Onyiiobi7735:

I used to think you are mentally sound when I read your comments on topics on this forum, but today you proved me wrong.
Only a mentally deranged psycho would start ranting over someone's comment not involving him,just because it doesn't agree with the psycho's belief. And you just proved yourself to be a madman. Until one goes on social media, he or she would never realise so many lunatics in dire need of mental evaluation or better still chain and padlock, abound in thousands in this nation.

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You sure everything’s okay?

Your husband is suffering from porn and masturbation addiction, he's only seeing you as a sex object. He needs serous counselling. He needs to talk to a serious confidant for help, perhaps his father or a very mature married friend.

AJohnnasa:


That's not an excuse. It's his wife, why not discuss that with her? Plus, extended pre-intimacy before penetration can help the woman, if he feels he will always fall short during intercourse.

How will he say it,"babe,hold on a minute,let me go to the bathroom and masturbate,I'll be right back".....it sounds much better when he says,"I want to go have my bath,I'll be right back"....the only thing I find abnormal in the story is him using porn to masturbate when he already had a woman waiting in the room

It takes an average of 15minutes for a woman to cum during sex and it takes an average of 2 minutes and 30 seconds for me to ejucalate in the 1st round,and that depends on how attractive the lady is.Nature no try at all for that timing of a thing....no amount of pre-intimacy will help him,it will only worsen things

The man as lost his erection to masturbating through porn addiction. He can't have erection again like before unless he watches porn, the wife unclothedness doesn't aroused him again. Tell him to call this no 08184947539.

Amb1045:
I got this rather weird message to my inbox. This lady wrote in from Abuja. She is in her late 20's, gainfully employed and had been married for 6 months to a Successful Engineer. She noticed an unusual thing about the husband. They would smooch and all, pre-intimacy and all the works, she would be 'ready' if you know what I mean and he would just excuse himself to urinate. He wools be there for like 10mins before rejoining her to make out.

This had been happening for months and she thought that was odd. So on this fateful day, she tiptoed to find out what he always did in the Bathroom and luckily he didn't lock the door like other days and to her shock she caught him masturbaring to a porn video. She was reallt angry, shouting and raving and he refused to say anything to his defence till this day. Infact they haven't been talking since that day and it's been 2 months already.

She wants to know what she has to do?

1) The man may be having erectile dysfunction, the lady talked about her being ready but she didn't check to know if the man had erection that is stroy enough to start the work.
2) the Lady may need to improve on her romance skill, if she doesn't like pre-intimacy while the man likes it, this may cause the man to try something before making love to her
3) the lady should confront him after love making, ask him to let them try what attract him to porn. With this she can identify and help solve the man's problem or quite the marriage if his fantasy is abnormal.

Goldbw122:
He doesn't want you to get pregnant.. may be he has another wife and kids somewhere else and he just want to keep you as a side chick. Sorry.

Arrant nonsense you typed there

I think he doesn’t want to have premature ejaculation so he decided to have that so that the subsequent sex would be prolonged. He should stop doing that, he just needs to have discussion with his wife to tarry after the first intercourse and then goes for second round. With this he will get over it with his mind reconditioned

MufasaLion:


You really believe in this trash you typed? Pathetic!

keep calling thrash when you will condemn your soul due to porn and masturbation

chigoziri2403:
on point

I don't think so, I dey last more than an hour in the first round, atimes my Babe no go allow me to enter her again because she is already satisfied and tired

BarrElChapo:


Arrant nonsense you typed there

That is the fact believe it or forget it.. have you been married.

internationalman:


The man probably can't get his dîck up or can't sustain it for long when it's up without porn..

That's what too much of porn consumption does to the brain

This is very true.
What could be done to reverse this though?

samwillyco1:


I don't think so, I dey last more than an hour in the first round, atimes my Babe no go allow me to enter her again because she is already satisfied and tired

depending on how long you have abstained. . you can't last an hour if you have not had sex in 3 months

First this happened to you. His either not attracted to you or want to show you he can last on first round

bluebay:
If you can remember very well, First round sex doesn’t last at all. It’s from the second round that does last so maybe he doesn’t want to look lazy to you. He gave the first round to the toilet then wants yiu to enjoy the longer round .

Any sexually active guy would have noticed this by now. It seems most people don't pay attention to themselves.

samwillyco1:


I don't think so, I dey last more than an hour in the first round, atimes my Babe no go allow me to enter her again because she is already satisfied and tired

....Lori iro,continue!!!

Onyiiobi7735:
The destruction porn causes in marriages and relationships is terrible. And the spirit behind it is very powerful indeed.
Pornography is a form of worship to Beelzebub and Ashtaroth in this Jet age.In ancient times,these mighty Dark Angels were worshipped through temple prostitution,sex cults.

Don't lie.
It's not good, simple. Stop giving unfounded meaning to it.
Be scientific pls.

First round sex doesn’t last at all. It’s from the second round that does last.

That is why as Ministers we encourage spouses to pray for direction towards marriage,u can't rush in and rush out. Death must separate u,not division.
The deed had been done,I recommend that he goes for deliverance,and be discreet with been left alone, know what to avoid. A man that masturbate must be poor,no matter his level of wealth,that should sink in his head. His wife should not fight him,he is too ashamed of himself now, that's why he has not made of his mind to talk with him.
Pls attached to his emotional needs, support him now, until he is free from that demon.
God heal your marriage,Amen

Madam, I know say na you need the solution! I will advice not to mock your husband if he doesn't last in the first round! Make him happy, romance him wella before sex, use your body to do small shakara like peacock for your husband before the knacking begins.
Na just something wey no be anything dey cause all these things.. The solution na just small thing.. And always dey take baff together with your husband.. Make the guy man feel say you be modernized aroba for the other room. You gerrit now!

drimzsmoke:


How will he say it,"babe,hold on a minute,let me go to the bathroom and masturbate,I'll be right back".....it sounds much better when he says,"I want to go have my bath,I'll be right back"....the only thing I find abnormal in the story is him using porn to masturbate when he already had a woman waiting in the room

It takes an average of 15minutes for a woman to cum during sex and it takes an average of 2 minutes and 30 seconds for me to ejucalate in the 1st round,and that depends on how attractive the lady is.Nature no try at all for that timing of a thing....no amount of pre-intimacy will help him,it will only worsen things

After reading your epistle, I can safely conclude that most men are the cause of their problem(s). Plus, if you last less than 3 minutes in your first round of sex, that's on you.

You want nairaland to help you provide solution to that? Na wao

Amb1045:
I got this rather weird message to my inbox. This lady wrote in from Abuja. She is in her late 20's, gainfully employed and had been married for 6 months to a Successful Engineer. She noticed an unusual thing about the husband. They would smooch and all, pre-intimacy and all the works, she would be 'ready' if you know what I mean and he would just excuse himself to urinate. He wools be there for like 10mins before rejoining her to make out.

This had been happening for months and she thought that was odd. So on this fateful day, she tiptoed to find out what he always did in the Bathroom and luckily he didn't lock the door like other days and to her shock she caught him masturbaring to a porn video. She was reallt angry, shouting and raving and he refused to say anything to his defence till this day. Infact they haven't been talking since that day and it's been 2 months already.

She wants to know what she has to do?

He's addicted...That's how masturbation addict behaves. Sex is never enough for them

Kobicove:
The husband no longer finds the lady attractive that's probably why he needs something else to get him started

Exactly what I wanted to say. It do happen most times.

Usually sex with a woman for the first time to the 3rd time is usually sweet..but as time goes on, a man would not be so excited about her any more.

In this case, the man watches porn to get his diick erected like a statue.

My advice to them is to stay away from sex on weekdays and have it only on weekends. By then, the man would be having the hunger for sex, hence he wouldn't need the help of porn for a hard eerrection.

I am sure that he will get an instant hard erectiion at the sight of another na.ked woman other than his wife

Onyiiobi7735:

I used to think you are mentally sound when I read your comments on topics on this forum, but today you proved me wrong.
Only a mentally deranged psycho would start ranting over someone's comment not involving him,just because it doesn't agree with the psycho's belief. And you just proved yourself to be a madman. Until one goes on social media, he or she would never realise so many lunatics in dire need of mental evaluation or better still chain and padlock, abound in thousands in this nation.

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One thing that really baffles me is why overly religous folks become so arrogant and insulting once you choose not to believe in what they believe. With all these your words, will I, a supposed 'lost soul' be encouraged to be or sound like you bro? Is this supposed to be the way? Your way? The right way?

macanakii:


Smiles... I did not come to NL to argue, and there's no need to explain to you whether I'm married or not. So I will shut up as you've said.

Just one request from you, Can you pls link me to the publication of the research you did that gave you the 70-80% you mentioned ?

How did you achieve and maintain such calmness in the midst of a rowdy, provocative situation like this?

Most would lash out at the poster you quoted but you handled it is so well, like a Boss.

brosom:
look at who's talking, and u simply don't know a thing about marriage and More the lady didn't talk about any other problem other than her husband sexual behavior which is weird and heartbroken.

Do u think if it was not of concern she would sick for help in an puplic forum? I'm not sure u re married, but when u do, only then you'll understand the impact of sex in marriage.

Just so u don't know, sex life in marriage contributes 70% to 80% of successful marriages u are seeing today because it goes beyond bond.


So shut up and learn.!

See this olodo. Was it you who wrote and published this because whoever even thought about this is daft as hell.

Religion is overrated. Mind system is the only religion

lifenija:
he dey watch porn to bang u
now he no dey bang u again


women are plain stupid looking for better solution is not a solution for lot of them

You are actually the stupid one here with this kind of statement. If as a man, you have to masturbate to Porn before having sex with your wife then that’s a VERY BIG PROBLEM

Flier:
As a man There is no way you can last longer in bed if you have not been having sex for a very long time,the guy is just using the style as a short cut,with time he will adapt so I don’t think he need any help

He is addicted to Porn and masturbation, he obviously needs help

She has nothing to worry about.
She should concentrate on her time.

Second round is the round of life.

If you know u know.

Akayd2:

This is really not a serious problem. Most guys cum so soon every first round of sex. But the second round is always better. The guy is a shy guy who doesn't want his wife to see him as a one minute man that's why he always run to the toilet to discharge the first shot.

They are married, if you can’t share your problems with your spouses, there will always be problems in the marriage