Mugheerah bin Shu’bah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports the following incident:

On one occasion, I sent a proposal to marry a girl of the Ansaar. When I mentioned this to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), he asked me, “Did you see the girl?” When I replied in the negative, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) recommended to me, “Look at her, for it is more likely that there will be affection and love between you(i.e. if you marry her after looking at her and finding her pleasing to your eye, there will be a greater chance of your marriage prospering).”

I thus proceeded to the girl’s home and told her parents what Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) had mentioned. Hearing that I wanted to look at their daughter, the parents were reluctant. Hence, I stood and began to leave their home.

As I was leaving, the girl asked her parents to call me back. When I returned, she stood at the edge of the curtain and said, “If Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) instructed you to look at me then I permit you to do so. If not, then I strictly forbid you to look at me.” Accordingly, I looked at her and married her. Subsequently, she was extremely beloved to me and honoured in my sight.
(Ibnun Najjaar – Kanzul ‘Ummaal #45619).

Lessons:

1. The hayaa (modesty) of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and their protectiveness over their womenfolk was such that the parents of the girl were initially reluctant when Sayyiduna Mugheerah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked to see their daughter. Similarly, until she learnt that it was the instruction of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), the daughter was not prepared to allow any strange man to look at her.

2. The Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) were blessed with the quality of absolute submission before the instruction of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). Hence, they always put their own intellect, understanding and emotion aside and completely complied with the wishes and desires of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), understanding that this was the key to success in both worlds. Similarly, if we wish true happiness and success, we will have to adhere strictly to the teachings of Deen.



3. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has taught us the guidelines that need to be adhered to regarding marriage, and has told us that following these guidelines are the key to a prosperous marriage. Hence, if we surpass the bounds of sharee‘ah and begin to engage in impermissible practices, such as the boy and girl communicating or even dating before marriage, we will lose the barakah (blessings) and help of Allah Ta‘ala which is essential for the marriage to prosper. Thus, we should always refer to the ‘Ulama to find out the limits of sharee‘ah so that we can ensure that we remain within the parameters of Deen.

Source: [url=https://jamiat.org.za/absolute-submission%E2%80%8B/]uswatulmuslimah via JAMIAT KZN[/url]

Today's ladies that goes about nude without Hijab. What is there to look again?

Nowadays, ladies have no bashfulness/modesty while men have no protective jealousy.

So many pious people has gone by. May Allah count us among the people of the right.

Rashduct4luv:

Today's ladies that goes about nude without Hijab. What is there to look again?

Nowadays, ladies have no shame and men have no protective jealousy.

So many pious people has gone by. May Allah count us among the people of the right.

Aameen

Yes it is permissible !

Wetin we no go see among these ones. So looking at another human being now requires a religious instruction?

so this bet9ja armed robber still come advertise for Muslim forum.... your case don pass village pple own!

These days its not even about physical appearance anymore. Will the pretty woman give you peace of mind?

EkunKekere:
Wetin we no go see among these ones. So looking at another human being now requires a religious instruction?

Not just looking but looking at the lady when she's naked

nice one op, jazakhumllahu akhiran

EkunKekere:
Wetin we no go see among these ones. So looking at another human being now requires a religious instruction?

i-think-of-your-reaction-when-you-see-a-youngMan-looking-at-your-mother's-ass-Lustfully.

*Fool.
This-is-not-a-forum-for-polytheists/Infidels

Gutter mind product of a gutter mind religion. If a young man stares at YOUR mother's a.s.s maybe it's because she showed it to him. Maybe your dad ain't doing it right

Mzee1Kahuna:


i-think-of-your-reaction-when-you-see-a-youngMan-looking-at-your-mother's-ass-Lustfully.

*Fool.
This-is-not-a-forum-for-polytheists/Infidels

Pitiable-Orphan,Sorry.
I'm-minding-my-religion,I'm-a-well-brought-Up-muslim.
As'alubillah-an-Yahdik

EkunKekere:
Gutter mind product of a gutter mind religion. If a young man stares at YOUR mother's a.s.s maybe it's because she showed it to him. Maybe your dad ain't doing it right

I remember one young man like that who lived in Arabia over 1000 years ago. As a 25 year old he used to fantasize over a 40 year old woman's a.s.s and he eventually married her.
I believe you know who he is

Mzee1Kahuna:
Pitiable-Orphan,Sorry.
I'm-minding-my-religion,I'm-a-well-brought-Up-muslim.
As'alubillah-an-Yahdik

EkunKekere:
I remember one young man like that who lived in Arabia over 1000 years ago. As a 25 year old he used to fantasize over a 40 year old woman's a.s.s and he eventually married her.
I believe you know who he is

You are a trouble maker

...

parents need to watch how their daughters conduct courtship wit men, leaving a girl alone wit a guy under d tree or in d balcony late into d nyt discussing is bad. many even end up discussing trash, handling or outright intercourse in d open taking d darkness as cover

EkunKekere:
I remember one young man like that who lived in Arabia over 1000 years ago. As a 25 year old he used to fantasize over a 40 year old woman's a.s.s and he eventually married her.
I believe you know who he is

i-never-knew,I-have-no-knowledge-of-that-Era.
You-may-mention-name-to-show-the-level-of-your-Stupidity

Make dem come ban me abi? But you know who I dey yarn about. By their fruits you shall know them

Mzee1Kahuna:

i-never-knew,I-have-no-knowledge-of-that-Era.
You-may-mention-name-to-show-the-level-of-your-Stupidity

EkunKekere:

Make dem come ban me abi? But you know who I dey yarn about. By their fruits you shall know them

1000Yrs-Ago?
Lol:Christianity-with-their-propagandas.
WhatEver-you-know-now-is-a-hearsay-from-your-Gullible-leaders

Mzee1Kahuna:

i-never-knew,I-have-no-knowledge-of-that-Era.
You-may-mention-name-to-show-the-level-of-your-Stupidity

my brother u see that was why the prophet S.A.W said, don't abuse their gods so they will not in turn abuse Allah. I Think u don't have to reply his comments since u understood the direction he was moving to......now he's insulting the prophet and u know the penalty for someone that abuse Allah and his prophet. I would advise next time pls, don't answer this kind of people wen they make derogatory comment....may Allah forgive us ..

Ameen.Nastagfirhu-wa-natub-ilaehi

Dante2008:


my brother u see that was why the prophet S.A.W said, don't abuse their gods so they will not in turn abuse Allah. I Think u don't have to reply his comments since u understood the direction he was moving to......now he's insulting the prophet and u know the penalty for someone that abuse Allah and his prophet. I would advise next time pls, don't answer this kind of people wen they make derogatory comment....may Allah forgive us ..

Yes, over 1000 years ago a certain small boy of 25 years who specialises in looking at older women's n-yashes got married to a 40 year old woman. Do some research.

Mzee1Kahuna:

1000Yrs-Ago?
Lol:Christianity-with-their-propagandas.
WhatEver-you-know-now-is-a-hearsay-from-your-Gullible-leaders