AlexJustin:
A Nairalander pleaded with me to help him post the issues he's having in his marriage here for Advice and counsel.

This is his exact word.

"After I traveled for work. Which took me almost a year outside Nigeria
.
When I came back, I then discovered that my wife had been having an affair with the guy she called her bestie.

This was the same guy I caught her with during our courtship. But she said they were just friends. And now, after 2 years of marriage, I still caught my wife having an affair with the same guy.

When I asked her, she told me it was because of issue we had when I was around.

Please I need people's advice. I am finding it hard to forget it and it's hurting me every day."

Pls your Advise is needed. No insult please.

gazilion:



If she has been begging you, please forgive her! God will also forgive and honour you more.
Tell her to promise you, that she would become the best of a wife and mother to you and your kids.
Driving her away from the house is not the best for you, for her or your children.
Receive Grace and Forgive her this time but be very strict going forward. I believe she will be much more loyal to you going forward.
Don't expose her before your people or her people. Let it die between both of you.

gazilion:



If she has been begging you, please forgive her! God will also forgive and honour you more.
Tell her to promise you, that she would become the best of a wife and mother to you and your kids.
Driving her away from the house is not the best for you, for her or your children.
Receive Grace and Forgive her this time but be very strict going forward. I believe she will be much more loyal to you going forward.
Don't expose her before your people or her people. Let it die between both of you.

gazilion:



If she has been begging you, please forgive her! God will also forgive and honour you more.
Tell her to promise you, that she would become the best of a wife and mother to you and your kids.
Driving her away from the house is not the best for you, for her or your children.
Receive Grace and Forgive her this time but be very strict going forward. I believe she will be much more loyal to you going forward.
Don't expose her before your people or her people. Let it die between both of you.

AlexJustin:
Please I need people's advice. I am finding it hard to forget it and it's hurting me every day."
Pls your Advise is needed. No insult please.

gazilion:



[s]
If she has been begging you, please forgive her! God will also forgive and honour you more.
Tell her to promise you, that she would become the best of a wife and mother to you and your kids.
Driving her away from the house is not the best for you, for her or your children.
Receive Grace and Forgive her this time but be very strict going forward. I believe she will be much more loyal to you going forward.
Don't expose her before your people or her people. Let it die between both of you[/s]

princeeze1:
Your wife cheated in courtship! Red flag, but very forgiveable, you aren’t married yet. She cheated well into marriage with thesame person, and you don’t know they really did not stop before, they only got discreet earlier, and became careless as a result of your absence. Now that you are back, she is not sorry she cheated, but sorry because she got caught, they will get discreet again. You are a weakling and those advising you to let go, knowing it’s the second time with same person are not good people, will they tolerate cheating with same person a second time?
The love child between David and Bethsheeba was killed by God because it was the product of adultery, show even God abhors adultery. The Christ even abhors it!
Your wife and her lover bestie have no regards for you, if he was so good, what stopped him from wifing her before you did? You also have no self esteem which is what they have taken advantage of. If you already have a child with her, your first call now should not be about forgiveness but rather about paternity, before you start raising bastards. By now she should be in her father’s house, you cannot try to please a woke society by tolerating and covering an abominable act. It does not make you less of a man to call a spade a spade. Some people will not stay married and the heavens will not fall because yours did not work out. Don’t allow anyone guilt trip you to eat poison. You think all these people who cry paternity fraud after 20 years didn’t see all these signs you are seeing today in the beginning? They did but were too weak to be decisive!!!


NB: I am also very married!

AlexJustin:
A Nairalander pleaded with me to help him post the issues he's having in his marriage here for Advice and counsel.

This is his exact word.

"After I traveled for work. Which took me almost a year outside Nigeria
.
When I came back, I then discovered that my wife had been having an affair with the guy she called her bestie.

This was the same guy I caught her with during our courtship. But she said they were just friends. And now, after 2 years of marriage, I still caught my wife having an affair with the same guy.

When I asked her, she told me it was because of issue we had when I was around.

Please I need people's advice. I am finding it hard to forget it and it's hurting me every day."

Pls your Advise is needed. No insult please.

AlexJustin:
A Nairalander pleaded with me to help him post the issues he's having in his marriage here for Advice and counsel.

This is his exact word.

"After I traveled for work. Which took me almost a year outside Nigeria
.
When I came back, I then discovered that my wife had been having an affair with the guy she called her bestie.

This was the same guy I caught her with during our courtship. But she said they were just friends. And now, after 2 years of marriage, I still caught my wife having an affair with the same guy.

When I asked her, she told me it was because of issue we had when I was around.

Please I need people's advice. I am finding it hard to forget it and it's hurting me every day."

Pls your Advise is needed. No insult please.