oldienavie:
I have payed keen attention to our behaviour and society and its hard to argue that the black race is not cursed.
We fail to learn from the mistakes of our fathers and continue to repeat the same cycle thus stagnating and refusing to evolve, the oyinbo man would evaluate the life of those that have gone before him and adapt and thats how he has progressed.

I currently live in France and my caucasian friend just told me something today that broke my heart and don't know whether to ruin this Naija guy life.
She is married to a Naija guy who from my investigation just needed the oyinbo for papers.
But that's not the issue, this lady asked me if it is normal for Nigerian men to beat their wives.

This stupid guy without papers has been beating his wife, this is very sad and I am trying to really manage my emotions.
My wife wants me to tell the lady the truth so that she can report and expose him(I found out the guy has a family in NIgeria).. I wasn't going to involve myself in the matter but what the lady told me today really provoked me.

What is wrong with black people in general, why are we always behaving in this manner, how can someone take you in and feed, clothe and support you yet you are assualting her despite that you do not have papers and you can be deported if she goes to the police.

Do you guys think I should expose ? I don't want to get involved but my wife is putting pressure on me.

PoliteActivist:
Have you considered that may be the girl likes to be beaten and he's the only one man enough to risk jail to give her what she craves, and that's why she is with him? And that she actually loves him for it, and nothing anyone exposes can change that - and that he knows it??!!

RoyalBlu:
He must have manipulated her into thinking beating her is for her own good and a proof that he cares about her

Cowardly man he is.

It's better you convince her to report him herself.

DontBullshitMe:
Sounds unbelievable IMO.

Caucasian woman allows a black (probably undocumented) immigrant beat the hell out of her? Really?

Is she fat? Is she disabled?

oldienavie:

Yes she is fat.
Many Caucasians are on the fat side.
But she isnt bad looking at all.

Mindlog:
I would because I have done such. I used to have a neighbour, a Nigerian woman with their 2 daughters who lived in the same apartment block with me. She relocated from Nigeria to the UK with her 2 children on a work visa last year August and was so lively until her husband joined them in January, this year and things changed.

One could easily observe the change in the woman and their children as they became withdrawn. The woman was collecting beatings and did well in covering it up, twice I have seen their Pastor and his wife visit them for reconciliation. I had also observed the kids lurking around the lobby looking scared while their parents were fighting inside the apartment with music on.

I finally did call the Police to report the man and the impact his presence has been on his wife and their children. The Police came but the woman covered up for her husband and they left without arresting him. What finally nailed him and got him arrested was the school their children attended finding out that he beats the children as they had different ages of bruises in hidden parts of their bodies and the children recounting to their school counselor how their father also regularly beats their mother.

oldienavie:
I have payed keen attention to our behaviour and society and its hard to argue that the black race is not cursed.
We fail to learn from the mistakes of our fathers and continue to repeat the same cycle thus stagnating and refusing to evolve, the oyinbo man would evaluate the life of those that have gone before him and adapt and thats how he has progressed.

I currently live in France and my caucasian friend just told me something today that broke my heart and don't know whether to ruin this Naija guy life.
She is married to a Naija guy who from my investigation just needed the oyinbo for papers.
But that's not the issue, this lady asked me if it is normal for Nigerian men to beat their wives.

This stupid guy without papers has been beating his wife, this is very sad and I am trying to really manage my emotions.
My wife wants me to tell the lady the truth so that she can report and expose him(I found out the guy has a family in NIgeria).. I wasn't going to involve myself in the matter but what the lady told me today really provoked me.

What is wrong with black people in general, why are we always behaving in this manner, how can someone take you in and feed, clothe and support you yet you are assualting her despite that you do not have papers and you can be deported if she goes to the police.

Do you guys think I should expose ? I don't want to get involved but my wife is putting pressure on me.

Richy4:
Pardon my ignorance...But I need to know what you were driving at... What is the truth that you really wanted to expose here I just want to know?

Are you implying that there's a place in the world where it was normal or ok for a man to hit a woman or a woman to hit a man?..

If the woman in question is tired of staying in an abusive relationship, she knows what to do... Stay out of their relationship buddy...How you managed to know that she cloths and feeds him is another matter..

And please stop making it look like it was a black or race thing... Domestic violence knows no race or gender...Oyibo dey do domestic violence even Asians..

PoliteActivist:


@bolded, the HUGE difference is that in a country like Nigeria you can happily get away with beating your wife, while in a place like France the mere allegation will have you locked up while things are investigated

Richy4:


You are correct.. That's why I was wondering OP's motives...
I might be wrong though but based on my observations, some Nigerians abroad are very fond of meddling into people's relationships especially when a Nigerian brother is involved with a non-African woman....

They quickly became relationship experts, advisers and defenders.... But when the Nigerian man gets involved with an African woman but non-Nigerian, you will never see them...I don't know what to call that behavior ..eye service or something ...

The woman in question I believe knows the law and how to call the cops since she was 4yrs..They teach them emergency numbers from nursery school... if she got the capacity to sponsor someone to stay, she should know what to do...I believe she got friends as well...

In my opinion, I find it disgusting when a Nigerian brother or sister starts talking to a white woman about their relationship instead of talking to their fellow Nigerians to behave and act right...

Mindlog:
I would because I have done such. I used to have a neighbour, a Nigerian woman with their 2 daughters who lived in the same apartment block with me. She relocated from Nigeria to the UK with her 2 children on a work visa last year August and was so lively until her husband joined them in January, this year and things changed.

One could easily observe the change in the woman and their children as they became withdrawn. The woman was collecting beatings and did well in covering it up, twice I have seen their Pastor and his wife visit them for reconciliation. I had also observed the kids lurking around the lobby looking scared while their parents were fighting inside the apartment with music on.

I finally did call the Police to report the man and the impact his presence has been on his wife and their children. The Police came but the woman covered up for her husband and they left without arresting him. What finally nailed him and got him arrested was the school their children attended finding out that he beats the children as they had different ages of bruises in hidden parts of their bodies and the children recounting to their school counselor how their father also regularly beats their mother.

PoliteActivist:


Human psychology is complex indeed. Do you know that some big men in authority secretly pay a woman (called dominatrix) to whip them and humiliate them? Likewise there are women who PAY men to be treated as their slaves to the extent of leading them around on a hidden leach. If you see it you'd say the poor woman is being abused. So, things are not always what they seem!

You have been watching too much porn buddy...
Does that thing really exist? I mean I understand that sometimes partners do some bedroom role play like call 'me daddy'/ playing the stripper or a nurse/ cops in the bedroom to spice their sex life... but how can a real human in his/her right mind accept to be humiliated or abused?

sisisioge:
All these low intelligent oyinbos should stop disturbing people's peace jare. Even if it is in the guy's culture to batter his wife, is it now in the wife's culture to accept it? Abeg! She should swerve! Some women are just destined to die in the hands of men. Whew!

Raalsalghul:


Is she not aware of the laws in France?

Does she not know the power she wields by reporting him to the police?

Something else might be at play here and I'd advise you stay out of it.

oldienavie:
I have payed keen attention to our behaviour and society and its hard to argue that the black race is not cursed.
We fail to learn from the mistakes of our fathers and continue to repeat the same cycle thus stagnating and refusing to evolve, the oyinbo man would evaluate the life of those that have gone before him and adapt and thats how he has progressed.

I currently live in France and my caucasian friend just told me something today that broke my heart and don't know whether to ruin this Naija guy life.
She is married to a Naija guy who from my investigation just needed the oyinbo for papers.
But that's not the issue, this lady asked me if it is normal for Nigerian men to beat their wives.

This stupid guy without papers has been beating his wife, this is very sad and I am trying to really manage my emotions.
My wife wants me to tell the lady the truth so that she can report and expose him(I found out the guy has a family in NIgeria).. I wasn't going to involve myself in the matter but what the lady told me today really provoked me.

What is wrong with black people in general, why are we always behaving in this manner, how can someone take you in and feed, clothe and support you yet you are assualting her despite that you do not have papers and you can be deported if she goes to the police.

Do you guys think I should expose ? I don't want to get involved but my wife is putting pressure on me.