Mindfulness:



Is she a prostitute that has to be paid after the act?

nnamdibig:

Ok.
sex for money or not, One good turn deserves another and when much is given, much is expected. When you do somethings for your husband, you will like him to appreciate you and the appreciation can come in form of "thank you" in form of gift or in form of just giving you money.

Mindfulness:

Is sex a good turn now?

donstan18:

To anyone reading this.


As a REASONABLE man, it's left for you to know that you shouldn't over stress yourself financially just to please a woman who is not your mum, wife, sister or daughter.

jeff1607:


I concur with you, truth is when you meet a lady of class your whole mentality about women change, even when u give your gesture is all that matters . it is only then u know that you are a learner

nnamdibig:


Is that what you understand by want I wrote?

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op should have explained his financial state to d fiancee, I'm sure she'd ask him to save d 1k

sassysure:


What have u guys been doing to yourselves when men from other countries are moving ahead?

Mindfulness:


Contemplating submission.

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op should have explained his financial state to d fiancee, I'm sure she'd ask him to save d 1k

Godoverevery:
Hi guys ....so D's happened to me over last weekend and I have completely changed towards my wife to be....
my fiancee came to see me over last weekend...Wen she was leaving very early Monday morning....I gave a thousand naira as tfare I saw d look on face change but I felt maybe she thinking I shouldn't av given anything since I wasn't dat cash up but to my amazement dat evening she actually told me she was disappointed with wat I gave her dat she was embarrassed dat it was too small .....I was really shocked and angry cos D's someone dat comes and I give 5k sometimes for tfare(her actual tfare from her place to and fro is actually less Dan 1k)...so during the chat I told her she knows I just invested heavily in a business I run as side hustle and am not dat cash up but she replied maybe I shouldn't give her money henceforth until am financially stable back...it was my first time of giving her 1k and she complained.
ds someone dat has a pretty good job..... till now I av completely changed towards her.
Trust me she is a good lady but D's incident made me really angry infact she was meant to come to my parent side for Xmas party but I have told her she can't come anymore.

coming from my previous relationship dat was a big mess I don't want to have another big issh again.
I just need honest advise on how to go about ds...thanks

Godoverevery:

lol....u think I didn't explain??
Despite d fact she knows I needed to pay my workers on my farm around d following week...
I have never been stingy to her in any way...I try my best in my own lil life but my dear I can't lie to you I was really down dat day cos it made look like I wasn't up to d task.
I hate complains ....my friend and family know it totally turn me off.
I think dere was abetter way she could have done it not directly complaining d money was to small and she felt embarrassed....for heaven sake dat was my first time while couldn't she have taken it and wait till next time.

AwkaetitiBabe:
The op should have explained his financial state to d fiancee, I'm sure she'd ask him to save d 1k

AwkaetitiBabe:
won't d gf graduate into a wife? There's how u nairaland guys reason that's so annoying and immature.

Godoverevery:

lol.....bro u have no idea where am coming from.
anyway maybe I didn't relate my message well I guess....cos av never in my life complained about anything I was given freely... nobody owe me anything dat my mind set and dat what av made me what I am today to the glory of God.
She knows my worth financially and she thinks I want to punish her for the sin of my ex which is totally wrong.

Bola146:


Thank God, you are a man.. I like what you wrote.

sassysure:

My sister, I tire

Tomorrow, they will create countless threads about materialistic babes yet

No wonder they are always looking for submission.

Seems lots of them don't have healthy self esteem so they hide under money to cover that up.

During my spinsterhood, oh my, our guys have serious ego issue. They will offer money, keep offering more money. The only thing they know how to do is offer money. Remove the money and relate with them one on one equally, u will get no substance. Zilch.
Bullock.

jeff1607:


please read where he explained his financial state to her n how he invested heavily in a biz venture, she is independent and wants to be respected,she should please play the part.

I won't generalise but most times some ladies don't care how you spend or what you save for emergencies,it's all about what you can give.

A child raised to be self reliant make or female doesn't behave that way

jeff1607:


please read where he explained his financial state to her n how he invested heavily in a biz venture, she is independent and wants to be respected,she should please play the part.

I won't generalise but most times some ladies don't care how you spend or what you save for emergencies,it's all about what you can give.

A child raised to be self reliant make or female doesn't behave that way

AwkaetitiBabe:
True. So we should blame parents for not grooming their kids to be self reliant

Saintmary:

Well, you mentioned your ex in your post, so, the lady must have been hearing it often.
You need to sit her down and ask her to be patient with you while you both build the life you desire.
Her suggestion is okay but you might convert that 1k to a small gift so she won't feel like a secondary school girl when you are handing her money for visiting you, give her on arrival, not on departure.
Don't come and end a good relationship just because of 1k.

Preshy561:
This is why you people will always end up with the wrong women who pretend they don't like money until they are married.
For your information, she was even genuinely explaining herself to You, while the retired slay queens will wait till they are married before showing you guys pepper.
I don't know why you lots hate ladies sincerities and embrace pretense.

Exactly how my friend pretended not to like money whenever she's with her fiancè then, but now that she's married, na fire for fire.

I just deh pity the husband

crackhaus:

What's the relevance of her having a pretty good job?

If you think a Naija girl with a good job is not interested in eating your money as often as possible, then you're still sleeping.

You don't need any advise.
She already told you to stop taking care of her fares till you're boxed up again. OBLIGE HER.

Blackmiserable:


I yaf not seen it.

bukatyne:

AFONAMARO:


This ain't about pretence, but a lady seeing a man as her money bag.

You obviously read were he said he's been giving her some cash whenever she visits, but explained to her this one time about being hard on cash after investing and all.

Was thinking we're looking at the issue logically. Don't tell me you feel a woman is entitled to a man's money once she allows him access to her thighs.