duduade:
Just like that


Issokay

sisisioge:
He should connect her on Facebook nau...he left her without looking back. So her mama did all the nurturing... He did well!

Smartsly11:

He has tried and tried sisisioge,what I noticed is that she has not been online this year,so it's obvious she has not seen his messages

Saintmary:
Why is he now looking back?
Can he imagine the names Nairaland boys would have called the mother and daughter?
Evening newspaper, after one, bastard etc
After they have both carried their cross and survived, he's now trying to use them to feel like a Daddy?

sisisioge:


What about her active Facebook friends? What about others that bear same names with her active?

What about LinkedIn? Young professionals are very active there now....they put their emails or phone numbers there too.

I wish him good luck...he left without looking back! Chai!
That's alot for this!...I already messaged some of her friends...I'll check LinkedIn now

Smartsly11:

Yes I know the man bleeped up,but please let's leave that aside for now...let's help reunite the two of them together..I'll be happy if anyone here on nairaland can be of help..thanks!

Saintmary:

You want us to leave aside valid feelings, real life torture, pains of many years just because of a man's selfish goal of walking in and out of people's lives without scruples, now that the lady has become beautiful, deadbeat daddy wants to collect bride price!
Did you not know that accepting him back will not make the pain go away?, it will only open another can of worms!
I'm starting to think you are the deadbeat daddy

Smartsly11:

Am sure u read the part where I said the dad is only a friend of mine on fb

Smartsly11:
Am so happy right now,a friend of hers just messaged me on Facebook that she ass the info to the daughter...am so happy right now

Saintmary:
Why is he now looking back?
Can he imagine the names Nairaland boys would have called the mother and daughter?
Evening newspaper, after one, bastard etc
After they have both carried their cross and survived, he's now trying to use them to feel like a Daddy?

Smartsly11:

Yes I know the man bleeped up,but please let's leave that aside for now...let's help reunite the two of them together..I'll be happy if anyone here on nairaland can be of help..thanks!

Saintmary:

Tell him to stay away from mother and daughter, and take pleasure in whatever took his attention all these years.
let everyone deal with the consequences of his and her actions.

CAPSLOCKED:
MAYBE HE RAN FROM POVERTY, AND ALSO FROM HIS POISONOUS WIFE? AND BEING THE BAD WOMAN SHE CUT OFF COMMUNICATION FROM HIM AND PREVENTED HIM FROM REACHING HIS KIDS.
A LOT OF THINGS MUST HAVE HAPPENED.
ALL THIS JUDGEMENT AND NAME CALLING IS JUST TO SCORE POINTS IN THE USUAL GENDER WARS, BUT YOU'LL JUMP TO DEATH WHEN YOU KEEP JUMPING INTO CONCLUSIONS LIKE A BLOODY SEXIST FOOL

Kingarthur21:

No one is blaming here but pointing out the double standard when it deals with SM and deadbeat dads...
I was not responding to the Op post but SM and deadbeat dads in general.
When blu03 opened a thread against the stigmatization of SM what were men reaction?they should take the blame and not use guilt to gaslight people,and they should be resoinsible for their actions. I dont know why "maybe" and "what if" is required when discussing deadbeat dads
Do men condemn hasty conclusions when the topic of SM is brought up?they troll their threads and call them names...but when the issue of dead beat dads is brought up, we are not to make hasty conclusions,"what if" comes in

Smartsly11:
Am so happy right now,a friend of hers just messaged me on Facebook that she ass the info to the daughter...am so happy right now

CAPSLOCKED:


YOU WENT ON TO TALK ABOUT MEN INSTEAD OF JUST ME. LOL. I GET YOUR POINT. THIS WAR OF GENDER SEEMS TO BE MOST INTENSE ON THIS FORUM. YOU'LL NOT FIND HALF OF WHAT WE HAVE HERE ON ANOTHER PLACE ON EARTH. WHERE DOES THIS LEAD US? NOWHERE.
IT JUST CLOUDS REASONING AND JUDGEMENTS AND ENABLES PEOPLE SUPPORT THEIR OWN FOLK INSTEAD OF ADDRESSING EVERY ISSUE WITHOUT BIAS. IT'S THE SAME THING WITH TRIBALISM.
THE TOXICITY ON HERE IS EXTREME.

Kingarthur21:
why refer to you when so far you have not displayed gender bigotry?


BTW,its worse on twitter...the gender bigotry is worse off

CAPSLOCKED:


THAT'S NOT GENDER BIGOTRY. THAT'S THE HONEST TRUTH. ESPECIALLY THE 100 MEN PART. UP TO 70 WILL SUCCUMB.
CHEAP THINGS.

Kingarthur21:
when deadbeats dad leave,they will blame the women for everything. I have not seen any sect of humans attacked and ostracised like Single moms.
They date,break up,she had character issue thus he left.
They date,it is crystal clear the break up was his fault,they blame her for choosing him and opening legs for him.
They accuse them of promiscuity,even the ones struggling hard and selling roasted corn to feed her child,they must attack or blame her for one thing. Even the ones whose husbands baby father are continents away they suspect she is sleeping with him.
The kids arent left out,scoundrels see their kids are unfit for marriage..


And after everything,when the deadbeat father comes home to reunite,they chatise her for denying him his right to see his kid,they accuse her of turning kids against him,they want a royal welcome for him...he has done no wrong. Besides was she not the one who opened legs for him?
Nothing is wrong with a single dad,infact he must be a good man for taking care of the kid. Something must be wrong with a single mum,she must be wayward for opening her legs .


This are the people feminists should be fighting for,they will rather fight for irrelevant things.

Kingarthur21:
the bolded got me,they always say single moms should deal with the consequences of their "promiscuity",they say they should accept their well deserved stigma and rejection by men,so why cant men deal with the consequences of abandoning their kids?why should men be pardoned and welcomed back while the SM should live with the consequences?