henmaris:

My dear, I am exactly like u, and now that I'm married, I sometimes have issues with hubby because he is a peoples person. We'll get invited and I will not want to go because I don't want to meet anybody. When hubby even succeed in convincing me to come along, I want us to return almost as soon as we get there. Worst part is I'll exchange no with people because they ask but when they are calling me, I feel like they are irritating, sometimes I don't pick and I never call back. At work, I am just in my room. I don't go to the staff room at lunch because I don't want to meet people. I can go on and on but what I know is that to me, I need my space every time. My only interesting person whom I don't get bored chatting with is my husband. It's not the best way of life but interestingly I'm enjoying my life this way. Maybe it's just our own way of life. Atleast we are not hurting anyone are we?
Don't worry my dear, if u can change then fine but if u cant, no worries, U are good the way you are. We are all unique.

truthsayer009:


Hmmm I like your kind of Wife oh, at least I know i won't be worried or Jealous about other men that would steal you away, just joking lol.

Speaking of meeting people, so how did you now meet your husband then, since you meet no one?
Abi he just came & told you he dreamt that God said you are his Wife??

MiddleSpot:



What happens the day we need help but since we lack social bond with people, how do we get the help we will very much need in our day of need.

henmaris:

Facebook! We chatted everyday for 5 months without ever meeting each other. Random friend request from him. And we got married 2 months, yes 2 months after our first meeting. Almost 6yrs together now and waxing strong. Never a dull moment together. Not saying we are perfect, just happy together.
I guess love happens when it happen because I don't know y Me of all people accepted a facebook friend request from a total stranger.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're very normal. I'm like that too.
I even hate seeing people around me or want to visit me because I feel they disturb my peace and it annoys me a lot.

I can even pretend not to see someone so I don't greet that person. I think I have mental issues.
Anyone who comes to oppose my point will be thrown into the fiery furnace.

unicorn79:



Do you intend to get married? How do you intend to carry this character into marriage and cope? Keeping in mind that the typical African man is egoistic and loves to win argument or have his opinion stand.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Not every African man. Speak only for yourself.

QueenSekxy:

Lol. Exactly how I behave.
Sometimes I might feel bored, but I still don't want people or friends around.

I'm the type that's loved by friends, but I see it as a disturbance.
When I was in school, I lived in 3 different hostels, I only got to talk to 4 people in total and it was during my 500level period.

Mines that I'm worried cos of the future, my in-laws, co workers and all.
Is that how I'm gonna distance myself from people?? Won't it affect my life and communication level in a team wprk oriented environment?

QueenSekxy:



Worst is that, ive started strategizing on how to avoid people when I go to camp.
Lol

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're very normal. I'm like that too.
I even hate seeing people around me or want to visit me because I feel they disturb my peace and it annoys me a lot.

I can even pretend not to see someone so I don't greet that person. I think I have mental issues.
Anyone who comes to oppose my point will be thrown into the fiery furnace.

Story of my life.

henmaris:

My dear, I am exactly like u, and now that I'm married, I sometimes have issues with hubby because he is a peoples person. We'll get invited and I will not want to go because I don't want to meet anybody. When hubby even succeed in convincing me to come along, I want us to return almost as soon as we get there. Worst part is I'll exchange no with people because they ask but when they are calling me, I feel like they are irritating, sometimes I don't pick and I never call back. At work, I am just in my room. I don't go to the staff room at lunch because I don't want to meet people. I can go on and on but what I know is that to me, I need my space every time. My only interesting person whom I don't get bored chatting with is my husband. It's not the best way of life but interestingly I'm enjoying my life this way. Maybe it's just our own way of life. Atleast we are not hurting anyone are we?
Don't worry my dear, if u can change then fine but if u cant, no worries, U are good the way you are. We are all unique.

QueenSekxy:


Worst is that, ive started strategizing on how to avoid people when I go to camp.
Lol

MiddleSpot:



Doesn't validate the lifestyle of an hermit. Excessive self indulgence leads to mental problems too

Acidosis:
There are no medals for greeting people. You are absolutely normal. You can have 1000 friends and 5000 WhatsApp contacts and be useless in life. You can have few and still achieve your purpose on earth.

You're not on earth to associate with everyone you meet. Jesus Christ met a lot, had only 12 loyalists and his family, 3 close associates, and he achieved his purpose while on earth.

Bottom line is that know why you are here. Understand your purpose in life and work in that direction.

If you have the means, you can also consider moving to highly introverted countries like Austria, Denmark, Sweden, etc. where people love to mind their business. Nigeria is one of world's most extroverted countries, where people feel they have the right to your greeting, the right to come to your party/house uninvited, the right to train and 'untrain' your kids, and the right to insult you when you don't feed their ego.

Acidosis:


You only see this as a problem because you live in one of world's most extroverted countries. You are in a country where people believe they have the right to your greeting. You are not responsible for another man's insatiable greed to your greetings. What the future holds depends on how much effort you make to feed your ego, not another man's ego.

merahki:



This is untrue
If you are comfortable being a hermit, and have no underlying mental issues, why change your winning formula/make up?
Do not judge another person’s lifestyle, live yours

truthsayer009:


Hmmm honestly if you're a very beautiful lady. People, especially Guys will find you out. if you like write do not disturb on your Forehead in Camp, you must leave camp with about 2 to 3 Boyfriends unfailingly. One main & two other Attachments.

merahki:



This really made me laugh
Try this tests online (at least for fun) what type of introvert am I?
There is a spectrum of this
Then Meyer Briggs’ personality test
Know your type, it will help
If you are happy with your life, why change it?
Extroverts get recharged by being around other people, while introverts’ energies get drained by socialising
Introverts get fuelled by aloneness and extroverts get drained by it
So are you sure you want to change? Can you even change this?
Introversion(normalcy) is different from depression or social anxiety, a type of neurosis(a disease/disorder) oo. When one is not comfortable with their make up, it might be time to consider an underlying mental/psychological issue?
Cheers

AntiMCU:

Me too and it's giving me headaches.
Planning to resort to alcohol as a cure...

truthsayer009:


I suspect this group of people you are Ignoring are Yo-luba people, not to be tribalistic but these set of people always want greetings.
Once you pass by them & you don't greet, you will hear " Efe ki wa ni" -- Very disgusting attitude.

Please there is nothing wrong with you, those people you don't greet are not feeding you, they can all get lost.

henmaris:

My dear, I am exactly like u, and now that I'm married, I sometimes have issues with hubby because he is a peoples person. We'll get invited and I will not want to go because I don't want to meet anybody. When hubby even succeed in convincing me to come along, I want us to return almost as soon as we get there. Worst part is I'll exchange no with people because they ask but when they are calling me, I feel like they are irritating, sometimes I don't pick and I never call back. At work, I am just in my room. I don't go to the staff room at lunch because I don't want to meet people. I can go on and on but what I know is that to me, I need my space every time. My only interesting person whom I don't get bored chatting with is my husband. It's not the best way of life but interestingly I'm enjoying my life this way. Maybe it's just our own way of life. Atleast we are not hurting anyone are we?
Don't worry my dear, if u can change then fine but if u cant, no worries, U are good the way you are. We are all unique.

QueenSekxy:

Alcohol can never cure anything, don't indulge in it please.

generationz:


look at now


You are chatting with uya and talking about personal stuff

Its all about finding people you relate well enough with ? Then the conversations flood in

PuZZyNegro:



I have the same personality. I lived in school hostels during my university days but cannot tell the names of my roommates.

I was forced to relate with my roommates in year 1 and the result afterwards made me cherish my isolation lifestyle and I carried that on until I graduated. Even when I went to off campus in my final year, same thing.

Where I am living presently, outside the landlord and his wife and my immediate neighbors (elderly people), I don't greet or talk to anyone.

About the fear of how to cope in a team working environment, that might be an issue because people will hate you for keeping to yourself at work which can lead to your co-workers conspiring against you which may eventually lead to your sack (I'm not wishing you bad, just typing from experience).

The first teaching job I took pre-NYSC, the teachers conspired against me with several allegations ranging from inability to control the class, to the students not understanding me,etc. I was sacked after the first term.

Guess what? I am doing very well today as a Freelancer that I can employ the principal of that school and pay him.


My opinion - it's a behavioral disorder. Sadly you may not be able to come out of it completely as your happiness will be jeopardize if you force it.

My suggestion - find a job that does not require physical contact with people.

AntiMCU:

It's a short term at-the-moment cure!

QueenSekxy:

Lol. You are a good woman.
I pray that my husby wouldn't be the out going type, though most times, I enjoy going out in my mind and fantasize alot about what's gonna happen in that place, and even try reminding you About going to that place, but once it's time, I will develop cold feet and start giving gazillions of excuses.
I have a big wedding tomorrow, have been disturbed by my family and friends, I was happy that atleast, I will visit somewhere since last two weeks but now, I have started developing cold feet.

GHoJes:

It is sure going to affect you sooner or later as you fear but the good thing is that you want to be better. Its an introverted way worsened by an enforced isolated or restricted growing up or background. The issue is not greeting as someone up there was encouraging to continue but that you avoid people who you may in the future need their help or they may need yours which definitely will cause problem. I call the hiding, ostrich approach cos the bird buries its head in sand to hide from problem forgetting the big body is in the open. The moment you start avoiding being noticed you get noticed faster cos you are the one who didnt do what others did. I tell you with certainty, more people than you know has noticed you.

The problem is that if you can comfortably do without people, some people need some things you have therefore will become problem .As for 'hernis' if not now that comfort zone may crash some day. A major disadvantage with the attitude is that you bereft yourself from some growth, information, warmth etc you could have gotten from people.Trust me, you could have gone higher than second best position in 300l but for the attitude.

Way forward is to get close to a good friend who is sociable and learn how to relate cos you want to improve but you dont know how. Take it from me, you will meet people who really want to associate with you not necessarily closely just to express their like for you and the only way they express it is by greeting if you dont return the warmth you will become an enemy.

CastingCrowns:
u are an introvert... there are lots of people like u out there.. I used to be like this but improved myself now