A man got married to a girl (let's call her Sarah) and they had a policy that no one, not even family members should visit without informing them, they agreed expressly that I any member of their family visit them without informing them, they'll lodge the person in a hotel for just a night and send them back home.

One certain time, the man's mother came home without informing anyone, the man pleaded with his wife to be considerate as they were short on cash but Sarah was adamant that her mother inlaw must go, since she didn't give any prior notice before her arrival. The man was not happy about it, he had to look for money to borrow, lodged his mum in the hotel and sent her parking the next day...

After a while, the Sarah's mother also came around for her son's graduation (that is the Sarah's brother who at that time was staying at the boarding house), and funny enough she didn't inform anyone, as per the rule, the man insisted that Sarah's mother shouldn't sleep in the house, she should be lodged in a hotel for the night and sent home the next day.

Sarah reluctantly agreed, but she obliged, the next day, a circular was released from the school that the graduation initially scheduled for Monday has been moved to Friday, now. Sarah is insisting that either her mum stays home or they (sarah and her husband) pays for her hotel bill till she leaves...

The husband on the other hand is saying that they won't pay for more than a night as per the rule...

How should this issue be resolved

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A man got married to a girl (let's call her Sarah) and they had a policy that no one, not even family members should visit without informing them, they agreed expressly that I any member of their family visit them without informing them, they'll lodge the person in a hotel for just a night and send them back home.

One certain time, the man's mother came home without informing anyone, the man pleaded with his wife to be considerate as they were short on cash but Sarah was adamant that her mother inlaw must go, since she didn't give any prior notice before her arrival. The man was not happy about it, he had to look for money to borrow, lodged his mum in the hotel and sent her parking the next day...

After a while, the Sarah's mother also came around for her son's graduation (that is the Sarah's brother who at that time was staying at the boarding house), and funny enough she didn't inform anyone, as per the rule, the man insisted that Sarah's mother shouldn't sleep in the house, she should be lodged in a hotel for the night and sent home the next day.

Sarah reluctantly agreed, but she obliged, the next day, a circular was released from the school that the graduation initially scheduled for Monday has been moved to Friday, now. Sarah is insisting that either her mum stays home or they (sarah and her husband) pays for her hotel bill till she leaves...

The husband on the other hand is saying that they won't pay for more than a night as per the rule...

How should this issue be resolved

Just mind your business

What's good for the goose is also better for the gander.

Mama go jog go back her house be that.

This is simple. Let the husband continue along the path of wickedness Sarah laid .

Mama gas go 00 U have to be wicked some times

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The husband on the other hand is saying that they won't pay for more than a night as per the rule...

How should this issue be resolved

No be by force say the grandmother has to be there on the grandsons day of graduation. So she can say hi to the boys and leave. The couple can send video and pictures of the event to her or even stream it live for family to watch from wherever they are. Problem solved and marital peace restored. .

Ok

What sort of policy are they operating?

Fictional!

MufasaLion:
What sort of policy are they operating?

My dear...
This policy was borne out of necessity o...
In times past, extended family members and relatives will come around and stay for a while (2 - 3 weeks) and this was causing problems in the house, because finance was a factor and also the wive didn't like some of the husband's people, so this policy was implemented...

But I don't think the wife ever thought that her idea would be a double edged sword

Rubbiish:
Fictional!

Not really...
Though it's not first hand info (my cousins friend is the man and I overheard the discuss), but it's so not fictional...

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My dear...
This policy was borne out of necessity o...
In times past, extended family members and relatives will come around and stay for a while (2 - 3 weeks) and this was causing problems in the house, because finance was a factor and also the wive didn't like some of the husband's people, so this policy was implemented...

But I don't think the wife ever thought that her idea would be a double edged sword

Oh, now I understand. Marriage thing is too dicey.

Iyaebe should read this thread.

MufasaLion:


Oh, now I understand. Marriage thing is too dicey.

Iyaebe should read this thread.

On a serious note it's very abnormal not to want your in-laws around especially if they don't pose any threats.So this two are in war and not marriage

Iyaebe:
On a serious note it's very abnormal not to want your in-laws around especially if they don't pose any threats.So this two are in war and not marriage

Military regime.

MufasaLion:




Military regime.

The only time I won't want anyone around is when we are newly married, do I have to tell them to give me space to enjoy myself? of course they should know, they can come when Im fully blowned.lol

Iyaebe:
The only time I won't want anyone around is when we are newly married, do I have to tell them to give me space to enjoy myself? of course they should know, they can come when Im fully blowned.lol

LMAO

Fully blowned.

Some relatives don't care if you're just married especially in a case where the husband is from an average background but rich.

MufasaLion:


LMAO

Fully blowned.

Some relatives don't care if you're just married especially in a case where the husband is from an average background but rich.

Well if that's the case and there's no alternative I guess we will have to manage somehow, honeymoon no dy finish for marriage lol

Iyaebe:
Well if that's the case and there's no alternative I guess we will have to manage somehow, honeymoon no dy finish for marriage lol

You can have your honeymoon outside the country.

MufasaLion:


You can have your honeymoon outside the country.

Better

Iyaebe:
Better

Daddy's girl.

Very weird people.

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A man got married to a girl (let's call her Sarah) and they had a policy that no one, not even family members should visit without informing them, they agreed expressly that I any member of their family visit them without informing them, they'll lodge the person in a hotel for just a night and send them back home.

One certain time, the man's mother came home without informing anyone, the man pleaded with his wife to be considerate as they were short on cash but Sarah was adamant that her mother inlaw must go, since she didn't give any prior notice before her arrival. The man was not happy about it, he had to look for money to borrow, lodged his mum in the hotel and sent her parking the next day...

After a while, the Sarah's mother also came around for her son's graduation (that is the Sarah's brother who at that time was staying at the boarding house), and funny enough she didn't inform anyone, as per the rule, the man insisted that Sarah's mother shouldn't sleep in the house, she should be lodged in a hotel for the night and sent home the next day.

Sarah reluctantly agreed, but she obliged, the next day, a circular was released from the school that the graduation initially scheduled for Monday has been moved to Friday, now. Sarah is insisting that either her mum stays home or they (sarah and her husband) pays for her hotel bill till she leaves...

The husband on the other hand is saying that they won't pay for more than a night as per the rule...

How should this issue be resolved

What you two must agree to are the below verses:

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:22, 24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

You two must first agree to this arrangement and factor this into your martial relations. Unless you two see each other as equals or believe in the gender equality trash the wife is to be subject to the husband and the husband subject to the LORD GOD and to be subject to the LORD GOD is to love as the LORD GOD loves.

He should allow his wife's mom stay for as long as she intends but as soon as she leaves he should tell his wife that they are dropping that policy of how you treat your relatives. A better approach will be to inform your parents to give them a heads up anytime they are coming around to visit.

Tell him to be the man and take charge of his home. He should love his wife and also be the captain of the ship of his family. The first time a man decided to be lax with respect to his duties as a man he sinned, he was thrown out of his lush garden and he plunged humanity into a life of sin and death.

Love your wife and be the captain of your home...in other words be a benevolent dictator

Mama must go.

But wait oh,una go create plenty enemies for una selves.

They should move away from family. That way, no one will be showing up at their home unannounced.

Her Mother should go back home and come back on Thursday for her son's graduation....With proper invitation.. this time she might stay in the house because she was invited...They should stick with the rigid Rule... or they can add some clause...what a weird family .

Very funny couple! Their parents should officially write them before visiting....them do well. I just hope they will be able to sustain the rubbish they have started. The day the devil will stroll around their courtyard, we hope their parents wont demand a proper IV before intervening. Ndi jakujaku.

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What you two must agree to are the below verses:

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:22, 24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

You two must first agree to this arrangement and factor this into your martial relations. Unless you two see each other as equals or believe in the gender equality trash the wife is to be subject to the husband and the husband subject to the LORD GOD and to be subject to the LORD GOD is to love as the LORD GOD loves.

He should allow his wife's mom stay for as long as she intends but as soon as she leaves he should tell his wife that they are dropping that policy of how you treat your relatives. A better approach will be to inform your parents to give them a heads up anytime they are coming around to visit.

Tell him to be the man and take charge of his home. He should love his wife and also be the captain of the ship of his family. The first time a man decided to be lax with respect to his duties as a man he sinned, he was thrown out of his lush garden and he plunged humanity into a life of sin and death.

Love your wife and be the captain of your home...in other words be a benevolent dictator

Thank you so much sir for your input...
But see eh...
The possibility of him allowing his mother inlaw to stay is very slim, if not non-existent...

Imagine, your mother travels all the way from the village, and after a very stressful journey she expects to rest in her son's house, and the moment she gets there, she is told she can't stay in her son's house, all because her daughter in-law is threatening to rain fire and brimestone...
It's truly hurtful and this guy loves his mum like mad (his father died about a decade ago so his mum has been his all)...

And now that the wife is in the same delimma her husband was a while ago, do you think he'll just allow it like that?? Come on na, let's be real here...

The husband will think that, if we couldn't make an exception for my mother, why should I make an exception for hers?? Is it because her mother is better than mine?? Or is there something that's so special about her mom??

efficiencie:


What you two must agree to are the below verses:

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:22, 24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

You two must first agree to this arrangement and factor this into your martial relations. Unless you two see each other as equals or believe in the gender equality trash the wife is to be subject to the husband and the husband subject to the LORD GOD and to be subject to the LORD GOD is to love as the LORD GOD loves.

He should allow his wife's mom stay for as long as she intends but as soon as she leaves he should tell his wife that they are dropping that policy of how you treat your relatives. A better approach will be to inform your parents to give them a heads up anytime they are coming around to visit.

Tell him to be the man and take charge of his home. He should love his wife and also be the captain of the ship of his family. The first time a man decided to be lax with respect to his duties as a man he sinned, he was thrown out of his lush garden and he plunged humanity into a life of sin and death.

Love your wife and be the captain of your home...in other words be a benevolent dictator

Thank you so much sir for your input...
But see eh...
The possibility of him allowing his mother inlaw to stay is very slim, if not non-existent...

Imagine, your mother travels all the way from the village, and after a very stressful journey she expects to rest in her son's house, and the moment she gets there, she is told she can't stay in her son's house, all because her daughter in-law is threatening to rain fire and brimestone...
It's truly hurtful and this guy loves his mum like mad (his father died about a decade ago so his mum has been his all)...

And now that the wife is in the same delimma her husband was a while ago, do you think he'll just allow it like that?? Come on na, let's be real here...

The husband will think that, if we couldn't make an exception for my mother, why should I make an exception for hers?? Is it because her mother is better than mine?? Or is there something that's so special about her mom??

Thoughts like this will definitely run through his mind...

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Thank you so much sir for your input...
But see eh...
The possibility of him allowing his mother inlaw to stay is very slim, if not non-existent...

Imagine, your mother travels all the way from the village, and after a very stressful journey she expects to rest in her son's house, and the moment she gets there, she is told she can't stay in her son's house, all because her daughter in-law is threatening to rain fire and brimestone...
It's truly hurtful and this guy loves his mum like mad (his father died about a decade ago so his mum has been his all)...

And now that the wife is in the same delimma her husband was a while ago, do you think he'll just allow it like that?? Come on na, let's be real here...

The husband will think that, if we couldn't make an exception for my mother, why should I make an exception for hers?? Is it because her mother is better than mine?? Or is there something that's so special about her mom??

Thoughts like this will definitely run through his mind...

I get. If na me sef I no go gree...but whatever decision they arrive at, they need to redefine the terms of their union. Men should stop seeing themselves as equals to their wives and start making sensible policies to guide the conduct of behavior at home.