This is another serious issue and need the help of God to face in matrimonial home. My wife always listen to Pastor and follow pastor's directives than I the husband. The pastor oders stand while the husband have no say because the wife is someone that always listen to Pastor advice all in the name of God. I need your advice

Your pastor is probably fúcking yoir wife.
I have two solutions for you.
1)As a Man..
Get a divorce.
She is obviously a gullible simpleton..
As soon as you divorce her,she will realize how bad her actions are..
2)As a Bitch.
Stay with her and endure until her pastor tells her to cut your preeq off or poison you.

Its your choice.
Like a Bitch or a Man..
How do you wanna handle this?

DIVORCE

Talk to her and let her know how you feel.

when i meet people who always say " my pastor said"....i get pissed already.....

@op communicate your thoughts to her... the Lord is your strength.

Reason why I promised myself never to have anything to do with a church girl.
I generally don't like religious folks, they are so boring. Before you say Jack, they've already quoted one verse on why having NEPA light in your house is worth testifying.

Daddy Freeze calls them Sheeples.

#Team_free_the_sheeplez

What kind of directive do you give to your wife and what kind of instructions do your wife receive from her pastor? It is easy to condemn a pastor with half baked information.

If you instruct your wife to slap her mother for example, she wouldn't listen to you I hope you know that? So what kind of request do you put forward to your wife? Pastor or no pastor, there are certain requests godly wives won't take.

You don't want a godly wife? Then don't marry one. Life's simple.

N.B: I can't absolve her pastor of any wrongdoing but it's really hard to interprete what you have here without sounding stup!d.

domino4211:
Your pastor is probably fúcking yoir wife.
I have two solutions for you.
1)As a Man..
Get a divorce.
She is obviously a gullible simpleton..
As soon as you divorce her,she will realize how bad her actions are..

I don't blame some of you at all. All this nonsense na because people bring their family issues here.

You call someone's wife and probably the mother of his kids a GULLIBLE SIMPLETON.

All because he came online to seek counsel?
Chai! Aru!

Acidosis:


What kind of directive do you give to your wife and what kind of instructions do your wife receive from her pastor? It is easy to condemn a pastor with half baked information.

If you instruct your wife to slap her mother for example, she wouldn't listen to you I hope you know that? So what kind of request do you put forward to your wife? Pastor or no pastor, there are certain requests godly wives won't take.

You don't want a godly wife? Then don't marry one. Life's simple.

N.B: I can't absolve her pastor of any wrongdoing but it's really hard to interprete what you have here without sounding stup!d.

I know say this one go hard Acidosis.

He is caught between religion and being pro-submission.

pocohantas:

I know say this one go hard Acidosis.
He is caught between religion and being pro-submission.

LMAO
No be so jor.. the post no just get substance

Richy4:
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I will suggest that u sit her down and let her know that you have had/heard enough of that man in your house.. It breaks my heart when people were suffering because of their fellow man that claimed to be closer to God than they were...

It doesn't break your heart to know that men who haven't been to church in 10 years ignore women like themselves, and go after the very thing they claim to hate??

It doesn't bother you when men who wouldn't fast for 5 hours try to marry women who spend at least 3 days in a week praying and fasting?

Many of the problems you've highlighted can be ignored if we make the right perfect choices.

Richy4:
This is just like an Everyday occurrence in many Africa homes.. It's really frustrating when a third party takes over people's home.. U can't make love because she is fasting, she can't cook because she is fasting.. and when one says please stop, it will look as if you were possessed by the evil one..

I will suggest that u sit her down and let her know that you have had/heard enough of that man in your house.. It breaks my heart when people were suffering because of their fellow man that claimed to be closer to God than they were...

IF this nonsense continues, maybe u can take a cheeky measure to torment her too...invent a female slutty name that could sound like the bearer would be good looking...like Golda, LINTY, Lorry, BUKKY, Molly,TINA...

During her marathon of pastor said this or that, out of the blue just Say oh!! Lorry is very beautiful wow!!... She will be like who is that, say she was new in your office.. Everyday carry on with Lorry's story too.. invent certain harmless jokes that Lorry could share.. the way she was tormenting you with her pastor give her double dose.. If she ask if you were cheating with Lorry, Say no and ask her if she was cheating with the Pastor.. Two can play that game.. Please don't take my word for it.. Just that this thing could be really annoying..

Just remember you can't divorce your wife on the grounds of being religious.. It's unheard of

@Bold:

Why did you mention my name?

Acidosis:


It doesn't break your heart to know that men who haven't been to church in 10 years ignore women like themselves, and go after the very thing they claim to hate??

It doesn't bother you when men who wouldn't fast for 5 hours try to marry women who spend at least 3 days in a week praying and fasting?

Many of the problems you've highlighted can be ignored if we make the right perfect choices.

Honestly, people just love to dig up issues for themselves.

domino4211:
Your pastor is probably fúcking yoir wife.
I have two solutions for you.
1)As a Man..
Get a divorce.
She is obviously a gullible simpleton..
As soon as you divorce her,she will realize how bad her actions are..
2)As a Bitch.
Stay with her and endure until her pastor tells her to cut your preeq off or poison you.

Its your choice.
Like a Bitch or a Man..
How do you wanna handle this?

Sometimes I wonder how people like you who type rubbish online look like in real life.


Can you stand in real life to call his wife those names?

Nonsense.

Gbengaolowe32:
This is another serious issue and need the help of God to face in matrimonial home. My wife always listen to Pastor and follow pastor's directives than I the husband. The pastor oders stand while the husband have no say because the wife is someone that always listen to Pastor advice all in the name of God. I need your advice

When issues like come up, I like to approach three fold:

1. First, you are not a priest and/or not grounded in Christ in your home. If you were, you would be there to hear the instruction/teaching with her and you both discuss what you agree & disagree with. For you to claim that your Pastor is telling XYZ without you been aware means you are not in sync. Also see it like children signing 'my teacher said, my teacher taught me that' etc. It is also possible that she is close to your pastor because you are a source of pain to her.

2. Your wife is a baby Christian who needs the re-assurance of your pastor or has made herself the grandchild of God. If you are sensitive, you should catch it and lovingly address it. She might also not be a Christian and wants a magician

3. The pastor wants a flock that depends on him to hype his relevance.

Find out what is really wrong and solve it. Also note that my pastor said might not really be a bad thing. We all quote people we look up to and/or have a great deal of influence. Some are pastors, doctors, friends, authors, musicians etc.

Acidosis:


It doesn't break your heart to know that men who haven't been to church in 10 years ignore women like themselves, and go after the very thing they claim to hate??

It doesn't bother you when men who wouldn't fast for 5 hours try to marry women who spend at least 3 days in a week praying and fasting?

Many of the problems you've highlighted can be ignored if we make the right perfect choices.

Did it occur to you bro that most men that were complaining and passing through all these didn't bargain for it? They dated and married regular ladies who doesn't sleep in churches? But due to some marital challenges, slowly but surely some one introduced these spiritual directors to the wife...

bukatyne:


When issues like come up, I like to approach three fold:

1. First, you are not a priest and/or not grounded in Christ in your home. If you were, you would be there to hear the instruction/teaching with her and you both discuss what you agree & disagree with. For you to claim that your Pastor is telling XYZ without you been aware means you are not in sync. Also see it like children signing 'my teacher said, my teacher taught me that' etc. It is also possible that she is close to your pastor because you are a source of pain to her.

2. Your wife is a baby Christian who needs the re-assurance of your pastor or has made herself the grandchild of God. If you are sensitive, you should catch it and lovingly address it. She might also not be a Christian and wants a magician

3. The pastor wants a flock that depends on him to hype his relevance.

Find out what is really wrong and solve it. Also note that my pastor said might not really be a bad thing. We all quote people we look up to and/or have a great deal of influence. Some are pastors, doctors, friends, authors, musicians etc.

this geh abi Na woman. You nor Dey work?

Acidosis:


It doesn't break your heart to know that men who haven't been to church in 10 years ignore women like themselves, and go after the very thing they claim to hate??

It doesn't bother you when men who wouldn't fast for 5 hours try to marry women who spend at least 3 days in a week praying and fasting?

Many of the problems you've highlighted can be ignored if we make the right perfect choices.

Did it occur to you bro that most men that were complaining and passing through all these didn't bargain for it? They dated and married regular ladies who doesn't sleep in churches? But due to some marital challenges, slowly but surely some one introduced these spiritual directors to the ladies.. in quest of solving family matters the ladies jumped deep into it..

MOST LADIES are like that ...
They operate like ALTERNATOR ENGINES....

Richy4:


Did it occur to you bro that most men that were complaining and passing through all these didn't bargain for it? They dated and married regular ladies who doesn't sleep in churches? But due to some marital challenges, slowly but surely some one introduced these spiritual directors to the ladies.. in quest of solving family matters the ladies jumped deep into it..

Hmmn... that's very true.

If your pastor's wife is elderly or godly then you have nothing to worry about

...

Gbengaolowe32:
This is another serious issue and need the help of God to face in matrimonial home. My wife always listen to Pastor and follow pastor's directives than I the husband. The pastor oders stand while the husband have no say because the wife is someone that always listen to Pastor advice all in the name of God. I need your advice

Well talk to her, tell her how you feel about the whole situation. And if she refused to change, file for divorce.

stupidity:
this geh abi Na woman. You nor Dey work?

You have work for me?

Start ignoring her