Bola146:
Just leave her, continue doing your best to the family. All the blessings will be coming to you only.

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

Chiquitq:
It is not your business to pay her shop rent. A business is a business and rent is part of the overhead costs. If she is not making enough profit to pay her rent then she should close the business.

If you use the money you have been paying for other projects, you would see your investment and use it as you please.

A man who provides for a woman totally is not helping her at all and it hardly turns out well. A woman who also expects her husband to provide everything is also not preparing herself for the day the man might leave or lose his job.

You can support her rent only if she is supportive and productive and maybe experienced a huge loss that requires a loan to cushion otherwise it is unreasonable to be imposed on you.

Coloredsg:


Oga, stop putting eyes in your wife's money.
Her money is her money.
You are the head of the house so take your responsibilities and stop complaining.

Bola146:
Just leave her, continue doing your best to the family. All the blessings will be coming to you only.

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

Coloredsg:


Oga, stop putting eyes in your wife's money.
Her money is her money.
You are the head of the house so take your responsibilities and stop complaining.

chiemmanuel:
Forget about her finances, do your best for your family, but above all,ensure you have savings for the rainy Day

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

area74:


Where will the savings for the rainy days come from when he is obviously being drained?

It is unfortunate that the women of this generation have terrible orientation about marriage. Most marriages these days are more of exploitation and men are usually at the receiving end.

What you are facing is peculiar to many homes. You are not alone on this.

My sincere advice is that you have to be deliberate in your approach. Even if you are not expecting anything from her, let her pay the rent of her shop from the business.

You will be surprised that at the end of the day, this woman will still tell you that you have not done enough for her. The next thing, she will start building her house and hide it from you.

Honestly, Nigerian men should see marriage as charity when it comes to financial responsibilities and not to expect much from the wives.

While you are providing for the family, make sure that you also prioritize your personal financial security. May we never fall into emergencies.

Souqwaqif:
Good day all,

Please I need good advice from married folks. I have been doing my best in providing for my wife and children. Without much input of support from her despite the fact that she runs a little business and works as a teacher.

I pay the house rent, children school fees, her shop rent, feeding for the house etc. because she is not usually paid alongside others by her state government.

However, from recent findings, I discovered the govt. Has gradually and almost cleared their salary arrears remaining just a few months and yet she does not seem it necessary to at least let me know. Although I won't ask her to give me her money nor subject her outside voluntary support of the family, but one thing is that I am very much disappointed that despite all my efforts in taking care of the family, now that she has money she cannot tell me nor deem it necessary to at least pay for her shop rent.

Please I have called her one on one to talk sense to her after which she will agree to change but am not seeing any change. What else can I be advised on,thanks.

Bola146:
Just leave her, continue doing your best to the family. All the blessings will be coming to you only.