well to cut the story short. its all happened magically and for a very short time. we know each other before but we don't talk. she is a graduate and the super manager for where she works. the pay is not that much but she can live her life without depending on anyone. she is over 30.

it all happened like programmed or something. well I met her recently and she gave me green light and I caught it and proceeded.

we chat few minutes and I end up collecting her number. I only told her I would like to take her out. she kept saying she doesn't go out. I asked her why? she said she doesn't like going out. OK how about this, maybe she can come to my place then? she said no problem she will try next day.

Ghan, ghan.. that's how it started.

the first time she came she didn't spend much time, we only chat few minutes and she told me she will come back again. I guess she like my apartment. no problem would be waiting till then.

she came the second time, this time she prepared but it was at night. more like the first time she only came to check where I live and my apartment out.

while we were discussing. it became really interesting as i was trying to reach for her big boobs. she keep telling me remove your hand don't go there. sometimes she would say she will leave if I don't stop. it became too much and I told her she can take her leave if she want to. she stand up and behave like someone who want to start going.

I just said OK na no problem, she reach the door and stand there. I just act like I don't care if she leaves or not. she came back and was smiling.

then I told her what if you don't go? she can spend the night here, I live alone. she said I know that's your plan so that you will start disturbing me at night.

she likes my place and the discussion was making her happy. she told me we will pass the night but on the condition I won't disturbed her.

Ghan. Ghan. story, story.... story

I was just mute and looking at her. that night I detest that she want to sleep with me but she doesn't want it to seem like she wanted to do it with me. and also she doesn't want me to look like she was cheap. you know those kind thing.??
and also I understand that she likes me and don't want to do anything that would make me angry with her.

the truth of the matter is that, I don't like or love her. I only wanted to play along and bang her the fact she gave me the green light which made me to talk with her. that night I bang her 2 times. she came the next day I also bang her 3 times. she came after some days I bang her 3 times. it has been long she was in a relationship like this. she want to come to my house almost like everyday to pass the night, although she won't say it directly but something like she would want me to tell her to come. or alternately if I would just come to visit her in her place to make her not to come.

Here is where my predicament started.

the girl called me up to 5 times everyday. I don't call her, she is the one calling me. sometimes I would just discharge her because if I don't she would want to spend up to 30mins of my precious time on the phone. the annoying part is mid night call and very early morning calls. she doesn't ask me for anything money.

I also understand that she is now happy. I could be the reason for her happiness. sometimes my heart beat as I don't take the relationship serious the way she is taking it.

her close Friend knows. it seems she also told her mother. I also observed she get jealous when I am talking about my other girlfriends.

now I stop picking her calls she has been calling me the whole day. I can't count the miss calls.

I have not promise her anything or tell her how much I love her, because I don't. there are some relationship you just want to be for the main time sake my reason for initiating it.


I need help on how to go about this.

I also observed she get jealous when I am talking about my other girlfriends.

pocohantas:
"she is over 30."

There are games you don't play with people of a certain age- irrespective of their gender.

You should pull this stunt with 100l girls, not a mature woman. It is not rocket science.

donbachi:
The most foolish of men...is a man that will make a woman to love him with the intention of not loving her back.

Ndukings92:
u have define the most foolish of men,pls define the most foolish of women for us

soberdrunk:
Just 1 question, did you 'toast' her with English or your native dialect?

Joel3:
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Ndukings92:
u have define the most foolish of men,pls define the most foolish of women for us

pocohantas:
"she is over 30."

There are games you don't play with people of a certain age- irrespective of their gender.

You should restrict this stunt to your 100l GFs, not a mature woman. It is not rocket science.

yeyeosoronga:
Just let her know your fears. Tell her she's s nice girl and you always have a great time with her. However, you're not looking for something serious, and wouldnt want to waste her time.
Let her know the way she calls you all the time makes you scared as you're not ready for any commitment.
Let it be her decision if she wants to continue rolling with you or not....

Ladylite:


I can act as your girlfriend and she will catch us fvcking and leave in anger.

Call me

Ladylite:


I can act as your girlfriend and she will catch us fvcking and leave in anger.

Call me

1StopRudeness:


He’s not looking for something serious?...and he ddnt know the road to olosho joint b4...I don’t know why boiz can’t start with this dialogue initially...the problem is guys think girls won’t tag along....some won’t but u’ll be surprised lots of girls will

yeyeosoronga:


The earlier we understand that not all relationships is for marriage, the better for everyone.
Why can't you just go and catch fun? Things might progress from there if you both realise you enjoy each other's company so much.
People get so fixated that their relationship must be marriage or nothing, that they end up marrying the wrong one at the end of the day, and will end up cheating in marriage. Or they end up missing out on a great relationship because they feel its not leading to marriage.
He didn't mention he made any promises before quaffing themselves. The girl needs to relax and pick up the vibes that the guy wants some space. But I'm sure she already has her caterer, event planner, dress and bouquet all ready as we speak.
Women should never sleep with a man to keep him. Kolewerk. Sleep with him because you want to enjoy yourself and make sure he pleasures you and gives you that healing you want

N:B= long term relationships ( >/= 1 year) should know the direction they're heading o, so don't get me wrong o. But from OPs post, this is still a very new relationship

1StopRudeness:


Is like u too need thunder to fire you....

Hiding under the canopy of “I ddnt promise you anything” to hurt people’s feeling psychologically and emotionally is just wrong....u can twist it any how u like though with all the bias text u wrote up there...as long as he ain’t plain from the start that all he wants is Anytime sex with no follow up calls of “hows ur day” is plain deception.

woman and men are not the same....let’s not pretend like both process things the same way..

a man can have erection one second after meeting a girl... a normal decent girl will have to get atached and comfortable with the guy first b4 she can off pant....

yeyeosoronga:


You can't meet with with someone and start thinking of marriage. I will only see it as deception if he used marriage promises to sleep with her and start a relationship with her. On the contrary, he didn't do such. Nobody knows where a relationship would lead at the beginning, and oftentimes until they have the talk of 'so what are we?' Abi did he tell her they were an item?
This is the time for them to start getting to know each other, their likes and dislikes. Time to see if a relationship is even worth pursuing.
Not a time to be chasing him about with phone calls.
People have off pant on the first date and are married now. Some off pant after one year, and yet no marriage.
Bambam and Teddy A off pant on TV just after a few weeks, but kept up the tempo afterwards and are married now. They both enjoyed catching their fun with no disturbance about marriage, and honestly no expectations initially in their relationship. Nobody expected them to last that long, but they have.