Ebengosandra:


I don't think we have genuine private investigator in my country, I think it work well in developed country but not in Africa. I don't know if he still in Nigeria or not even if he still not in Nigeria at the moment but I strongly believe my daughter is in Nigeria with his family members. OK sorry I use the word kidnap because he took her without my consent to a place where she doesn't know anyone, at this moment I am living fine but I have no ideas if my daughter has eaten or not, I don't know if goes to school or not, what if they are abusing her. It's really hard for me to have peace when I don't know how my daughter is coping right now.

PlayMaker14:
From your write-up, it seems you guys had a bitter ending to the relationship reason why you used the word "Kidnap."


Your daughter was not "Kidnapped" she only relocated with her dad who's now your ex, so the best thing to do now is to first of all, resolve the relationship crisis you guys had, then, have an understanding with each other concerning the well being of your daughter.

Ebengosandra:
Hey guys my ex boyfriend kidnapped my daughter in 2016 at the age if 3 years, he took her to Nigeria. I have been crying for my daughter for 5 years it is been very hard for me to leave without her, I don't know if she is eating, good health or going to school. My daughter 8th birthday is this 27 of July I want to come to Nigeria in 2 months by God's grace to get her back from him but my biggest worry is I don't know any of his family nor friends or his real name. when we met in my country he told me his name was ikenna nwadi but I can't find him on Facebook maybe he gave me the wrong name or his using a different name now. my daughter name is nneoma Rachel nwadi. I have beg his friends who are still living in my country to help me with his details but they have refuse to help me, I have even arrested one but my country justice is corrupt, he was release few hours later. I really need your help to help me find my daughter. Is there any hope for me that I will ever be able to find her or I should forget about her, its hard for me to forget her because she is my first baby the one that gave me the name mum. I am waiting to hear from you guys please

Ebengosandra:


Yes you are right we had a bitter ending because he became violent and I left with my daughter to a friend place and it was my friend whom I trusted with my life that gave him the information that I was staying with her and he came and kidnapped her when I was at work. How can I resolve when I don't have his contact details for 5 years now?

Ebengosandra:


Yes you are right we had a bitter ending because he became violent and I left with my daughter to a friend place and it was my friend whom I trusted with my life that gave him the information that I was staying with her and he came and kidnapped her when I was at work. How can I resolve when I don't have his contact details for 5 years now?

Seniorwriter:
SMH....
So you don't have a name too since you don't know his name and whereabouts.
I'll advice you get a private investigator where you are.
If you are financially buoyant get two private investigators.
They'll do the needful.
For all you care your ex might not be in Nigeria anymore....have you thought of that possibility?.
My 2cent.
Lest I forget stop using the word Kidnap....that's gross knowing she is with her Dad!

@Seniorwriter

PlayMaker14:
Please, stop using the word Kidnap.

He is equally her father, I will advise you get that friend arrested and interrogated, she might drop some vital information that might lead to his arrest.

A quick advise; Always do some background check before you jump into any relationship.

Richy4:

I like how truthful you are OP....
<<< Though I'm trying to figure out how to sleep with a girl that I don't know her surname...Forgive me, I'm not judging, It's just me talking..

<< I don't just know what you want the justice system of your country to do to a man that was your Ex's friend.
Did the said man commit an offence in any way in your country except the fact that he was your EX's Friend?...
Did he in anyway sign a surety to be responsible should anything happen between u and your EX?... I guess No..
Then why did you think that you have a case in terms of arresting him?...That singular act will even make anyone that knows your EX that intended helping before to look another direction when you were approaching for help.

Anyways, If you decide to come to Nigeria, We are gonna narrow your search to 5 states... Abia, Imo, Anambra, Enugu, Ebonyi states... This is because it's likely the few states that can bear such surname u mentioned....But If you were not sure of his surname, How are we sure u even know the state he came from? Even if u mention any of this states, the chances that your daughter being in that state is 1/2... This is because Nigeria have 36 states plus capital.. There are chances he may have traveled to the other 30 states...

I will suggest that you don't go to Nigeria wasting your time and Money except that u were going to engage the services of a Nigerian Detective... What you were looking for might take months/years.... So

Ebengosandra:


OK sorry but what he did is kidnap because he took her without my consent, he didn't pay any dowry for me and he didn't have the right to take her away from me. I will rather he abandon her to me forever than taking away her this is the worst punishment in my life. I did some background check through his friends who were living in my country too, even if I didn't go further because he is a foreigner but I trusted him and his friends. My friend was arrested back in 2013 she claimed that he forcibly took the child from her and there was nothing she could do because she was scared of him but a guy who has witnessed the scene said my friend was very calm she didn't seem like someone who was scared of him when she handle the child to ex, like I said earlier the justice system is corrupt so nothing happens to her because they realize her after few days. She has left the country.

Ebengosandra:


All I wanted the justice to do is to question him so he can give us the information about my daughter whereabouts because he was my ex closest friend and the only one who I trusted in my house, he use to come from time to time and he knew my ex better than me.

PlayMaker14:
My dear, I understand how you feel not being with your baby for such a long time, but your ex also have the right to be with her too...

Although he took her without your consent which I believe you will never give because of the way you guys ended things.

But, I will advise you to handle the situation calmly, get some of his pictures, visit the Nigeria embassy in your country so they can help you track him or better still, fly down to Nigeria and go to the police headquarters at Lagos or Abuja to help you with the search.... Then you both can reach an agreement on how you two will spend time with your daughter.

I do hope this drama reconcile the bitterness you guys have for each other.

By the way, I believe you are from DR Congo?

Hathor5:
Ebengosandra,

where are you from?

Ebengosandra:

Wow you have guessed it right, are you from my country too?

PlayMaker14:
No, but I have a friend bearing that name too.

Just take it easy as you continue your search for your daughter.

Richy4:


I still maintain that you approached it the wrong way by arresting him.... The mistake has been made already... Let's look for another alternative...

Do you think you can go through Nigerian association in your country? Or Like try asking about Igbo association in the state/ Country where u were residing ... You never know, He might be a former member and a kind hearted person might pick interest and help out.... But please and please, enough of the police involvement... Our people doesn't like them... If u needed some help, be meek about it and trust me u will get some help from them... again do not act as if the child only belongs to you... Just act like a concern mother who wants to know her child's where about...Good-luck ..

Ebengosandra:


I am from drc congo

Ebengosandra:
Hey guys my ex boyfriend kidnapped my daughter in 2016 at the age if 3 years, he took her to Nigeria. I have been crying for my daughter for 5 years it is been very hard for me to leave without her, I don't know if she is eating, good health or going to school. My daughter 8th birthday is this 27 of July I want to come to Nigeria in 2 months by God's grace to get her back from him but my biggest worry is I don't know any of his family nor friends or his real name. when we met in my country he told me his name was ikenna nwadi but I can't find him on Facebook maybe he gave me the wrong name or his using a different name now. my daughter name is nneoma Rachel nwadi. I have beg his friends who are still living in my country to help me with his details but they have refuse to help me, I have even arrested one but my country justice is corrupt, he was release few hours later. I really need your help to help me find my daughter. Is there any hope for me that I will ever be able to find her or I should forget about her, its hard for me to forget her because she is my first baby the one that gave me the name mum. I am waiting to hear from you guys please

Ebengosandra:


I don't think we have genuine private investigator in my country, I think it work well in developed country but not in Africa. I don't know if he still in Nigeria or not even if he still not in Nigeria at the moment but I strongly believe my daughter is in Nigeria with his family members. OK sorry I use the word kidnap because he took her without my consent to a place where she doesn't know anyone, at this moment I am living fine but I have no ideas if my daughter has eaten or not, I don't know if goes to school or not, what if they are abusing her. It's really hard for me to have peace when I don't know how my daughter is coping right now.