nzeobi:
I agree if the first wife and her children will accept you

Lattop:
U see this people I mean most of ur Gender won't agreed to this

But still we move

saphiere:
You men need permission from their children before they marry?

saphiere:
If it cost you your peace, leave. I stand with her.

pocohantas:
Some people believe in polygamy for strange reasons…

I have this woman at work that is 40yrs. She is a devout muslim with an impeccable sense of style- rich muslim women can make you throw away all your omo wobe clothes sha. All covered up but regal.

Anyway, she got married in 2019 and I was surprised, because I always thought muslims marry very early. Then she told me she went into a monogamous marriage in her 20s, but it didn’t work out and crashed in less than 4 years. It was from her I also got to know divorce is rife in the North, but we don’t hear about it. After the divorce, she picked her lessons and returned abroad to further her studies (she has a PhD). She went on to add that she has enjoyed her polygamous husband so much because his wahala is distributed among all the wives. She is the fourth and last wife, with her own separate property on the Island.

According to her, monogamous men are unnecessarily stressful and jealous, even though they will still be cheating without remorse on the side. They have too many expectations and standards and want it all from one woman. Any time they turn, they will call your name. If they come home, they will shout your name. Men who are polygamous with their full chest are different.

She closed by asking if I have ever asked myself why it is women in rich polygamous marriages that have time to attend parties upandan, travel for studies, do baby girl and go for vacations every other month? You do something with your life and have time for yourself while the man faces his other three wives.

She made a lot of sense, but I will pass…

saphiere:
Being a second wife to the right person is better than being a first wife to the wrong person – Nigerian lady

A Nigerian lady has taken to cyberspace to share her opinion on marriage.
The lady who took to her Facebook page to air her view on marriage said it is better to become a second wife to the right husband than to become the first wife to the wrong husband.

“Being a second wife to the right person is better than being a first wife to the wrong person.
I Move ��‍♀️��‍♀️��‍♀️”, she wrote.

https://.com/being-a-second-wife-to-the-right-person-is-better-than-being-a-first-wife-to-the-wrong-person-nigerian-lady/

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Iyaebe:
There's nothing wrong and bad about polygamy if the man is capable and up to the task,I have aunties(though they are Muslims) who are in polygamous marriage and they ain't complaining at all. I'll advise any lady who wants to consider polygamy to go into it strictly for the man's money so as to avoid stories that touch,polygamy without enough money is hell.As for me God knows I can't share,I'm so jealous.

bukatyne:

You mean it is ok for a woman to leave a troublesome husband to become a trouble to another woman by marrying her husband?

Interesting

It would be ironic if the woman left her first husband for adultery.

We Nigerian women are not against oppression, we Nigerian women are only angry that we they are at the receiving end.

pocohantas:


Lmao! I did ask her some personal questions and she answered, because I am sure it is not all rosy. She is 40 and I believe she knows what she is doing. You know some women just want to have a man’s name, have their kids in a marriage and rest. I think they are also fit for polygamous marriage. Be the dormant wife as she called it.

pocohantas:


Lmao! I did ask her some personal questions and she answered, because I am sure it is not all rosy. She is 40 and I believe she knows what she is doing. You know some women just want to have a man’s name, have their kids in a marriage and rest . I think they are also fit for polygamous marriage. Be the dormant wife as she called it.

Iyaebe:
Polygamy is never rosy infact it’s survival of the fittest,the man involved is always at a disadvantage in the long run,the wives are all out for their kids with little or no attention for the man when he's old and tired. Polygamy is only attractive when there's so much money to munch on,so every lady should consider this before accepting a polygamous proposal else she will end up as a bitter and unfulfilled woman.

pocohantas:
Some people believe in polygamy for strange reasons…

I have this woman at work that is 40yrs. She is a devout muslim with an impeccable sense of style- rich muslim women can make you throw away all your omo wobe clothes sha. All covered up but regal.

Anyway, she got married in 2019 and I was surprised, because I always thought muslims marry very early. Then she told me she went into a monogamous marriage in her 20s, but it didn’t work out and crashed in less than 4 years. It was from her I also got to know divorce is rife in the North, but we don’t hear about it. After the divorce, she picked her lessons and returned abroad to further her studies (she has a PhD). She went on to add that she has enjoyed her polygamous husband so much because his wahala is distributed among all the wives. She is the fourth and last wife, with her own separate property on the Island.

According to her, monogamous men are unnecessarily stressful and jealous, even though they will still be cheating without remorse on the side. They have too many expectations and standards and want it all from one woman. Any time they turn, they will call your name. If they come home, they will shout your name. Men who are polygamous with their full chest are different.

She closed by asking if I have ever asked myself why it is women in rich polygamous marriages that have time to attend parties upandan, travel for studies, do baby girl and go for vacations every other month? You do something with your life and have time for yourself while the man faces his other three wives.

She made a lot of sense, but I will pass…

Kondomatic:
Exactly what happens in most families here in the North.

The women in these marriages are mainly there for the sake of being married. They have different apartments in the man's compound, all person with her own children.

Nobody has time for some men's endless wahala, he sef kuku no send because if glo no connect, airtel will connect or he will kuku buy a new Etisalat.

And just like your friend said, the women have enough time for their lives. They live it to the fullest, I am talking about those with cash.

They wear the nicest clothes, expensive ones. They have jewelries like it's free in the market. I have few of them as customers, they don't have time to bargain, just ensure it's original and high quality and you're good.

Buhari's government kuku release too much money for northerners, they are the Nigerians now.

But the wives have endless internal battles amongst them. It's gets messy sometimes.

Sterope:
Some women actually find polygamy very empowering for this reason especially those that enjoy their space. It is a point I can relate to. However, there are polygamous men who are not up to scratch despite their number of wives.

There was a piece on Guardian UK about Muslims women that are career driven who allow their husbands to get second wife who end up taking care of the homefront.

This is where some very foolish men would think this is about them.

pocohantas:
Some people believe in polygamy for strange reasons…

I have this woman at work that is 40yrs. She is a devout muslim with an impeccable sense of style- rich muslim women can make you throw away all your omo wobe clothes sha. All covered up but regal.

Anyway, she got married in 2019 and I was surprised, because I always thought muslims marry very early. Then she told me she went into a monogamous marriage in her 20s, but it didn’t work out and crashed in less than 4 years. It was from her I also got to know divorce is rife in the North, but we don’t hear about it. After the divorce, she picked her lessons and returned abroad to further her studies (she has a PhD). She went on to add that she has enjoyed her polygamous husband so much because his wahala is distributed among all the wives. She is the fourth and last wife, with her own separate property on the Island.

According to her, monogamous men are unnecessarily stressful and jealous, even though they will still be cheating without remorse on the side. They have too many expectations and standards and want it all from one woman. Any time they turn, they will call your name. If they come home, they will shout your name. Men who are polygamous with their full chest are different.

She closed by asking if I have ever asked myself why it is women in rich polygamous marriages that have time to attend parties upandan, travel for studies, do baby girl and go for vacations every other month? You do something with your life and have time for yourself while the man faces his other three wives.

She made a lot of sense, but I will pass…

Sterope:
Some women actually find polygamy very empowering for this reason especially those that enjoy their space. It is a point I can relate to. However, there are polygamous men who are not up to scratch despite their number of wives.

There was a piece on Guardian UK about Muslims women that are career driven who allow their husbands to get second wife who end up taking care of the homefront.

This is where some very foolish men would think this is about them.

crackhaus:

Edited for clarity...

And yeah, you're right... This is something I've known for a long time.

Kondomatic:
Exactly what happens in most families here in the North.

The women in these marriages are mainly there for the sake of being married. They have different apartments in the man's compound, all person with her own children.

Nobody has time for some men's endless wahala, he sef kuku no send because if glo no connect, airtel will connect or he will kuku buy a new Etisalat.

And just like your friend said, the women have enough time for their lives. They live it to the fullest, I am talking about those with cash.

They wear the nicest clothes, expensive ones. They have jewelries like it's free in the market. I have few of them as customers, they don't have time to bargain, just ensure it's original and high quality and you're good.

Buhari's government kuku release too much money for northerners, they are the Nigerians now.

But the wives have endless internal battles amongst them. It's gets messy sometimes.

pocohantas:


You perfectly described her. Everything about her screams luxury. Her clothes, jewelry, bag, shoes…everything. I once asked her if they sell those scarf together with their clothes because there is no colour she doesn’t have.

Talking with her was very enlightening. People get different agenda for this marriage something.




Interesting.
I would really love to read this article.

I think men know it is not always about them, but they would only agree when it favours their argument.

bukatyne:


@bold:

You know them very well

I don tour Northern states sotey I come dey resemble them

pocohantas:
Some people believe in polygamy for strange reasons…

I have this woman at work that is 40yrs. She is a devout muslim with an impeccable sense of style- rich muslim women can make you throw away all your omo wobe clothes sha. All covered up but regal.

Anyway, she got married in 2019 and I was surprised, because I always thought muslims marry very early. Then she told me she went into a monogamous marriage in her 20s, but it didn’t work out and crashed in less than 4 years. It was from her I also got to know divorce is rife in the North, but we don’t hear about it. After the divorce, she picked her lessons and returned abroad to further her studies (she has a PhD). She went on to add that she has enjoyed her polygamous husband so much because his wahala is distributed among all the wives. She is the fourth and last wife, with her own separate property on the Island.

According to her, monogamous men are unnecessarily stressful and jealous, even though they will still be cheating without remorse on the side. They have too many expectations and standards and want it all from one woman. Any time they turn, they will call your name. If they come home, they will shout your name. Men who are polygamous with their full chest are different.

She closed by asking if I have ever asked myself why it is women in rich polygamous marriages that have time to attend parties upandan, travel for studies, do baby girl and go for vacations every other month? You do something with your life and have time for yourself while the man faces his other three wives.

She made a lot of sense, but I will pass…

bukatyne:


This your edit nor follow

It is a human behaviour.