Mamasessy:
I am caring for my niece these days. She is 8 years old and cries loudly if she wants something or doesn’t get what she requests. My sister spoil her too much. I’m looking for best way in discipline her. I spank her most times with my hand and she can cry more than one hour but for now still screams a lot and cry like a baby. Please help me to know how to handle her.

Mamasessy:
I am caring for my niece these days. She is 8 years old and cries loudly if she wants something or doesn’t get what she requests. My sister spoil her too much. I’m looking for best way in discipline her. I spank her most times with my hand and she can cry more than one hour but for now still screams a lot and cry like a baby. Please help me to know how to handle her.

MrBrownJay1:


spanking is not gonna help, just ignore her every time she cries loudly, and go about your business, as hard as it may be at the beginning, after a while she will understand that her cries dont get to you... and most importantly, that YOU are in charge and she cant get her way like that.

Mariangeles:


She might go insane

Mariangeles:
It depends on how long she's staying with you.
If it is a short term stay, there's nothing much you can do but to endure it or return her back to her mother.
You can't really discipline someone else's child, even if the child is your sister's.

Mamasessy:
I am caring for my niece these days. She is 8 years old and cries loudly if she wants something or doesn’t get what she requests. My sister spoil her too much. I’m looking for best way in discipline her. I spank her most times with my hand and she can cry more than one hour but for now still screams a lot and cry like a baby. Please help me to know how to handle her.

Righteousness89:
Handle her as you will Handle your own Baby

Whatever you will do to Discipline your own child.. do it to her

Mamasessy:
I can discipline her how I see fit it’s no problem plus my sister ask for help. The crying is never stopping unless she get what she want. Very stubborn child, with her grandmother she will not display same behaviours.

ProtectMyMoney:


Give her a naughty corner.
Draw a small square in a corner of your seating room (away from TV view) where you name naughty corner.

When she misbehaves, send her to the naughty corner. If she leaves take her back to the corner and let her know anytime she misbehaves, she will always go to the naughty corner.

She will start behaving properly

Try the above and give us your feed back.

Mamasessy:


I will beat them if they try it.

Mamasessy:


Thanks I have to say this is one stubborn girl. I think she can cry for the whole day!!! She is smart and no problems other than being spoilt.

Righteousness89:


Do exactly that!
But don't make beating a habit! They get used to it.

There are also punishments you could give

ProtectMyMoney:


Give her a naughty corner.
Draw a small square in a corner of your seating room (away from TV view) where you name naughty corner.

When she misbehaves, send her to the naughty corner. If she leaves take her back to the corner and let her know anytime she misbehaves, she will always go to the naughty corner.

She will start behaving properly

Try the above and give us your feed back.

LordKO:
Her disposition shows that she's innately greedy - and she'll grow up a greedy woman. Unfortunately, attribute isn't eradicable, but malleable and manageable.

The best way to manage her and help her to grow up without the attribute destroying her is by placing an unrealizable duty on her desire at any given time, regardless of her age. Then after her moments of trial and failure on the duty, you give her just a consolation part of her desire. If you can maintain this strategy her possessive and entitlement will reduce and, by extension, her tantrums. And with time, she'll master the act of managing her weakness by herself.

ProtectMyMoney:


Give her a naughty corner.
Draw a small square in a corner of your seating room (away from TV view) where you name naughty corner.

When she misbehaves, send her to the naughty corner. If she leaves take her back to the corner and let her know anytime she misbehaves, she will always go to the naughty corner.

She will start behaving properly

Try the above and give us your feed back.

Hathor5:


It works with children and I hope it will work with the niece. She may not accept it because she is not used to rules around her parents.
I would also explain the naughty corner before she misbehaves so she accepts it from a place of peace. And I would also tell her that I will warn her two times and by the third time send her there. This way she has time to adjust, something she must have time and opportunity to learn, self-regulation.

Cc:Mamasessy

Mamasessy:

She knows about naughty chair because I use it at times but she still cries so much for an hour I get angry as my neighbours are elderly I don’t want to disturb them

Hathor5:


Maybe they don't hear that well if they are older. When next time she calms down and stops crying, tell her that you are going to take away her favorite toy for two days if the next time she cries so loud again. Also tell her that she disturbs other people and that they will be angry with her.

MrBrownJay1:


so that child can have her way and be in charge in that place?!
some want to eat ice cream for breakfast lunch and dinner, should the aunt/uncle allow it because she cries?!

Mamasessy:
Yes she would like to eat ice cream for breakfast lunch and dinner. If I show her cain she may improve

Mamasessy:


I hope they don’t hear, I tell her of disturbing others but she is too spoilt. It will take a lot of effort raising this child as she is boss with her mother

Hathor5:


If her mother wants to raise her like that then leave her with her mother. Nothing good will come out of you doing two different things. I promise you she will hate you when she grows up.

Mamasessy:


Her mother is sick and can’t cope she ask of me to help her plus maybe my niece will thank me in the future

Bluehill1051:
Here's the fact, when you beat her, add punishment like kneel down and hold your lips. You've got to make her understand that the louder she gets, the more severe her punishment. Haven't you ever seen a child holding her lips n still crying in her closed mouth like she's going to explode?
My own nephew is different. Go n kneel down, he'll do it but the next 15mins, he'll forget and be playing. I go just laugh. He doesn't scream like an afonja bitch.