married beyond the traditional/white ceremony. So we often go into it, ill prepared for the reality . I think even men go into it, ill prepared too. A younger woman may be frustrating to deal with (if she is anything like me, when I was 20) and it may require you making heroic efforts over and over again to maintain a peaceful home. You go fit?

The parents may be willing to let her go because it may mean, one less responsibility for them to worry about.

Clarathomp:


They say ''Like fine wine, men get better with age.'' I find this to be true even for women (I'm speaking exclusively for myself while assuming this is the case with most of my gender too)

My point? I like the older me better than the younger me. I mentally cringe at how naive, younger me was and I really wish life occurred in a way that the wisdom we attain at an older age (about different things) could come/happen faster at a younger age, to save us the misery we cause ourselves as youths.

I hope I made sense to you, with that preceding paragraph. At 20, I don't think I was well informed or well suited for marriage in any way. I lacked patience, easily quit things that frustrated me, was indecisive, quick to anger, could hold a grudge and the list goes on. But I considered myself mature and some folks may say I was mature for my age in certain aspects, like the way I spoke and related with people (I was cultured & well mannered) but all my other issues didn't show on the outside .

I'm not sure that what I was like at 20, is any different from what most 20 year olds are like today (I may be wrong but I seriously doubt it) because life happens in stages/phases. You do not escape being a teenager with all the usual tantrums and self esteem issues. The same way you do not escape being an inexperienced young adult bound to make silly mistakes. In a nutshell we do not jump straight from being babies to being well adjusted adults, capable of tackling life's issues. We will all pass through the stages/phases of life.

I don't mind the age difference because personally I like my men older than me BUT can you, really handle a young wife? We are talking marriage not dating abi? In marriage, there is extended family, bills to be paid, investments to be made, budgeting & serious planning to avoid financial strain & borrowing, bad days and good days, etc

Women are hardly educated about these things. Nobody tells us that there's more to being married and staying married beyond the traditional/white ceremony. So we often go into it, ill prepared for the reality . I think even men go into it, ill prepared too. A younger woman may be frustrating to deal with (if she is anything like me, when I was 20) and it may require you making heroic efforts over and over again to maintain a peaceful home. You go fit?

The parents may be willing to let her go because it may mean, one less responsibility for them to worry about.

SLOVFO:
I am a 37 years old man that us set to court and marry a 20 year old lady. The lady in question came highly recommended by close friends and she is quite matured for her age. The parents are also willing to let her go. But i am hesitant, as i consider the age difference between the two of us. Moreso, she is just in her year one in a higher institution.

Please I need the opinion and advise of experienced folks.

SLOVFO:


This is quite a masterpiece! I appreciate your candid and mature advice... I will put all you have said into consideration. God bless you really good.

Ishilove:

Let me tell you a true life story- mine.

I was in 200 level, age 22 when I met this man, let's call him Paul.

Paul was very well educated, was running his PHD and was very comfortable when I met him. Paul was also 39 years old; 17 years my Senior.

22 year old me found his outpouring of affections very intriguing. I found his maturity very alluring while he found the prospect of being the first person to 'enter the place' a complete novelty. (I was still a virgin at that age).

Paul wooed me with vigour and alacrity because I was his spec- BBW, homely, studious and very Christian. All my favourite gospel songs are gifts from Paul.

When I told my mother about Paul and his intention to wife me, she smiled with great effort and sner on her way without making any comment. As the relationship continued, her smile turned to a grimace. She was like Ishi, let him go and look for his mate."

She never outrightly opposed my relationship with Paul but in time I began to find his world so...daunting and adult. While I giggled and jumped over his furniture, he would sit at his desk and look at me like a long suffering uncle.

He would tell me about the Oracle of Delphi and Euripedes, discuss world politics and religion, as well as the trends in international relations, while all the time all I wanted was just to gossip about Professor Ibidapo-Obe's antics.

It got to a point I began to find his maturity repelling. He had such big plans for us and our future, while I on my own part had other plans for my life that did not include marriage. I wanted to enjoy my youth while I still had it, but Paul, he had seen it all and was ready to start life with me. I wanted him to be young with me, not always so thoughtful and slow to react.

Meanwhile my mum was in her corner grimacing and giving me side eyes.

I was scared, and I fled from Paul. Mature, intelligent and oh, so stingy Paul...

Op, it may work for you but I speak from someone who has walked the walk so I can boldy talk the talk. She is too young for you.

QED.

Last I heard of Paul, he ended with a woman three years his Junior and they are living happily ever after.