I am a very busy man. During this holiday, I paused to ask these simple questions to my son who in nursery 2 and will turn 4 in a fortnight

"how old are you?",
"what class are you in?",
"whats the name of your school?",
"whats your mum/ dad's name?".

To these, no reasonable answer was given. I am presently having serious issues with my wife because of this.
Though my son was a bit delayed in development of some motor skills like making sentences while talking but he has greatly improved with time, but I was thinking his school would have helped much in pushing this.

The questions I stated above are almost always what children of nursery range start with. I had always wanted to change him from his school but my wife objected to it saying he needs time.

I thought of autism initially which concern i posted in this forum and also consulted experts that told me there would be no need to bother.

The boy is doing well in other areas, so energetic and exhibits great intelligence. He has also started expressing himself appreciably well, albeit the little shock i stated above.

Could this be a sign of learning disability or do i still go ahead for the evaluation. Again, do i also go ahead and enroll him in another school?

I am in a big shock!

Is he autistic?.

Chairman take him to a doctor. Most kids of 4 can answer those questions

Dere is notin wrong wit ur son,all u hv to do is to tell im d answers to d questions u asked den u ask again and If he still cant get it,remind im untill he never forgets.Dont sweat,d child is on d right track.About d school,feel free to change im to anoda one if u are not satisfied wit deir services.

OneCorner:
Probably a didinrin
Ask ur wife how many men had sex wit her during pregnancy

Haba, that's not a nice thing to say about a child, or anyone for that matter!

OneCorner:
Probably a didinrin
Ask ur wife how many men had sex wit her during pregnancy

You don't joke with everything. Don't toy with people's emotions. My guess is that you don't have a family if not you'll appreciate what it means to be worried concerning a child's development al milestones

Wadewaltz:
Dere is notin wrong wit ur son,all u hv to do is to tell im d answers to d questions u asked den u ask again and If he still cant get it,remind im untill he never forgets.Dont sweat,d child is on d right track.About d school,feel free to change im to anoda one if u are not satisfied wit deir services.

Bro are you a medical doctor? The boy is showing delay in cognitive development and you're saying there's nothing wrong. A four year old doesn't know his mother's name, his age, name of school, simple things like these? no give the guy false hope my man take your son to a medical DC it might be small mental challenge

pimper24:
I am a very busy man. During this holiday, I paused to ask these simple questions to my son who in nursery 2 and will turn 4 in a fortnight

"how old are you?",
"what class are you in?",
"whats the name of your school?",
"whats your mum/ dad's name?".

To these, no reasonable answer was given. I am presently having serious issues with my wife because of this.
Though my son was a bit delayed in development of some motor skills like making sentences while talking but he has greatly improved with time, but I was thinking his school would have helped much in pushing this.

The questions I stated above are almost always what children of nursery range start with. I had always wanted to change him from his school but my wife objected to it saying he needs time.

I thought of autism initially which concern i posted in this forum and also consulted experts that told me there would be no need to bother.

The boy is doing well in other areas, so energetic and exhibits great intelligence. He has also started expressing himself appreciably well, albeit the little shock i stated above.

Could this be a sign of learning disability or do i still go ahead for the evaluation. Again, do i also go ahead and enroll him in another school?

I am in a big shock!

OP, trust me, your child needs help. He obviously has some form of Personality Developmental Disorder but you need to have him properly assessed so as to have a proper diagnosis. From there you can seek interventions for him. Early intervention is very key.

You need to get him into a specialist school or get him a special education teacher. I know this cause I have experienced it. I noticed my son had some delays when he was about 2+and my brother, I waka o. No rest at all. He was moving from one Special Needs Centre to another until we found him a speech therapist who takes him after school hours and in less than one year, he became so talkative and confident, always initiating conversations and expressing his mind constructively, and is now a social butterfly. And is he smart, he is a genuis!!

OneCorner:
Probably a didinrin
Ask ur wife how many men had sex wit her during pregnancy

Ask your generation or your mum who she had s..ex with to born a monster like you. May you never find solution in your time of need. In your last moments on the surface of the earth you will continue regretting ever existing. In the name of whatever you believe. Amen

peacengine:



Bro are you a medical doctor? The boy is showing delay in cognitive development and you're saying there's nothing wrong. A four year old doesn't know his mother's name, his age, name of school, simple things like these? no give the guy false hope my man take your son to a medical DC it might be small mental challenge

I guess ur not a doctor either,ryt?,d man said he already consulted experts and he was told not to worry.How do u expect d kid to know all dis if he is not told?

Briller:



OP, trust me, your child needs help. He obviously has some form of Personality Developmental Disorder but you need to have him properly assessed so as to have a proper diagnosis. From there you can seek interventions for him. Early intervention is very key.

You need to get him into a specialist school or get him a special education teacher. I know this cause I have experienced it. I noticed my son had some delays when he was about 2+and my brother, I waka o. No rest at all. He was moving from one Special Needs Centre to another until we found him a speech therapist who takes him after school hours and in less than one year, he became so talkative and confident, always initiating conversations and expressing his mind constructively, and is now a social butterfly. And is he smart, he is a genuis!!

Pls i am in need of a speech therapist for my son can i get his or her number?

@ pimper24, I suggest you take time to evaluate your son properly before making any conclusions.

I think you should note somethings:

1. I don't think a little child's ability to memorise stuff is definite proof of his/her mental ability in the long run. I for one, only learnt to write my name late in primary school. Then I just take the initial notes/text book issued to me at the school and copy my name from it. I also never learnt the timetable recitation thing. The only ones I knew where 5 and 10.

For me it was just laziness and I just felt a little overwhelmed when asked to do somethings that may seem petty for my mates. I honestly don't think my mates are more intellectually sound than I am as of now, but in my childhood days, I was obviously lagging behind

2. It could be that your child is overwhelmed having you ask him these many questions particularly since you attest to not having time to tracked his progress.
Some children easily get overwhelmed and look stupid in the eyes of an inpatient elderly person, but once you leave and let him return to his natural state of mind, you find his actions and thoughts very intelligent

3. I think a better way to assess his mental development is to leave him with his regular play mates (of his age group) and watch how he behaves around them.

Leave the boy alone.So much pressure on the todays child.What are we even doing?

Now is speech therapist.Children you lock up in the house 24/7 ,who are not able to communicate and play with children their age outside the classroom and without Abc,math and languages being shovelled down their throats.Im sure that boy has been in school since one yr plus.
When the child isn't meeting up,the mother is blamed.It takes two to make a child,you what has been your input in his life?Have you ever told him your name before?
Those questions were supposed to have been cleared by you the parents and not his teacher,they are informal questions and not for the classroom.The school is not the problem.

Speech therapist, the same that was recommended when my son could only say Daddy and water at 2 plus.
Holidays I took him home to my mums where kids his age would come out to play everyday.I would cajole him to go join them.
Two days he cried,one week he started stuttering and before the end of one month,the speech floodgates were opened.Two mths later,my son led his class at their Xmas party.Now we beg him to be quiet.

Now I dont joke with his outside playtimes and there has been an all round development. Serious ones.

I don't think that is much of a problem, the issue is, has he been taught? I remember when I came to my sister's house, her children are between the age of 5 and 4, I asked them those simple questions, they were able to tell me their names but couldn't tell me age, their parents name, town and so on. I know within me that if they have been taught that they can answer so I sat them down and taught them even their parents phone numbers. Their dad was very surprised the day they told him his phone number and even their town, LG and state.
What I'm saying in excense is that you people need to teach him some of the things too.

ambient:


Pls i am in need of a speech therapist for my son can i get his or her number?

Where are you located? You can actually seek out Speech therapists in your locality. Google speech therapists in your location. I got one recommended by the paediatric hospital I visited when my son was going for evaluation.

@Pimper24
1.Is he hyperactive?
2.What are social skills like?
3.Does relate well with his peers?
4.Does he prefer to be all by himself instead of getting involved with others?
5.Does he usually show signs of unusual attachment to particular toys, clothes, household items etc?


Whatever the case you are not alone.

Work closely with your wife to get help where available.

Regards.

The questions I stated above are almost always what children of nursery range start with. I had always wanted to change him from his school but my wife objected to it saying he needs time.

Your Wife Is Right,he needs time,my son had same challenges but with God's Help he has really improved i had to work on him seriously together with his class teacher and we agreed that he should be in nursery one,now i am thinking of moving him to nursery two now that he is catching up really fast,he would be four by march,please since you are busy,let your wife work on him,let her meet his teacher so that they can both design a method and work hand in hand.

Jeez did u say 4 yrs

Every normal child of 2 yrs shld answer all those questions provided he was taught by the mum or Dad.

It's not about changing school the boy probably has some genetic issues with his brain, why is the mum unconcerned about this?

ogawisdom:
Jeez did u say 4 yrs

Every normal child of 2 yrs shld answer all those questions provided he was taught by the mum or Dad.

It's not about changing school the boy probably has some genetic issues with his brain, why is the mum unconcerned about this?

Y

follow follow mentality


a child only knows what he has been taught


funny how u expect the school to teach ur child his mother's name


na so Una go dey compare pikin to him peers till the pikin go lose him self confidence

Just discovering this means you haven’t been active in your son’s education, it’s not just woman’s work.

For your peace of mind you can have him checked out by professionals.
If you haven’t been allowing him interact with kids his age apart from when at school, maybe you should reconsider.

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pimper24:
I am a very busy man. During this holiday, I paused to ask these simple questions to my son who in nursery 2 and will turn 4 in a fortnight

"how old are you?",
"what class are you in?",
"whats the name of your school?",
"whats your mum/ dad's name?".

To these, no reasonable answer was given. I am presently having serious issues with my wife because of this.
Though my son was a bit delayed in development of some motor skills like making sentences while talking but he has greatly improved with time, but I was thinking his school would have helped much in pushing this.

The questions I stated above are almost always what children of nursery range start with. I had always wanted to change him from his school but my wife objected to it saying he needs time.

I thought of autism initially which concern i posted in this forum and also consulted experts that told me there would be no need to bother.

The boy is doing well in other areas, so energetic and exhibits great intelligence. He has also started expressing himself appreciably well, albeit the little shock i stated above.

Could this be a sign of learning disability or do i still go ahead for the evaluation. Again, do i also go ahead and enroll him in another school?

I am in a big shock!

You worry over too many things, but only few is required. He is just a child, everyone learns at his own pace. Do not pressurize the little one. He'll be fine.

Franklyine:

You just funny!
I couldn't even read abcd at 6years, couldn't even pronounce words correctly @8. My siblings and friends mocked me sha, I started borrowing novels to read. Who will ask his parents if he knew all those things at 4.
I believe he will be surprise to see how far far this child will go tomorrow.
As for me, there's no cause for alarm.

Reading is a different ball game

We are talking about answering simple questions orally, reading and writing is more difficult but reciting things is expected as from 2 years

Some kids are slow in learning, while others are fast learners, but that does not mean the child has learning disability. As for his name, he is expected to know, but for the other questions like the name of his school, if he is not told, he will not know it. @ ops dont go worrying yourself, children have different growth rate, as long as he can talk, there is nothing wrong with him, he will definitely catch up with the others.