Hello house,
I need honest n informed responses especially from married women n men eventhough all responsible comments r welcomed.
I want u 2 share your view about how much a lady can get herself involved in funding of d home.
Does d man v 2 do everything even when d lady has a well paid job. If no what xtent should d lady get involved lest a man b considered irresponsible.
I personally blive a man b a man in all endeavour. Like to knw ur views as my only dream is 2 b d best hubby/fada.

Every couple is different and it depends on each situation; The lifestyle they wish to maintain, their respective incomes, and their goals. Those things should all be discussed and decided upon prior to marriage. Personally I believe in marriage you are one so your assets are all to go in one pot together. You should then decide together how they are to be spent.

tnx .very resonable though but really dont fancy that idea of joint account.

whatever floats ur boat.

The fact that stuff works for some couple does not mean it will work with you. Like the other poster said, sit down with your spouse and decide between you how best to take care of your home. You dated for a while so you should be able to understand and accept each other's shortcomings.

Good luck.

Women respect men more when they ignore their wives money. Women are easily manipulated if only the man knows the right botton to click maybe b/c of their nature.

The more a man don't ask a woman her income the more she pours her heart into the family

Prove yourself a hero then the rest will be ofe nlacha

^^^

It is sad but the honest truth

And this is part of the reason why some men will stop at nothing to be rich (kindappings, 419, POLITICS, army robbery).

TEXASGIRL:

Every couple is different and it depends on each situation; The lifestyle they wish to maintain, their respective incomes, and their goals. Those things should all be discussed and decided upon prior to marriage. Personally I believe in marriage you are one so your assets are all to go in one pot together. You should then decide together how they are to be spent.

Well said!

@poster i dont agree wiv d man having so much burden wen d wife has an income , d main reason  for dem working is to support dier kids if they have any but ancient reasoning have made it a must prority for the man to carry all d the expenses . in  fair honesty a man has to b a man but pls  both d man and woman brought those kids into this world so both shud  render financial help to each other .if d lady is working she has to secure a prt of d household were she shud b reponsible for but d man has to stand his grounds has well so d woman doesnt overpower him bcus if he doesnt he might jus invite her disrespectful ways when she has so much on her list.

I agree with Ruby!

One time when I was dating, my ex asked me for something, I think 200 naira mtn card and I said no! This is a guy I buy gifts worth at least 20k for, but I couldn't give him 200 naira. Why? Because he asked!

I don't belive a man should ask a woman for anything, wife or not. I dont belive a man should rely on his wife's income to take care of the family, richer or not! I don't belive women should be made the bread winners in the family or even be mandated to contribute equally. I think we have enough responsibilities as it is. The only thing the man is supposed to do, which is provide for the family, should not be shared too!

@id,
Quite reasonable of u. If i may ask: r u married?

^no am not ooo

@ujujoan
Your perspective is quite interesting. But do/dont u think a woman has any financial role especially when she is equally bouyant.
Dear, i need some education.

@id,
U just made laugh wiv d 'ooo' u emphasized @ d back of 'am not married'. But sincerely' i need d perspectives of married women.

^hehe
fair play , i understand u have to no dier views as dey wear d shoes shey

Lol. U r somewhat funny. Yeah like 2 know their views

^no now am just bin me friend , besides i wud follow upur thread quite educating.U wudnt beliv i was actually arguing dis wiv my mothers friend d oda day .u wil be shocked wiv wot her husband faces, d woman to me is plain evil and selfish but i dint sey dat o b4 she stones me in my mothers presence

Any financial role the woman undertakes is in 'supporting' capacity. Not as a duty!

I quite agree that if she's richer than her husby, there's every tendency for her to become the cheif provider. But this is exceptional cases. Women, no matter how try to twist it, love knowing out men are capable of taking care of the family, without our help!

Hmmm. I v seen quite a number of women holding same view wiv dat woman. I think d children of a helping wife enjoy more n r likely 2 v more qualitative education. I love good/supportive mothers probably because am a product of one.

@uju
Good one. In as much as i think a woman should lend a hand,i personally believe she should not b forced or take d husband's role. I believe that a man sharing responsibities or worst still shack responsibilities is trading his position
What do u think about joint account?

When a woman becomes the bread winner, the respect she has for her husband will be compromised - consciously or unconsciously.
In fact, the number one cause of unfaithfulness in married women is that she is the breadwinner.

Women who are able to can assist but the man should recognise that the woman is only helping him and should not take her help for granted.
It is traumatic for a woman to realise that she has married a man who cannot take care of her.

Ujujoan:

Any financial role the woman undertakes is in 'supporting' capacity. Not as a duty!

I quite agree that if she's richer than her husby, there's every tendency for her to become the cheif provider. But this is exceptional cases. Women, no matter how try to twist it, love knowing out men are capable of taking care of the family, without our help!

Very well composed, nothing to take away from it, nothing to add to it