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Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by omlueh(m): 10:38am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Madam, have you ever heard of this five magic words PLEASE; SORRY; EXCUSE ME; THANK YOU; PARDON ME. Make very good use of it and the rest will be History, because in this part of the World we neglect the use of these MAGIC WORDS. And its very helpful, so make use of it and you will see the Wonder it will perform. Cheers and have a Wonderful Home. Zhuhilat: 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 10:45am On Oct 14, 2019 |
ekitimanalways: It can be the case that tribe has an effect, if they have certain customs or ways of doing things that cause problems. Or if husband and wife have an inter-tribal marriage. However I doubt OP will explain the situation to us in that amount of detail |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by VicM6: 10:48am On Oct 14, 2019 |
laslas he go chuck u dagger for belle run.... Men like that are terrible and the worst part, it isn't easy to change them from thier character like that... My advise is for you to pray hard okay and if things still doesn't work out, just pack ur load and leave b4 it becomes too late(too late in the scene that you already have 4 kids, there will b no help again). Be wise and smart..... Men like that are dare devil, they can do and undo.... leave him for some months, if he doesn't come back pleading then know u have married d wrong soulmate or better still hold a family meeting. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by kweenkong(f): 10:50am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Coolgent: What sort of marital life are you promoting , its very disheartening considering that marriage is to unite two families , 1) So a mother bringing food to the childrens house is wrong , waow , you guys need to check your ego and focus on the right thing bring garri, yam, palm oil etc for you daughter and her family is wrong . 3) Giving attention to your husband is wrong , i dont know how to deal with that . 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 10:52am On Oct 14, 2019 |
slimjosh231: Tribe can have an effect to an extent because it affects how people go about their lives |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 10:55am On Oct 14, 2019 |
slimjosh231: Her father who didn't even want her to go back I sometimes wonder if men and women see different words when reading a paragraph. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by chikitobabe(f): 10:56am On Oct 14, 2019 |
maasoap: What ever be the reason a man who loves a lady and wants it to wrk ..wont ask her to leave at the slightest provocation, do u knw what it means to tell ur wife to leave her matrimonial home?.that's manipulative pls. Even leaving the house is wrong. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by vezycash(m): 10:57am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Marriage is a long term contract and relationship. The earlier you work things out, the better. Say you just buy a puppy and it shits and pees in the house, what will you do? The longer you take to correct it, the unhappier both you and the puppy will be as it matures into a dog. You and your hubby are both training each other whether you realize it or not. By not fixing things NOW, you're setting yourselves up for some terrible future. You don't want to have an argument in year 2049 and get thrown out of the house when you've invested much in the relationship. By that time, mum and dad may not be able to help any longer. Do the counselling thing and see if it'll work. Try any other thing good reasonable advice nairalanders and family advice - DO IT NOW. At 50+ my mum's facing the consequences of simple shit she could have resolved with my old man 30 something years ago. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Khaleell001(m): 10:58am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Nwogeh: Sir, not everyone has the capability to filter through such plethora of conflicting comments. I believe consulting offline is still the best bet. She must have someone somewhere who she can consult, but most people just want to follow the least and easiest but dangerous line of bringing such matters online. I am not denying the fact that you won't get good advices online.The question is ,do they know these people well enough to be rendering such advices? Do they know the nature and complexities involved in the issue? They are so many ifs and buts before one tries to consult total strangers on their internal affair. We need to be a little bit more tactical with our decision. Even as a Muslim which I believe she is, our religious scripture has a well defined guideline of dealing with such delicate issue instead she went public with it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Jabia(m): 11:00am On Oct 14, 2019 |
elektra: They already did, and it was made BEFORE War Room. It's called Fireproof 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Zhuhilat: 11:14am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Dear All Thanks for the advice, criticism and unfair assumptions. I have read through almost everything and looking back, i know there are areas i need to work on. Like talking back, and generally being argumentative all the time. Still, i know that nobody should be treated like trash especially your own wife. I am working on myself for myself, not basically for the marriage because every time there’s always been an issue, i always blame myself. But that load is too much , working on this marriage alone is killing me and making me depressed. God loves me, my child and him too. He is going make our path clearer and however he does it, is fine by me. Thanks all. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by tot(f): 11:17am On Oct 14, 2019 |
omlueh: BOTH of them should be using these words, not just her. It takes 2 to make things work. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by marv1: 11:17am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: Your husband is a boy and not a man. He is not matured at all. Deck a marriage counsellor advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by tot(f): 11:17am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: All the very best. Good luck. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 11:23am On Oct 14, 2019 |
KingAfo: Fixed 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 11:24am On Oct 14, 2019 |
[quote author=Anextin post=83122312]You see this your statement is the reason many marriages are crashing, its not a woman who builds a home, its both parties. If a man and wife doesn't agree to make a marriage work, then it won't. One person doesn't carry a relationship successfully. If the woman study's her man, the man should equally study his wife..it takes two to tango. Ask men who have happy and fulfilling homes, ask them their secret. Not just being married for the sake of it and the kids, I mean being happy in your marriage. When i say a woman "builts her home" i'm not saying that from a sentimental point of view .. these is what the bibles says ... d bible alway knows what is best. ok Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish do otherwise, shuld we say sum1 4got it takes two to be in marriage buh d bible knws women & men are wired differently. house to a man only means physical structure, that he has potential to build while home to a woman means marriage, a woman is compel to build her home becos nature as given her the potentials she needs ... men are not wired for marriage, we struggle to understand it n only a woman can help us, i notice d bible never said, anything abt "a foolish man plucketh his house" buh d bible knw foolish men exist naw On weddin days ... btw d groom & bride who is the happiest ... i av notice d ladies are alway full of smiles the only time d groom smiles only when people greet him ... Alol. women understand marriage better |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Boss13: 11:26am On Oct 14, 2019 |
sisisioge: Do you think he can take the baby without the man's input? Wishingful thinking. I see the women warriors giving advice without asking the nature of words said during the fights. The OP is not a patient woman, same with her husband. OP if you are reading this - it's not rosy outside either. You must know that you cannot shout at a man to get what you want. You are not his mother. When he errs, calm yourself down and talk reasonably. If your marriage breaks, it actually not your husband's fault alone but yours to share and depicts a high level of irresponsibility from both of you. WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE YOU SEEK CHANGE FROM SOMEONE ELSE 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by AyosMan: 11:26am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Madam I understand you 101%, bcus I and ur hubby are puting on the same shoe. Exact same words I use for my wife some time when there is an argument which, I later start feeling bad and end up apologizing at the of the day. Please, don't listen to this singles advising you to leave ur home you, you both own that home. I want to let you know that a lot of things run through our (married men) minds, which in most cases our wife's are not even aware off! Do you know what it means to have bills to pay and it seems ur efforts are not yielding the necessary result it makes a man go nolt only, the married ones understand the irony of what are talking about. Sometimes when I have argument with my hubby I cry to God to make me a better Father, husband, brother, friend and above all a lover....God gave me the best wife which I know you are to husband as well. I just shake my head as I read through you write up is, just like you referring to me. You guys, deserve the best from us, as I work on anger and to have a self control I, pray God give ur hubby the heart to do same...pls don't ever leave the house again and inviting extended family members is helping ur home in any way. Thanks and remain blessed 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Charly68: 11:26am On Oct 14, 2019 |
It is clear that you married to a baby husband,you must be matured enough to carry him as a mother. Unless you assume this attitude,there won't be peace at home. Please don't leave but be wiser to manage his babyish temperament . 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Danbull: 11:38am On Oct 14, 2019 |
It is well o. My own na opposite. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by coldFLARES1(m): 11:42am On Oct 14, 2019 |
NoToPile:My brother, the Op said she works and earns. That's the basis for my position. To the part where you asked if the husband is jobless, it rests on the woman to take whatever position she sees fit and believe me a majority of women will throw their husbands overboard if the husband loses his capacity to be solely responsible for the family. The few who take on full responsibility become overlords and excessively irritating. Reason why a good number of men who survive such temporary reversal of roles tend to marry new wives when they are past such dark periods and the horrific domestic experiences. For a woman that doesn't work, the husbands would be good to provide to the extent his resources can carry, and then again......those ones are not as disrespectful as the greedy and selfish working wives. You may have to be educated on how changing demands of the workplace/marketplace put women at an advantage. And if it so happens that you wife earns a multiple of your take-home, would you be daft to allow her save up her waged or spend as she sees fit, while you labour to provide for a family that includes her? God forbid! Such a woman is only good for divorce. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Hamachi(f): 11:49am On Oct 14, 2019 |
ok seelawd: |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Beosten(m): 11:54am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: I like this. In instances where you need to talk back while he's angry, don't talk back, but you can explain the situation to him later when both of you are in normal mood. Say something like, "dear, I didn't want to talk back when you were angry with me. But so so so is the reason why I did what angered you. I didn't intend to make you angry." You have to say it this way because your reasons may be valid, but because he was angry, don't expect him to accept your valid reasons. Let me tell you this, when two people are angry, both of them may be right as a result of the angles through which they viewed the situation at that point in time. Your marriage will last. It's matter of time. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by udoekere: 11:56am On Oct 14, 2019 |
I don't think he do take what he says seriously,it's just that ur husband is kinda hot temper and might be cheating on u... |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Mryacks: 11:59am On Oct 14, 2019 |
Mstick: Sensible... |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Klington: 12:11pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
I remember my elder brother was that silly when he got married to his wife newly always using does devaluing words (you're of no use/value to me and all that) But she will always call me to report his abuses because she knows i respect my brother but i do not fear him. i talk to him pragmatically and i can tell you for free, they're over twelve years now. They now live enviably like husband and wife. My point is, Look for a discreet person he respects to talk to him and you must be very careful while doing. Alternatively, sit him down and pour out your heart with some degree of respect because from your write up,there are traces of arrogance 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 12:17pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Chapter1vs6: I don't think age is the main thing, but maturity and life experience. It is partly contingent on age, but not necessarily. A 30 year old can still give bad advice and a 23 year old can still be sage |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by OILOFGLADNESS: 12:34pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: MOST MEN ESPECIALLY FROM EDO-BENIN ARE JUST OLD BUT NOT MATURED for MARRIAGE THEY PRETEND SO MUCH WHEN ASKING YOU OUT AND LACK SO MUCH FOCUS BY THE TIME U ACCEPT TO MARRY THEM THEY RUSH EVERYTHING SO THAT U WONT SEE THE BEAST IN THEM I REALLY UNDERSTAND YOU DEAR VERY PAINFUL; AND IT WILL MAKE YOU SEE HIM AS NOTHING AND LOOSE LOVE FOR HIM A LOT OF MEN ARE SO IRRESPONSIBLE EVEN AT THEIR 40S THEY SUFFER SO MUCH INSECURITY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR OWN FAMILY ARE MORE CARING AND SUCCESSFUL THAN THEIRS THEY WANT TO DEVALUE YOU WITH ALL MADNESS ON THEIR HEAD MOST ESPECIALLY A LOT OF MEN HAVE PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES AND NEED MEDICAL ATTENTION BUT THEY WONT ACCEPT!! SO SORRY MY DEAR, I HONESTLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO ADVISE............... IF HE CAN ACCEPT YOU VISITING A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR , PLEASE VISIT, MAY BE HE CAN OPEN UP ON WHAT IS REALLY BITING HIM SOMETIMES, I WISH GO CAN GIVE OPPORTUNITY OF REMARRIAGE AFTER MAXIMUM OF 5 YEARS OF TRYING SOME PARENTS ARE ALSO THE CAUSE OF THEIR SONS MENTAL CHALLENGE HEY NEVER SAT THEM DOWN TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE AND THE WORTH OF A WIFE...................... |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by OILOFGLADNESS: 12:40pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Klington: VERY KEY TOO, IF ANY MEMBER OF THE FAMILY IS WISE AND MATURED WITH GOOD UNDERSTANDING, MAKE THE PERSON THE 3RD PARTY.. THIS IS THE ROLE I PLAY FOR MY BROTHER AND THE WIFE, THOUGH MY BROTHER IS VERY RESPECTFUL BUT WHEN HE PROVES DIFFICULT IN CERTAIN AREAS LIKE THE WIFE PREFERS A MORE RELIABLE HOSPITAL FOR CHILD BIRTH BUT MY BROTHER PREFERS ANOTHER ... JUST ONE CALL TO MY BROTHER, I WILL EVEN TELL HIM IF ITS OS OF THE COST I WILL ASSIST WITH THE BILL, IN FACT MY BROTHER NEVER ARGUED MY ADVISE COS HE KNOWS ALL I WANT IS HIS OWN PEACE!!! |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by godfrey01(m): 12:45pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ahahnow: 12:46pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
lollybizzu: None of this is correct. My life is good and so is my family. You have failed here. I hope this does not reflect your reality. Now move along and have a nice day |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by SURElee(f): 12:48pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
This is both verbal, emotional and psychological torture from a temperamental man. It is the 5th time he has asked you to leave. In all the time you have left that home, it isn't occurred to you to begin to scout for houses say a self contain and 2bedroom depending on what you can afford? Pls don't tell me you are unemployed or not doing anything to have your own money. When a man says you add no value to him, hmm. Begin look for your own house. It is when you keep going back home that your family will be encouraging you to go back to an abusive marriage. Add value to yourself, take courses, learn a skill. Even employed ladies are learning skills and running side businesses. Better yourself for yourself |
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