My elder brother has a girlfriend whom I can call his fiance , because our parents know about it and they are getting married very soon

We live very close , his girlfriend's parent house is directly opposite ours,so she comes to our house virtually everyday

It happened that last Sunday , the girl, her younger sister , her mum , and my mum had to come home together after the Church service. Both mums were carrying bags , her younger sister collected from her own mum. Courtesy demands that she collects the bag from my mum not because she is her mother-in-law to be , but she is also well older than her mum. She didn't collect the bag from her.she once did the same thing and I heard my mum reporting her to my dad.she does other things that show she doesn't have respect for my mum

This one she did last Sunday got my mum to report her to my brother and I was even surprised that my brother couldn't even say what I expected him to say. He was like " she(my mum) should have called her and correct her rather than coming to him"

They ( my bro and his girlfriend) went somewhere together on Sunday and they came back later at night. He actually told her about what my mum said.when they got back at night
, they both went inside the room before she could even come out and beg my mum( she didn't even kneel down)

Since then, my brother hasn't been talking well to my mum.I wonder why.

Also,I expected the girl to come and beg my mum to show she was actually sorry , but she didn't even mention about it

I'm really pissed off right now
What do you say about this please?

You are really pissed off you said?
It's between your mom and your bro.
Talk to your bro to talk to her, probably the wife to be is not well cultured and probably not doing any of those things afromentioned purposely.

Your brother is a pvssy.

what is your brother reation

What's d disrespect here? She didn't carry her load?

Women and wahala sha

You guys seem like the petty type (your mom inclusive). I guess this is what plays out when your would be mother in-law is your next door neighbour. Let the poor girl be, and stop making a mountain out of a mole hill!

Tell ur elder brother to go and find a house and stay if she wants to be doing lovey-dovey stuff

This is exactly how it starts. Poor girl!

You're simply creating non-existent issues because these scenarios don't depict any disrespect at all.

hope the girl licks the floor you guys walk on so you guys can be happy

TimmyEEE:
My elder brother has a girlfriend whom I can call his fiance , because our parents know about it and they are getting married very soon

We live very close , his girlfriend's parent house is directly opposite ours,so she comes to our house virtually everyday

It happened that last Sunday , the girl, her younger sister , her mum , and my mum had to come home together after the Church service. Both mums were carrying bags , her younger sister collected from her own mum. Courtesy demands that she collects the bag from my mum not because she is her mother-in-law to be , but she is also well older than her mum. She didn't collect the bag from her.she once did the same thing and I heard my mum reporting her to my dad.she does other things that show she doesn't have respect for my mum

This one she did last Sunday got my mum to report her to my brother and I was even surprised that my brother couldn't even say what I expected him to say. He was like " she(my mum) should have called her and correct her rather than coming to him"

They ( my bro and his girlfriend) went somewhere together on Sunday and they came back later at night. He actually told her about what my mum said.when they got back at night
, they both went inside the room before she could even come out and beg my mum( she didn't even kneel down)

Since then, my brother hasn't been talking well to my mum.I wonder why.

Also,I expected the girl to come and beg my mum to show she was actually sorry , but she didn't even mention about it

I'm really pissed off right now
What do you say about this please?

God may I never get married into this type of family.
Tueh!
So problematic! And petty!

Witchcraft, witches and wizards evil people looking for how to stress somebodys child. She should ignore her mothers bag and carry for your mom, you were too busy gossiping to follow your own mom around and carry her bag abi?

Ndi she dinnor kneel down.

May God protect my kids from this kind of witchcraft.

Poor girl relationship is doomed you will not rest until they break up .

Respect your own mother leave her alone foolish child

chivera018:
God may I never get married into this type of family.
Tueh!
So problematic! And petty!

Amen

Courtesy demands that she collects the bag from my mum not because she is her mother-in-law to be , but she is also well older than her mum.

Courtesy is not an obligation, it's consideration.

Your mum carried her bag to church.
She should be the one to carry it back home.

NO shades of disrespect here whatsoever. So why must she kneel & beg just to feed your ego?

Lool

Disadvantage of staying close by. If its the one you visit his parents once in 6 months this can never come up lailai.

TimmyEEE:
My elder brother has a girlfriend whom I can call his fiance , because our parents know about it and they are getting married very soon

We live very close , his girlfriend's parent house is directly opposite ours,so she comes to our house virtually everyday

It happened that last Sunday , the girl, her younger sister , her mum , and my mum had to come home together after the Church service. Both mums were carrying bags , her younger sister collected from her own mum. Courtesy demands that she collects the bag from my mum not because she is her mother-in-law to be , but she is also well older than her mum. She didn't collect the bag from her.she once did the same thing and I heard my mum reporting her to my dad.she does other things that show she doesn't have respect for my mum

This one she did last Sunday got my mum to report her to my brother and I was even surprised that my brother couldn't even say what I expected him to say. He was like " she(my mum) should have called her and correct her rather than coming to him"

They ( my bro and his girlfriend) went somewhere together on Sunday and they came back later at night. He actually told her about what my mum said.when they got back at night
, they both went inside the room before she could even come out and beg my mum( she didn't even kneel down)

Since then, my brother hasn't been talking well to my mum.I wonder why.

Also,I expected the girl to come and beg my mum to show she was actually sorry , but she didn't even mention about it

I'm really pissed off right now
What do you say about this please?

Your family's concern is right.

When there are a group of people, the younger person offers to carry the stuff of the older who might now decline (if desired.)

Your mom also raising the issue with your brother instead of the girl directly shows she respects 'protocol' and doesn't want to start on a wrong footing.

The girl not apologizing to your mum after your brother raised the issue to her (for peace to reign) shows she doesn't care about the feelings and is not humble.

Talk to your brother to talk to her. A simple 'sorry' goes a long way sometimes.

The girl should also calm down so she does not generate bad blood and ruin the relationship between both families.

Goodluck.

What is this?
.. she's disrespectful because she didn't carry your mother's bag? Such nonsense!
If this lady loves her life, she mustn't marry into your ridiculous family

Useless post.
Kill her nah

OP, it is high time your elder brother move out of your family house and get his own place, so "the girl" would be less in your faces and let them build their relationship as they deem fit and less monitoring spirits that keeps a log book on how "the girl" behaves.

Certainly, for the sake of one's long term mental wellbeing there are some families one should neither marry into nor marry from.

Did your mother give the bag to the girl and she refused? I guess the girl should have read her mind.

All this useless matters introduce unnecessary strife to a family. Now your entire family is complaining about handbag. Shebi shame is not catching your people?

If your mother has an issue carrying her own bag then maybe she should leave the bag at home.

sweetmelanin:
What is this?
.. she's disrespectful because she didn't carry your mother's bag? Such nonsense!
If this lady loves her life, she mustn't marry into your ridiculous family

Actually if they are all Yoruba's its very disrespectful.

The Younger sister collected her mums bag, the next available young person is supposed to collect the luggage of the other elderly person that is how it is.

It really has nothing to do with with whether its her prospective MIL or not. Even if it was another person entirely its still disrespectful.

But then all these is happening because they are all in close proximity, these are issues distance helps avoid.

The way people stress themselves over things they shouldn't, na wa .

Nothing wrong with her appologising to the woman, but to say you expect her to kneel and appologise is simply stupi*d. What' if she wasn't living close but stays in another town, wouldn't your brother still marry her? Familiarity breeds insults, she isn't wise, otherwise she is supposed to reduce the way she visits your family house.

Culture in upbringing is very important

My two cents

[color=#006600
]I know you guys are Yoruba. Why is it that the Yoruba's deserve respect by all means. Instead, of commanding respect.


If you see an elder person you don't know. It's your choice to greet or not. The Yoruba's take this too serious. If you don't gree dem fit reason your matter with gods.

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2: you can't do Something without them gossiping at you.

3: Most will betray you


No offense, you know that's the truth.


Your brother gf might not be yoruba or she's still a small girl, arrogant or just immature.

She might not know your mother will count that as an offense[/color]

See finish things.

You seem to have much time on your hand which has turned you to a monitoring spirit. Haba, she apologised without kneeling down, how is that an issue? Pray tell me, do you prostrate every time you apologise to your mum or do your sisters knee down when doing same?

If your brother knows what is good for him, he should move out from your family house. Otherwise, trivial issues like this will ruin his relationship. And as for the girl, she better make herself scarce.

For a guy, you are so so petty and by the way, how old are you? You will benefit from some level of exposure.....

Genoa:
Your brother is a pvssy.

as in... Both of them are Simp
Simpletons

all these pvssy niggers.

To me this isn't an issue. All these things exist among the poor. If this young man had a job he will not have time to monitor his brother's girlfriend. Try look for job niga

What a terrible family, my heart felt sympathy to the said lady, may God help her

Eberybody ahould carry their own bag. What is the fuss about?