Yes I mean the Good Guys raised by Mothers in the 1980s......

Does it mean they are all taken??

Those guys with good home upbringing, nutured to be responsible adults/fathers in the society, where are they?

Who else is on this table with me?

I'll assume u're female. *winks*

I'll also assume u're lookin 4 RESPONSIBLE single men of 30yrs & above.

Based on d assumptions above, such men are around u. But unfortunately they're still strugglin 2make money. because tragically our women (I mean NAIJA WOMEN esp) want ready-made rich men.

Another tragedy is that women mistreat & take GOOD men 4 granted. It's a biological, sociological & subconscious tin so I don't even blame women much 4doing it. They know not wat they do. Hehehe...

Dear men, we need 2adapt 2d realities on ground & evolve 2beat women at their new game. I recommend d book "THE RATIONAL MALE by Rollo Tomassi" 4all men. Read it & thank me later.

Am here dear... Available too

eyefordetails:
Yes I mean the Good Guys raised by Mothers in the 1980s......

Does it mean they are all taken??

Those guys with good home upbringing, nutured to be responsible adults/fathers in the society, where are they?

Who else is on this table with me?

The guy above me has answered your question perfectly... Especially in his third paragraph.

kingkoboko:
I'll assume u're female. *winks*

I'll also assume u're lookin 4 RESPONSIBLE single men of 30yrs & above.

Based on d assumptions above, such men are around u. But unfortunately they're still strugglin 2make money. because tragically our women (I mean NAIJA WOMEN esp) want ready-made rich men.

Another tragedy is that women mistreat & take GOOD men 4 granted. It's a biological, sociological & subconscious tin so I don't even blame women much 4doing it. They know not wat they do. Hehehe...

Dear men, we need 2adapt 2d realities on ground & evolve 2beat women at their new game. I recommend d book "THE RATIONAL MALE by Rollo Tomassi" 4all men. Read it & thank me later.

I beg to differ on women taking men for granted. Good women with great family values still exist too (but not in large proportion) but are mostly found in the wrong cadre of men. Yes I mean women who are supportive, understanding and very hardworking, ready to stand by her man come what may but the good men usually have eye for the deceptive and materialistic ones too. The ones that will come and rip their pockets off their so called '"hustling and grinding". Instead of staying with one woman who is able to help achieve their dreams, No they wud be chasing flashy ones up and down.

So I think it's a vice versa thing among both genders.

I really wish to look further into this matter.

Are our values going into extinct cos of modernity

Help save our family values.

kay29000:


The guy above me has answered your question perfectly... Especially in his third paragraph.

Are you also still in the business of grinding and hustling @kay29000 cos I know you've been around for a while.

Just look within and around.

eyefordetails:


Are you also still in the business of grinding and hustling @kay29000 cos I know you've been around for a while.

Just look within and around.

Yes I am. At least in Nigerian standards where you have to spend tens of millions on a wedding.

kay29000:


Yes I am. At least in Nigerian standards where you have to spend tens of millions on a wedding.

Now that's where y'all missing it. An average lady from "from a home with family values' would not subscribe to investing ur hard earned money on just a day's celebration. Whatever happened to a non-elaborate wedding where u can save up the money for other businesses that can yield more income for the family.

Well I for one disapprove of an elaborate wedding. I once had a relationship that the supposed patner kicked against a parlour wedding celebration.

Did u see that?

eyefordetails:


Now that's where y'all missing it. An average lady from "from a home with family values' would not subscribe to investing ur hard earned money on just a day's celebration. Whatever happened to a non-elaborate wedding where u can save up the money for other businesses that can yield more income for the family.

Well I for one disapprove of an elaborate wedding. I once had a relationship that the supposed patner kicked against a parlour wedding celebration.

Did u see that?

Okay, let me ask you a question...what is the percentage of Nigerian women that would agree to a parlor wedding celebration. Be honest.

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I'm glad you can admit that.

kay29000:


I'm glad you can admit that.

So I hope u get your thoughts on judging all women as the same in order now..

eyefordetails:


So I hope u get your thoughts on judging all women as the same in order now..

Yeah. By the way, do you know me? Did you know me before I commented on your post?

kay29000:


Yeah. By the way, do you know me? Did you know me before I commented on your post?

I know you on Nairaland. I've read some of your posts

eyefordetails:


I know you on Nairaland. I've read some of your posts

Okay.

kay29000:


Okay.

Yeah. So do you think u speaking for all the men? Some other men might v their reasons. Who knows?

eyefordetails:


Yeah. So do you think u speaking for all the men? Some other men might v their reasons. Who knows?

j

Yeah... Some might have other reasons. But I believe 50% of Nigerian men are on the same page with me on this.

kay29000:
j

Yeah... Some might have other reasons. But I believe 50% of Nigerian men are on the same page with me on this.

I need varied reasons on the scarcity of good men. I hope this can be pushed to front page

eyefordetails:

I need varied reasons on the scarcity of good men. I hope this can be pushed to front page

Okay. I hope it is pushed to front page too.

kay29000:


Okay. I hope it is pushed to front page too.

eyefordetails:

I need varied reasons on the scarcity of good men. I hope this can be pushed to front page

There are lots of good men. They may not appear in a form you expect them to appear. They may be wearing oversized jackets and may not have fashion sense. They may not be saying the kind of words some ladies expect them to say when conversing with them. They may appear to be old-school to some ladies.

Here i am

JohnDuke101:


There are lots of good men. They may not appear in a form you expect them to appear. They may be wearing oversized jackets and may not have fashion sense. They may not be saying the kind of words some ladies expect them to say when conversing with them. They may appear to be old-school to some ladies.

Yes you are very correct on the good guys not appealing to the average Nigerian lady.
But most times they are the ones with less confidence to walk up to a lady. The few ones that can walk up to a lady are not truly considered.

Ojiniman:
Here i am

Oh really?

I want to know the answer myself.

caringheart:
I want to know the answer myself.

Interesting.You're welcome on board.

eyefordetails:

Oh really?

Oh Yeah!!!

eyefordetails:


Yes you are very correct on the good guys not appealing to the average Nigerian lady.
But most times they are the ones with less confidence to walk up to a lady. The few ones that can walk up to a lady are not truly considered.

I agree. Some of them don't walk to every lady them meet unlike the bad guys. They want to know the lady enough before they make any commitment because they are looking for lifetime commitment. Sometimes, the ladies can't decode and are not patient enough. The bad guy will ask a lady out the day he meets her, gets into a relationship and bail out any moment. He keeps sampling as much as he can.

caringheart:
I want to know the answer myself.

Even when they appear, there is tendency for u to turn them down due to your mind set and preconceive notion like the story of a man in the big book that was at a particular well for 38 years, when the person with the solution appeared he was just complaining his helplessness situation.
It is well.

Succes4real:

Even when they appear, there is tendency for u to turn them down due to your mind set and preconceive notion like the story of a man in the big book that was at a particular well for 38 years, when the person with the solution appeared he was just complaining his helplessness situation.
It is well.

How are you so sure success4real that she's gonna turn them down? Or are you talking from experience?

Good men still exist out here, all you need to do is to look with ur eyes wide open. am a good man but am still hustling

I doubt if we still have them. There's this column I love reading in a particular blog, Jeez women are always complaining about there horsebands. And I wonder if they never dated.