by Chief Tola Adeniyi, a former MD of Daily Times.

Society must rethink this issue of pretentious monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-too-distant future we do not end up with millions of unmarried women whose life style would be worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.

The article is designed to expose the hypocrisy and pain associated with embracing false notions which are really not observed by any culture in the world, and to advise those who erroneously sentence themselves to a life of sadness and emptiness because they were deceived to believe that there is some utopia somewhere called monogamy.

I am very much aware that this article will generate a lot of controversy most especially from those who live holier-than-thou life and have continued to deceive the world that they are upholders of a doctrine that is not supported by true and enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine.

My Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and other Caucasians routinely visit their other wives [called by other names] with whom they have children. But back in the homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are monogamists!
If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous He would not have made the pigeon the only monogamous creature. The cultures that practice polygamy had always known that at any given time, the number of available marriageable women far out number available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old man, if he has money, is still very much in the market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not be that lucky. The biological limitation to a woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why should a woman therefore remain on the shelf till age 45 when she could jolly well get married as second or fourth wife to a man *who can afford to share life’s responsibilities with her*? Why should a woman leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply because he took a second wife and end up being numberless in the hands of several men with whom she naturally shares bed just because of some doctrine she hardly understands?

All the women who should go and marry but are saying they do not want to share their man with another woman in a polygamous setting, are sharing current boyfriends with several other women. Where is the logic?

The argument that children in a polygamous house are always at each other’s throat does not hold water. Many siblings of monogamous families are sometimes known to have had worse and irresolvable or irreconcilable squabbles with dirty bitterness over inheritance or even other matters than children from different mothers.

The agony suffered by both men and women in the hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling for comfort. In 2002, five hundred and two Reverend mothers were reported to have died while procuring abortion in Rome (alone). Nigerian Tribune wrote an editorial on the unfortunate incident. And stories of Reverend fathers having children and sodomising young men in their care are legion! Why the hypocrisy? Why should the world continue to live the life of Ostrich?

A well known Nigerian journalist hide his other wives from his wife because his religion would not permit of it and his wife, living in monogamy should not hear of it. At his funeral service programmes, 9 wives surfaced and the woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the grace of God that prevented double internment that day!

Mitterrand, the former French president was discovered to have side attachment with 2 kids after he died. Meanwhile French laws restrict man to only one wife. Arnold Schwarzenegger who was married to JF Kennedy's sister had a troubling home. He disclosed to the wife that the male child the former house maid was carrying about was actually his son. That day the Kennedy lady did not sleep in that house. She parked out of the house that night with her 3 kids. She cannot tolerate to share her husband with another woman. She is there with no other man.

So, over to those whose opinion is hinged on whatever reason to rethink. This is becoming a wild fire that will leave no home in no distant time.

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Supporting and practicing polygamous is more good to us. It will definitely reduce the number of women in unforseen circumstances.

IF YOU REJECT ALLAH'S LAWS, WHAT YOU'LL GET ARE MAN-MADE FLAWS.

The author already defeated his point with the numerous examples of fainting, shock, separation and other negative reactions he recorded women as having when they became aware of their husband's martial infidelities.
To say polygamy is a cure for marital infidelity is to simply ignore what women want in preference of what men want. I personally believe men by nature tend to be polygamous. But my religion teaches me and I've also learned from personal observation, that humans enjoy exclusivity. The writer is simply writing in defense of his patriarchal preferences. Should we put the shoe on the other foot? Let women also be free to marry as many as they wish? After all, our present society has egalitarianism as an ideal. No one naturally wants to be second or third. It's a natural inclination. So monogamy is a logical response to that inclination.
To claim that due to an excess of women, men should marry more of them is a very weak point to say the least. I don't even expect anyone to push such lame idea.

As much as there are problems in polygyny (my preferred term for the common polygamy), there are as much problems in monogamy.

Hypocrisy is when people forbid polygyny and then have multiple sexual partners. Some marry one woman legally and others traditionally in seclusion!

We should stop deceiving ourselves!

Many women are almost 40 or over so how many single men will be available to marry them?

And a woman who marries more than one man in an African setting can only be called one name!

It's easy for a master key to open several doors! But a door that is opened by several keys is as useless as a dumpsite.

Lol.