I am hopeful someone will give me a listening ear, preferably a therapist, psychologist, wellness expert or a spirit filled counsellor and Pastor. I am at a crossroad and rock bottom due to my errors, indiscretion and bad judgement over the years and truth is i have mismanaged my potentials and goodwill.

I have to admit that i am on a steepy, downward slope and i am tired already. I don't want to self-destruct from my past, which was characterized by drinking, smoking different variants of high grade weed, such as loud, colorado and arizona: though at first it appeared i have the capacity and mental strength to handle the intake, so long it is not ciggarette, but what i did not know is that i was getting derailed despite the fact that i bagged a good degree from a reputable instituition.

That kind of lifestyle only endeared me to unscrupulous elements like internet fraudsters, cultists and people with all sorts of vices. I am tired and overwhelmed because i realized the road leads nowhere.

I am getting depressed by the day, losing my steam and scared of what tomorrow holds. I have no job despite bagging a professional degree and certification and no one to come to my succour for more than a decade after graduation.

I have been sober from drinking and smoking substance since the beginning of the year and i feel some relief in my body system and gaining my sanity.

I am very vulnerable now that i don't have a job , a trade or anything doing and in fact i have no one to confide in. I am scared of returning to a lifestyle that might finally ruin me.

I need a lifeline good people. 2ndchancey@gmail.com

MODIFIED:
I am now having a serious meltdown and i am just a walking dead. My rent expires on february 12, and i have no means to repay or get a new place. I am perplexed, overwhelmed and seriously thinking of ending it all since no help is forthcoming. Too many worries and troubles to live it.

Hmm..

Have you considered joining a church in your neighborhood? Not just any church but one that's filled with sound minds and people of your age group. It's a good way to socialize with decent people, make purpose-driven friends, and refocus your life. You can also equip yourself with quality resources online (e.g. YouTube) as you search for job opportunities. You have to be intentional about this.

Psychologists, therapists, and the rest may be able help you but their services are not cheap. So search for government-funded hospitals/consultants around you and ask for an appointment.

It's a good thing you've realized your mistakes. I rejoice with you.

Hezzyluv:
Hmm..

I have been sighing too

Acidosis:
Have you considered joining a church in your neighborhood? Not just any church but one that's filled with sound minds and people of your age group. It's a good way to socialize with decent people, make purpose-driven friends, and refocus your life. You can also equip yourself with quality resources online (e.g. YouTube) as you search for job opportunities. You have to be intentional about this.

Psychologists, therapists, and the rest may be able help you but their services are not cheap. So search for government-funded hospitals/consultants around you and ask for an appointment.

It's a good thing you've realize your mistakes. I rejoice with you.

Noted sir.
I want to be quite private about things. Most people will judge me unfairly because they might not understand my plight since they are not in my shoes and i would not want to be misjudged especially in the neigborhood, and that is why i am cautious enough and reluctant to confide in people around me.

It could boomerang.

The first thing to do is to prepare to leave your environment. Even if anyone prays for u and things kind of change for you,the environmental effect would still remain.

As a graduate,u need to always be on the move,although some would say, i really do not know anyone in Abuja or Lagos and even Port Harcourt. The thing is,as a graduate u need to go through life strong and ambitious. Why then did u find it easy to get enrolled for national service and yet u came out strong and better as a person.
Life is not always rosy that I can say with every assurance.

I remembered,when I ask my younger brother to change his environment,his reply was that,there is no place like Lagos in Nigeria and I then told him first, prepare to visit me at least and see for yourself.

When he came down,he refused to go back to Lagos and today,he got a job and married and has started his own family today. His snag was glorifying an environment that is choked and has inconvenienced many destinies.
Pls,now that u have rediscovered yourself and now on the path to full recovery,pls listen to your inner self and do not forget to remake your future. It is not late but take that bold step and see how things would turn around.

Good luck to u.

ibechris:
The first thing to do is to prepare to leave your environment. Even if anyone prays for u and things kind of change for you,the environmental effect would still remain.

As a graduate,u need to always be on the move,although some would say, i really do not know anyone in Abuja or Lagos and even Port Harcourt. The thing is,as a graduate u need to go through life strong and ambitious. Why then did u find it easy to get enrolled for national service and yet u came out strong and better as a person.
Life is not always rosy that I can say with every assurance.

I remembered,when I ask my younger brother to change his environment,his reply was that,there is no place like Lagos in Nigeria and I then told him first, prepare to visit me at least and see for yourself.

When he came down,he refused to go back to Lagos and today,he got a job and married and has started his own family today. His snag was glorifying an environment that is choked and has inconvenienced many destinies.
Pls,now that u have rediscovered yourself and now on the path to full recovery,pls listen to your inner self and do not forget to remake your future. It is not late but take that bold step and see how things would turn around.

Good luck to u.

I am very grateful for your input sir, and as desirable as the advice of changing environment is,there are few snags here and there that made it hard at this moment.

Thanks

I might not be so coherent here or be able to put many words or details on this platform but i am hapless young man, who is the subject between light and darkness.

I need advice, help, prayers, support, lifeline from this hopelessness and quagmire.

INTENTLYINTENSE:



I am very grateful for your input sir, and as desirable as the advice of changing environment is,there are few snags here and there that made it hard at this moment.

Thanks

You need to learn to stop making excuses and think about how to make possibilities from seemingly impossible situations.

I'm addition, if possible relocate out of the country through studies. USA has much institute with good funding capacities. You may need rely on your family for the funds needed to go through the processing.

GboyegaD:


You need to learn to stop making excuses and think about how to make possibilities from seemingly impossible situations.

I'm addition, if possible relocate out of the country through studies. USA has much institute with good funding capacities. You may need rely on your family for the funds needed to go through the processing.

True , there should not be room for excuses at all and i have been tenacious but on wrong path especially the last 2 years. I am ready to take a huge leap of faith and thrust everything on God but i have almost expended all my energy on things,people and places that didn't serve me right and i figure i can't do it on my own human or personal efforts.

INTENTLYINTENSE:



True , there should not be room for excuses at all and i have been tenacious but on wrong path especially the last 2 years. I am ready to take a huge leap of faith and thrust everything on God but i have almost expended all my energy on things,people and places that didn't serve me right and i figure i can't do it on my own human or personal efforts.

Just relax, breathe, and be ready assured there's light at the end of the tunnel. Learn to live each day at a time so that you don't get overwhelmed. Life in itself is a struggle so strive to do your best each day so that at night, you can sleep well knowing you've done your best.

GboyegaD:


Just relax, breathe, and be ready assured there's light at the end of the tunnel. Learn to live each day at a time so that you don't get overwhelmed. Life in itself is a struggle so strive to do your best each day so that at night, you can sleep well knowing you've done your best.

Many thanks.

Your story is touchy and some times life deals a heavy blow, sometimes are situations or predicament can be self-inflicted the country isn’t helping matters Nigeria for a lot of people is like in a state of war where every citizen on a daily fight there battles whether mini or maxi but the truth is almost everyone is contending with different forces.

Some can be psychological/mental,could be in the physical form/health challenges for some it’s negative spiritual forces and energy especially if the person’s family/lineage or ancestry is a troubled one with loads of dark clouds and lastly for loads of people in the country it’s economic/financial forces feeding and making ends meet, clothing and shelter,getting a gainful employment or steady source of income is the forces they’re battling with and it can be academic/educational could be professional or occupational people situations and stories differ and it’s to each his own.

You seem at a crossroad and and you’re at a high risk of relapsing and going back to those bad habits and the dark past for that not to happen you need to fight and you need self-motivate and constantly visualize a great future for yourself that’s what should you keep you fighting whenever negative thoughts creep in,having a tunnel vision on making your life a success would go a long way and looking at the bigger picture would help you to persevere.


These are my suggestions

1.Find a spiritual guide,someone who you trust in their ability to inquire into your life happenings and circumstances...I mean a wholesome searchlight needs to beam into your life...from there you’d know if the forces are spiritual or not and from there you’d know the next and needed steps to take.

2.You need to be productive and engaged and also have a source of income whatever legal and legitimate job you can find right now kindly occupy yourself in the meantime.

3.Have a plan,dreams,vision and goals and focus on them and decide on an occupation or profession i believe your spiritual guide can also help you on this...if there’s a need to change your environment then you should do that.

Stay strong and positive bro!it can only get better and you would surely have a song of Victory

Many Thanks ^^^

@OP You still have a chance and I see you excelling in whatever you choose to do. Admitting that there is a problem is the first step to solving the problem.

With your qualification and professional certificate, develop a page resume and submit application to companies and private schools for teaching jobs, it's temporal just to keep mind and body together. If you're buoyant enough, you can change location and start life in a new environment. From there you'd pick up, settle down and move on with life.

Substance abuse is a silent killer and people need to raise awareness for it to stop.

flokii:
@OP You still have a chance and I see you excelling in whatever you choose to do. Admitting that there is a problem is the first step to solving the problem.

With your qualification and professional certificate, develop a page resume and submit application to companies and private schools for teaching jobs, it's temporal just to keep mind and body together. If you're buoyant enough, you can change location and start life in a new environment. From there you'd pick up, settle down and move on with life.

Substance abuse is a silent killer and people need to raise awareness for it to stop.

Noted. Thank you sir

INTENTLYINTENSE:
Many Thanks ^^^

I can see you’re trying to reach me via mail check my profile you’d see a contact there you can chat me up on WhatsApp.

Carlyboi:


I can see you’re trying to reach me via mail check my profile you’d see a contact there you can chat me up on WhatsApp.

i didn't see any contact and i use Symbian phone. Nokia C5, to be precise; apparently can't use whatsapp at the moment. The email would do, maybe i could drop my # on there.

INTENTLYINTENSE:


i didn't see any contact and i use Symbian phone. Nokia C5, to be precise; apparently can't use whatsapp at the moment. The email would do, maybe i could drop my # on there.

Ok you can leave your number I’m gonna call you during the week.

Follow this channel on YouTube , the answers to your questions and solutions to your worries you will find them there. Do not give up yet.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCb7RX0-go8bItHpySbJSVAQ

Carlyboi:


Ok you can leave your number I’m gonna call you during the week.

ok

INTENTLYINTENSE:



070.6136.5018.
I will soon edit. Let me know so i can modify.

Seen!

Thebig4:
Follow this channel on YouTube , the answers to your questions and solutions to your worries you will find them there. Do not give up yet.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCb7RX0-go8bItHpySbJSVAQ

What is it about pls? I can't view from here.

Click the link the answers you seek you shall find and follow the teachings.

INTENTLYINTENSE:


What is it about pls? I can't view from here.

Thebig4:
Click the link the answers you seek you shall find and follow the teachings.

THE GREATEST ADVICE EVER TOLD.

I will wait to access the clip on pc in the week. Like i said i am using a Symbian phone,a NOKIA C5.
Thank you.

Sometimes i go cold turkey and have some cravings and i only shower and sleep. Like i said i don't want to live an idle life and that is why i am seeking for guidance,advice, admonition ,support and a JOB, if there is any opening whatsoever.

I want to be productive and reintegrate myself into a functional society. I don't want to end up in this quicksand that has buried so many dreams and has misdirected several others into perdition.

Please, save a soul !!!

2ndchancey@gmail.com

Are u married. If not, stop any immorality just as you stopped drugs. Favour will surely locate you. Fornication has a way of blocking progress.

onez:
Are u married. If not, stop any immorality just as you stopped drugs. Favour will surely locate you. Fornication has a way of blocking progress.

Not married Sir

I am open to ideas, suggestions, prayers, advice, and support to spur me away from this dark cloud and perdition into a worthy lifestyle.

Like i said i have realized i am in bondage and shackles and i can't help myself. I am not a violent person but smoking of substance has eaten through the fabric of my living, sometimes i forget things i ordinarily should remember,

i don't know how much damage i have done to myself in the past but i am ready to embrace absolute rehabilitation and getting back on my feet so that my prospects and lifelong dreams will not be totally diminished.

I am fed up.

INTENTLYINTENSE:
I am open to ideas, suggestions, prayers, advice, and support to spur me away from this dark cloud and perdition into a worthy lifestyle.

Like i said i have realized i am in bondage and shackles and i can't help myself. I am not a violent person but smoking of substance has eaten through the fabric of my living, sometimes i forget things i ordinarily should remember,

i don't know how much damage i have done to myself in the past but i am ready to embrace absolute rehabilitation and getting back on my feet so that my prospects and lifelong dreams will not be totally diminished.

I am fed up.

Baba, you're just starting but it's a good step.
Stay clean for full one month...and continue staying.
Let your reason for quitting keep spurring you on.

Wake up with a written plan of things to accomplish dat day.
Continue consistently.
With time, your productivity will increase to accommodate broader activities.

You might wanna change environment so as to start afresh...or start small.

I wish you godspeed.

Thanks .