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I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 10:36am On Aug 06, 2010 |
I have 2teenagers -male and female living with me. None is related to me or 2d oda. While I voluntarily took up support 4d boy bcz of his poor background,the gurl was 'imposd' on me by her mother when she was living the country. Everyday I go 2work and come bk 6pm these teenagerz r left by themselves.Lately i startd seein some kurukere movements and i tried in my immature way to knw if they were both eatin apple bt it didnt get 2 anythn.Ths mornin i went thru d fone of d gurl and read a txt.Smbdy was prescribing LADIMAX,Portinor and buscopan 4her. I am nt sure wht these drugs r 4 and i dnt knw how 2 tel her I thnk she is pregnant. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Blueice4re(f): 10:49am On Aug 06, 2010 |
Enquire wat the drugs are for in a phamas, that will give you a link on what to do next. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Nobody: 11:18am On Aug 06, 2010 |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 12:16pm On Aug 06, 2010 |
Thnx gurls. I'l ask afta these drugs in a pharmacy. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by SALady(f): 1:22pm On Aug 06, 2010 |
@Poster, please have a converastion with the two and be as open as you can get with them, dont even leave any stone unturned. Also in your discussion you might want to make them aware of the role you play in thir lives and how far you are willing to stretch yourself and the rest should be up to them. What important is that the are aware of the pros and cons of their actions and that in the end they are responsible for what happens in their lives, yours is just to give the love and care you can give. Good Luck though |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 1:40pm On Aug 06, 2010 |
If its abt talkin 2dem,I do dat regularly. I take dem like siblings and operate on an 'open door' arrangement. They knw my value system bcz I sing it like a song 2dem. I'l jst wait until d pharmacist tells me wht those drugs are and I pray its nt what I fear. I wonder why she wont ask/tell me if she has any health issue,why smbdy else has 2 prescribe drugs 4her. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by blank(f): 6:51pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
Chair cover is very right. Postinor is the morning after pill. There is no other reason to take it than as a precaution for unprotected sex. Pls, dat drug can be dangerous if not used properly. I had a friend dat used it regularly as if it was a contraceptive pill. She bled for 20 days non stop before she plucked up the courage to tell her mum who took her to the hospital. Advice them well o cos this live has no duplicate. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by chika98: 8:14pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
blank: Oh wow! That is why it is called Plan B not to be used as contraceptive. She's lucky she didn't bleed to death. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 8:33pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
thanx y'all.I askd d chemist for ladimax bt he doesnt have it.I enquired wht it was used for,he said its for severe stomach pains and dat its a vry strng drug and shdnt be used xcpt prescribd. I'l talk 2my family 2mro afta church |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by SALady(f): 3:25pm On Aug 08, 2010 |
^^^please try as much as you can to find out if they are s3xual active. Whatever the answer may be please talk to the girls mother to find out if its okay to putt the girl on contraseptives. You didnt tell us the girls age, and she may still be young for this. If the mother's answer is yes, then make sure you put her on the needle and take her to the doctor/clinic yourself everytime. If the mothers answer is no then there's nothing you can do. Another thing is that the girl might say no to the idea too, then you would have hit a brick wall. You can at least give up knowing that you have tried. Like the old saying prevention is better than cure. The trick is to trust her/them and make sure that they know that. Hey!Good luck again |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 3:48am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Thanx 2 u all again. I talkd dem yestrday and I was very blunt but ddnt mention the txt msg aspect.I told them hoohaa I thnk they were playin a game. Ofcourse,they both played saints. I thnk I need 2kip them apart esp when i'm nt around. I'v decided 2take d gurl 2my family house whch is a distance frm my end and leav d boy at home.Wht do u thnk? |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Busybody2(f): 4:10am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Luckily the child imposed on you is a girl, so best thing like someone mentioned is to tell the Mum everything asap before any contraindication starts to happen and if you don't want blood on your hands Photocopy the proofs too if you can, to back up your story. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 4:31am On Aug 09, 2010 |
What proof shd I fotocopy?d txt?I dnt undstand. Yes,wht do I say 2d gurl's mom?wnt it sound like panic?I'm confused! |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Busybody2(f): 4:49am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Sorry I meant to say you should have forwarded the text to her Mum directly from her phone and erase the trace that you did that, then inform the Mum of your concerns. You know how naijas behave if something bad happens, you will get the blame of "ki lo nwo/nibolowa" even though she was forced on you. And since having sex is not a one-off thing but a continuous act, she is ignorantly putting herself at risk by self-medicating. Hope it is not the boy in your care who is the culprit, otherwise you need to get ready to start raising a baby too On a serious note, the girl can accuse him of rape to exonerate herself, so tell the Mum everything, let her handle her daughter's palaver. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 4:54am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Thtz brilliant! I'l forward d text and ask her what I shd do.Thnx. Jst hope she hasnt deletd d txt. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 4:59am On Aug 09, 2010 |
I dnt thnk the boy can pregnant a gurl yet.He's jst 13yrz. D gurl is 15 bt already set. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Okijajuju1(m): 5:28am On Aug 09, 2010 |
@ Odunnu You got me at POSTINOR. Its a contraceptive They are definitely eating apple/mini-mini-wana-wana ing. Dont under estimate a 13 year old O! Lord knw that at that age, if Jesus had raptured the world, I would have been tried as an adult. The separation was a brilliant idea. Atleast now the deed would not be doe under your roof again. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 6:00am On Aug 09, 2010 |
LOL @miniminimanamana.You knw d song abi? @topic, the seperation is but a few days whn i'l b outta town. I dnt knw wht i'l do whn I get back. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by invisible2(m): 6:18am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Never allow a yam to be near a goat. Except you bought it for the goat to eat. The girl might be the one coaxing the boy to 'chop'. They feel the itch too. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by blank(f): 6:19am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Also, if someone is telling her about postinor, it could be that she is already pregnant. What are u going to do 2 address dat? |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Nobody: 6:36am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Okijajuju1(m): 6:39am On Aug 09, 2010 |
^^^ GBAM I couldnt have posted better. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Busybody2(f): 8:47am On Aug 09, 2010 |
chaircover: Gbam. And mind 13 years old of nowadays don nearly reach 6 feet tall, i wonder what fertilisers they mix in the food these days to make kids big, lol |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Busybody2(f): 8:50am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Okija_juju: He he he, someone is trying to make themself come across as intelligent, sharp guy I wasn't kuku talking to nobody, just jejely minding my own business as usual |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 8:52am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Y'all are so correct,and ur words scare me. I'm gettin ready 4 work so I kant start up dat kinda discussion now. I'l do it whn i get bk home.I'l also send a mail 2her mom.Boy i'm nw scared! |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Okijajuju1(m): 9:11am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Busy_body: Shey na my matter you wan table today!! Nothing do you. Na me find your trouble. @ Topic Or you could also set up like a nanny-cam in their rooms (basically turn your house into big brother) to catch them in the act. We are already crucifying these kids even before they reach Pontius Pilate!! I say set up the cams, catch them in the act, report them to their parents and sell the video to a indecency company for good money. You will be amazed the stunt a 13 & 15 yr old can pull. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Nobody: 9:35am On Aug 09, 2010 |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by postinor2: 6:03am On Jan 24, 2011 |
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Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 10:47am On Jan 24, 2011 |
Thanx but no thanx |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Nobody: 10:49am On Jan 24, 2011 |
Odunnu how did it go with the kids? |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 11:12am On Jan 24, 2011 |
Hmm Babez, how u dey? Nothing happened as in negative happening. I told the girl's mother everything as I saw it,she talked to her daughter.She later told me that the prescription wasnt for her that somebody(I dont believe her) used used her phone to receive the text and that it got stored in her fone when the person removed her SIM. That's a long time sha, she's acting better lately. I'm just praying that she continues being 'nice'. . . .and my boy child is the best there is. Just pray he too doesnt go off the track. All in all,I dont have fears per say and I try as much as possible to seperate both of them when i'm not around. |
Re: I'm Bothered,i Need Advice. by Odunnu: 11:13am On Jan 24, 2011 |
. . .how did this Postinor guy find this thread? |
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