And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

thought you've seen one you wanted to share...its not bad to help or assist your wife in anyway you can to the best of my knowledge,but to that extent of washing napkins I sense something seems to be wrong...over to the more experienced

Happy family dey vex society too.

Are those guys complaining?
Because if they are not, what's your objective here?

shaybebaby:
Are those guys complaining?
Because if they are not, what's your objective here?

They may not be complaining, but that's why they die early

That the man does the chores doesn't make him the wife in the marriage. People find out what works for them in their marriage and stick to it for peace of mind.
I know of a rich man who doesn't pay a dime for the upkeep of his house, his wife or even his teenage children, his wife does all from her earnings. The wife has not divorced him for being so, maybe that's what works for them as they're still staying together.

APCNig:

They may not be complaining, but that's why they die early

So participating in house chores reduces the life expectancy of men? Really? Can you hear yourself? Lol

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

This is actually ideal because marriage is a joint venture. Both the wife and husband hands' need to be on deck in home affairs. The wife is not a slave. There's nothing wrong in washing your OWN baby's clothes as a FATHER. It is your responsibility to care for your OWN child in all areas not just financially. This is why most children grow up and don't give a shit about their fathers because the man never made any attempts to actually care for them physically and emotionally.

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

So 3 months after delivery, you would allow your wife do hard labour? If she cleans the house and makes complex meals under intense heat in the kitchen, you would sit your fat arse down to eat? All within 3 months of delivery? Omo. You no get conscience. You want to kill somebody's daughter just cos she got married to you. If we probe further now, your monthly salary may barely be able to afford a good chef yet you want the mother of your child to do 10 people's job 3 months after delivery.

Some of you need to unlearn this act of wickedness you learned from your grandparents. If the wicked government is sensible enough to grant 3 months of paid leave to nursing mothers, why can't you oga?? Someone you're supposed to pamper for like 6 months..! Even if you're the crowned Prince of patriarchy, you should know that your newborn deserves all the attention.

Hyerin:


This is actually ideal because marriage is a joint venture. Both the wife and husband hands' need to be on deck in home affairs. The wife is not a slave. There's nothing wrong in washing your OWN baby's clothes as a FATHER. It is your responsibility to care for your OWN child in all areas not just financially. This is why most children grow up and don't give a shit about their fathers because the man never made any attempts to actually care for them physically and emotionally.

Honestly, with the way most men sound like they're doing women (their wives) a ground-shaking favor by taking care of their own children, you'd wonder if we're dealing with people with humanity. Don't be surprised those 3 months are the only 3 months in which he will ever do anything remotely physically caring in the baby's life. Yet he will make such a huge deal of it.

Most of such comments are from little boys.

The machismo reeks of insensibility.

I believe no sensible lady would allow her husband wash napkin unless he insists.

God knows I'd rather dispose it and use a new one every time.

Oh so you want the wife to die early abi. ?

Don't we have wives that pay bills too does that make them the husbands as well.

Sometimes we forget that women are humans. They shouldn't be overburden with so much when the husband can be of help with the chores or provide the finances.


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BRATISLAVA:


Honestly, with the way most men sound like they're doing women (their wives) a ground-shaking favor by taking care of their own children, you'd wonder if we're dealing with people with humanity. Don't be surprised those 3 months are the only 3 months in which he will ever do anything remotely physically caring in the baby's life. Yet he will make such a huge deal of it.

Most of such comments are from little boys.

The machismo reeks of insensibility.

Men are still stuck in the stone age. They've refused to grow and learn and actually adapt to changes that's why they keep on romanticizing and reminiscing about the past because then, misogyny was the state of things. Women suffered in silence and accepted their lot in life while they enjoyed the deification that came with simply possessing a phallus. Now that those days are largely gone and won't ever come back, they've embraced being perpetually stagnated and angry at the world now that their characters and behaviours are questioned thus, highlighting their inadequacies and deficiencies. They can no longer run under the cloak of "protector and provider" for shield since women work now. They can no longer make it a personality; they now have to actually develop one and this has left them shattered and disillusioned.

It honestly beats me how men's thinking sometimes defies logic yet, they're still afforded the grace of being seen as "logical" even by women. Taking care of a child they helped create is seen as a chore and they feel, they're not as equally responsible. It's asinine the way they treat their seed; a part of them. If they don't want to be responsible for caring for their kids then they should simply not reproduce. A child needs loving and nurturing from both parents and when it's deprived from one side, problems set in. Alot of maladjusted people won't be the way they are if they had loving fatherly figures in their lives. Not one who drops school fees money and feels that's the only requirement needed; the height of parenting. Even when they are actively involved, they think it's praiseworthy. The barest of minimums.

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

So na only wife suppose wash family clothes in a marriage?

Is your ego that fickle to begin with?

The truth na be say anything wey go make peace dey my family,I go do am......E no concern wetin society people go talk

Hyerin:


Men are still stuck in the stone age. They've refused to grow and learn and actually adapt to changes that's why they keep on romanticizing and reminiscing about the past because then, misogyny was the state of things. Women suffered in silence and accepted their lot in life while they enjoyed the deification that came with simply possessing a phallus. Now that those days are largely gone and won't ever come back, they've embraced being perpetually stagnated and angry at the world now that their characters and behaviours are questioned thus, highlighting their inadequacies and deficiencies. They can no longer run under the cloak of "protector and provider" for shield since women work now. They can no longer make it a personality; they now have to actually develop one and this has left them shattered and disillusioned.

It honestly beats me how men's thinking sometimes defies logic yet, they're still afforded the grace of being seen as "logical" even by women. Taking care of a child they helped create is seen as a chore and they feel, they're not as equally responsible. It's asinine the way they treat their seed; a part of them. If they don't want to be responsible for caring for their kids then they should simply not reproduce. A child needs loving and nurturing from both parents and when it's deprived from one side, problems set in. Alot of maladjusted people won't be the way they are if they had loving fatherly figures in their lives. Not one who drops school fees money and feels that's the only requirement needed; the height of parenting. Even when they are actively involved, they think it's praiseworthy. The barest of minimums.

How can one like your post 1000 times? You are an automatic rifle.

We know they only want the stone age just to shame women into the old way of things where they aren't questioned and are worshipped. They don't like to bring the steak home, though. Or build the cave. Lest they die first. They want to marry much younger women and still don't want to die first. They want to cheat time, too?

For starters, the topic is a stupid one and highlights how lazy and selfish a lot of men are. Is there some manual that says only women are to deal with sick and stool without feeling the same way men feel about such things? Just 3 months and hear how challenging it is to their masculinity.

I've been saying it for a while on the forum. Without money, what exactly do Nigerian men have that is desirable? Usually nothing. Extract money from them and all you will have is an egotistic misogynist Neanderthal with nothing appealing.

This is why when they are broke their true self is laid bare and the women bolt. Or after spending so much on her, a lady dumps them. They think women are stupid and desperate not to know these things. So much for being the custodians of logic. Instead of acknowledging the truth, they begin their useless red pill manipulations and look for how to remain the same they've been.

The day is coming when men will be scrutinized and treated with the same standards they impose on women.

Karleb:
I believe no sensible lady would allow her husband wash napkin unless he insists.

God knows I'd rather dispose it and use a new one every time.

I really dont follow at all. So, it is not sensible to expect you to wash your own child's underwear because.....

Hyerin:

Now that those days are largely gone and won't ever come back, they've embraced being perpetually stagnated and angry at the world now that their characters and behaviours are questioned thus, highlighting their inadequacies and deficiencies. They can no longer run under the cloak of "protector and provider" for shield since women work now. They can no longer make it a personality; they now have to actually develop one and this has left them shattered and disillusioned.

The barest of minimums.

Couldn’t say it better even if I tried

Acidosis:


Even if you're the crowned Prince of patriarchy, you should know that your newborn deserves all the attention.

Prince of patriarchy. Lmao

Hyerin:


Men are still stuck in the stone age. They've refused to grow and learn and actually adapt to changes that's why they keep on romanticizing and reminiscing about the past because then, misogyny was the state of things. Women suffered in silence and accepted their lot in life while they enjoyed the deification that came with simply possessing a phallus. Now that those days are largely gone and won't ever come back, they've embraced being perpetually stagnated and angry at the world now that their characters and behaviours are questioned thus, highlighting their inadequacies and deficiencies. They can no longer run under the cloak of "protector and provider" for shield since women work now. They can no longer make it a personality; they now have to actually develop one and this has left them shattered and disillusioned.

It honestly beats me how men's thinking sometimes defies logic yet, they're still afforded the grace of being seen as "logical" even by women. Taking care of a child they helped create is seen as a chore and they feel, they're not as equally responsible. It's asinine the way they treat their seed; a part of them. If they don't want to be responsible for caring for their kids then they should simply not reproduce. A child needs loving and nurturing from both parents and when it's deprived from one side, problems set in. Alot of maladjusted people won't be the way they are if they had loving fatherly figures in their lives. Not one who drops school fees money and feels that's the only requirement needed; the height of parenting. Even when they are actively involved, they think it's praiseworthy. The barest of minimums.

The "our mothers and grandmothers did it" gang.

Their ego, power and reason for survival all attached to being a boss and lording over their wives. And chores like bathing their own child and doing other things around the house cannot soil that image they have created.

Acidosis:


So 3 months after delivery, you would allow your wife do hard labour? If she cleans the house and makes complex meals under intense heat in the kitchen, you would sit your fat arse down to eat? All within 3 months of delivery? Omo. You no get conscience. You want to kill somebody's daughter just cos she got married to you. If we probe further now, your monthly salary may barely be able to afford a good chef yet you want the mother of your child to do 10 people's job 3 months after delivery.

Some of you need to unlearn this act of wickedness you learned from your grandparents. If the wicked government is sensible enough to grant 3 months of paid leave to nursing mothers, why can't you oga?? Someone you're supposed to pamper for like 6 months..! Even if you're the crowned Prince of patriarchy, you should know that your newborn deserves all the attention.

@bold:

bukatyne:


@bold:

Words on marble.
Acidosis na man you be .

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

The man is the wife because he washes their baby & wife's clothes;

Is the woman also the husband because she pays some bills in the house?

chatinent:
Happy family dey vex society too.

It actually does.

Strange for a society that claims to like marriage.

Acidosis:


So 3 months after delivery, you would allow your wife do hard labour? If she cleans the house and makes complex meals under intense heat in the kitchen, you would sit your fat arse down to eat? All within 3 months of delivery? Omo. You no get conscience. You want to kill somebody's daughter just cos she got married to you. If we probe further now, your monthly salary may barely be able to afford a good chef yet you want the mother of your child to do 10 people's job 3 months after delivery.

Some of you need to unlearn this act of wickedness you learned from your grandparents. If the wicked government is sensible enough to grant 3 months of paid leave to nursing mothers, why can't you oga?? Someone you're supposed to pamper for like 6 months..! Even if you're the crowned Prince of patriarchy, you should know that your newborn deserves all the attention.

I doubt the poster has even married, not to talk of had a child.

A sensible man cannot see his wife go through those months of changes and the pain of delivery and not be empathetic. Doing chores would not be a point of discussion.

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Acidosis:


So 3 months after delivery, you would allow your wife do hard labour? If she cleans the house and makes complex meals under intense heat in the kitchen, you would sit your fat arse down to eat? All within 3 months of delivery? Omo. You no get conscience. You want to kill somebody's daughter just cos she got married to you. If we probe further now, your monthly salary may barely be able to afford a good chef yet you want the mother of your child to do 10 people's job 3 months after delivery.

Some of you need to unlearn this act of wickedness you learned from your grandparents. If the wicked government is sensible enough to grant 3 months of paid leave to nursing mothers, why can't you oga?? Someone you're supposed to pamper for like 6 months..! Even if you're the crowned Prince of patriarchy, you should know that your newborn deserves all the attention.

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BRATISLAVA:


Honestly, with the way most men sound like they're doing women (their wives) a ground-shaking favor by taking care of their own children, you'd wonder if we're dealing with people with humanity. Don't be surprised those 3 months are the only 3 months in which he will ever do anything remotely physically caring in the baby's life. Yet he will make such a huge deal of it.

Most of such comments are from little boys.

The machismo reeks of insensibility.

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Most of you people are not saying the truth this is Africa and we are not brought up that way a man has his duty and a woman have hers even the man u in Ikeja used Washing machine to wash the clothes while the man in Ibadan uses hand is still boil than to the main thing as a man how can you expect me as the bread winner of the family to do house chores I can clean my rooms sitting room make my environment tidy most

The two family I witness the man in lagos is not working while the man in Ibadan is working but both their wives are pompous and arrogant and see themselves as the husband in the marriage this I have notice you cant discuss any significant things with this men is their wives that have the final say is not about love something is wrong some where

Solosolojohquay:
The two family I witness the man in lagos is not working while the man in Ibadan is working but both their wives are pompous and arrogant and see themselves as the husband in the marriage this I have notice you cant discuss any significant things with this men is their wives that have the final say is not about love something is wrong some where

@ bold:

You said the bold in the previous post:

Solosolojohquay:
Most of you people are not saying the truth this is Africa and we are not brought up that way a man has his duty and a woman have hers even the man u in Ikeja used Washing machine to wash the clothes while the man in Ibadan uses hand is still boil than to the main thing as a man how can you expect me as the bread winner of the family to do house chores I can clean my rooms sitting room make my environment tidy most

Let's agree a breadwinner (and I hope it is sole breadwinner i.e. your wife doesn't contribute a dime) should not do chores; he is too big. What usefulness of a man who no longer wins bread?

You said the husband at Ikeja is not working yet you have issues with him washing clothes with a machine.

What is your ideal situation for the jobless husband?

@pompous, arrogant, not cooperative: Let's assume it is true. Is your problem the fact that a human being is like this to their spouse (husband/wife) or that wives are that way to their husbands (aka behaving like husbands).

Are you saying it is ok if the husbands were pompous, arrogant and uncooperative?