Wednesday, June 1, 2011[size=14pt]
Desmond Elliot comments on the Kenyan Ambassador wife battery saga[/size]

I put the comments by the actor here because when the guys from Kenya called me, they kept saying, speak with your Nollywoood stars, they've been here, they've seen what this woman is capable of, blah, blah blah. Desmond Elliot who was with the High Commissioner in Kenya over the weekend with other Nollywood stars.

He's been tweeting all morning about the incident. In his tweets, he wrote that he believes the woman deliberated planned this to embarrass and disgrace her husband and the nation of Nigeria that the commissioner represents. Read it after the cut,

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Desmond in Kenya over the weekend


I felt bad for the high commissioner's wife but something just didn't add up,the pic looked very worked on, doctored' my sentiments I shared wit my colleagues

Also being an ardent viewer of crime n investigation it ws very obvious I wasn't the only one, I believe the high coms wife watches as well

Told the high com about the concerns of my peeps on tweet n facebook n he gave me his side of the story, not because I was the Nigerian govt but because I was in Kenya on the high com's bill n I represented the Nigerian people as well

Now the high coms side of the story obviously would favour him but wen the children of the victim come out to cry foul then u become concerned

I met wit the high com daughter (Ada) at a mall and I asked about the incident and she was just as shocked and surprisd that her mother wld do such a thing guess wat she was home on that fateful day may the 11th

The high com confirmed to me there was a heavy argument that fateful day but said he never inflicted injury on his wife, the daughter confirmed that to me, the son as well wrote a statement to the police
The victims daughter said she was shocked when she saw two cuts on her mums face (surprised how her mum got them) and she asked her son to get her her camera then used her hand to rub her the blood over her face and took the pic HERSELf (which is what we all have seen)

So questions that comes to my mind and to that of the victims daughter. 1, why would madam release the pics 2wks after the incident. 2, was it a mere coincidence that the pics came out when an important event organized by d high com just started. 3, why did the pic com out just 2wks b4 the high com retires after putting over 25 yrs of his life serving his country as a diplomat?

Now am not saying the high com is a saint,he wasn't when he was arguing wit his wife , he wasn't when he PROBABLY pushed her but was that a reason for madam to go all out to kill a man's career?
My peeps I implore this great govt of Nigeria as they listen to both sides of the story to pl careful judge this case with caution, I believe after listening to their daughter, that the wife exaggerated the injury (that is if she didn't cut herself), madam deliberately planned this to embarrass and disgrace her husband and the nation of Nigeria that the commissioner represents.
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http://lindaikeji..com/2011/06/desmond-elliot-comments-on-kenya.html

such a story!

^^^ very twisted story really!

How does it concern me

Hurray! High commissioner and his wife are the newest up and coming Nollywood actor/actress!!

The high com confirmed to me there was a[b] heavy argument that fateful day[/b] but said he never inflicted injury on his wife, the daughter confirmed that to me, the son as well wrote a statement to the police
The victims daughter said she was shocked when she saw two cuts on her mums face (surprised how her mum got them) and she asked her son to get her her camera then used her hand to rub her the blood over her face and took the pic HERSELf (which is what we all have seen)

I guess it is only illiterates that watch nollywood films. What a dumb man is this Desmond.
And he called himself crime investigator.
Heavy argument  and blood?, how does the blood come out?. His defense statement has nailed the man already.

Dramatic. . . Always good to hear the other side of the story.

Baba_O:

I guess it is only illiterates that watch nollywood films. What a dumb man is this Desmond.
And he called himself crime investigator.
Heavy argument  and blood?, how does the blood come out?. His defense statement has nailed the man already.

use your common sense. . . .

---desmond never said he is a crime investigator. he said he watches a tv channel called "crime and investigation".
---the blood came about when the woman injured herself in the tussle and scuffle.
---the woman then took advantage of her bleeding and got herself a bloodied face to convince the police that she has been severely beaten.
---desmond is not dumb, you are. . . .

^^^^^
LMAO
I guess he never heard of the term "self inflicted"

hmmmn!indeed.

Desmond Idiot, sorry Eliot, you like women so much. Even in your movies. " I met the daughter( Ada) and she said" Why didn't you meet the Son first? I know it was because of that girl you went to the High Commissioners house. Pretender.

drgica74:

Desmond , sorry Eliot, you like women so much. Even in your movies. " I met the daughter( Ada) and she said" Why didn't you meet the Son first?  I know it was because of that girl you went to the High Commissioners house. Pretender.

Very silly comment. You are fit not to live among the living if this is how u reason. What does the role he plays in movies got to do with his real life. Go look urself in the mirror, and read out what u wrote above, i bet u willl knw/see how silly u are without been told.

Shame on both of the Wigwe's for further soiling the battered image of nigeria.

BTW Desmond and his nollywood folks should do a movie titled The High Com.

Well, think the son should be in a better position to come out to air what actually transpired between the mother and father.

God only can solve this problem. The woman needs to be taken to The Synagogue Church of All Nations here in Nigeria and this will be resolved. The woman might be acting under the influence of an evil spirit who wants to destroy the family. She needs deliverance.

If the Son will have the opportunity to read this message, he should go to the Church by himself and this will be over and the family will be united. God only can resolve this and His name only will be glorified.

andyanders:

Well, think the son should be in a better position to come out to air what actually transpired between the mother and father.

God only can solve this problem. The woman needs to be taken to The Synagogue Church of All Nations here in Nigeria and this will be resolved. The woman might be acting under the influence of an evil spirit who wants to destroy the family. She needs deliverance.

If the Son will have the opportunity to read this message, he should go to the Church by himself and this will be over and the family will be united. God only can resolve this and His name only will be glorified.

Kenyan Ambassador's" Son speaks Who beat my Mother


The Real Tessy Wigwe, Written By Nelson Wigwe (Son)



First of all let me say how angry, sad and disappointed I am at the public who have already ridiculed my father H.E Dr Chijoke W Wigwe without hearing all the facts. Without talking to the people who were there, without talking to the people who know him best. Without talking to the people who know H.E Tess Wigwe and know exactly what she is capable of. For days, I have been holding back information because my mother H.E Tess Wigwe is the woman who bore me, the woman who raised me, and she is the woman who has provided for me my whole life. But with that said I cannot sit back and allow her to ruin my father’s life and disgrace Nigeria like this. Now before I continue I think it’s crucial that you know a couple of facts. I have lived with my mother my whole life. I have never and will never put anyone before her. So if you’re silly enough to think that I will lie for my father against my mother? You are sadly mistaken.



On May the 11, I was in my bedroom lying down listening to music when I heard a loud commotion coming from my mother and fathers room. I heard my mother shouting telling my father “I cook food for you and you don’t eat” I thought nothing of it because my mother and father argue a lot, so I ignored it at first. But then the commotion got louder. That’s when I left my room to investigate what was going on. When I arrived, I found my mother and father arguing in the hallway. My mother was yelling at me “look at my face, look at what your father did” I looked at my mother’s face and she had some cuts and small amounts of blood on it, her face was nothing like those horrific pictures that we all saw in the star on May the 26 2011.  I tried to calm my mother down and I escorted her into her bedroom to clean her face. I took a face towel and soaked it with dettol and tried to clean her face but she refused. “No” my mother shouted “I want to show everyone what your father has done, I want the press and everybody to see”. I mean she was not complaining of any pain, she was not holding any part of her body in pain. She was not dazed or confused apart from the small cuts, she was fine.

My mother told the star that “she was rescued by her 20 year old son and her 23 year old daughter” but that’s a lie because I found them arguing in the hall. My mother also said in the same interview “He grabbed me by the hand and when I tried to pull away, he hurled me against the wall and started punching me” But when I arrived at the scene I saw my mother and father having an argument, like all husbands and wife’s have now and again.

So after my mother refused that I should clean her face. She incredibly asked me to look for her camera. She said and I quote “Nelson look for my camera, I want people to see what your father has done, I want everybody to know what happened even the press” to say I was shocked was an understatement, my mother claims that my father “battered” her but yet here she is, looking around for her camera, instead of telling me to take her to hospital. Could it be that my mother is lying?

She eventually found her camera and phoned her friend to come and pick her up. My mother then went outside of the house to wait for her friend. On the way out my mother took photos of her face. My father locked the front door because at this point my mother was shouting at the top of her voice, saying, “I will finish you this Chijioke Wigwe, and you shall see what will happen”

She also mentioned my father’s term, and mentioned that the possibility of any future opportunity for him, she will destroy. As she waited outside for her friend to arrive, my mother was shouting wild accusations at the top her voice. “Your father sleeps around with woman; your father is an evil man” My father was furious with these accusations and unlocked the door to confront my mother but I held him back. My mother continued to disgrace herself by shouting “ Chijoke Wigwe you are not fit to be Ambassador, you are a coward, your mother is a LovePeddler, I will finish you here in Kenya, mark my words”

At this point, me, my sister, the chef and the security man, are all trying to calm her down, but she was continuing to shout and trying to fight. My nephew was also there, who is a small child, but It didn’t seem to bother her that he was witnessing the argument. She continued and my sister begged with her to stop for the sake of her son. It was not long after this point that she went looking for bricks and pot plants that are located around the residence. She picked up a pot plant and tried to throw it. My sister stopped her and the contents were spilled all over her as a result. When that didn’t succeed, she eventually picked up a brick and hurled it at the window. Twice. Eventually shattering it. This is the person who claimed to have suffered injuries including severe back pain. So, how, therefore, did she manage to hurl large objects and break our security windows?



She eventually calmed down, and that was when her friend came. My father then left the house to see who had arrived, and told the person to just leave. They drove away.



Maybe everyone is confused as to why my Mother would do something like this.

Before my mother left London, it was agreed that every month my Father would be using a large portion of his allowance to pay her mortgage. That means that for the past two and a half years, my Mother has been sending that money to London to pay her mortgage for her house. Problems entailed when she realized that the so called trust worthy person was in fact keeping every cent of that money. So, as we speak, she is in serious debt.

I cannot stress the amount of times that my mother has been worrying about the repossession of her house in London, due to the theft.

When it comes to money, my mother is like a lioness protecting her cub. She will stop at nothing to try and make up for the loss of that money.

Including, but not limited to, lying to my father, and the embassy. Saying that things in the house were broken or needed repair, receiving the money for it, then keeping the money to herself. Despite the fact that there is never any food in the house, which she receives a large amount each month for, she managed to pay for a plane ticket for her old friend from England to arrive here. This now being the new person entrusted with the payment of her mortgage.

Yet, despite this expensive plane ticket, and the sheer thousands of pounds that are sent back to London, our Nigerian residence here, is somewhat of a joke. The five security dogs that we have here, who are Rottweiler’s by the way, are all suffering from malnutrition and some are starving.

She receives around 20,00ksh for these dogs, yet a mere 3,000 is what is used per month to feed these large animals. Instead of a diet of meat and protein, they receive rice!

My sister has been here since April from the US. When she arrived, true to my mother’s nature, she started once again into a long ongoing fight with her. Banning her from using the car, making her and my nephew take taxi cabs and finally telling our chef he is not allowed to prepare food for her! My sister even had to use her American bank card just so she could eat!



The same thing happened to me in 2008, when I myself arrived with her from London. Not allowing me to use the car, or buying food. I was even accused of conniving against her with an old lady that was brought here from a village in Nigeria to work on the residence. Now, bare in mind this is a small woman in stature, and also quite feeble. This woman was battered by my mother as she accused her of turning me against her.

She then ordered that the woman not be allowed to eat, or drink at all. I remember secretly making a meal for her as I felt bad, but she came in and saw me and an argument ensued. After everything that this woman was put through, which for her was hell, she was then made to leave. The other staff members have followed the same fate. Some have lost their jobs other were merely fired, based on the fact she thought they were silly.

Prior to her arrival most of these people had their jobs for a long time. An example was a man called Ibraham who was not only my father’s driver but a driver to many other diplomats before him. My Mother was actually jealous of the close friendship they had. So, next thing we knew, he was fired. Most if not all of our current staff all work in fear of her.

In my 20 years of existence, I have actually never once witnessed an act of unkindness from my father.

My mother on the other hand, well, this is the woman who I have the worst memories of growing up. Especially concerning my sister. Which is why I’m disgusted at the hypocrisy of her “battered woman” claim.

There were many times when I would witness her picking on and beating my older sister, then I would write letters to her and slip them under her bedroom door as I heard her crying on the other side. I will never forget that.

At 16 she was kicked out of the house, and my mother will deny doing so to this day, even though we ALL witnessed it. In London, when my sister was pregnant at 24, I have never seen such evil behaviour towards her. We all thought it would get better, but it didn’t. A great example of this is when we had a small mouse that used to always appear now and then, in the kitchen.

Although heavily pregnant and working at the time, my mother ordered my sister who was tired, and going through bad bouts of morning sickness, to clean the mouse droppings. When she asked if I could do it she was told, no and an argument ensued and she was almost made to do it. My sister stood her ground and refused.

She would also spray air freshener in the room my sister was staying in, although she knew certain smells were literally making her sick. As a result, my sister not only left my mother’s house, although she had nowhere to go, but she went all the way to New York, 6months pregnant with about 30 dollars to her name. She even had to ask her GP for permission to travel as she was so heavy at that point.

As for my Father, on top of NEVER raising a hand to any of us, He has literally supported us in any way he can.

My sister used to live with him in New York and study fashion and photography. He used to also pay her rent in California just because she was unable to work. He has paid for even our brother’s girlfriends to come and visit in New York and elsewhere. He has always let us have our friends over and used to take us out to the cinema, to the park, to play, and to watch us at our sports games for support.

My mother wouldn’t even let friends of ours in the house. My Father is loved and she has always hated that. She never understood why people didn’t take to her the same way. It never occurred to her that the way she treated people would have an effect on how they saw her.

His kindness extends to his staff and they all reap the benefits of this. He never thought himself higher than anyone else and for this, his staff always received respect from him despite his powerful positions.

My Father’s good nature has influenced us all. His love for music, has influenced all of us. His love of the arts, has brought out a brilliant talent in my sister which he has always encouraged and nurtured. He would wake up every day and put on Bob Dylan and listen to classical music.

We have fond memories of him listening to his music, dancing and even making up his own lyrics to make us laugh.

He is kind and very funny and even though my nephew has not been here long, Grandad is the one he runs to whenever he would return home.

After events, he would come home, sit down with a small glass of whiskey and tell us interesting stories. He never raised his voice or yelled at us. He was always calm and peaceful. This is his true nature. Not the barbaric monster he has been made out to be. One of my brother’s got wind of the news in London and called him crying, and devastated. We all are. This is not the father we have grown up to, love and adore. It hurts us to see such mean things said about him.

I haven’t even lived with my Father my whole life. Yet, the times that I was staying with him due to his occupation, were some of the best times and memories of my life. Like Warsaw Poland, Manhattan in New York, and then here in Nairobi, Kenya.

I have lived with my mother my entire life, so I hope it’s understood the difficulty in me writing this letter. But, I must do it. For the sake of my family, for the sake of Nigeria and the reputation my father has worked so hard to achieve.

But the truth must be known to all not just me.

Written By Nelson Wigwe (Son Wigwes)

http://www.9jabook.com/forum/topics/kenyan-ambassadors-son-speaks

shameless family

women sometimes r just too, arrrrggghhh

i understand ur problem is mother not been the mother. my friend just take heart. your mother took this too far. justice and truth works together.

Women! This woman has just messed up this man's life. I feel they shud put the man on suicide watch cos this may be difficult for him to bear!

IT IS EASIER TO LIVE WITH A BAD MAN THAN WITH A BAD WOMAN,

MY GUYS PLEASE DONT MARRY BLINDLY. A BAD WOMAN IS MORE DEVIL-LIKE THAN A BAD MAN. GOD HELP US ALL.

Desmond is a young man I don't think will just open his mouth and talk just for the sake of it,so I find his narrative believable,plus I saw those concocted pictures of the woman with blood all over her face and just knew immediately that those things were conjured

LMAO,

Most Nlers read others comment from bottom to top, that is why they find it hard to understand what other people pass across as their opinion on issues.

Desmond assertion here has been openly misunderstood by some. Even if some of us don't like him (personally, he is not my kind of person) but that does not mean he is senseless. He (a family friend) made his assertion based on his interaction with one of the daughters of the spouses involved in this dishonourable act. This does not mean that he spoke in favour of one at the expense of the other. Of course, he is entitled to his opinion like any other person. He was not there when this happened and we were not either.

We made our own opinion based on what we read or hear. The fact remains that somebody would be vindicated sometime soon. There is nothing hidden under the sun.

No be small thing oooo

rafhell:

A BAD WOMAN IS MORE DEVIL-LIKE THAN A BAD MAN. GOD HELP US ALL.

Kind of true sha. A bad woman goes to unthinkable extremes. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". But only God knows the truth in this case.

honestly dat woman be like she barely survived a religious massacre. please sprinkle some salt on that story first. i trust desmond, e go don land the woman daughter already; for bed.

all is well dat ends well: for one.

the world is a stage - ah! I think someone already said that before - everybody wants to win; desmond, the man matcheter, woman matcheted, daughter if she so spoke, son if he so wrote. such an old woman, if never matcheted all this while in marriage and now at old age and 2 weeks to her husband's retirement, presenting this case and pictures says something: suspicious, sniff , sniff!

Since the wife has succeeded in destroying the husband (just as she allegedly threatened to), let her also come back home to Nigeria and return to farm in her village. She just destroyed a career spanning around 25 years. Terrible woman she is, even if her husband beat her up, she could have considered her children's future, the family name and the times things were smooth between them. A Yoruba adage says ''Irorun igi, ni irorun eye'', meaning, ''comfort for the tree branch will translate to comfort for the bird that perches on it''. I'm not justifying wife battery, but there's always something better she could've done.

This act of speaking up in defence of another man's honor and integrity has shown Mr Desmond Eliot as a man of noble character and he has earned my respect. I wish other public figures will speak out for the voiceless, suppressed and oppressed masses. It's Wigwe today who knows whose turn it could be tomorrow.

Women!! I wish I'm already married. Now because of so many things I've seen and heard about women, I'm so scared of them. How am I going 2 manage a woman under my roof, or do u mean in my room? sori, I'm just thinking aloud!