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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Nobody: 10:07am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:Now I see your problem. You want to get a car to boost your status but not one for your wife to easily run errands and transport your child. This is exactly how many Nigerian men's mindset work. If there's anyone who needs a car more between the both of you, it is her. 6 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by sugah: 10:38am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:I blame women who choose to raise babies with babies. If you are silly enough to let her buy the car with her own money, she'd then realize her mistake of marrying a selfish human who isn't considerate/able to take care of his family..... she'd then stop contributing to the 'family purse' and start investing in herself and the child only. Igbo bizmen will buy thier stay at home wives SUVs for school runs and they'd take Okada to and from work....but you have a woman contributing to the home and you think you deserve a car and not her 9 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kcbaba007: 10:57am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Standardkid240: WRONG..... An Igbo man would rather buy a car for his wife and trek or jump bikes.... Than buy for himself..... Go and do your investigations well oga Igbo's no dey joke with their wives, especially a correct wife like that of the poster 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by sugah: 11:02am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Standardkid240:You obviously haven't been around igbomen... kindly desist from this kind of malicious slander. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kunleweb: 11:21am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Beatswim: 11:26am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Pls get her a Toyota corolla 2003 - 2006model..so u won't be called at odd times for repairs and exorbitant fuelling... I hope u know u she will give u peace of mind if u allow her get her own car.. Consider your peace of mind first before investment bro |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by dominique(f): 11:30am On Feb 04, 2020 |
emerged01: Even if he gets her the car, you implied that that she will surrender it to him out of shame when people starts talking. Your post insinuates that a woman should sacrifice her comfort and convenience for her husband so she can be tagged a good wife, this is wrong 5 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by rhames(m): 11:50am On Feb 04, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: I have had more serious issues as a father of three over forty to contend with. A car is necessary for that nursing mother to function well otherwise hell will be let loose in that household. get a smaller car to function too. the time for the bigger car will surely come. 2 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by ForbesHomesNG(m): 11:52am On Feb 04, 2020 |
My brother you have a good wife taking care of both home fronts. You should allow get her car. Vehicles are investments too, especially considering the purpose and usefulness. If you have a project you're both aiming to fund that can't be deffrerd, then you should defer getting ing your own car and allow her get especially to make life easier for her over there since you're both not together. You can continue to manage as you've been doing till soonest when you can convinently get yours too. Mind you, the maintenance of cars should be considered too, so ensure you help get get the best that would be a liability rather than an investment. God bless your home. Opeyemiebun: 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by madgoat(m): 1:16pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Nonsense.... You are a very manipulative selfish husband. What is wrong in your wife having her own over there? Even if both of you are staying together, is it bad if she has her own car? You are just selfish and controlling. No other word foe you. 4 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Jungleboy50: 2:36pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
blaquey01:Best advice!! |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by calabardick(m): 2:51pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
kunleweb: See their ages naw, 28 and 30, learners 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kunleweb: 2:51pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by calabardick(m): 2:52pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
madgoat: His problem is this, the wife earns more than him so madam getting a new car will definitely affect him. The slowpoke doesn't even consider the little baby. If his work was more productive I bet you he would've asked the woman to resign. 3 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Geofavor(m): 3:56pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
makydebbie: So, because it's her money, she gets to squander it anyhow on herself alone while the husband uses his to cater for the whole family? How then will he have money left to invest in their future? Isn't it the essence why she is working so that she can support the family too? This is not boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where the girl spends her money on herself alone and the guy keeps paying the girl for everything even when she isn't broke. A wrong decision made by the wife will affect the whole family, whether it's her money or not. Both the money the wife makes and the one the husband makes belong to the family. That's why they're married. Stop this nonsensical mentality of "it's her money". @ op, Call your wife and sit her down. Then you guys decide to buy one car together. Let who needs it more use it now. Nobody here can tell you. Only you and your wife know who needs it more. Later on, you buy another. Whatever you do, make sure you do it in agreement. You're young couples. You should be more focused now on acquiring assets, not liabilities. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by prettysassygirl(f): 3:56pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
No u are not,all the money u are saving ,are u taking it to heaven? 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Kfed4ril(m): 4:04pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Standardkid240: You got it all wrong, An Igbo man takes pride in his wife. We take care if our wives So instead the Op is a typical Yoruba man who will rather his wife treks round Lagos with a baby at her back while he cruises town with his AC car showing off and forming Yoruba demon. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 4:13pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
being married to a good woman with a good job,,,her happiness should be your piority. school run can be as stressful as fvcking a big ass- flat bwess 29 years old virgin. she contributes to the financial demand of an institution called marriage. i think you ought to buy the car with your own money as a family gift for her. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 4:51pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Thanks to everyone who contributed to the said issue, like I said it was to seek other married people(older married couple) counsel and not some Nairaland kids who don't even understand the definition of marriage. Waoh, this huge response is actually overwhelming. Some people didn't even read the whole thing finish before becoming emotional . So much hate, so much bitterness, very toxic people . Thank you all o. Someone even said "he doesn't deserve to live" People need to understand the difference between a thought in your head which you haven't even decided from an existing act. A lot of people turned it to gender competition, emotional issue.. There is problem in Nigeria ooo and most people who came out of divorcee home or homes where the functions of male and female were not well spelt out really needs help o. I will recommend a book titled "purpose of a real man/woman" written by Dr. Myles Munroe to you all. I am not responsible for anyone's failure o. The matured people I expected to comment who took time to read, understand my message have given their advice and I cherish them. Thank you all 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 5:01pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Geofavor:Thanks alot Sir, I really do appreciate you. You wonder why we have so many divorcee? Fight for superiority in the homes and the mentality that her money is her money. The two couples are meant to plan their future together. So many people don't realise the importance of investing now and probably reaping it in maybe 5yrs time. We are buying only one for her use and save towards her business to ease relocating 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by showafrica(m): 6:34pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: U dey make ur life difficult, just buy her car. I understand your business sense but mobility is a necessity not a liability as we think. Its not as if you are going to be driving her around with your own ride since she runs another home. She needs a car. I used my last card by my wife car, running around with children no dey easy. Let me give u clue... Instead of buying 1.4m car... Buy 600 camry for each of you. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Harzan(m): 10:16pm On Feb 04, 2020 |
Hmmmm..... @OP, You don't have a problem Pls, don't create one by denying her this request. She's a good woman from your post. And yes, women need car... A very good one that won't stress them because they have a lot of stress from the kids already. U are even lucky she's using her money.... Baba, abeg, free and support your madam for this. You can buy yours as well if the money dey, family should understand, Hustle no easy and you've paid your duty. Our first cars are not luxury, but necessity for comfort biko... I also repeat, happy woman, happy home! |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Geofavor(m): 9:26am On Feb 05, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:That's a wise decision. Wish you both the best in your Union. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Moji12(f): 3:22pm On Feb 05, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA:Very selfish man. Nonsense mtchew 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by MrCork: 4:27pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Mosebolatan26: ..kaiii.. aunty how much? |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Misscongenialit: 6:25pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
blaquey01: Spot on, any man that puts his wife's happiness as optional or not important will never be in a happy home. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Liposure: 10:36pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Mosebolatan26:jesus! Baby ur boobs looks succulent. I wanna know u beta |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 2:30pm On Jun 04, 2020 |
I will like to thank you all for your advice. It was really worth it. I finally got her a Toyota Matrix, personally taught her how to drive due to covid19 lock down and she is happier driving around with the baby . I escaped back to Lag to continue hustling . 3months without earning a dime sure took a toll on me Thank you to everyone who gave their sincere advice Between, I hope we are all keeping safe during this turbulent period? We shall overcome! 5 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Gloriagee(f): 2:32pm On Jun 04, 2020 |
Good call on your part. Opeyemiebun: 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Adeola97(f): 6:27pm On Jun 04, 2020 |
sugah: But do you know that you can actually advise him and make your point without insulting him..I really don't understand the reason why majority on nairaland talk like this 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Prof0fficial: 10:37pm On Jun 04, 2020 |
so lucky you. a woman offering to buy with her money u still controlling her. u can't get such woman again in Nigeria |
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