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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by mumexcellency(f): 11:01pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
There is a special account banks open for students not up to 18. I have a son in the university who is not 18 and he has an account where his money goes to. The banks are in the school premises, so he should open it in the school. please sponsor the boy's education so that he can later help his mum. Look for some amount of money for your cousin to begin business and look away afterwards. Good luck. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by nlPoster: 11:22pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
I went through the original post once again and I did not see any of these (I was specifically looking for them): -Age of the couple -When they married -Tribe of the op or his cousin So, those of you with background information dropping hints here and there which are unknown to the rest of us, perhaps you should communicate with the op and yourselves privately? |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by dominique(f): 11:25pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Just when I was telling myself that Nairalanders would have bombarded op's inbox with requests by now, I got to this post. At least this one made his request in public lavenjcrown: We're all in one financial need or the other, should we all send Op our account details? Someone already has the burden of 6 family members on his neck, you want to add your own join. How considerate of you 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by kygo(m): 11:49pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
J111333: You're a very good person, but you need to be very careful henceforth. Call your favorite cousin and tell her how much she has disappointed you. Make sure the little man opens an account where you can send him money directly, try to set up a small business for her. But before that, tell her this is the last time you'd be investing in her and she has to make good decisions this time. You're a good person 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Solsix(m): 2:12am On Nov 27, 2019 |
J111333:Keep wasting your time!!! What will advise is coming just be patient |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by NarnieSnyper(m): 10:27am On Nov 27, 2019 |
You see this churchy ladies/ women. They really piss me the fvck off. You claim to be holy but you have sex any how and bear children like rabbits. If you advise them to do family planning, they'd say it is against their belief. I know this because I have stupîd uncle just like this. I don't know about you but the earlier you put a stop to this bBS the better because you are now automatically their ATM and for sure baby number 6 is still in her husband's bank awaiting deployment. I dislike people like this; you have no stable source of income yet you fvck and mass produce kids like it is nothing then start distributing them to relations to cater for them 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by armadeo(m): 11:01am On Nov 27, 2019 |
Ishilove: Lol. I read this and thought what a beautiful write up. I was going to suggest to you to try your hand at writing, scrolled up to see the moniker and almost choked laughing. . That being said bros J. You are in a cycle with vicious parasites. Yoh have no idea how entitled they feel to your funds till you cut it off. In my opinion cut them all off for a year. No need for excuses just say I don't have. When they survive the year ( I assure you they will), you will realise you've just been pampering them. Tou can now give aid as tou deem fit and always 1/4 to 1/2 of the required amount. Never all. Modified I just read lewstherin's post and put in bold a similar point. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by armadeo(m): 11:17am On Nov 27, 2019 |
realestniggah: I am shocked seeing people suggest he should throw his money into the pit for one last time. Jesus. This is why we never learn in this country. OP. Dont stop a dime anymore. It's not your place to set them up which you've tried severely. You have no idea how people see thise with cash. You have plenty why wont you help? They forget that you hustle hard too. OP if you drop one more dime. It will still be another spin on the wheel. You'll be back saying sequel to this thread .. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by armadeo(m): 11:41am On Nov 27, 2019 |
snowking: Is this for real. I would like more info pls. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by armadeo(m): 11:56am On Nov 27, 2019 |
lavenjcrown: For real. After he's crying due to the load he is carrying. 5 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Kaypaparino(m): 12:40pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
Good day Mr J111333,God will continue to bless you and give you good health to help more,,you're a man of kind hearted and you'll never go down,,some people in other families won't bother since they're comfortable on their own.Please do your best for them and God will uplift you more. I humbly want to get your contact and relate with you if you won't mind sir.,,You can drop your email or number for me or text me on 07061116101. Hope to hear from you soon. Have a great day ahead. God bless you richly. Kay |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 1:35pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
armadeo: |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 1:38pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
Kaypaparino:Una doh oh. Wehdon sir. J111333, you need to stop announcing that you are a financial Schwarzenegger. I have warned you in the past about this but you no dey hear word. When you get inundated with requests you start complaining like you are doing now, meanwhile you are the one always putting yourself in awkward situations. You no dey hear word. Smh. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 1:40pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
NarnieSnyper:Nothing wrong in fvcking. It's their right to fvck. However, they should use contraceptives and not breed like rats. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 1:42pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
armadeo:The OP no dey hear word. He has a Saviour complex 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
Ishilove: Usually based on experience. His own experiences have made him generous. My experiences have made me hard headed 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 1:59pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
ornicus:My own experiences are making me hard hearted 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by NarnieSnyper(m): 4:26pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
Ishilove: I didn't say it is wrong. For heaven's sake they are married, so they have every right to it. My point here is, they act like they don't know what sex is yet they tend to always have it(like their lives depend on it) and ignorantly or stupídly start mass producing kids. If you tell them about contraceptives or family planning, they'll start telling you BS, like it is against their faith, that they can't deny what God has given to them freely else it is an insult to God and then they start bearing children they can't cater for. Isn't that unfair to the innocent kids Like I said, I have encountered their type more than once |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Nov 27, 2019 |
snowking:I just sent you a PM, please reply whenever you can. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Gloriousheart(f): 2:21pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
You better don't let them dupe you. Find good investments to sink your money into and get married if you are still single. Start building your family as you're building other people's families. A word is enough for the wise J111333: 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Saintmary(f): 3:11pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
Ishilove:I'm giving my salute to your Mom from here 2 Likes
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Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Ishilove: 8:34pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by BIXYBABE: 10:44pm On Nov 28, 2019 |
hmmmmm |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by snowking: 10:26am On Nov 29, 2019 |
J111333:08166397766 did not get your message |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by snowking: 10:32am On Nov 29, 2019 |
armadeo:MBA Forex uses your funds invested to trade and make profit, paying you 10% to 15% monthly and at the end of 6 months your capital given back to you. From N365,000 to N4,999,999 is 15% monthly, above that is 10% monthly. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by armadeo(m): 7:01pm On Nov 29, 2019 |
snowking: Banks do this? Pls any links I am very interested. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Fairview1: 10:39pm On Nov 29, 2019 |
healthserve: Priceless Wisdom. Thanks for commenting |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Fairview1: 10:40pm On Nov 29, 2019 |
pansophist: Louder pls |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by Fairview1: 11:00pm On Nov 29, 2019 |
midnighter: I am more concerned about what she's learning from the church which she has made her second home. Ideally, the church is to be a place where she'll meet other people who are supposed to inspire her to get things better in life or is she not seeing or ladies of her kind? Sometimes I wonder the way some people reason. What's so difficult in putting herself together. Meanwhile, she happens to come from a moderately well to do family cos having an uncle who has invested over 10million to support her step sister is not little privilege at all. Common sense is not common indeed. People make problems out of things which they are not. |
Re: How Can I Stop Helping My Cousin Without Feeling Guilty About Her Kids? by midnighter(f): 6:46pm On Nov 30, 2019 |
Fairview1: Lol dear, so youve never met those people who just use church as a way of covering up their excesses or escaping from their problems? Church-going can become dangerous if its not done for the right reasons. And it depends on whether they really preach the gospel there or just use it to extort money from the members. To an extent its not really to do with the church but personal discipline. The OP is sponsoring the lady's lifestyle, so she has never really had to sit up. I am sure that deep down she must feel a little guilty, But the guilt is offset by the fact that she wont have to confront her husband for his unseriousness She sounds like she married a ne'er-do-well and just let her standards decline until she didnt know where to start improving herself again. Well, my own is that OP should remove his hand from it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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