You have to bend her without breaking her. I'd have loved to tell you how to go about this in detail, if not for one thing.

Kobicove:


Sign up with $40?

...and spend how long to recover the money from doing surveys?

It is not signing up with $40, it is if you sign up you get $40 for free

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

Just smile anytime she acted that way. She ll get the message that you don't give a fvck

God put you there so that you can go through the school of patience. I’ve been in such a situation before, the boss was so cruel that a female colleague then would burst into tears, he was always speaking harsh words. The moment I got my freedom was not when I left the job but when I decided not to let his words get to me. Simply put, just do your best and chose to be happy regardless. It’s your decision to be happy. What I discover most times about such bosses is that they are actually the one with the problem, it may be an underlying problem of low self esteem or insecurity.
Cheers.

Hello house.. please I don't really know how to post a new article on this platform.. please one's again, how much does finatrust microfinance bank pay their loan officer? If anyone have an Ideal, kindly share.. thank you!

100 percent patiency and be effective and efficient I ya duties is the solution

ecolime:

Banji, you still brought this issue to Nairalamd after all we discussed.

Fyi, madam is also on Nairaland. Infact she actually sent this link to me.

you sha wan make the guy get heart failure sha..... Your plan will not work in Jesus name

I really understand your situation at the moment , so my advise is that you should first put it in prayer, some things are beyond your control, that is how life was designed, people don't Just like or hate you just because of you work alone,there are forces and graces ordinary will effort cannot explain, there is also bias based on religion, tribe and so on, nevertheless always put in your best.

Secondly seek the advise of a mentor usually someone very experience to advise you and lastly try to channel your energy to people that value you , some people cannot recognize greatness. That my little contribution

Have sex with her and case closed. otherwise it wouldn't matter all kinda hard work you do she would still give you crap until you fork her!

It works always trust me!

They are like that everywhere, my current boss is a woman, she is never wrong, always want things done in her own way.. she complains about everything and sometimes tag one as a lazy being... For me, have learnt to cope with her shout and frightening... So whenever she calls for me or start her madness I see it as nothing..

I am in your shoes currently..pray and do your job dilligently.

mascotblaze:


you sha wan make the guy get heart failure sha..... Your plan will not work in Jesus name

We are colleagues na. He knows me

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

Oga, Just 4get her words and co-operate with her. She will like u.

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

She is insecure in her abilities and suffers from low self-esteem or better still, inferiority complex. Assuming you are telling the absolute truth.

She is raw gold and could be the best thing that has ever happened to you if you know how to manage her.

How do you do this? May her like you as though her life depends on it?

3 books I will recommend

1. How to make friends and influence people---Dale Carnegie
2. Emotional Intelligence---Daniel Coleman
3. Gong Ho! ----Can't recall the author and won't go search my library right now.


You can add ' love code' by Nike Adeyemi

They contain the answers you seek and that is all I will say. Except you want to look for another job, this is your best bet.

You story is the same as mine.

I just quit my job this week all due to same thing you wrote up there.

Female bosses can be werey sometimes, they just want you to do eye service and be a pet.

I have been absorbing all the nagging and insults directly and indirectly from the Igbo woman. As I can't cope again because it's has been affecting me psychologically, na him I bust them with resignation letter. E pain the werey lady. Instead of her begging or at least pet me or say she will increase salary, her pride and ego no let her. This didn't surprise me cos she doesn't even give one encomium but only mouth lashes.

The husband called me recently for us to talk why my sudden action to resign. Well, we will meet up in due time.

Now I want to freelance and learn my computer repair work, anything else can come in sha. Am jobless now, but I no tomorrow I will smile.

To the Op: No allow her see you finish since you can't copy my style. Look her in her eye when your eyes jam make she remove face. Further more do you know that she no go fit do the job she ask you to do? That's why she is paying you. Don't always seem useless validations from her. Make her be saying if it was you she trust you say sharp you go done run am. Shalom

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

Honestly, you have to tolerate her or manage her, unless you don't mind leaving

Bro... the first thing you need to understand is that your boss is a woman .... women are wired different from men period. It is like natural ... when a woman is given power over a man ... expect "abuse of power." If you in anyway try to challenge her ... or question her decisions.. right or wrong.. she will put you in your place ... beneath her. She sees herself as the Oga.. and sees you.. a male... as the houseboy. You have to be careful of what you say and how you act. The ways to getting to her is not the same as getting to a man. Let her feel important ... little flattering comments can go a longgg way... as in I know I'm not suppose to say (showing respect for her position)... but I must say your perfume smell soooo good .... heavenly! ( never mind you can't endure the scent for long). She is likely to tell you the name... how she got it... the cost... how rare it is... it's one of Queen Elizabeth's favourite..etc. That's women... little flattering comments and nice words will break down the barrier. If you have a better way of getting a job done... put it to her as an idea ... and let her decide if it's good or not... never say you have a better way.... she must come to that conclusion. Good luck.

There are some things we can learn with different kinds of people so be patient and focus on your goal you will need this train.ing else where

ecolime:

Banji, you still brought this issue to Nairalamd after all we discussed.

Fyi, madam is also on Nairaland. Infact she actually sent this link to me.

What does this suppose to mean? Madam is on nairaland, yes, what happens? It's good let her see that the young man is going through a lot because of her attitude. I guess the so called madam is treating you nice, probably two of you have something in common. Why did she send you the link even? Who are you to her? You even mentioned the guy's name so that they all will know he's actually the one that posted it. I think you're one of the guy's problem in that office. Who knows maybe you have told the woman all the Banji guy has been telling you.. Guys be careful who you tell your plans in your office.

Mboi:

What does this suppose to mean? Madam is on nairaland, yes, what happens? It's good let her see that the young man is going through a lot because of her attitude. I guess the so called madam is treating you nice, probably two of you have something in common. Why did she send you the link even? Who are you to her? You even mentioned the guy's name so that they all will know he's actually the one that posted it. I think you're one of the guy's problem in that office. Who knows maybe you have told the woman all the Banji guy has been telling you.. Guys be careful who you tell your plans in your office.

Just be ready to give him a new job on Monday

maikbanj:
Good evening. I got transferred to a new office and my boss is just the direct opposite of the Previous.My current boss is a bit nice but then doesn't have managerial skills. She really doesn't know how to handle her subordinates. At a slight mistake, she's all shouting the roof down. She exaggerates a lot and looks for every means to put a blame on you when things don't work even though it's not your fault.
E.g, you're working on something and probably you have network issues and can't complete or round off on time, she'll just look for a way to put in on you.
Now it's almost affecting the way I work. Asking her questions sometimes is almost difficult and then I do it my way. There are just so many complains and I can't afford to lose this Job right now.

In front of you she's acting so nice but behind she's all saying dirty things.
I'm getting fed up. Coming to work seems tiring now.

Please how do I handle this?

Just avoid direct confrontation with her at all times...most especially if the jobs pays well. If it doesn't then start looking for something much better.

By seeking for another job while on the job.

Keep your head down very well, and put eyes on anything she ask you to do. Because she might have something that she is hiding.

ecolime:

Just be ready to give him a new job on Monday

You are a back stabber, you are a wicked colleague. He has not done anything bad to warrant loosing his job. If they take the job from him, he will still get a better one soon, Yes. He will. Your colleague discussed something with you in confidence, he made a post on nairaland, all you could do was to mention his name just to show everybody that he was the one that posted it. You're evil! Why didn't you reach him personally? You're looking for a favour, to bring your colleague down so that you'll be in the good book of the wicked madam. Continue! What goes around comes around.

mascotblaze:


you sha wan make the guy get heart failure sha..... Your plan will not work in Jesus name

Don't mind the guy. Why not him reach the guy personally and tell him whatever you want to tell him, why calling his name?

Mboi:
You are a back stabber, you are a wicked colleague. He has not done anything bad to warrant loosing his job. If they take the job from him, he will still get a better one soon, Yes. He will. Your colleague discussed something with you in confidence, he made a post on nairaland, all you could do was to mention his name just to show everybody that he was the one that posted it. You're evil! Why didn't you reach him personally? You're looking for a favour, to bring your colleague down so that you'll be in the good book of the wicked madam. Continue! What goes around comes around.

Stop making fool of yourself son

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ecolime:

Stop making fool of yourself son

Old man wey dey wash pant for small girl for office.. poverty is too bad honestly..