This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

No...I no need liability as wife oh

If he can pay me what I earn and give me a contract with equally good conditions as I am having now, I might consider the offer.

A wife should support her husband financially.Men who keep housewives are often the insecure and jealous ones cos am not sure a woman will prefer staying at home to being an asset to the family,unless she's lazy.

Wittyglam:
This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

What is the goal of the family? Where is the family?

How does the wife staying at home for that period fit into their goals?

It is not a function of 'ask'.

StubbornGENIUS:
A wife should support her husband financially.Men who keep housewives are often the insecure and jealous ones cos am not sure a woman will prefer staying at home to being an asset to the family,unless she's lazy.

This idea that stay at home wives are lazy is funny.

A wife who is a good and efficient housekeeper is an asset to her family.

Stay at home and eat which food?

bukatyne:


This idea that stay at home wives are lazy is funny.

A wife who is a good and efficient housekeeper is an asset to her family.

Not all of them, but majority of them.Now let's assume you are a working class lady,top of her game.Will you quit your job to be a housekeeper?

Only in Africa

The system here...you both work to support the family...we split the bills 70/30

Only take a break when she's on Holiday leave or matanity leave...

A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

People like to create problems for themselves.

You know you want a homemaker as a wife yet you go ahead to marry a career driven ambitious woman. Is that not madness?

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way high then him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that it depends on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

Speak for yourself!

StubbornGENIUS:
A wife should support her husband financially.Men who keep housewives are often the insecure and jealous ones cos am not sure a woman will prefer staying at home to being an asset to the family,unless she's lazy.

Baba just shut up! You don't know taking care of d family is a full time job? U fink it's easy? So a woman who works is an asset huh? What about grooming of kids to be better people? Na only money money una sabi. Better don't go and get a good job that will cater for ur family, be waiting for financial support

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

You nailed it.

SweetCunt97:
Baba just shut up! You don't know taking care of d family is a full time job? U fink it's easy? So a woman who works is an asset huh? What about grooming of kids to be better people? Na only money money una sabi. Better don't go and get a good job that will cater for ur family, be waiting for financial support

I stopped at the first punctuation mark in your post.What do you guys derive by posing as females on this forum?Please go and fix your self esteem,and why you are at it,change your moniker to "m".

StubbornGENIUS:
I stopped at the first punctuation mark in your post.What do you guys derive by posing as females on this forum?Please go and fix your self esteem,and why you are at it,change your moniker to "m".

work on yours.

If a housewife with all the chores she does is a liability then a husband is also a liability if he cannot assist with housework, cooking and childcare.

Foolish and selfish Nigerian men.

Another day another pointless cyclic thread that gets nowhere.
With everyone saying basically the same thing while thinking their own POV is somehow more meaningful .

OP go to bed. If you’re by chance involved in a situation like this in real life, whether you’re the man or the woman in it, there’s abundance of info for you already on this forum. Same cycle of posters. Same information.

Wittyglam:
This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

Here is my take.

Most women have always worked from time immemorial, however this was in and around the household so they could not loose sight of caring for the home and children. A part of me belive this was the helper and support she was created to help the man.

What has changed now is that work has moved away from the home and women are struggling to balance both sides of the coin.

The answer to this question lies in if your husband is a high value male or not. For example, All first ladies dont work anymore once their husband assumes that status. Wives of athletes, and multi millionaires dont work. I don't think wives of Dangote, Ned work.

I could be wrong, but i don't belive women were designed by God to work as hard as they do now. And in doing so, they have lost some of their femininity. Infact a woman works and gets to a point and feels she does not need a Man.

But in reality, with world resources thinning out and women even competing for jobs Men are struggling to finance the home alone.

I really admire the family structure in the middle east like UAE, Qatar, The family structure is there with everyone knowing what they have to do. The women dont work, if at all they do it's around the home. The Man works and supports the family while the government insures the entire family should things go wrong.

So women, if your husband is not high value. You would need to work. For some mental health, work is good. If you can make money online or around the house and still have time for children and hubby. Consider yourself blessed.

Unfortunately as world population continue to increase. and resources thin out. Life will get harder for men and the burden will shift to the women.

bukatyne:


This idea that stay at home wives are lazy is funny.

A wife who is a good and efficient housekeeper is an asset to her family.

Don't mind them

StubbornGENIUS:
A wife should support her husband financially.Men who keep housewives are often the insecure and jealous ones cos am not sure a woman will prefer staying at home to being an asset to the family,unless she's lazy.

Housewives are not lazy. This idea that housewives are lazy is wrong.
And it's only people that have never done real house chores that label housewives as lazy.

A good housewife is an asset to her family.

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

Barring the generalizations here and there, this is actually a really good summary of the matter...

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

i like your summary. it is spot on.

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

Generalization. Speak for yourself.

If she had the work before she met you, you have no right to stop it

IamD18:
A man will come online to say he can't tolerate a housewife for liability related reasons, but he'll be the first to become insecure and intimidated if he ends up with a very busy and career woman who earns way higher than him and barley have time for the family. He'll lowkey wish for a housewife.

A woman will come online to form woke by saying that she can't be a housewife so as not to be seen as lazy woman and a liability to her man, but she'll in reality, wish to be a full time housewife to a very wealthy man who will provide all her needs and place her on a salary she didn't work for.

What am I trying to say? By default, men love housewives if they are financially capable to foot the bills, while women love being a housewife to the right men. Anything different is a result of circumstances which brings us to the conclusion that the positive outcome of cases as such, is dependent on the home, the couple, understanding, their goals, how they want to handle and achieve them.

This is one of the rare moments I fully agree with you.

If you love a full time house wife, she would sell your property when you DIE or follow men for money and your children would suffer.

If you love a full time house wife, she would sell your property when you die or follow men for money and your children would suffer.

So that one day he’ll stop seeing you ’baby’ and start seeing you as baboon

No way.

However, I can choose a career that gives me time for my family.

My opinion...
If he can provide for you without complaining in Future... very good,
Also, If as a woman, you dislike someone asking u what u want to do with money when you ask for it, please do not consider being a house wife...
Because time shall come when he will feel that you were drinking his money... more especially when he is stressed.. no matter how well to do he is, my take is work so that you can retain your dignity..

Huh?

Why will a man stop me from working? What will now be doing with myself on this planet earth? Even if he promises to be giving me allowance, no way! I like being productive. I like going out there to know and be a part of what is going on in the the labour and competitive world. Not being one redundant housewife with no knowledge of latest happenings and trends. That's no life abeg.

I don't even think any man ( especially on nairaland) would subscribe to such. And I wouldn't advise any of my brothers to allow such.

Everyone needs to be industrious and meaningfully engaged in one form of biz or job at least to be able to live a fufilled and balanced life. Redundancy kills, both psychologically and physically.

Wittyglam:
This issue has been bothering me, I want your honest opinion.
As a lady will you stop working of your husband ask you to? As a man would you love a full-time housewife?

For whatever reason the man has for that, it's not necessary, not even with this low current economy