johndoe200:

I have told him to get people (family members etc) to try and get her to see sense first, if she still does not reason with him then he can go ahead and bring the "iya apati" (this is what we used to call these kinds of women). After all it's just a booty call.

Please was my advise correct?

breathless:

Poster, You should know better that marriage is more than booty call. If the table where to turn around for you or your friend, how would you feel. Bros, you have ended up stirring insults on th male folks. Pls tell your friend and yourself that marriage and life is worth more than all the booty in this world put together. Help him keep his marriage and not otherwise.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
i understand completely what you mean because satisfaction and needs are very important in ANY union. i am just wondering if, after 15yrs, this is not just an excuse to get some extra booty.as she considered getting booty implant to regain whats he once had and the benefit of their marriage?!

although the guy is an "ikebe man" and will need someday or another to get his "medicine", he has to understand that his wife doesnt agree with the idea of A) cheating or B) bringing her to your home. he should sit his wifey down and communicate to see what is HER input on the matter and what she think they must do to solve this issue. she knew her hubby was an ikebe addict before they met so i am sure she will understand rather than starving him se-xually of his goodies.

i think that bringing some skank to live with y'all under your family roof is DEFINITELY a bad idea and NOT a good example for the kids, which you all seem to have forgotten about. how do you intend to explain who she is and what her purpose is to them?

MRbrownJAY:

^^^^you must have misunderstood me completely as i will NEVER encourage anyone into cheating.
where did you get that impression?!

cheating is NOT the solution but having some gal on the side (that wifey knows/"accepts"/understands) is not out of the question either. its only called [b]cheating when your partner doesnt know that you are creeping.[/b]

MRbrownJAY:

^^^^^well, i guess we have different views on the matter, as usual lol!
"for better or worse" should ALSO apply to the fact that this woman knowingly married an "ikebe freak" and understood that this was his "medicine".
are you suggesting that this guy should now live as a zombie just because his wifey is lacking?! thats not the way to live life,is it?!

One sentence for the both of you: You and him are both idiots! You both give men a bad NAME!

All I can say - you're an absolute sleaze bag!

There is no doubt you and your friend are totally mentally deranged. I want to weep with rage for the woman, for having a man like you.

Yes, you and him are both unreasonable.

You both need a slap

MRbrownJAY:

^^^^if i became impotent, do you think i would heartless into suggesting that my wife shuts her coochie tight?!
impotent is even too much, if i cannot se-xually satisfy my wife(and i have tried everything in my power to please her) then i would allow her to go and get her groove on wherever she may find her happiness WITH MY BLESSING!

expecting her to lack because of my inabilities is definitely NOT part of my way of thinking.

johndoe200:

I have a friend who has a problem. He has been married for 15 years. All his life he has been an "ikebe man".
He is and has always been into women with the biggest behinds. Anyway not surprisingly he married a woman with all the endowments he liked.
Unfortunately for him, she now has a medical condition that has forced her to loose all the "endowments". Any attempt to regain the endowments will almost certainly put her life in jeopardy.

The simple solution for him would be to get a girl friend outside with the requisite ikebe, but this would mean "hotel runs" which he hates. He lives in a big house and wants to accommodate an ikebe in a part of the house. He has no interest in marrying this new ikebe or anything romantic like that. Just provide accommodation and have regular booty calls.

The problem is, even though his wife knows him and knows that he is not interested in anything other than booty calls with the new ikebe, she opposes the idea of having any other woman to begin with and certainly not in"her house" as she calls it. His wife has been aware of his preferences from the day they met and she knows that for him huge ikebe is an article of faith. By the way they have 3 children.

He and I both agreed that his wife is being unreasonable and cannot expect him to remain ikebeless for the rest of his life, even though what happened was not her fault. He wants to go ahead and install the ikebe regardless of his wife's objections.
I have told him to get people (family members etc) to try and get her to see sense first, if she still does not reason with him then he can go ahead and bring the "iya apati" (this is what we used to call these kinds of women). After all it's just a booty call.

Please was my advise correct?

johndoe200:

T here, who had enough experience of life to appreciate that there are many accommodations made in many many marriages by both partners to make their stay on earth bearable.

Ujujoan:

   
ok seriously, now I have to ask . . .  are you by any chance single         _{That's me flirting with you} . . . 

But then again you miss the point . . . the woman is not completely unable to have intimacy, she just lost her big 'ikebe'. Or isn't that what the poster said   

Ujujoan:

What happened to loving someone's person and NOT the body. When you have esx, it's not just about the satifaction you derive but the love you get to express!

Just becos he was attracted by her big ikebe doesn't mean he married her for it. People date big ikebes all their lives and then end up falling in love with and marrying small ikebes! If you truly truly love your wife, the size of he ikebe won't matter when you hold her in your arms!

His wife has been aware of his preferences from the day they met and she knows that for him huge ikebe is an article of faith

Ujujoan:

Meanwhile I can't believe you are turning me down. I'm quite a catch you know   

ifyalways:

im curious,what precisely is the special medical condition that made her loose her most prized and coveted assest,according to her husband 
A  woman have lived with u for 15 yrs,bore u 3 kids and all he still see in her is an [b]Ikebe?[/b]
cheei,we women dey collect shtye chop from men.  cos if your friends plan actually work,na anoda woman go agree come siddon for another woman house as ikebe-call Olorun maje !
Your friend is veryyyyy very selfish and callous.

Ujujoan:

What happened to loving someone's person and NOT the body. When you have esx, it's not just about the satifaction you derive but the love you get to express!

Just becos he was attracted by her big ikebe doesn't mean he married her for it. People date big ikebes all their lives and then end up falling in love with and marrying small ikebes! If you truly truly love your wife, the size of he ikebe won't matter when you hold her in your arms!

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
he should sit his wifey down and communicate to see what is HER input on the matter and what she think they must do to solve this issue. she knew her hubby was an ikebe addict before they met so i am sure she will understand rather than starving him se-xually of his goodies.

MRbrownJAY:

i think that bringing some skank to live with y'all under your family roof is DEFINITELY a bad idea and NOT a good example for the kids, which you all seem to have forgotten about. how do you intend to explain who she is and what her purpose is to them?

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