GraGra247:
That woman is a total senseless idiot. You have to make her see her error and if she refuses to change send her back to her father's house and get you a brand new girl very young and fresh blood.

ONYEKAfra:
Hello friend, one never know the kind of wife he married until situation show up

My wife's elder brother came to stay with me for Job, so I fix him up in where I work as a temporary staff
To my surprise, my wife abandon me, diverted all attention to his brother.
I normally got home around 10 pm everyday and my wife would just go and sleep, my food will be in the kitchen
Sometimes, she will give me food, no water. I will take it my self.

But when his brother came, She start serving him food, provide water in glass and stay with him late in the night, talking and gist till late in the night

When he would be going to work, she wake up and would escort him around 4 am

My surprise, they normally gave her milk from church, she would hid them for me not see and take
But now, her staying with me, she would gave him the milk, the left over bread I normally take, gave him. I never talk
His brother started sleeping in our office in order to reduce expenses, since I normally pay the fare and feed him in office, since he just start

Today as I am going to work, my wife quickly woke up, prepare rice and put in cooler, that I should gave to his brother,
Then I ask why she was doing that. She said to reduce expenses on me
I reply No, I do not carry rice because since i married her for almost years, she never gave rice to work. why should I carry rice to his brother
She said I am jealous

Kindly advice me in handling the issue

Tripitaka:


Send her home for doing what exactly? Has she done anything untoward?

Now you think she is a "senseless idiòt", how rich of you. I hope you aren't one of those advising men on this site to never forget that their wives are not blood relatives. Perhaps OP's wife took the advise and realised that the husband isn't her blood relative, but the brother is, hence the preferential treatment.

Prior to the visit of his brother-in-law, OP had no serious qualms with his wife's behaviour (at least he didn't create a thread for it) but now he is aggrieved because the brother-in-law is being treated with privilege, he even feels he is in competition with the BIL for the wife's affection.

OP simply tell your wife what you want and how you want to be treated and make sure not to compare your situation with that of your BIL.

Oyindidi:
Your wife na man? Type in your dialect abeg

ONYEKAfra:
Hello friend, one never know the kind of wife he married until situation show up

My wife's elder brother came to stay with me for Job, so I fix him up in where I work as a temporary staff
To my surprise, my wife abandon me, diverted all attention to his brother.
I normally got home around 10 pm everyday and my wife would just go and sleep, my food will be in the kitchen
Sometimes, she will give me food, no water. I will take it my self.

But when his brother came, She start serving him food, provide water in glass and stay with him late in the night, talking and gist till late in the night

When he would be going to work, she wake up and would escort him around 4 am

My surprise, they normally gave her milk from church, she would hid them for me not see and take
But now, her staying with me, she would gave him the milk, the left over bread I normally take, gave him. I never talk
His brother started sleeping in our office in order to reduce expenses, since I normally pay the fare and feed him in office, since he just start

Today as I am going to work, my wife quickly woke up, prepare rice and put in cooler, that I should gave to his brother,
Then I ask why she was doing that. She said to reduce expenses on me
I reply No, I do not carry rice because since i married her for almost years, she never gave rice to work. why should I carry rice to her brother
She said I am jealous

Kindly advice me in handling the issue

PrimadonnaO:
The language and grammatical misconstructuons are just the same with all of these fake stories.

Lalasticlala, Seun, if y'all don't curb this anomaly very soon, Nairaland will quickly become a wasteland and we won't visit anymore. In the nearest future.

ONYEKAfra:
Hello friend, one never know the kind of wife he married until situation show up

My wife's elder brother came to stay with me for Job, so I fix him up in where I work as a temporary staff
To my surprise, my wife abandon me, diverted all attention to his brother.
I normally got home around 10 pm everyday and my wife would just go and sleep, my food will be in the kitchen
Sometimes, she will give me food, no water. I will take it my self.

But when his brother came, She start serving him food, provide water in glass and stay with him late in the night, talking and gist till late in the night

When he would be going to work, she wake up and would escort him around 4 am

My surprise, they normally gave her milk from church, she would hid them for me not see and take
But now, her staying with me, she would gave him the milk, the left over bread I normally take, gave him. I never talk
His brother started sleeping in our office in order to reduce expenses, since I normally pay the fare and feed him in office, since he just start

Today as I am going to work, my wife quickly woke up, prepare rice and put in cooler, that I should gave to his brother,
Then I ask why she was doing that. She said to reduce expenses on me
I reply No, I do not carry rice because since i married her for almost years, she never gave rice to work. why should I carry rice to her brother
She said I am jealous

Kindly advice me in handling the issue

Richy4:
OP some one up there called your wife an idiot and u couldn't say anything. What is wrong with you? Can't u caution him or her and explain that the fact that you needed some advice does not mean your wife would be insulted

ONYEKAfra:
I have sat her down and discovered something;
1. she want to show up that it is well with us
2. Not defining boundaries
3. Not practicing what she preach. Sometime I would buy pop corn for the children and she would be asking for hers. Saying Do I prefer the kids more than her. I reply no that your Ice cream is in the fridge

Tripitaka:


Send her home for doing what exactly? Has she done anything untoward?

Now you think she is a "senseless idiòt", how rich of you. I hope you aren't one of those advising men on this site to never forget that their wives are not blood relatives. Perhaps OP's wife took the advise and realised that the husband isn't her blood relative, but the brother is, hence the preferential treatment.

Prior to the visit of his brother-in-law, OP had no serious qualms with his wife's behaviour (at least he didn't create a thread for it) but now he is aggrieved because the brother-in-law is being treated with privilege, he even feels he is in competition with the BIL for the wife's affection.

OP simply tell your wife what you want and how you want to be treated and make sure not to compare your situation with that of your BIL.

Oyindidi:
Your wife na man? Type in your dialect abeg

nursennenny:
OP it’s very easy to highlight the wrong others do but never admit our own failings.

You want us to judge your wife with just the little narrative you put up here?
I am a lady and I know it’s hard for women to not reciprocate love.
Are you a good husband to her?
Does she have anything to look forward to whenever you are home?
Do you give her quality time and attention?
Do you act like a loving husband?

How come all of a sudden she’s depriving herself of sleep just to be with her brother?
Don’t you think it’s cos of something he is doing?

She now cooks in the morning for him, don’t you think it’s coz she believe he is worth the stress?

And the way you dismissed her off by not carrying the good food you have no maturity in marriage.
What if u collected the food and maybe later sit her down to express your displeasure?

Abeg let me not waste my advice tor

PrimadonnaO:
The language and grammatical misconstructuons are just the same with all of these fake stories.

Lalasticlala, Seun, if y'all don't curb this anomaly very soon, Nairaland will quickly become a wasteland and we won't visit anymore. In the nearest future.

PrimadonnaO:
The language and grammatical misconstructuons are just the same with all of these fake stories.

Lalasticlala, Seun, if y'all don't curb this anomaly very soon, Nairaland will quickly become a wasteland and we won't visit anymore. In the nearest future.