i will not say its gay, however its effiminate!!!
real men do not openly display emotions nor do they give in easily. _{see my other remarks on this thread}
i still maintain its a weakness. see how easily these fraudsters cave in.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=nVWyZrw9vw4

@ cute n hot
Its not effeminate it is normal and acceptable who told you real men are not allowed to show emmotions? and since when has huging and holding hands on a good day become emmotions that betray masculinity? I beg you people should stop preaching gospels that come from your heads as if you did research jare if your people dont hold hands because there are gays every where around you who oppenly show their homosexuality by holding hands the same rule does not apply here o the next thing you people will say now is that girls holding hands are lesbians dont worry very soon no body will give hugs or hold hands in western countries for fear of beign labbeled gay.

hannydarl i beg no mind them. na kolo yankeementality dey worry them plenty.

mind you, as much as naija men hold hands, we don't have as much gays, but in america where men holding hands is frowned upon and seen as gay u see gays spread out from washington to hawaii.

@K0be
I wonder o i fear my head. before e no be like that for yankee o, na now adays them start to frown upon am cos most gay guys wey dey toast like to do physical contact like holding and touching to drive home the point say them want to do runs with you naim make men for there no dey like make another man touch them and them too no dey like touch other men so that the guy no go miss interprete the touch to mean another thing. if faggotry dey kill them there them come carry their gospel come meet nigerian bobos wey like babes and get clean minds concernning sex.abi dem don hear of transvestile abi wetin dem dey call am for nigeria before? our men like to be men and them like to sleep with women their mentality no dey twated or twisted.

This dabate made my evening!! Do they really do that or the poster eagerated? I know Ninja boys are cool with their mates but i dont think it has anything to do with being gay. Im soooo into Naija boys that i dont see anything wrong with them ataaaaaaal! Those boys shine shine im telling you. Today i went to watch football Naija V Ngana, I tell you i was just admiring those lads, i remember sweating more than the players themselves oooh!!! They aint no gay,

its funny how he sees these men as being gay

but in the US you will see alot more gays and aka "Brothers on the Down Low" than anywhere in the black world

It's a lie
They don't walk around holding hands.
Hero mind yaself O

okay when the poster said holding hands. he doesn't mean they just walk around saying oh we're friends and we must hold hands while walking.

it's just that sometimes when you watch male-male relationship in naija there can be some physical interactions that people from other parts of the world will say is gay.

what does enffinimate mean

i dont want to have to google it, when there are suchsmart people on this forum

effeminate, u mean?

Uche2nna:

effeminate, u mean?

lol
enfinnimate.
finemocha I don't blame you.
me self,I don learn oyibo from nairaland too.
Never heard the word balderdash used in a sentence till I came here.

Some people are so gay fixated that they see gay in everything. Men holding hands in Naija is not something you see every minute but yes occasionally you see some old friends hug and clasp their hands briefly as a way of expressing their pleasure for that rare opportunity to catch up with old time buddies. It is also not a big deal for a guy to take out the boys on a shopping-beer-drinking-suya chomping spree. . . homophobia can easily cloud one's sense of judgement. I weak o

America's morals is same as the morals of an alley cat. So it is no biggie when innocuos actions like these are often misconstrued. But one thing I have noticed is dat no one particular action typifies "gayness". Most gay celebirites were not known to be gay until they declared they were gay.

In Nigeria, ( and even in America) girls hug all the time. It is also not uncommon to see ladies sleeping together on the same bed. Back home, I bunk with my brother or sometimes with my friends when they come visiting and no shit happens. So equating some some actions to a state of gayness tends to befuddle me.

I was told  that in high school dormitories boys even glanced at other boys comparing sizes.
And there was absolutely no sexual tensions involved.
Men just liked comparing who was better endowed.I bet some would call that gay too.

Girls did same too and there was no lesbian undertone to it,generally speaking.

i heard that too oo. that they will draw the thing to see how long it is 
yeah and girls too will touch thier nunu to see whose is more harder, oh na wah sha.

omoge:

i heard that too oo. that they will draw the thing to see how long it is 
yeah and girls too will touch their nunu to see whose is more harder, oh na wah sha.

biko what is nunu?
I don't remember touching any nunu's,lol

lol at babyosisi

its our standing ovation

LMAO
 Nunu is a hausa term for milk. But it can also be used as a reference to a girls boobs  

lol.
I remember us sitting around and talking about who had 'grown' over the long vacation.
what good secondary school memories.

@Poster

its your moda foking dirty mind that is playing games on you - so if u see your brother and your sister holding hands now - u will start thinking? Look - may your oko bend go one side for this posting wey u don post here - oloko nla.

Y r u getting all riled up

Uche2nna:

Y r u getting all riled up

I wonder
meanwhile what is oko?

_{i hope it's not something bad}

simply_me:

@Poster

its your moda foking dirty mind that is playing games on you - so if u see your brother and your sister holding hands now - u will start thinking? Look - may your oko bend go one side for this posting wey u don post here - oloko nla.

instead of us all to join hands to discipline him and to cast the demon out of him - u all are here trying to join him in his dirty mind? shio.

my sister abeg answer my question,what is oko?

yeah what a good old memories my sister. things don change in a very short time, this life sef.

well, we can't discipline him by using abusive word you know @ simply_me.

oko is p r i c k in yoruba. oko nla means big/huge d i c ky

really?
I though oko means husband.
oko mi?
maybe different prononciations.

If you called a man oko nla,I doubt if he'll be offended.
You may have made his day

Omoge - thank u - babyosisi - dont be a stranger.

Babyosisi

Dont u know d following:

Oko d ick

oko husband

oko farm

oko stone

yeah i think the way you pronouce it, like husband pronouce as ORKOR

now for mr. d i c ky both O pronouce as normal O in english.

so you can see the difference in case you want to say husband or Big Dk

simply_me:

Babyosisi

Dont u know d following:

Oko d ick

oko husband

oko farm

oko stone

Just like
Akwa cloth
Akwa bed
Akwa egg

akwa bridge

uchenna did you know that though?
I mean the Yoruba words for husband and Mr man