What can a married couple do to ensure that their marriage will last? The first and most important issue is one of obedience to God and His Word. This is a principle that should be in force before the marriage begins. God says, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” (Amos 3:3). For the born-again believer, this means not beginning a close relationship with anyone who is not also a believer. “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this one principle were followed, it would save a lot of heartache and suffering later in marriages.

Another principle that would protect the longevity of a marriage is that the husband should obey God and love, honor, and protect his wife as he would his own body (Ephesians 5:25–31). The corresponding principle is that the wife should obey God and submit to her own husband “as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). The marriage between a man and a woman is a picture of the relationship between Christ and the church. Christ gave Himself for the church, and He loves, honors, and protects her as His “bride” (Revelation 19:7–9).

Building on the foundation of a godly marriage, many couples find practical ways to help make their marriages last: spending quality time together; saying, “I love you” often; being kind; showing affection; offering compliments; going on dates; writing notes; giving gifts; and being ready to forgive, for example. All these actions are encompassed by the Bible’s instructions to husbands and wives.

When God brought Eve to Adam in the first marriage, she was made from his “flesh and bone” (Genesis 2:21) and they became “one flesh” (Genesis 2:23–24). Becoming one flesh means more than just a physical union. It means a meeting of the mind and soul to form one unit. This relationship goes far beyond sensual or emotional attraction and into the realm of spiritual “oneness” that can only be found as both partners surrender to God and each other. This relationship is not centered on “me and my” but on “us and our.” This is one of the secrets to a lasting marriage.

Making a marriage last for a lifetime is something both partners have to make a priority. Couples whose marriages last celebrate their commitment to each other. Many couples make it a point not to even speak of divorce, even in anger. Solidifying one’s vertical relationship with God goes a long way toward ensuring the horizontal relationship between a husband and wife is a lasting, God-honoring one.

A couple who desires their marriage to last must learn how to deal with problems. Prayer, Bible study, and mutual encouragement are good. And there is nothing wrong with seeking outside help; in fact, one of the purposes of the church is to “spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24). A struggling couple should seek advice from an older Christian couple, a pastor, or a biblical marriage counsellor.

The woman no get part ni sir?

1. Truthfulness
2. Compatibility - Finding your kind.
a) If you are a believer, find one.
b)If you are desperate to have your denomination, find one in your local church, and stop wasting your time and others trying to convert or hoping the person converts to yours.
c) If you are liberal, you look for your kind.
d) If you want your tribe, look for one and dont hope the fellow will act like someone from your tribe.
e) If you desire another nationality be ready to learn the culture of who you desire. And do not expect the person to act like people in your culture.
3. Do not be bossy. If you meet someone more stubborn, you will end up hurting yourself.
4. Get a job or a good source of income.
5. Learn to forgive and forget.
6. Learn to trust. Stop investigating rubbish. If you find yourself investigsting everyone you meet, then, check yourself. Go and deal with yourself very well. Others are not the problem, but you.
7. If God gives you signal and you can see it too that it worked one time, twice, or thrice...him.mm. For example, you asked for a signal and you got it. But then, you continue using your own head to investigate or do background check of the person, you will miss it. Surrender to God. The person is not opened to you because you are closed. No one will ever open to a closed person. A closed person is dangerous. No one will ever trust someone who hides simple things like personal contact, email, tel, place of work, future ambition, etc. No matter how you have been betrayed, you must trust again. When the fellow starts talking to you anyhow at a stage, check yourself.
8. If you do the above, you will enjoy your marriage.

Note: "Wife obey your husband" is what Nigerian men use to manipulate women. Meanwhile, men dont usually love their wives as themselves. If they do, they will not have girlfriends outside. But Nigerian men always say they cant control it. Who says a woman can control respecting you too? You want respect, but you dont keep your jo.ystick and your eyes only with her. You are not serious.

PeaceJoyLove:
1. Truthfulness
2. Compatibility - Finding your kind.
a) If you are a believer, find one.
b)If you are desperate to have your denomination, find one in your local church, and stop wasting your time and others trying to convert or hoping the person converts to yours.
c) If you are liberal, you look for your kind.
d) If you want your tribe, look for one and dont hope the fellow will act like someone from your tribe.
e) If you desire another nationality be ready to learn the culture of who you desire. And do not expect the person to act like people in your culture.
3. Do not be bossy. If you meet someone more stubborn, you will end up hurting yourself.
4. Get a job or a good source of income.
5. Learn to forgive and forget.
6. Learn to trust. Stop investigating rubbish. If you find yourself investigsting everyone you meet, then, check yourself. Go and deal with yourself very well. Others are not the problem, but you.
7. If God gives you signal and you can see it too that it worked one time, twice, or thrice...him.mm. For example, you asked for a signal and you got it. But then, you continue using your own head to investigate or do background check of the person, you will miss it. Surrender to God. The person is not opened to you because you are closed. No one will ever open to a closed person. A closed person is dangerous. No one will ever trust someone who hides simple things like personal contact, email, tel, place of work, future ambition, etc. No matter how you have been betrayed, you must trust again. When the fellow starts talking to you anyhow at a stage, check yourself.
8. If you do the above, you will enjoy your marriage.

Note: "Wife obey your husband" is what Nigerian men use to manipulate women. Meanwhile, men dont usually love their wives as themselves. If they do, they will not have girlfriends outside. But Nigerian men always say they cant control it. Who says a woman can control respecting you too? You want respect, but you dont keep your jo.ystick and your eyes only with her. You are not serious.

Funny

Kingsnairaland:


Funny

What's funny there. They are practical points backed with the scriptures. This is how I apply my own Bible, not quoting King James Version ...thou...thou...thou...shall not whatever. Apply the word to what is applicable presently. For example: No 6. Learn to trust, stop investigating rubbish. Simple check:
But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.
John 16:13 NIV

Do not turn yourself to CSI Miami or DSS. The right way to go about it is that we make sure we are spirit filled before we enter any relationship. So, if we want to act smart, we receive Him very early before our teenage days. But when you are over 30 years and you keep divorcing, 40+ ...you are single and still doing private investigative rubbish cos you have been hit before, and 50+ you are looking desperately for a smooth babe in her 20s....then you will have troubles. The Holy Spirit cannot lead you wrongly. When you meet someone, and you feel something different for the person, but you are holding back because you cannot trust again...trouble is ahead. Ask the Holy Ghost about the person. If you get the go ahead, do not start any private investigation. But be vigilant.

Look at point 2. This is important. Find your kind. This is so important. You know you cannot face your parents and say this is who I want to marry. Why? Cos you are under them, and they do not approve his tribe. Your brain should tell you that you must strategize well. Or you get boldness and wisdom from the Holy Ghost. But you want to be stubborn with your parents knowing how families are so much involved in Nigerian marriages ( by the way, this culture has killed many marriages), you are in for a big trouble.

Also, you are attached to your church or denomination that you cannot leave it. Well, good for you. But you meet a partner, and it is just impossible to know where he belongs easily. But after you know, you continue because love is there, and you hope to convert the fellow. I am sorry for you. Fortunately for men, the culture in Nigeria is that a woman follows the man to his church. This is the standard (though, I know it is not a perfect approach, but it is what it is). Unfortunately for the girl, she is a catholic and she desperately wants to convert the boy to her church. She will cry. Catholic girls are even ok to take the risk of not initially knowing the denomination of the man because there is a significant chance that the man might be a catholic because they have high population esp if they are both SE (ibo).

But she is from a denomination with low population and very rare; yet, she wants her kind, but decides to fish in the deep ocean instead of going to her local church to look for a man. If she wants a man in her church, she should go to her church and look for him. Why get a man outside knowing fully well the chance of meeting someone of her kind is very low? Yet, she wants him join her by converting him. Is the girl not unserious? And doing that in a culture where women follow men to church oooo.

Like the OP quoted, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. It is simple, any gathering we cannot attend is the gathering of unbelievers. If you are a from a denomination that you cannot accept others by analyzing them with the gifts of the HOLY spirit, then only your church members are believer to you. This is the meaning. Let us be practical here..Everyone can associate only with believers. If you cannot associate with another denomination, then, only your denomination members are believers to you. So, the question is this: when she knows that she cannot marry outside her denomination, and she will never be happy, why attempt looking outside her local church?

PeaceJoyLove:

What's funny there. They are practical points backed with the scriptures. This is how I apply my own Bible, not quoting King James Version ...thou...thou...thou...shall not whatever. Apply the word to what is applicable presently. For example: No 6. Learn to trust, stop investigating rubbish. Simple check:
But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come.
John 16:13 NIV

Do not turn yourself to CSI Miami or DSS. The right way to go about it is that we make sure we are spirit filled before we enter any relationship. So, if we want to act smart, we receive Him very early before our teenage days. But when you are over 30 years and you keep divorcing, 40+ ...you are single and still doing private investigative rubbish cos you have been hit before, and 50+ you are looking desperately for a smooth babe in her 20s....then you will have troubles. The Holy Spirit cannot lead you wrongly. When you meet someone, and you feel something different for the person, but you are holding back because you cannot trust again...trouble is ahead. Ask the Holy Ghost about the person. If you get the go ahead, do not start any private investigation. But be vigilant.

Look at point 2. This is important. Find your kind. This is so important. You know you cannot face your parents and say this is who I want to marry. Why? Cos you are under them, and they do not approve his tribe. Your brain should tell you that you must strategize well. Or you get boldness and wisdom from the Holy Ghost. But you want to be stubborn with your parents knowing how families are so much involved in Nigerian marriages ( by the way, this culture has killed many marriages), you are in for a big trouble.

Also, you are attached to your church or denomination that you cannot leave it. Well, good for you. But you meet a partner, and it is just impossible to know where he belongs easily. But after you know, you continue because love is there, and you hope to convert the fellow. I am sorry for you. Fortunately for men, the culture in Nigeria is that a woman follows the man to his church. This is the standard (though, I know it is not a perfect approach, but it is what it is). Unfortunately for the girl, she is a catholic and she desperately wants to convert the boy to her church. She will cry. Catholic girls are even ok to take the risk of not initially knowing the denomination of the man because there is a significant chance that the man might be a catholic because they have high population esp if they are both SE (ibo).

But she is from a denomination with low population and very rare; yet, she wants her kind, but decides to fish in the deep ocean instead of going to her local church to look for a man. If she wants a man in her church, she should go to her church and look for him. Why get a man outside knowing fully well the chance of meeting someone of her kind is very low? Yet, she wants him join her by converting him. Is the girl not unserious? And doing that in a culture where women follow men to church oooo.

Like the OP quoted, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. It is simple, any gathering we cannot attend is the gathering of unbelievers. If you are a from a denomination that you cannot accept others by analyzing them with the gifts of the HOLY spirit, then only your church members are believer to you. This is the meaning. Let us be practical here..Everyone can associate only with believers. If you cannot associate with another denomination, then, only your denomination members are believers to you. So, the question is this: when she knows that she cannot marry outside her denomination, and she will never be happy, why attempt looking outside her local church?

I don't understand

Are you asking me a question

Or are you stating a fact

PstBiola:
What can a married couple do to ensure that their marriage will last?

Simple! Comply with The Law "He made them male and female".

All other things stand on this Law!