Hello Nairalander can you allow your wife to stay together with you in your parent house? My decision is no no. I impregnated the girl without preparation

Are you talking about your wife or you are talking about the girl you pregnanted

These are two different people

So be explicit enough, pls

frozen70:
Are you talking about your wife or you are talking about the girl you pregnanted

These are two different people

So be explicit enough, pls

am referring to the same girl

Well, she is not yet your wife even though she is pregnant for you. So the answer is NO!
It is morally and traditionally wrong for her to stay in your family house.
Her family should cater to her and her unborn child.

But once you pay her brideprice.
She is married into the family
Only then is she expected to first live in the family house where she'd serve the family, cook for everyone, perform house chores as well as wash your parent's clothes.
Then you two can live alone.

The above is done to help domesticate her before you can take her to live with you.

If you skip this and start living with her, she may not only separate you from your family and turn your face towards them, she will also grow stronger than all of them.

Too many broke and irresponsible folks in this generation.

Impregnating a lady under your parents roof shows no respect to them, it shows how irresponsible, unfocused, wayward and unwise you are.

Children should grow to ease burdens from
Parents, not to worsen and increase burden for them.

Right now, I don't know who's more wayward and unfocused between you and the lady who had sex unprotected with.

No Sir. A Man Shall Leave His Father And Mother And Cleave To His Wife.

oloyeagbaakin:


am referring to the same girl

Then you are yet to tel us how a wife is the same thing as a girl you pregnanted

For a man to call a woman his wife, the necessary formalities must have been done by both families

For her to be your girlfriend then both of you are on your own

A man can not say he mistakenly pregnant, if the person is his wife

Tell us, come out straight

NwaAmaikpe:



Well, she is not yet your wife even though she is pregnant for you. So the answer is NO!
It is morally and traditionally wrong for her to stay in your family house.
Her family should cater to her and her unborn child.

But once you pay her brideprice.
She is married into the family
Only then is she expected to first live in the family house where she'd serve the family, cook for everyone, perform house chores as well as wash your parent's clothes.
Then you two can live alone.

The above is done to help domesticate her before you can take her to live with you.

If you skip this and start living with her, she may not only separate you from your family and turn your face towards them, she will also grow stronger than all of them.

I love this advice, what of if she delivers her baby?

NwaAmaikpe:



Well, she is not yet your wife even though she is pregnant for you. So the answer is NO!
It is morally and traditionally wrong for her to stay in your family house.
Her family should cater to her and her unborn child.

But once you pay her brideprice.
She is married into the family
Only then is she expected to first live in the family house where she'd serve the family, cook for everyone, perform house chores as well as wash your parent's clothes.
Then you two can live alone.

The above is done to help domesticate her before you can take her to live with you.

If you skip this and start living with her, she may not only separate you from your family and turn your face towards them, she will also grow stronger than all of them.

You're very stupid and unwise.

oloyeagbaakin:




I love this advice, what of if she delivers her baby?

..... When she delivers the baby, you carry it to oyingbo market and sell! Tueh!

You have to decide first if you want to settle with her or just be responsible for the child.

If you want to settle with her commence marital rites right away no matter how moderate the ceremonies would be then she can live with your parents temporarily until you find your own accommodation and so on.

Should it be the other option the have a sit down between her family and yours discuss modalities of her ante natal care, delivery and responsibilities towards the child but she shouldn’t move in with your parents as she is not your wife!

Good luck and may others learn from your experience!

oloyeagbaakin:




I love this advice, what of if she delivers her baby?

HER BABY. ?
You must be very impotent.

You are taking the advice of a self certified madman, which goes to show how sound you are upstairs.

IamD18:
Too many broke and irresponsible folks in this generation.

Impregnating a lady under your parents roof shows no respect to them, it shows how irresponsible, unfocused, wayward and unwise you are.

Children should grow to ease burdens from
Parents, not to worsen and increase burden for them.

Right now, I don't know who's more wayward and unfocused between you and the lady who had sex unprotected with.

You are right but frankly speaking did you not have unprotected sex before as a student?

some are just commenting here as if they were innocents when growing up. The Op just asked a question.....YES OR NO answer will do

Hmmmm, there will be disagreements and misunderstandings etc. not advisable.