I created this thread because of u. I will like you to address the following issues.
1)Most times I meet more of christians guys dan muslims guys despite dat I schooled in the North
2)The few muslims I meet discriminate a lot especially the alfas amongst dem.The find it difficult to greet and wen u greet dem, dey won't answer. Infact, d way dey look at u is so embarrasing like u ve committed d worst sin on earth just because we don't use ijab.
3) Those dat re not alfas lust after the christians girls and prefer to date dem

Ayo where are u now?

You have decided to create the thread finally. This your case is not what I really thought you were going to bring up. Now to address your questions.

1)Most times I meet more of christians guys dan muslims guys despite dat I schooled in the North
You fall into the profile of the kind of girl they would go for now. Don't get me wrong here; what I am saying is that if you go out looking all attractive and enticing, Christian guys who don't mind "nyashing" (excuse the language but I am trying to communicate here), will be all over you.

Now, there are a lot of girls who do not use Hijab that are still chaste, but the problem they would have is that they will be treated like every other loose girl that is jumping from man to man. So if you are a Muslim and chaste and not using Hijab, you are doing yourself a BIG disservice.

2. The few muslims I meet discriminate a lot especially the alfas amongst dem.The find it difficult to greet and wen u greet dem, dey won't answer. Infact, d way dey look at u is so embarrasing like u ve committed d worst sin on earth just because we don't use ijab.

Well, it will be a little bit difficult for the 'Alfas' to relate with you because even looking at you the way you are is sinful. However, I get your point some people just form holy pass all the time without trying to listen to someone like you or understand that you may not have come from a very religious background which does not mean you are evil or lewd. Again, you have to be willing to learn more about your religion and try as much as you can to begin to follow its tenets (Trust me, I know it can be difficult but with a sincere heart and the grace of God you can make the transition).

3) Those dat re not alfas lust after the christians girls and prefer to date dem.
It still boils down to the point I raised in trying to answer your first question. There are a lot of Muslim young men who are yet to understand that fornication is not cool with God and if they try you and don't get it with you will go for those who are available. (You have to understand that it is a highly enjoyable (though unprofitable venture), it takes mercy and grace of God to be able to abstain from such).

In summary, I perceive that you may be a really good girl who was not fortunate enough to get conviction in her religion at a younger age. This has led to you not fitting-in with the "conscious" Muslims and at the same time you have not fitted-in with "carefree or disobedient" Muslims.

You need a little bit of help and thereafter you should be fine Insha Allah.

I have taken some time-out to answer you when I really should be doing something else, I hope you find this helpful.

@hayorbaami, there is a particular young lady on Twitter, I would really like you to follow. However, it is unfair for me to publish her twitter handle here. We don't know each other but her tweets would be a great source of strength and support for somebody like you. I know they inspire me, for sure.

If you don't mind, I suggest that you follow me on twitter and I can pass on the information to you there. If you don't like the idea, you can suggest another means.

My twitter handle is @maclatunji.

Tunji let the lady be for Gods sake. Is there any crime in marrying a christian? Ayo come out&say something

i understand ur predicament. my advice wld b dat u join muslim youth organistions. mss wld be best as an undergraduate other orgs av youth wings u can join also

i'd want u to understand dat one of d significance of hijab is dat it gives us an identity as muslimah. it would be hard for any1 2 identify u as a muslim let alone approach yu wvout it

finally,most guys are runnung away from d responsibility marriage puts on dem, keepn many ladies single.

toba:

Tunji let the lady be for Gods sake. Is there any crime in marrying a christian? Ayo come out&say something

y are u always afta muslim girls, xtian girls to decent ti tan nile ni??

toba:

Tunji let the lady be for Gods sake. Is there any crime in marrying a christian? Ayo come out&say something

Errrrrmmmm, I am scratching my head because the lady has not made a single comment about me bugging her. So, I do not understand what you are complaining about.

@Toba! Tanks but am not interested in a christian. I luv to end up wth smone of d same muslim I.e muslim.
@deols, am not an undergraduate. Am a graduate.
@Tunji, still waiting for d writeup u intend to give me.

Are you following me on twitter already?

Hayorbaami, I just saw you on twitter, sent you a message with the sister's handle view her profile and follow.

that's thats y we have refused to move forward as a nation. we shd stop this myopic thinking. wait a minute did God Almighty tell us if hes a Muslim or xtian? that's how u make pple loose what rightfully belongs to them by destiny. whats bad in a Muslim marrying a xtian? i know many Muslims that are thinking outside the box and are ready to marry anyone provided they believe in God. tunji i actually don't know what u are up to. smdh at u all. where did God say there shdnt be inter religious marriage? u like to over do things. its backwardness

maclatunji:

, I am scratching my head because the lady has not made a single comment about me bugging her. So, I do not understand what you are complaining about.

I'm complaining cos i dnt want u to cajole her by brainwashing the innocent young lady. leave her alone. u are dragging her to twitter to follow a kinda weird story

maclatunji:

Are you following me on twitter already?

deols:

y are u always afta muslim girls, xtian girls to decent ti tan nile ni??

ki lode? emi ni mo mo nkan ti mo fe. so allow me

There is freedom of association, it is actually an act of intolerance for you to want to determine whom this young lady associates with. I mean wetin concern you? Not all Muslims are afraid of being Muslim irrespective of what people like you think or say. Twitter is a public place so I wonder the kind of brainwashing that can happen there. By the way, twitter is much safer than Nairaland where you have infantile delinquents derailing threads and conversations.

smdh. if theres freedom of associatn why then do u Muslims love to discriminate against others? did God tell u to discriminate? BTW who told u that twitter is safer than nl? i hope this is not the kind of deceit u would be feeding this innocent young lady with. here who knows u? u aren't compelled to add your photograph or being followed by millions here as against whats obtainable on twitter. smdh. saying all manner of tongue twisting things just to cajole and lure wouldn't help your case Mr man

toba:

smdh. if theres freedom of associatn why then do u Muslims love to discriminate against others? did God tell u to discriminate? BTW who told u that twitter is safer than nl? i hope this is not the kind of deceit u would be feeding this innocent young lady with. here who knows u? u aren't compelled to add your photograph or being followed by millions here as against whats obtainable on twitter. smdh. saying all manner of tongue twisting things just to cajole and lure wouldn't help your case Mr man

Everybody screens the people they relate with; it is called choice. Obviously, you are not a fan of twitter

of course im not a fan and may never be. facebook and nairaland makes sense. now kindly respond to my questions above

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no Muslim male or female should associate with an individual that openly insults our deem and the Holy Prophet pbuh, it can just happen association can be been done at the price of insults and degradation. May Allah save us from the ploy of the munafiqquns.amin

Tunji can u read what ur brother have just said? so as the likes of lagosshia, sweetnecta etc have insulted christians and their leaders, it automatically translates into disassociation? theres something wrong with the message u are conveying

Toba, you have not asked any salient question here. Just made rhetorical questions. On your point of Muslim women not marrying Christians, the reason is simple. In Islam as well as Yorubaland the husband is the undisputed leader of the household. The fact that you are here arguing with us shows that we have major differences on how we seek to Worship God and live on earth. So the question you should answer is:

Why would any conscious and self-respecting Muslim woman want to put herself under the authority of a man whose faith is antithetical to hers?

vedaxcool:

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no Muslim male or female should associate with an individual that openly insults our deem and the Holy Prophet pbuh, it can just happen association can be been done at the price of insults and degradation. May Allah save us from the ploy of the munafiqquns.amin

especially when his motives are questionable.

toba:

Tunji can u read what your brother have just said? so as the likes of lagosshia, sweetnecta etc have insulted christians and their leaders, it automatically translates into disassociation? theres something wrong with the message u are conveying

i dont think he is asking for dissociation in all entirety. Being on the same forum is some association actually

Ayo ive not given up on ur case

toba:

Tunji can u read what your brother have just said? so as the likes of lagosshia, sweetnecta etc have insulted christians and their leaders, it automatically translates into disassociation? theres something wrong with the message u are conveying

It is very funny how you still insist that insulting the holy prophet pbuh is a right unto you, the question remains what sensible individual will befriend another that goes as far as insulting your religion and everything you hold sacred and even goes the extra mile of propagating lies against your beliefs in order to discredit it? This kind of thinking can only work in the head of toba, who won't mind befriending individuals that insult say his parent and even lie about them. Friendship is based on mutual respect, unless of course you happen to be a drug junkie to which reality is seemingly distorted, then would friendship be on mutual disrespect.

toba:

Ayo ive not given up on your case

Are you sure you are not on Viagra?

maclatunji:

Are you sure you are not on Viagra?

of u bought it for me now. can u remember? im sure u will be very happy now that u ve succeded in luring ayo away unto twitter. may be u want to date her ur self. smdh. it will never happen insha allah

toba:

of u bought it for me now. can u remember? im sure u will be very happy now that u ve succeded in luring ayo away unto twitter. may be u want to date her your self. smdh. it will never happen insha allah

Now that you are putting ideas in my head I just might give it a thought. I am not allowed to date but I can prevent her from falling to your type. Here is my not-so-evil laugh. HAHAHA HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAA! (As a storm rises and thunder roars and claps in the background)

^^^ Blame that on watching too many cartoons. In fact, I watched so many cartoons that I had to write and direct a short one albeit using CGI. Have a look!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rzvUX-jxSC0&feature=youtube_gdata_player

ok why are u preventing her from talking to me? do u think im going to harm her?

She is the one preventing herself from talking to you.

How? after u have brainwashed her?

Not at all. We have hardly spoken. She knew what she wanted before posting. She just wanted to express her thoughts based on her observation and convictions. That is why she created this thread!