don4real18:

A reason to pull out knife on one's mum?

Pls read again, you will surely see where i condemned her. Secondly, post partum depression is real.

Ekpekus:

The question is "are you saying Nigerian husbands don't help their wives during postpartum that omugwuo would be required?

The statement was...

Surely Nigeria husbands aren't shigidi that can't lift a finger to care their own wife and kid in similar situations naw!

Your Omugwos take away from the experience is that meant solely for husband and wife in their marriage, this by introducing a third-party to lessen the burden of the experience.

Mariangeles:
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Behave!

Be reasonable!

Ninisun:



How can I write what I don't know or haven't experienced? PPD can even make a new mum to commit suicide, the nipples pain, inability to sleep at night and that of CS distabilize most mothers. Women need companions and love during the period.

so it her aggressiveness that would make her pain subside? How about she stabbed the mother to death, what would be your statement then. And who told you men don't care for their expectant wife's?

Blyzz:
so it her aggressiveness that would make her pain subside? How about she stabbed the mother to death, what would be your statement then. And who told you men don't care for their expectant wife's?

Do not conclude with one side of a story... Happy Sunday

Ninisun:



Do not conclude with one side of a story... Happy Sunday

now you've spoken! But you concluded earlier by indirectly supporting her action ..
Happy Sunday to you too!

Just let it go and forgive and let peace reign.

Kobojunkie:
Even better if her husband, her 'helper' in her marriage, is the one assisting her instead.

o please.we know a man's tolerance level is short.na him go dey wake up at 2am to change diapers or bath baby before sleep? He no go go work? A nursing mother needs someone she's more comfortable and free with.someone who understands her body.her own mother will definitely understand not another person's mother abeg.

Send her packing

irunoko:
o please. 1. we know a man's tolerance level is short. na him go dey wake up at 2am to change diapers or bath baby before sleep? He no go go work?

2. A nursing mother needs someone she's more comfortable and free with.someone who understands her body.her own mother will definitely understand not another person's mother abeg.

1. I know no such thing as the claim you have there is bold. The child is his and and it is equally his responsibility to care for it.

2. The need immediately provided her by nature is her husband, the one who she conceived the child with. A husband/boyfriend understands his wife/gal friend more intimately than any other person, including her own mother, can.

Kobojunkie:
1. I know no such thing as the claim you have there is bold. The child is his and and it is equally his responsibility to care for it.

2. The need immediately provided her by nature is her husband, the one who she conceived the child with. A husband/boyfriend understands his wife/gal friend more intimately than any other person, including her own mother, can.

are you trying to be funny or what?

So you understand postpartum depression,you understand yeast infection,torn or painful vagina as an attendant consequence of child birth,you understand stretch marks, hormonal changes and obesity after child birth with its solutions better than a mother that birthed and groomed her child for years

Kobojunkie

irunoko:
1. Are you trying to be funny or what?

2. So you understand postpartum depression, you understand yeast infection,torn or painful vagina as an attendant consequence of child birth,you understand stretch marks, hormonal changes and obesity after child birth with its solutions better than a mother that birthed and groomed her child for years

1. This is a serious issue here.

2. Yes! The solutions are given by her doctor, who is likely a male himself, and if male doctors can understand and give instructions to the woman's husband as to how to care for his wife during that period, what stops him from caring for his wife better than her mother can?

Kobojunkie:
1. This is a serious issue here.

2. Yes! The solutions are given by her doctor, who is likely a male himself, and if male doctor can understand and give instructions to her husband as fo how to care for his wife during that period, what stops him from understanding his wife better than her mother can?

so Mr husband Will leave his work to sit with her to heal together? Are those kinds of men still alive?

"Welcome in your house?" When you get married, it s no longer your house even if you alone built the house or if you built it even before you met her. That is the law, not just in developed countries, but also in Nigeria. I followed a case in Nigeria a couple of years back, somewhere in Western Nigeria where it was so established by the courts. When you marry, it becomes "our" house, not your house. And yes, if my mother is a cantankerous, quarrelsome woman who does not recognise that she is a visitor in our house, she will not be welcome. You have not asked the OP what he and his mother did to a woman who newly gave birth that drove her to desperation and pulling a knife in her own house. Not every elderly person is a nice person. In fact, it seems in our parents generation, there are a large number of them who enjoy being wicked. You don't respect someone because they are old/elderly. You respect someone who is old because they respect themselves. That's what the Good Book says : Grey headedness is a beauty when FOUND IN THE WAY OF RIGHTEOUSNESS. Not unrighteousness.

jaxxy:


So u will accept ur own mum isn’t welcomed in ur house because of ur wife?? Who draws a knife on her mother in-law??

Or that’s perfectly normal behavior to u?

irunoko:
so Mr husband Will leave his work to sit with her to heal together? Are those kinds of men still alive?

You realize that what you continue to do is fish for silly excuses, right?

Everyday across the world there are men helping nurse their wife and baby to health after delivery. Majority have not had to quit their jobs to accomplish this. So I don't see why you would think a husband has to leave his work to do so even in your Nigeria.

In Asian countries for instance, many men bath their wife and baby every morning, prepare meals and make sure all is prepared for the day, this before they leave for work. There after work routine is similar, and they continue this routine until their spouse becomes strong enough to help.

Why can't a Nigerian father do the same for his wife and baby and in his marriage?

Kobojunkie:
You realize that what you continue to do is fish for silly excuses, right?

Everyday across the world there are men helping nurse their wife and baby to health after delivery. Majority have not had to quit their jobs to accomplish this. So I don't see why you would think a husband has to leave his work to do so even in your Nigeria.

In Asian countries for instance, many men bath their wife and baby every morning, prepare meals and make sure all is prepared for the day, this before they leave for work. There after work routine is similar, and they continue this routine until their spouse becomes strong enough to help.

Why can't a Nigerian father do the same for his wife and baby and in his marriage?

but it's the same people that will accuse them of having high/ unreasonable expectations or Indian movie kind of man

irunoko:
but it's the same people that will accuse them of having high/ unreasonable expectations or Indian movie kind of man

I don't understand. Who accuses whom?

It will be good to understand why you condemned her. Do you know what that Mummy's boy and his mum had been doing and saying to her? We forget that harsh, nasty words and trying to control an individual's life by insisting on your own suggestions and ways of doing things can be worse than stabbing the person severally. I can only imagine her anguish at being told by the mother in-law how she must do things in her own house and being chastised severally and have a husband who will support his mother against his own wife. She must have gotten to the point of desperation where she determined that it is only crazy action like pulling a knife that mummy and her son will understand. I'm against violence. But don't continually mete out verbal violence and expect docility. I have not seen where she was diagnosed with a mental health challenge. So it seems she finally got desperate sine there was no succor coming from her husband.

MummyD2020:


Pls read again, you will surely see where i condemned her. Secondly, post partum depression is real.

Send her packing? You guys are fortunate the Nigeria police does not do it's duty. Else it is you the guy who will be sent packing from the house. If she is smart and intelligent, even now, you will have to leave the house for her. She is not your subordinate. She is your partner.

Ffhh:
Send her packing

franchasng:
Most of you lack sense.


You are a Nigerian and you are not a whiteman. Nigerian cultures are older than you. One of my brothers married into a very rich family. When I say rich, I mean one of the family's that currently have the Governor of one of Nigeria's states. Yet the woman went for Omugwo talkless of your mom an ordinary underpaid Nigerian lecturer that I can comfortably put on payroll.


You foolish boys with no identity love mocking your culture in the name of your foolish civilisation that you arent even among the top.


Are you or your family richer than Obi Cubana, Arthur Eze, etc that respect their cultures? Who is your family in Nigeria? Who know your family name?


How does Omugwo equate to poverty?

When my wife gave birth, nobody came for Omugwo cos her mom is late and my mom wasn't feeling so well then. Even though we had domestic workers, we still missed the fact that no grandma came for Omugwo.


So carry your useless poverty striken city wannabe mentality and gerraat



I so much hate people that despise their identity

I only stated an opinion, fool, and do t insult my mum, saying she's underpaid. What do your parents do for a living. Inferiority complex don dey do you. Okpetu

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand. Who accuses whom?

society accuses women of having high expectations if they suggest what you are talking about

irunoko:
society accuses women of having high expectations if they suggest what you are talking about

1. Nigerian society is ruled by the opinions of the foolish majority so anyone who submits to such is already beyond saving.

2. Is it a woman's place to expect these things of her husband ? Or is a man supposed to know from the start that he is meant as a 'helper' to his wife in his own marriage?

I know many a Nigerian are allergic to common sense but many of these things are programmed in lower animals that is shouldn't be that far from us in terms of sense.

NemoDatQuod:
"Welcome in your house?" When you get married, it s no longer your house even if you alone built the house or if you built it even before you met her. That is the law, not just in developed countries, but also in Nigeria. I followed a case in Nigeria a couple of years back, somewhere in Western Nigeria where it was so established by the courts. When you marry, it becomes "our" house, not your house. And yes, if my mother is a cantankerous, quarrelsome woman who does not recognise that she is a visitor in our house, she will not be welcome. You have not asked the OP what he and his mother did to a woman who newly gave birth that drove her to desperation and pulling a knife in her own house. Not every elderly person is a nice person. In fact, it seems in our parents generation, there are a large number of them who enjoy being wicked. You don't respect someone because they are old/elderly. You respect someone who is old because they respect themselves. That's what the Good Book says : Grey headedness is a beauty when FOUND IN THE WAY OF RIGHTEOUSNESS. Not unrighteousness.

I am always objective and who ever is is wrong will on the matter will get it. I hope when it comes to her own siblings they are all pretty and perfect innit? Only his mum is the ogre that’s needs to to sent to the abyss??

Make una they judge matter with sense ooo. That woman won’t treat her own mother like that even if she was so bad.

My house or our house the man is the head especially if he provides. The woman only collects without giving anything bt headache and won’t even hesitate to throw u under the bus if she ever had the power.

All ur family cannot be evil and wicked and hers are all saints. Smtn is wrong smwhere. It is normal logic.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

and the postpartum depression left as soon as her mum came abi ?

Kobojunkie:
Only the OP can answer that very question for us hence the reason why I call for him to spill the details that led up to that happening.

Who knows, maybe the husband and mum threatened to take the baby away from her ... Op needs to fill us in on what led up to it.

Ur such a small child honestly.ur thinking is low for this platform honestly

Truvelisback:
Anger must have led to that. If he handle their misunderstanding maturedly, it wouldn't have resulted to all these. He was one sided in handling the issue.

Wat stupid anger would lead a lady to pick up a knife and threaten her mother in law? Stop blaming the man when the woman is a devil.The bible says it's better for a man to live on top of a roof than to stay with a quarrelsome/hot tempered wife

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Verysmart101:
Ur such a small child honestly.ur thinking is low for this platform honestly

You are really just here to waste my time, aren't you.

I wonder what your wife could have done to make your mother fight with a woman that did CS. At least one of the two of them has issues

Kobojunkie:
You are really just here to waste my time, aren't you.

Who ur time help pls? Just read wat u wrote might be d reason to justify using a knife.May ur daughter in-law do same to u.Amen

NemoDatQuod:
It will be good to understand why you condemned her. Do you know what that Mummy's boy and his mum had been doing and saying to her? We forget that harsh, nasty words and trying to control an individual's life by insisting on your own suggestions and ways of doing things can be worse than stabbing the person severally. I can only imagine her anguish at being told by the mother in-law how she must do things in her own house and being chastised severally and have a husband who will support his mother against his own wife. She must have gotten to the point of desperation where she determined that it is only crazy action like pulling a knife that mummy and her son will understand. I'm against violence. But don't continually mete out verbal violence and expect docility. I have not seen where she was diagnosed with a mental health challenge. So it seems she finally got desperate sine there was no succor coming from her husband.

Exactly, maybe her patience has been seriously tested. We dont know the full story and the guy also garnished the topic to paint the wife bad. Really mamas boy. He should go and settle his family before running to social media. To be a man is not only to impregnate a woman

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go mumu leave her lecturing work wey she even dey look for more time to conclude research, dey urge to go abroad for omugwo, as if she's the first mother in law in d world, or na she be the first grandmum on earth, I hate to hear this useless term,,, omugwo. Africa and their useless mentality. It's is devised to attempt control the husband.

First you lack parental upbringing for you to have called your mum *mumu* am very sure you must have slapped her before. Mother in-laws that comes for Omugo are not stupid and it is not joblessness that make them to visit It create bound amongst the families.