jclassiq:

Yeah, but you must choose your own burden -- burden of loneliness or burden of caring for another human being

Do you know why many kids end up abandoned or abused?
It is because people pretend they can mask or resolve one problem by picking up another to carry.

Children don't resolve problem of loneliness and a selfish individual does not automagically transform into an altruistic being after having kids. A child is not a toy or or tool.

Kobojunkie:
Do you know why many kids end up abandoned or abused?
It is because people pretend they can mask or resolve one problem by picking up another to carry.

Children don't resolve problem of loneliness and a selfish individual does not automatically become altruistic by having kids. A child is not a toy or or tool.

A man? Love interest? I see no reason why one would abandon their kids if they got d means to care for them. Ever heard about emotional anchors? Kids could give one a sense of responsibility and attachment but its important to find a partner as well

Ok

AutoChick4U:
A man? Love interest? I see no reason why one would abandon their kids if they got d means to care for them. Ever heard about emotional anchors? Kids could give one a sense of responsibility and attachment but its important to find a partner as well

Tell that to the hundreds of kids abandoned for one reason or another by parents who no longer want them or they are an inconvenience to.

Kids could give one a sense of responsibility and attachment, but that sense can also fade over time, leading to devastating outcome for the child in question. We hear stories of such things happening every day, and having a partner is no guarantee for the children either. So unless a person is ready to shoulder the full consequence of having a child, it is best to look for emotional anchors elsewhere... in a sibling maybe.

Kobojunkie:
Tell that to the hundreds of kids abandoned for one reason or another by parents who no longer want them or they are an inconvenience to.

Kids could give one a sense of responsibility and attachment, but that sense can also fade over time, leading to devastating outcome for the child in question. We hear stories of such things happening every day, and having a partner is no guarantee for the children either. So unless a person is ready to shoulder the full consequence of having a child, it is best to look for emotional anchors elsewhere... in a sibling maybe.

Or pets

That's really painful. But I have 2 kids, I'm 35, if you don't mind to be a second wife

AutoChick4U:
Or pets

I would rather anyone needing an emotional anchor seek the help of a psychiatrist instead.