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Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by Lamanii22(f): 7:18am On Mar 08, 2020
Somebody claimed this story weeks ago...

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Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by chival(f): 2:43pm On Mar 08, 2020
darling4real1:
My fellow ladies see what i am seeing ooo
Please Help,
My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets.
Here is this story,
I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child, I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad.
I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 kids while waiting for him to process our documents so that we can join him. It took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.
My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working. He started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us as they kept rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us.
I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly, no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed. I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with.
I got pregnant in 2008, the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad, she got pregnant, went to abort and she died instantly, so I didn’t want to end up like her.
I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months. I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to join my husband in abroad.
Things went well , I had my baby, another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him that it was my kid sister that had given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her.
It was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out, even to my husband, he just knew the baby was my sisters. Because I was breastfeeding her, we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year.
When I weaned her, we started preparing to go back home, lied again to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore. We returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad, husband and other people.
Finally, God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting. It was a wonderful time to be with him again.
My kid sister got married in 2014, she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers. She went to her husband house, leaving my kids with our parents, she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind.
I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay with and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absence. So we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up.
At that same time, my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong. So this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I, that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing for me but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a very good private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.
Fortunately, my daughter which to my husband is my niece, joined us this january 2020. She knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy. She is doing well, my family is complete, I have also had 2 more children with my husband. Two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter.
I had begged, even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen. I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work, my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace.
He loves my niece (daughter) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared, have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.
Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you.
Please if you could offer me some because I just don’t know what else to do...
Your sister is one of a kind. She stood by you, went through shame for you and as good as ruined her reputation for you. You are promiscuous and you are an ingrate. I am usually soft spoken and genial but your story has angered me. If I knew you in person, I'll tell both your dad and husband the truth. Make plans to include your sister's daughter in the travel arrangements. In fact do all you can to appease her. It's the least you can do for the shame she bore for you.

Modification - I see you've done the needful. You messed up big time. You committed adultery and went further to worsen and complicate things with deception. My heart bleeds for that girl who doesn't know who her true mother is. Tell your husband the truth and let the chips fall where they may. You give women a bad name.

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Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by frozen70(f): 5:32pm On Mar 08, 2020
darling4real1:
My fellow ladies see what i am seeing ooo
Please Help,
My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets.
Here is this story,
I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child, I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad.
I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 kids while waiting for him to process our documents so that we can join him. It took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.
My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working. He started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us as they kept rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us.
I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly, no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed. I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with.
I got pregnant in 2008, the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad, she got pregnant, went to abort and she died instantly, so I didn’t want to end up like her.
I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months. I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to join my husband in abroad.
Things went well , I had my baby, another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him that it was my kid sister that had given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her.
It was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out, even to my husband, he just knew the baby was my sisters. Because I was breastfeeding her, we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year.
When I weaned her, we started preparing to go back home, lied again to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore. We returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad, husband and other people.
Finally, God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting. It was a wonderful time to be with him again.
My kid sister got married in 2014, she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers. She went to her husband house, leaving my kids with our parents, she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind.
I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay with and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absence. So we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up.
At that same time, my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong. So this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I, that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing for me but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a very good private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.
Fortunately, my daughter which to my husband is my niece, joined us this january 2020. She knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy. She is doing well, my family is complete, I have also had 2 more children with my husband. Two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter.
I had begged, even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen. I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work, my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace.
He loves my niece (daughter) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared, have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.
Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you.
Please if you could offer me some because I just don’t know what else to do...

This is a difficult nut to crack but inform your husband about it and ask him to find forgiveness in you

It's a difficult word to tell him but better than him getting it elsewhere

Meanwhile, call your parents and tell them the truth before telling your husband

Thank God is a baby girl

Your husband will run berserk but with time, he will fix himself

If after all he forgives you, stop relating with your sister, cut it off entirely

If she tells you she will tell your husband tell her to go ahead thst you already told him

That will show you that she is not trust worthy

Besides, it's better for your husband to know and hear from you rather than getting the news from your sister
Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by Jehnny01: 1:57pm On Mar 27, 2020
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Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by Scot1255: 6:55pm On Apr 12, 2020
You are the problem. There's absolutely no reason why you can't take her child. The excuse you gave is completely baseless. You could process the two children together. Cos if your husband could accept a child that is not his, he will definitely accept two
Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by Victory558: 9:04pm On Apr 12, 2020
cheesy
Re: My Sister Is About To Ruin My Marriage With Our Dirty Secrets by Nobody: 10:21pm On Apr 12, 2020
Tales by moonlight everywhere.

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