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Money Demanding Relatives by Lonelypacifist6: 3:45pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Familylanders, Please how do you deal with cousins who demand alot from you and then get angry when you can't meet up with their demands? I have Some cousins who do this, Let's say they're not very comfortable, and they demand alot from me and I eventually give in to their demands because they're the only family I have in country, Reason I give in is because they Stop communication and get crossed at me, so I eventually do their bidding. Note that I can't even remember when last they gave me something They're always on the recieving end. |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by budaatum: 3:52pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by fykes(m): 4:02pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
never give to anyone anything that will displease yourself. don't let anybody emotionally blackmail u. family is not important, family is EVERYTHING. FINALLY, would u rather be the one begging or giving? bocos my dear, in life, those roles can be reversed in a matter of seconds. search your heart, make ur choice. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Lonelypacifist6: 4:21pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
fykes:To be honest I don't have a problem giving them the annoying thing his how they make a mountain out of it if it doesn't come early, I'm not the asking type even when I was married I don't ask my wife to buy me things with her money, Because why am I Working. |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by content208: 4:26pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6: It.is because you are not a.strong-willed person. You don't owe them.a thing. You only give if you can afford. If you can't afford it, you shouldn't give a thing. If you don't stop allowing them manipulate you emotionally, you will live to regret it. You are only responsible for your wife and kids; you can only consider extended family or in-laws if you have extra that you can spare. 4 Likes |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by sisisioge: 4:34pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Hmmmm...there is a huge wisdom in knowing when to say NO and stick with it. At the end of it all, everyman will be for himself while God will be for us all. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Lonelypacifist6: 4:44pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
I believe they're taking advantage of my emotional vacuum being a that I'm recently divorced, this has been happening before but it's now intense, thanks. |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by fykes(m): 9:19pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6:Trials and temptation my dear bros, the caveat for u, is to always find a reason to overlook their actions and attitudes so as to maintain a clean heart towards them. More grace! |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by bogdaddy(m): 9:06am On Nov 28, 2019 |
They know you are lonely, anyways are you in Lagos? We can hit some nice bars around Lagos together ... who family help Lonelypacifist6: 1 Like |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by amaham(m): 9:12am On Nov 28, 2019 |
Sorry oo, they're fleecing you because you're at your lowest emotional state. Remedy: stop communication with the world, run to Jesus: only him can fill you up 1 Like |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 10:05am On Nov 28, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6:Simply turn it around by calling them to ask for something you don't even need. As in, cry more than them for lack. 2 Likes |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Lonelypacifist6: 10:34am On Nov 28, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:What can I demand? they'll know I'm heckling them. |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by LordKO(m): 10:43am On Nov 28, 2019 |
The solution is a simple one; make it a rule never to use servility to sustain a relationship with anyone - however, you can only maintain this rule if you are neither feeble-minded nor subjugable, nor a validation seeker. No matter what you do though, don't alienate your people. You can be humane without being subjugable - this is possible through mastery of checking and balancing altruism with conscientiousness. 1 Like |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 11:42am On Nov 28, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6:Just demand for something. A big man can be in need too you know. I doubt if you stumble they'll be there to support u. So be wise. |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by frozen70(f): 6:03pm On Nov 30, 2019 |
Lonelypacifist6: The issue of demands from family members can not be ruled out It depends on how you flaunt your self before them But the worst is that you are managing and decided not to beg anyone makes it look as if you are ok Well if you have half amount of their request, give it to them depending on the amount involve But once you are married with kids, they will leave you alone 1 Like |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Pavore9: 7:17pm On Nov 30, 2019 |
The irony is that relatives respect those who do not send them or look their way once in a while, talking from experience. They respect the once in a while appearance of those who make themselves scarce 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Pavore9: 8:58am On Dec 01, 2019 |
frozen70: An unhealthy number of them do not leave you alone when married with kids rather they see an enemy in your wife, accusing her that she manipulated you into stopping to give them what you used to when you were single as they irrationally choose to ignore the reality that you now have your own family and added responsibilities. 3 Likes |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by frozen70(f): 9:37am On Dec 01, 2019 |
Pavore9: That is the major reason to tell them if you can help or not To save your wife from their accusations, if they come to you for favour, if its something you can do, say yes I will do it and make sure you do it because if you decided not to do it, you have put your wife in their hate book If its something you can't do, say sorry I can't help and say it immediately not when they leave then they call to remind you about it you will now tell them that you can no longer help, you have put your wife as the person that changed your mind |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by saintvc(m): 11:27pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
do to others as they do to you. at times when you don't demand for money, people assume you ate comfortable. so intentionally ask them to lend you money. if they give you, keep it as side, don't spend it,.. when they ask back, return that same money to them.. keep asking, the best way to prevent askers is to ask them |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 11:48pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
amaham:Even Jesus sef dey still collect. E be like na Jesus go collect pass em cousin dem sef |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 11:51pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
Logobenz:Back from Ban? |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 11:52pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Was never on ban. Just busy... |
Re: Money Demanding Relatives by Nobody: 12:00am On Dec 02, 2019 |
Logobenz:OK |
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