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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Olaniyimubarak: 8:25am On Dec 16, 2020
[quote author=Herbephe1 post=97102114]Four years, How many children have you guys born?
you are supposed to be planning of having children of yours if you dont have a child yet,abi you want to impregnant her through MouthAction ni?

On a personal note any girl who engages in MouthAction is a prostitude,pls how do you feel asking for MouthAction from your wife,laise "olosho"?

Find a sidechick to satisfy your oral urge[/quoteso side chick no go bcom person wife cool]
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Dreyton36: 8:25am On Dec 16, 2020
Olaniyimubarak:
respect man u deserve some accolades

Much love
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Nobody: 12:12pm On Dec 16, 2020
Zzor:
Im ready
Lol.. be very careful what u wish for... You dey find story to tell abi grin

Okay oo
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by dannex4adx(m): 12:53pm On Dec 16, 2020
Ochason:
A friend needs your advise.
My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life.
That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift.
Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife.
That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it.
I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife.
This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.

There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do?
This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.

Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?

You need to change your mentality. Your wife told you that the style you want to practice with her is painful and you still want it by all means, you are a wicked man! Must you try all the styles you have watched in the pornographic movies with your wife? Marriage is a mutual agreement. Your wife is not Your slave or a prostitute that you can try those styles with. My advice is that don't let sex scatter your life and home. You may end up regretting it. Stick to your wife.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Olaideolayemi(m): 2:47pm On Dec 16, 2020
Please understand her..don't divorce her...Not all ladies are exposed to that extent...Accept her like that..God bless your home..

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by SavageResponse(m): 7:47pm On Dec 16, 2020
jornwhite:
As much as it is a big issue to you, i think sex position is one of the most trivia reasons to lose what you have .... both of you are virgins which means a good boy married a good gurl grin unlike men, women place so much value on there body so expect her transition from a good gurl to a IndecentStar to take time.
The problem here is a good boy can't corrupt a good gurl, ever wondered why good gurls settle more for bad boyz.
i am sure you didnt marry solely because of doggy or oral, she is giving you sex @least, i will advice you exercise more patience with her, marriage is a long journey which means you have all the time in the world to turn her to your preference ... to facilitate the process try to be more naughty around her, am sure you guys live alone explore every location, she might react or act up buh never hesitate express ur naughtiness freely without minding the look on her face, cos that is what wil trigger her to switch. deliberately turn her on nd insist it either doggy or gudnite grin

Sex is not a trivial issue. It's a very important matter in a relationship
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by jornwhite: 7:55pm On Dec 16, 2020
SavageResponse:


Sex is not a trivial issu. It's a very important matter in a relationship


I meant "sex style"
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Ishilove: 8:01pm On Dec 16, 2020
What a selfish asshole. I hope you end up with really itchy and painful genital warts.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by kingreign(m): 8:06pm On Dec 16, 2020
Ishilove:
What a selfish asshole. I hope you end up with really itchy and painful genital warts.
Chaiiiiii
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by cococandy(f): 3:49am On Dec 17, 2020
So much to unpack in this foolish thread grin


Not to mention the ones casually advising him to keep up with the side chick. Those type cry the most when they end up being on the receiving end of that type of advice.

Let’s wish them good luck.
Ardar:
Mails are such selfish creatures.

Reading this nonsense really gave me a headache and reading most of the comments made it worse.

How do you expect a religious virgin wife to all of sudden know all the latest sex styles? You want her puzzy to be tear rubber and at the same time expect her to know how to bang like a IndecentStar.
Now at the end of the day you mails will still cheat on your "virgin wives" with those girls you freely call sluts, oloshos and the rest.

I won't be surprised if the op leaves his "virgin wife" and marries the "olosho" that scattered his brain.

Very selfish and greedy creatures.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Mrscarter(f): 6:06am On Dec 17, 2020
Ochason:
A friend needs your advise.
My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life.
That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift.
Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife.
That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it.
I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife.
This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.

There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do?
This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.

Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?

I don't believe in divorce but it's clear you've tried everything and although sex isn't everything in a marraige it is an important part of it in staying close to your partner aswell as staying faithful.
It's a shame she can't try enjoy a spicy sexlife with you. Maybe it's a psychological thing? Maybe she was raised to believe that sex is for procreation more than pleasure n mixed with her religious beliefs I don't see it being easy to change how she feels. Even she is trying but as U say not enjoying it. Well it's a tough situation cos if she's trying doggy for U but to her own discomfort it's obvious she's trying her best to come out of her comfort zone and be a good wife n therefore must love you.
All I can say is it's sad if you can't come to some satisfactory arrangement n keep your marraige strong n abstain from hurting her with divorce.
I hope you can work something out. Some women wouldn't even try to go out of their comfort zone but she's trying so she must love you n is probably very hard for her.
Maybe in time she can slowly change? Changing the way some ppl have been raised to think n believe things can't be an easy thing. Good luck to both of you

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Suzie1(f): 6:21am On Dec 17, 2020
Ochason:


Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?

Carrying out your wild imagination? Justifying disgusting acts and putting the blame on your wife? Even when she tried to adjust, you're still not satisfied? What a generation?

Does that mean if you imagine how sniper or rat poison tastes, you're going to eat it?

What a marital mistake the wife made! I hope she finds unending joy in God, herself, and the children (if you've children together).

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Nobody: 8:38am On Dec 17, 2020
Dear op

Have watched all the nonsense your righteous woman can not watch, you have read all the nonsense she can not read, you have discussed all manner of nonsense with your peers that she can not dare to try, now you want her to act like a pornstaaar. I'm sure you searched for a righteous woman to marry, you got one, now that you have discovered your talent you want her to act your way. you can't marry a sister and expect her to turn to something else overnight. She came to you as a virgin will tell you something, she is not willing to change, many people must have approached her but she maintained her ground, now that you have got the right access to her body you want to ride her the way want. you don't have any moral justification to divorce her, if you wanted a s*x expert, you know where to get her.

Well , you can go and marry that colleague that's satisfying you well let's see how well it will end.ladies don suffer for this world, if you're a good girl is problem , if you're a bad girl is problem , this your wife even went out of her way to give you the doggy she is not comfortable with .

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by bukatyne(f): 10:03am On Dec 17, 2020
@Ochason:

Did you do marriage counseling or get counselled by elder couples before getting married?

You both marrying as virgins should have no effect on your sex life if you are both serious.

Even prostitutes were once virgins undecided

@wife:
She is not mentally mature for marriage if she is not open minded to improve her sex life. Even if she has hangups, she should talk it with you or with a counselor or pray about it. She sounds like someone who has religious knowledge without wisdom.

@husband:
In addition to your lack of remorse and perseverance, you lack the leadership qualities needed to run your home.

You want doggy and oral, wifey doesn't want it or thinks it is a sin. In addition to your shock and taking the easy way of cheating, what did you do?

Did you research Christian materials online on sex? Did you pick your Bible and research Songs of Solomon? Did you pray about it?

Did you try to understand her real reservations about these acts (not my pastor say)?

Instead of solving your issues, you want to eat your cake and have it. (Want to enjoy what your wife offers while having wild sex with your

What counselling did they do you guys if you are thinking of cheating again and she is not open to adopt some or all of your preferences?

What are her sexual fantasies? Are you opening to fulfilling them within reason?

You both (with you leading) should go back to the drawing board, repent and re-strategize.

And if you want to keep cheating, don't bother wasting the counselor's or your wife's time.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Miarose: 10:32am On Dec 17, 2020
Are your desires natural or fuelled by porn? Sexual exploration is a bottomless pit, the more u consume porn, the less satisfaction you get by regular sex, before you know it, you are a raging sexual deviant. Please declare your true self and don't be a wolf in sheep's clothing. God knows his own.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Desire18: 10:59am On Dec 17, 2020
Dreyton36:
Hmmm listen OP

Marrying a virgin is a big blessing that's number one, men's virginity don't count o
If you see the rate of promiscuity in women nowadays then you wouldn't bother about your wife not giving you super sex positions
Hey man you think it's her fault? No it's not
Can you just for once sit down and ask yourself where you're also getting it all wrong ?

Nigga tf undecided you disvirgined her , she's supposed to be so much into exploring new things , maybe you just don't have the right flow that turns her on

I disvirgined my own girl and she doesn't like anal , she'll just lay on the bed like a log of wood
But you know what?

As her man I know my woman's mumu button , I give her the right vibes which is irresistible
Bro you don't give her the right vibes
You got a virgin wtf u cheating for
What's wrong with these amateur men of these days

I turned my woman to who she is today , from being a log of wood to being all I ever wanted
She even initiates most of our sex and romance , we make love in crazy places , even a quickie in public toilets lol
Guy there is more to life than just a ring on her finger
You cheated on ur woman with no remorse but if she was the one that also cheated I'm sure by now you would've divorced her , you think she doesn't have feelings abi

Imagine you trying to sleep with someone who always sees you as a fornicator , and you still lay on her and expect her to make love to you happily
In case you don't know , the love your woman has for you died the day she knew about your promiscuity
That's why she finds it hard to talk to you , her silence means anger you fool

Ok let's see things this way niggha
As a man who deflowered a lady , and all of a sudden she becomes so good at sex in different styles , won't you think she must be prolly cheating or learning them from somewhere?

It's ur responsibility to teach her, and if she refused to learn it means you don't know how to make your woman fall for you , it's still ur problem not hers

Una go just wan they fvck Toto but una no know how to make the babe fall with sweet words

Most virgins don't marry the men they love , most of them just want to know how marriage life feels like so it'll take a long time adjust into that kinda lifestyle they weren't brought up with

Guy go and take your wife on a vacation in somewhere around Africa if your money no long
Or somewhere around Nigeria sef
Be romantic and treat her like a queen
Make her understand that you're very wrong by sleeping with another and you take all the blames with ur one knee on the ground in a quiet location where it's just the two of you

Maybe a quiet garden or anywhere romantic

Remind her of the good times and how far you guys have gone , if you're a sweet talker just watch how she'll drop a tear, that tear is all you need bro
If that tear hasn't dropped then you've not even started being sweet

Once you've achieved that teardrop then you're almost there , don't stop talking ensure your hand is holding hers while you're on one knee sweet talking (and say them from ur heart not ur preeq)

Bro you'll see her burst into more tears, that's A YES
offer her your shoulders to cry on , don't tell her to stop crying , let her cry till she's cool
She'll cry that thought of your promiscuity off her head and she'll begin to generate some love for you , don't expect her to forgive you completely , it'll still take time so you have to continue being a good husband

As time goes you'll see the changes yourself, if you see the kind of women outside even DOGGY go tire you
If you fvck kpekus wey carry sickness doggy go tire u

And if you fvck kpekus wey no get grace then you are on your own o, better keep your home together and most importantly respect your wife if you want her to also respect you

If a virgin woman love you deeply , even when you say "babe i wanna Bleep u like a bitch , she go they turned on immediately cuz their body easily react to romantic words
So I'm wondering if you're even romantic at all , work ok yourself o

Go my son and never sin no more , na correct man sabi put home together without other people knowing what's up

Lights up my kpoli in peace

Some men don't have business marrying. @ op, pls befriwnd this man grin grin

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by CsRockefeller(m): 1:54pm On Dec 17, 2020
Men!! You want to destroy the peace in your home just because of sex? I'm tired, phew!!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by teegurl2(f): 2:51pm On Dec 17, 2020
Dreyton36:
Hmmm listen OP

Marrying a virgin is a big blessing that's number one, men's virginity don't count o
If you see the rate of promiscuity in women nowadays then you wouldn't bother about your wife not giving you super sex positions
Hey man you think it's her fault? No it's not
Can you just for once sit down and ask yourself where you're also getting it all wrong ?

Nigga tf undecided you disvirgined her , she's supposed to be so much into exploring new things , maybe you just don't have the right flow that turns her on

I disvirgined my own girl and she doesn't like anal , she'll just lay on the bed like a log of wood
But you know what?

As her man I know my woman's mumu button , I give her the right vibes which is irresistible
Bro you don't give her the right vibes
You got a virgin wtf u cheating for
What's wrong with these amateur men of these days

I turned my woman to who she is today , from being a log of wood to being all I ever wanted
She even initiates most of our sex and romance , we make love in crazy places , even a quickie in public toilets lol
Guy there is more to life than just a ring on her finger
You cheated on ur woman with no remorse but if she was the one that also cheated I'm sure by now you would've divorced her , you think she doesn't have feelings abi

Imagine you trying to sleep with someone who always sees you as a fornicator , and you still lay on her and expect her to make love to you happily
In case you don't know , the love your woman has for you died the day she knew about your promiscuity
That's why she finds it hard to talk to you , her silence means anger you fool

Ok let's see things this way niggha
As a man who deflowered a lady , and all of a sudden she becomes so good at sex in different styles , won't you think she must be prolly cheating or learning them from somewhere?

It's ur responsibility to teach her, and if she refused to learn it means you don't know how to make your woman fall for you , it's still ur problem not hers

Una go just wan they fvck Toto but una no know how to make the babe fall with sweet words

Most virgins don't marry the men they love , most of them just want to know how marriage life feels like so it'll take a long time adjust into that kinda lifestyle they weren't brought up with

Guy go and take your wife on a vacation in somewhere around Africa if your money no long
Or somewhere around Nigeria sef
Be romantic and treat her like a queen
Make her understand that you're very wrong by sleeping with another and you take all the blames with ur one knee on the ground in a quiet location where it's just the two of you

Maybe a quiet garden or anywhere romantic

Remind her of the good times and how far you guys have gone , if you're a sweet talker just watch how she'll drop a tear, that tear is all you need bro
If that tear hasn't dropped then you've not even started being sweet

Once you've achieved that teardrop then you're almost there , don't stop talking ensure your hand is holding hers while you're on one knee sweet talking (and say them from ur heart not ur preeq)

Bro you'll see her burst into more tears, that's A YES
offer her your shoulders to cry on , don't tell her to stop crying , let her cry till she's cool
She'll cry that thought of your promiscuity off her head and she'll begin to generate some love for you , don't expect her to forgive you completely , it'll still take time so you have to continue being a good husband

As time goes you'll see the changes yourself, if you see the kind of women outside even DOGGY go tire you
If you fvck kpekus wey carry sickness doggy go tire u

And if you fvck kpekus wey no get grace then you are on your own o, better keep your home together and most importantly respect your wife if you want her to also respect you

If a virgin woman love you deeply , even when you say "babe i wanna Bleep u like a bitch , she go they turned on immediately cuz their body easily react to romantic words
So I'm wondering if you're even romantic at all , work ok yourself o

Go my son and never sin no more , na correct man sabi put home together without other people knowing what's up

Lights up my kpoli in peace


One billion likes.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Dreyton36: 3:10pm On Dec 17, 2020
teegurl2:



One billion likes.

You're loved
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by darlenese(f): 8:27pm On Dec 17, 2020
Foolish man , giving excuses for your philandering penis . If I were your wife I would cheat on you back, nonsense .

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by SweetCunt97(f): 9:11pm On Dec 17, 2020
thebosstrevor1:
Too much porn is bad.

You want your wife to act like IndecentStar, because she didnt agree, you cheated on her.

Aren't you a selfish man who cares about his own sexual needs.

You allow your sexual desires to take over you to the extend it almost broke your home. You don't care about your home but about sex...

Instead of subtly trying to make your wife like what you want, you decided to break your oath all because a cheap woman seduced you. You lack self control and you will be destroyed by sex..

What type of man are you?

A sex addict.
So ordinary doggy and oral translate to poornstar? Missionary style is boring abeg
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by SweetCunt97(f): 9:13pm On Dec 17, 2020
Ochason:
A friend needs your advise.
My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life.
That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift.
Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife.
That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it.
I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife.
This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.

There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do?
This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.

Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?
Work on your marriage! Missionary, doggy ain't a good excuse for breakup. Have u tried aphrodisiac?
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by oluplus(m): 9:17pm On Dec 17, 2020
You cheated on your wife and broke your vow. Please always remember that.
As if it was not enough, you are ready to do it again and again. And you expect your relationship to continue as normal as if nothing happened. You are a joker.

See, everyone will not give oral, no matter what. Please first apologize to her and you both need to talk to a counsellor.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by mariahAngel(f): 9:21pm On Dec 17, 2020
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Ochason:
A friend needs your advise.
My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life.
That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift.
Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife.
That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it.
I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife.
This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.

There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do?
This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.

Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?
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Mark my words, God will certainly punish you for betraying your wife, ruining a union so pure and making a mockery of her chastity.
You allowed the devil penetrate and entrap your soul through lust and pornography.
The sacrilege you committed will be your biggest undoing.
If you wanted different styles with you wife, all you had to do was be patient with her and come to a compromise, but you were too deep in lust to think reasonably. What a hypocritical monster!
Your ruin is near!
You will go on your knees and beg for her forgiveness, mark it!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by CsRockefeller(m): 9:26pm On Dec 17, 2020
mariahAngel:
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Mark my words, God will certainly punish you for betraying your wife, ruining a union so pure and making a mockery of her chastity.
You allowed the devil penetrate and entrap your soul through lust and pornography.
The sacrilege you committed will be your biggest undoing.
If you wanted different styles with you wife, all you had to do was be patient with her and come to a compromise, but you were too deep in lust to think reasonably. What a hypocritical monster!
Your ruin is near!
You will go on your knees and beg for her forgiveness, mark it!


shocked see para!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by debo1990: 9:50pm On Dec 17, 2020
hashtagged:
Well she is a religious woman take a side chick and if she finds out she won't divorce you cause her religion says otherwise, she would just continue blaming devil undecided
you deserve an award for this
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by BrownCarton: 8:46am On Dec 18, 2020
jornwhite:
As much as it is a big issue to you, i think sex position is one of the most trivia reasons to lose what you have .... both of you are virgins which means a good boy married a good gurl grin unlike men, women place so much value on there body so expect her transition from a good gurl to a IndecentStar to take time.
The problem here is a good boy can't corrupt a good gurl, ever wondered why good gurls settle more for bad boyz.
i am sure you didnt marry solely because of doggy or oral, she is giving you sex @least, i will advice you exercise more patience with her, marriage is a long journey which means you have all the time in the world to turn her to your preference ... to facilitate the process try to be more naughty around her, am sure you guys live alone explore every location, she might react or act up buh never hesitate express ur naughtiness freely without minding the look on her face, cos that is what wil trigger her to switch. deliberately turn her on nd insist it either doggy or gudnite grin
OP with due respect, don't listen to this.

I promise you she will definitely hate you more if you try the above. Women are first convinced in their minds before anything happens.Everything in life is timing. There is just something about the cheating that will nip in her mind.

I can't advise what to do else tho. You wear the shoes so know where it hurts
Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by jornwhite: 9:09am On Dec 18, 2020
BrownCarton:

OP with due respect, don't listen to this.

I promise you she will definitely hate you more if you try the above. Women are first convinced in their minds before anything happens.Everything in life is timing. There is just something about the cheating that will nip in her mind.

I can't advise what to do else tho. You wear the shoes so know where it hurts



whether OP listen to me or not, it is not my problem tongue buh to buttress my point, watch *50 shades of grey* again grin pay attention these time then come back n tell me weytin i miss yarn.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by crackhaus: 10:22am On Dec 18, 2020
mariahAngel:

Mark my words, God will certainly punish you for betraying your wife, ruining a union so pure and making a mockery of her chastity.
You allowed the devil penetrate and entrap your soul through lust and pornography.
The sacrilege you committed will be your biggest undoing.
If you wanted different styles with you wife, all you had to do was be patient with her and come to a compromise, but you were too deep in lust to think reasonably. What a hypocritical monster!
Your ruin is near!
You will go on your knees and beg for her forgiveness, mark it!
Lol... Why was this personal to you?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Vyolet(f): 12:32pm On Dec 18, 2020
Op, divorce your wife and go marry the other bitch, all your life problem will be solved.

Confused soul, you want a virgin at the same time you want a pornster, How?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Want To Change, I Might Cheat On Her Again. by Magnoliaa(f): 12:41pm On Dec 18, 2020
But, ermm, I thought virgins are prized possessions any man can want, ni. What am I now reading on this thread bayi.

Why are the alfas here overlooking the fact that this is a virtuous woman untainted by the world's pollution, huh?

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