Greatfullheart:
Mehn similar thing with me oh. @24 i get spanked and beaten and i dont dare go out of the house not to even talk going to see a friend, my school are afraid to come and visit me at home cause my ex soldier father and my mother are strict they think all the people in my area are spoilt. I went to higher institution(auchi poly) in 2016 oh boy dem wan kill me wit carryover. Now am a dropout and my parent vowed neva 2 waist their money sendin me 2 school that i should go and learn work, am the last born of 8, 7 of my siblings who are graduate.

Righteousness89:


you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..

Acidosis:



If any of my cousins come to live with me, I would never allow him or her stay out as late as 10 or 11pm to watch any match. Period.

They can do such in their parents home, not mine. Your home, your principle.

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

Righteousness89:

The Father is Absolutely Right to Discipline his Son.

puremaker7:
same thing my dad was doing when I was 25, I made him stop it in hard way, I changed it for him on that good night.
on that certain night, it was around 10:15 pm, I was coming from my babe, so my dad thought it was a business as usual, I collected the cane from him and destroyed it at the front of everybody in the house, then I issued a treat to him, never to try to flog me again, baba was scared like mad, though I tendered my appology to him the following morning for raising my voice at him.

Lawsaite:

You lost all my respect today.
If you are a good father, then you'd know that they are other ways to discipline than constantly using a whip, worse still on someone who has come of a reasonable age.
I was a victim and let me tell you, you certainly have no idea what it feels like.

To me if you're constantly whipping your child like an animal, it tells a lot about the upbringing you gave the child.
I know and have seen responsible parents, with stellar children.

Organs:


Keep quiet, why is the dad not providing TV and subscription in the house? Nonsense. It is not people with your mindset he needs advice from. You yourself need a 20 year old to advise you so please keep quiet when men are talking.

hstar:

bless you
We plenty for this matter
I just shouted and rebuked but didn't do anything for the fear of my unborn children not to do the same thing to me,

God bless you guy.
Sometimes one just need to display a little bit of madness to settle some matters and at the end of the day, u just tender ur apology to normalize everything.

And behold, the nonsense would stop

Righteousness89:

I will Dissappoint you more bro..

Timiblanko:




. After that lovely mother has corrected you sir I expected you to check yourself at least let it go.... you disappointed me today sir.... Has a mentor to a lot of people here.. .

holyghost:
Ordinarily I won't comment on this issue but because many may have similar issues so I'll do some justice.

1 at your age you are way above such treatment unless your father did not do his job well in raising up properly. To punish or beat a stubborn child starts and end from 4years to 12years at worst 14years. Because by that age a normal and even a stubborn child must have understood life value and acceptable social balance (like not picking fights easily, pocket lifting stealing low life lies chasing after girls for sex, smoking, and folding or submitting to ego and peer measures of pressures like smoking, cultism, gang membership.
2. You failed to display maturity and self discipline in your manner and behaviour.

3. You are still a child in his eyes because you don't sit and discuss real issue like a man that you have become. But do have such time with your mom and get free food like a child that you still are.
What made you go watch match in viewing center? When you have so much to think about. If you work hard enough and with little luck you can achieve a viewing center your self. That should be your mentality at this age. "How do I own my business"

4. Go out to look for menial jobs, like laundry, labourer, Hawking small wares like fruits, stockings or whatever that sales fast in your state towns.

These are just small ways to stay active and earn pocket money while you hunt for a better Job or save enough to learn a proper skill or build a small business, like hair cut shop, small electrical shop even on wheel barrow or push-truck, all this you can start with as littles as 75k. And make like 1,500 to 2500 a day depending on your entrepreneurial skill and luck.
No one will lower you, unless you lower yourself when you have nothing to offer. So when you make your money be humble and know your limits and place in the society then demand your respect in like manner.

Go the right pastors for prayers and be prayerful yourself then face life like a man.
Like Joseph, Jacob, David, Solomon, they ware nobody but prayer and self discipline got them to the top. The same God, the same world, the same land, the same sun and moon nothing has changed God still do it for you and anyone with prayerful soul and self determined to grow and achieve.

Work, work, work, work hard for it! In fact work harder for it. Only when you have respect will you understand the value of been independent as the captain of your (ship/life).
God help you. Wake up early your morning start now!

Chidorx60:
I had to check your profile to be sure if this is the real Righteousness89 and honestly I was shocked by the way you replied this people....sir although I agree partially with your views I still feel you went too far in the way you conveyed your opinion ...the way you bantered words and even canceled the post of those that did not agree with yours seemed alien from what I will expect the Online preacher to do....sir you are an inspiration to many of us who gave up preaching on Nairailand due to oppositions and I believe you should strive to Maintain that image....I respect you alot sir...and I know you too are human and can get pissed off too...but please don't lead your emotions get the best of you...keep paying the sacrifice of patience as you reach out to souls on social media ....God bless you.

Righteousness89:
Your Father is your Father! He can correct as he wants !
My GrandFather Dealt with his sons who Where Married..
More so when you are still under his Roof!

Righteousness89:

I will Dissappoint you more bro....
If my Summations Dissappoint that's Wonderful!!

We are not Here to Give u what you wanna Hear!
We are Here to Give you the Truth, irrespective of your Appointment or Disappointment..

Uniquewise:


Unfortunately, this has shown you to be an intemperate person. It's one thing to preach publicly, (which I support), but another to have a Christ-like character which is even more beneficial to yourself as well as the Body of Christ.

Sad to observe you've just demonstrated the ill-mannerism of some irresponsible Nairalanders that go about cancelling the posts of people with divergent views from theirs.

My dear, you have a very long way to go character-wise.

Goodnight.

AtoningBlood:


Don't judge this or something similar because your grand parents did it that way.

Even the God said in His Word ' come let us reason together.....'

My Dad beats me at 26, yes after my service year and waiting to get a job, I went for an offer I wasn't supposed to accept all because I told my self 'it is enough'. Left to another state where I had to live with a stranger before saving to get a place of my own. I later got a better job n left to a better place. All through my single time working I dare not go home cos I know the messages he was passing on phone would translate to beatings if I dare visit him. I hastingly got married to have a cover. And guess what, one thing lead to another this year, I visited my family house with my kids, and my Dad almost beat me again!!!!!

Stop there I had to shout, that if he try to heat me I will sue him, he knows i meant it and he stopped. That's an abuse, my dad will leave a mark on you when he beats you, this is a married woman, can he try it if my husband is there with him? How will my husband feel? and I was shouldering a responsibility and taking care of a sick relation, if he had touched me I would have fainted cos I was weak.

Under no guise should a child or an adult be abused, I have had the experience and I know what it means. Only God saw me through it, I was verbally, emotionally and physically abused, this almost destroyed social life, in the name of Church, Bible children are being abused daily even in the so called Christian homes, they have taken the responsibility from God. Spend time beating than praying for the children. Train your children with respect, they will certainly respect and regard you and your wishes.

If I hadn't shouted and he beats me, my husband will hear it, certainly, he will never regard him for life, in addition, the little children around will never regard me again. Tell me what that will bring to me in the long run?

My elder sister was beaten and disgraced at age 31, she became timid and hateful. Malicious and lived like an outcast. Look here, she is a Christian, she'd pray to forget but for years, she was bitter and kept malice with all my family members except me cos I wasn't there when it happened.

Stop judging a case like this with 'my grandma or grandpa did it this way, they were wrong.

I once forcee my son to brush his teeth and in the process, his tooth got removed, I laughed at him and the next time I picked up his toothbrush, I heard a voice rebuking me for hurting the boy and never saying sorry. Wow, I looked up and said am sorry, then hugged the boy and apologised to him with a promise not to force him again, till date, I don't force him, he do it by himself.

Parents should rather allow God to take charge than being abusive. Am not saying we shouldn't correct where necessary, never, we as children of God knows what He did to Eli. But beating and leaving marks on our bodies? That negatives God's Word, our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost now. Why beat till blood gush out, can that blood be replaced by us?

We should rather keep quiet on some things like this, or advise the party to pray and be settled on time.

If you train your children like your grandparents did, be sure to be a failure like they did, still flugging their married sons.

midehill:


Bleep you

Righteousness89:

I will Dissappoint you more bro....
If my Summations Dissappoints u, that's Wonderful!!

We are not Here to Give u what you wanna Hear!
We are Here to Give you the Truth, irrespective of your Appointment or Disappointment..

We don't stand with the Crowd!
We Stand for Truth!

Righteousness89:

It's a Crime for Your Father to Discipline you because your 26 yrs?

JIMMY1393:


mumu supporting anohter mumu

Righteousness89:


you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..

Iceberg3:
At that age,even below,I was already out of the home hustling at Shitta Masha Lawanson Ojuelegba pako aguda surulere.

I used to be a poster boy for hints magazine at ojodu.
You gotta be a man and move out.

Organs:
In all of this, i have a question? There is this guy Righteousness89, that has a very stupid immature opinion and position and i can see some folks respecting the mumu guy and not coming out outrightly to call him out on his Buhari + Jonathan brain. Pls who is he for God's sake? is he a Mod or something?

Humanoid01:

The problem isn't the discipline, the problem is the method used. You only flog a child because counselling them is almost always futile. When you flog a child, it leaves a trace of caution in them, even though it doesn't always last. Cane is the language most stubborn children understand.

For an adult [26 years old in this case] who should know the difference between right and wrong, there are mature ways to discipline them, especially when you are still responsible for them. Flogging them only depicts that you do not value them, and that's harsh and utterly disrespectful. There are ways to discipline an adult, and flogging is most certainly not ideal sir.

Kriss216:
You’re a good writer.

How you managed to skip your gender all through the post is orgasmic.

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

NNU0000:
Is it your lie?