Traditionally, it's father's responsibility to give out the bride in marriage. That cements his status as the Head of the family. If the man is deceased, then another male family member would take on that role. Nowadays, I have noticed a trend whereby, both parents have choosen to walk the lady down the aisle to her new husband. Its a bit dramatic if the girl unfortunately comes from a broken home and each of her parents have remarried. I have read of 'dilema's' presented by some of them on who should walk them down the aile. They would mention their devotion to their biological father and an attachment to their stepfather. And the reply would be that both should alternate the role, stop at midway, and let the other proceed to the altar.

Another trend is when parents both walk her down the aile and formally give her out to the marriage. Would you support that? I am not being judgemental, and though I consider myself 'enlightened' on various norms, there are certain traditions that I hold unto dearly. That itself is an exclusive honor meant for me as the head of the family.

brb

What if the father is dead? For me as long as I'm marrying the man of my dreams, doesn't matter anyone can walk me down the aisle. (even my little brother)

rokiatu:

What if the father is dead? For me as long as I'm marrying the man of my dreams, doesn't matter anyone can walk me down the aisle. (even my little brother)

Look, this is not right.

Please don't put pressure on me.

Stop dropping hints.

sorry poster, dats a dumb one!! do u mean who will walk her to the aisle or who will give her out in marriage? still dumb,, she is 18 and above im sure, so NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE FOR HER ,if thats what u  mean, and if not then EVEN HER FRIENDS OR BROTHER OR SISTER WILL WALK HER TO THE AISLE,we dont decide for girls who they go with or live with, she is of age, she decides what she wants all she needs is parents support and if they tell u oh that guy is bad or he is this or that, or the funny tone, oh u cant marry him, he is from this part or that part or christian or muslim or hindu or even anything,, go for ur hearts desire nd whoever dont like it should skip from 20th floor for all i care, go there and if u dont like it and not suitable then find ur way to start all over,, IF U NEVA MAKE A MISTAKE THEN U NEVA TRIED NEWS THINGS

What if the father is dead? For me as long as I'm marrying the man of my dreams, doesn't matter anyone can walk me down the aisle. (even my little brother)

depends on the family u come from. Some families wouldnt mind who walks the bride down the aisle.

jango77:

sorry poster, dats a dumb one!! do u mean who will walk her to the aisle or who will give her out in marriage? still dumb,, she is 18 and above im sure, so NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE FOR HER ,if thats what u  mean, and if not then EVEN HER FRIENDS OR BROTHER OR SISTER WILL WALK HER TO THE AISLE,we dont decide for girls who they go with or live with, she is of age, she decides what she wants all she needs is parents support and if they tell u oh that guy is bad or he is this or that, or the funny tone, oh u cant marry him, he is from this part or that part or christian or muslim or hindu or even anything,, go for your hearts desire nd whoever dont like it should skip from 20th floor for all i care, go there and if u dont like it and not suitable then find your way to start all over,, IF U NEVA MAKE A MISTAKE THEN U NEVA TRIED NEWS THINGS

You don't know what he means but you are quick to jump to tagging his question as dumb and throwing some whole load of confused "ifs", all because you are desperate to parade your "superior" liberalism?

Utter clunking rubbish.

[s]sorry poster, dats a dumb one!! do u mean who will walk her to the aisle or who will give her out in marriage? still dumb,, she is 18 and above im sure, so NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE FOR HER ,if thats what u  mean, and if not then EVEN HER FRIENDS OR BROTHER OR SISTER WILL WALK HER TO THE AISLE,we dont decide for girls who they go with or live with, she is of age, she decides what she wants all she needs is parents support and if they tell u oh that guy is bad or he is this or that, or the funny tone, oh u cant marry him, he is from this part or that part or christian or muslim or hindu or even anything,, go for your hearts desire nd whoever dont like it should skip from 20th floor for all i care, go there and if u dont like it and not suitable then find your way to start all over,, IF U NEVA MAKE A MISTAKE THEN U NEVA TRIED NEWS.[/s]

A comment from a Buffalo soldier, who does not know his/her history and of course where he/she is coming from .

As the post, her father, but if the father is dead, whoever the family appoints to represent the father. It could her uncle, her brother, cousin etc

big deal,

why cant lady walk herself  
i like that walking alone slow dancing to the music instead of someone matching my dress and dragging my overcrowded hand.

Ndipe:

Traditionally, it's father's responsibility to give out the bride in marriage. That cements his status as the Head of the family. If the man is deceased, then another male family member would take on that role.

This is what I'm familiar with. I don't know any place where anything different from this is done.

Sagamite:

You don't know what he means but you are quick to jump to tagging his question as dumb and throwing some whole load of confused "ifs", all because you are desperate to parade your "superior" liberalism?

Utter clunking rubbish.

Lmao!    

**Don't let me catch you giving a stùpid opinion on this forum**

the parents. ( father , but if the fahter is not there the mother & an elder in the fahther's family can stand-in for the father).

According to our tradition, it's her father. In the absence of the father, her family decides who performs the duty on behalf of her father

With all the confusion present in the family systems in this day and age, let the bride please decide.
We do not want broken bottles and shattered skulls littered all over the ceremonial, marriage venues do we?

And the reply would be that both should alternate the role, stop at midway, and let the other proceed to the altar.

What is it. . . a circus?

Ridiculous!!

Both my parents walked me down. It was awesome to be flanked left and right by my two most favorite people. It also depends on the attitude of the parents - my mum was suprised at first when I brought it up but was quickly and joyfully won over that I and my dad wanted her to walk too.

I'm not one given over to "tradition" much. I go for whatever works for the people involved. Too many times we restrict ourselves and miss out on truly unique things by enslaving our minds and attitude to "tradition".

JeSoul:

Both my parents walked me down.

You are married?

WTF? Why do you keep on hitting on me then? [Straight face]

Blazay:

With all the confusion present in the family systems in this day and age, let the bride please decide.
We do not want broken bottles and shattered skulls littered all over the ceremonial, marriage venues do we?

true

we are going through the same problem too

Sagamite:

You are married?

WTF? Why do you keep on hitting on me then? [Straight face]

Lol. Surely, you're imagining things. The only person I've been hitting on with correct smack is my small nephew, the stubborn boy almost ruined my laptop yesterday.

r231:

true

we are going through the same problem too

Congrats on the impending . My advice to you is do whatever makes you and your future wife happy - not what the family members want. Do what you can to ensure peace but let the shots be called by you both not over-zealous relatives.

''I wish the intended couples will be in the position to decide who does this and that, possibly decide there is no need for introduction and dowry cos it has to do with tradition. I also wish they could get married without their parents consent um .'' Pls, if that's wat you want better turn oyibo

r231:

true

we are going through the same problem too

r231, you are awaiting sentencing to life imprisonment too? 

Aah!!! Wetin be the charge? What was your crime?

Chei! Sorry o.





Jokes. Congrats. 

Sagamite:

r231, you are awaiting sentencing to life imprisonment too?

maximum security with no possibility of parole

^ see these yeye boys . . . they will be stronging face here on NL but in real life they are the worst of romantics

Sagamu when you wan marry?

JeSoul:

Congrats on the impending . My advice to you is do whatever makes you and your future wife happy - not what the family members want. Do what you can to ensure peace but let the shots be called by you both not over-zealous relatives.

Thank you ma

actually we still trying to beg her mum cus she don't want him there at all

and she is going everything to poison her daughter's mind

Sagamite:

r231, you are awaiting sentencing to life imprisonment too? 

Aah!!! Wetin be the charge? What was your crime?

Chei! Sorry o.





Jokes. Congrats. 

thanx bruv. . . . . you are next

bawomolo:

maximum security with no possibility of parole

you are next too

jango77:

sorry poster, dats a dumb one!! do u mean who will walk her to the aisle or who will give her out in marriage? still dumb,, she is 18 and above im sure, so NO BODY HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE FOR HER ,if thats what u  mean, and if not then EVEN HER FRIENDS OR BROTHER OR SISTER WILL WALK HER TO THE AISLE,we dont decide for girls who they go with or live with, she is of age, she decides what she wants all she needs is parents support and if they tell u oh that guy is bad or he is this or that, or the funny tone, oh u cant marry him, he is from this part or that part or christian or muslim or hindu or even anything,, go for your hearts desire nd whoever dont like it should skip from 20th floor for all i care, go there and if u dont like it and not suitable then find your way to start all over,, IF U NEVA MAKE A MISTAKE THEN U NEVA TRIED NEWS THINGS

You are implying that since she is of age, she is free to disregard tradition. At the same time, you are contradicting yourself by stating that she needs her parents support. My question is, why would she need her parents support since she is of age?

My take is that it is an exclusive honor reserved for the father as the head of the family, unless he wasnt a part of the girl's life, like a deadbeat. If he is deceased, then the mother of the bride can take the honors.

It the duty of the boy friend

It the duty of the boy friend

@Topic,anyone the bride sees as her dad.It could be an uncle,step-dad,biological dad or even grand dad.Anyone that played that father role for her deserves to walk her down tha aisle.IMO

I disagree with U guys, I think it shud be her ex

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Topic,anyone the bride sees as her dad.It could be an uncle,step-dad,biological dad or even grand dad.Anyone that played that father role for her deserves to walk her down tha aisle.IMO

And what i fit was an aristo that played that role