Dikenasouth:
Good evening all.... Please I need your opinions... Am I being unreasonable

My husband refuses to do pre-intimacy during sex, note we were intimate before marriage, now we have 4 children.... I beg him to finger me, but he replied that it is not a must for a woman to com

Secondly, I think he is irritated when I cream on his dick or if I am wet, he cleans it on my body, that's not a problem though, but I am now tired of pretending, not that he cares, but I no longer enjoy sex with him....Am I asking for too much
P.s. I bath twice, I don't stink, I am beautiful..... are there men like that

franciseromosel:



I have talked to him but he is not saying anything, he I not old, he is ,5 years older than me

There is nothing wrong with you.You are perfectly normal. You need to ask your man what the problem is. If anything is the matter. Communication is key.What you ask for is key to you enjoying intimacy. Is your man way older than you? Is he of the older generation in age or mentality?

DimplesLikeWow:
You should be asking if he is weird.

After four kids, he should be used to your bodily fluids during intimacy.
Him being irritated signifies he's also squeamish (easily disgusted).

His behavior and dismissal to please you, are disrespectful to you.
However, communicate with him to get to the root of the matter

thorpido:
Well,for some reasons he doesn't find you that appealing again.Perhaps,he's seeing another woman.
Talk to him when the mood is right.Also try to take the lead sometimes on bed.

Dikenasouth:


I caught him cheating last year and early this year, but he said its over now. And yes I noticed the change last year... He even wanted to do anal and I refused after even trying to do it but couldn't stand the pain. I think the girl he was dating introduced new pleasures to him and I can't keep up

Dikenasouth:


I caught him cheating last year and early this year, but he said its over now. And yes I noticed the change last year... He even wanted to do anal and I refused after even trying to do it but couldn't stand the pain. I think the girl he was dating introduced new pleasures to him and I can't keep up

Dikenasouth:


I caught him cheating last year and early this year, but he said its over now. And yes I noticed the change last year... He even wanted to do anal and I refused after even trying to do it but couldn't stand the pain. I think the girl he was dating introduced new pleasures to him and I can't keep up

pozehnani:



Madam I just told you the problem. Imagine for him to be initiating Anal means he's not getting enough friction from the main place. Just do what I advised you and stop using to much spices the curries and kitchen Glory rubbish filterating the market.

I feel for you dear. It is well.
Hmm.

Fountainofyouth:



The lady just told typed that she can't keep up cos he was introduced to new pleasures when he cheated, she said she's clean down there, etc, but somehow, you feel you are right with your funny problem detection? Lol,

And what has the bold got to do with the sex problem? Where is the correlation?

Fountainofyouth:



The lady just told typed that she can't keep up cos he was introduced to new pleasures when he cheated, she said she's clean down there, etc, but somehow, you feel you are right with your funny problem detection? Lol,

And what has the bold got to do with the sex problem? Where is the correlation?

Vyolet:

That is the problem when you keep forgiving cheats, they keep you on your toes and make you seem like you are the problem.

I wonder how he will feel if you were in his shoes, you would have been sent back to your father house...

Fountainofyouth:



The lady just told typed that she can't keep up cos he was introduced to new pleasures when he cheated, she said she's clean down there, etc, but somehow, you feel you are right with your funny problem detection? Lol,

And what has the bold got to do with the sex problem? Where is the correlation?

pozehnani:
This is serious.

I wanna believe you are really clean like you claimed and clean to that area. For him to be irritated to the point you noticed it could mean you're not really taking care of yourself down there as a woman if you know what I mean. Please no offence. I'm going to be pointing out some things here.

Now, some men naturally don't like it when a woman is overly wet. Can be irritating to them and sometimes reduces the friction he gets and not making him enjoy it much. And that is why he refuses to do pre-intimacy with you to avoid over lubrication ( as we know it does) so he can at least have some friction. He may not want to tell you but that's the big reason pre-intimacy stopped. Trust me. So, you may want to look into that area especially as you've already birthed 4 children and the place will not be as it used to be before the children started coming.


Now This is what you should do to reduce excess fluid down there.
A quick fix would be to get a clean warm damp towel handy beside your bed. Once you see you are wet ( overwet) just use to wipe the place very well before he enters.

Then to fix it over time.

Get ice cubes and insert it in you VJ. Leave it there until it melts completely and the water comes out freely. You get an instant tightening and the librication fluid will loosen up a bit giving room for enough friction for him to enjoy you. Then over time, it will help restore the place back and you'll feel like a virgin again.

I don't usually do this for free but just feel the need to help here. Ive succesfully treated a lot of women with this. There's another remedy but try these ones first and see how it goes.

Please lets also mind what we eat. Some fruits and drinks we take can make that place to be overly wet and it's not always good if you naturally get wet. I'll mention a few then you can research the rest.

Watermelon
Tigernuts drink

The see are drinks we recommend for wonen with dry VJ who naturally don't get wet even with pre-intimacy. So if you're taking this, stop it!

Hope this helps.

Dikenasouth:


I caught him cheating last year and early this year, but he said its over now. And yes I noticed the change last year... He even wanted to do anal and I refused after even trying to do it but couldn't stand the pain. I think the girl he was dating introduced new pleasures to him and I can't keep up

CHoccolaTE:


That person is probably a man, Nairaland men are sick shits that can pretend to be women so as to mislead women.

iamyemiakins:
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pozehnani:


You are not the ops hubby so you have no right to object this otherwise I would have retracted all I wrote there.

Suit yourself.

FanOfMyself:
Op, why do I think you are man with two hairy balls?

iamyemiakins:


You're just unstable like Brownian motion