firstbornson:
Some years ago while my father was still in the Civil Service commission, I remember a particular incident that led to his temporal suspension from the office. Someone framed him and all that. I won't bother you about the details. However, this incident took over 8 months before it was resolved. Prior to this time, we lived a very comfortable life.

What my mom did in the light of this situation is what I won't forget in a hurry.

We mom started selling cold "pure" water and drinks.

We went back to the farm, planting yam and cassava and the rest.

All these coupled with some money my father had saved kept us all.

We didn't stop school.

My mom didn't create a scene that will bring elders from the village to "settle" issue.

My mom stood by my father.

firstbornson:
Some years ago while my father was still in the Civil Service commission, I remember a particular incident that led to his temporal suspension from the office. Someone framed him and all that. I won't bother you about the details. However, this incident took over 8 months before it was resolved. Prior to this time, we lived a very comfortable life.

What my mom did in the light of this situation is what I won't forget in a hurry.

We mom started selling cold "pure" water and drinks.

We went back to the farm, planting yam and cassava and the rest.

All these coupled with some money my father had saved kept us all.

We didn't stop school.

My mom didn't create a scene that will bring elders from the village to "settle" issue.

My mom stood by my father.

yuping:
Good idea, I still remember when popsy did not get any contract for 2years mom was up and doing that woman sabi manage house even they feed neighbors, our last born takes after her. Sometimes whenever I read about bad marriages here on NL I always use my parent to have confidence that I can have a family of my own 32+ of marriage no be beans, but nairaland women/girls don't like saying their own side of the story shaa. Still sums up to their lazy altitude and negligent. Women of nowadays don't want to do anything at all even in class they will still beg you to do their assignment.
They should just do more, I'm not trying to bash them or anything I have sisters too but they should do more and be more in the society in general.

Acidosis:

There's no such thing as my wife standing by me in difficult times. We are both in the marriage. If sapa comes visiting, na the two of us go suffer. If she leaves, I leave too but... hey, she won't and I won't too.

marhez43:
If u dont have money abegii park ur load go another girls side i cannot suffer with any MAN.men double your husule

yuping:
Good idea, I still remember when popsy did not get any contract for 2years mom was up and doing that woman sabi manage house even they feed neighbors, our last born takes after her. Sometimes whenever I read about bad marriages here on NL I always use my parent to have confidence that I can have a family of my own 32+ of marriage no be beans, but nairaland women/girls don't like saying their own side of the story shaa. Still sums up to their lazy altitude and negligent. Women of nowadays don't want to do anything at all even in class they will still beg you to do their assignment.
They should just do more, I'm not trying to bash them or anything I have sisters too but they should do more and be more in the society in general.

Charmingrascal:
I remember when Mum bought Dad a car with her salaries that she saved that year.

The things I read about marriages these days makes me dread marriage. But I know that by 2023 that I will be getting married na perfect woman God go give me.

guywitzerogal:
Our parents got married when there wasn't social media and yahoo Boys, our mummy goes to church and pray for our dads, you see the set of girls and boys out now.... Them go disgrace their ancestors

Lightway:
Men should not fall for this useless thread

Women on these days are not women of before..

This generation is useless

Lightway:
Men should not fall for this useless thread

Women on these days are not women of before..

This generation is useless

Magnoliaa:


Ladies beg to do assignments in class?? Are you kidding me?? Jesus!

Kriss216:
In this present age, the only woman that will stand by you when things get boxed is your mother. Don't let anyone one deceive you.

yuping:
I'm not trying to bash any lady or intend to I'm just always curious if all ladies are terrible because no married man on NL have good thing to say about the ladies it become something to think about for me, is this how marriage is going to be? I can't see fire and dive in naaa.

KiNg0G:
If your in your early 20, marriage issue nor supposed consign you.

My pickin start to reason how to plan your life first

MNDY:
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TONYE001:


If we do a survey of failed marriages, we'd discover that men and women are both responsible.

Do we also conclude that men of these days are 'not men of before'?

Is the current generation of men also useless?

NoToPile:
Simple discussion they have turned it to another woman bashing thread.

Magnoliaa:

You don't even know how to quote well and you want to engage me? What manner of...? I don't fking care for your 'explanation' or bubble-bursting; no be you I dey quote dey follow tok. Dey your dey.

wonderr:
if you think you have gotten the right person try 6 months without giving her Kobo and see how she will define what a right person really means to your dumb head

Magnoliaa:


Ahhh. God. They asked you to share a good story... you started well, then went off track to be yabbing women and NL women. Do you fking know any of us offline?? Na curse?? Can you not just 100% share what you want to share and leave it at that?? Do you not see a good model for women in your own mom? Or do you not see as you are as a result of the brainwashing going on??

Because if we go into this deep now, you won't have any meaningful 'crime' to attribute to women, just a regurgitation of what you've been reading!

Which more?? Really. Tell me. Which more do you want them to do? How many NL women do you know to call them lazy??

Answer me this, too. Why do you say women don't like saying their own side of the story?? Why do you believe so? And have you not seen women commenting here?

How is not 'not of commenting on posts' because of our laziness? I don't get. So, if we comment on every posts, sharing our opinions, you'll say we're addicted to attention and social media, now you think we're not commenting, you're saying it's because of laziness and negligence. Do you even read what you're commenting??

Ladies beg to do assignments in class?? Are you kidding me?? Jesus!

cayorday89:
For my mum and dad, they have their ups and downs, but it's mostly argument.
For the most important aspect of this topic of women staying true to their husband goes thus, many years ago, my dad on the line of duty were attacked by armed robbers killing all except him but left with a damaged leg which was later amputated, mum took care of him, and she engaged in different businesses just to maintain the family source of income, although dads salary was not stopped but it was not enough because most were spent on treatment, drugs, amidst other things, he was a civil servant and he did not go to work for a period of six years and little or no promotion, mum took to paying my school fees while my dad focused on my siblings.

BRATISLAVA:


Why can't you people ever talk about men staying true to their wives? Or are faithfulness, perseverance and loyalty only qualities for women? Is it that you people revel in sufferings of women as a test of character, while you never give such in return?

Why must Nigerian women suffer to prove they are good enough to Nigerian men? There's a problem with Nigerian men. This over-flogged looking for who is there in the hard times only is becoming boring. As if women were built to suffer and take all manner of things from men who can't do the same.

BRATISLAVA:


Why can't you people ever talk about men staying true to their wives? Or are faithfulness, perseverance and loyalty only qualities for women? Is it that you people revel in sufferings of women as a test of character, while you never give such in return?

Why must Nigerian women suffer to prove they are good enough to Nigerian men? There's a problem with Nigerian men. This over-flogged looking for who is there in the hard times only is becoming boring. As if women were built to suffer and take all manner of things from men who can't do the same.

Magnoliaa:


Why don't you start by addressing all the questions I raised before deflecting?

You say NL women are lazy. How? How did you know that? Do you know us? Have you met any of us? Where's your proof of that?

You claim ladies don't comment because of laziness -- can you explain what you mean by that? What's does our not commenting have to do with negligence?

Is NL your basis for judging reality? You actually listen to what men say on NL and used it to judge? Between your parents' marriage and what strangers are saying online, which are you supposed to believe? Can you not think for yourself? Men say, men say, no married man say.

You also said ladies should do more -- more in what aspect? More about what?

You are a SINGLE guy that just commented on a thread, and you BADMOUTHED ladies based on what other guys are saying, now do you realize that those other guys are prolly SINGLE as you are and saying nonsense about women? How do you know all the men commenting are married? Have YOU had any (personal) bad experiences with women? Because all you're claiming is, 'one man said, one man said, a married man said.' You can't THINK for yourself, without others telling you what to think? How OLD are you?

How many married men do you know offline? How many have you met? How many comments of married men on Nairaland have you read? You want to tell me that on this thread, you can't find a man that'll have something good to say about his wife abi? Do you try to listen to the good men and the good things they have to say?

Are you a terrible person? Are all men terrible? So when feminists say men are scum and don't have anything good to say about men, they are right? I'm curious too. Because if no man has anything good to say about ladies and you reached a conclusion, then the feminists that don't have anything good to say about men are also telling the truth.

Fire? Where? So you really believe women are terrible then? Abi. And you know and believe and are already prepared to end up with a terrible woman. OK.