spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh,
everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

That her ex is hitting on your wife bro. She’s sponsoring y’all to travel so he will hit on it more.

Don't conclude, it may be a free heart of school life experience and friendship, just educated her on the issue of keeping such friend and warn her, Don't let this situation create a problem in your marriage, this life is about patience and understanding.

Its no big deal and i will say you are a tad bit insecure.

Stop checking your wife’s phone.. Wives, stop checking your husband’s phone..

Save yourself the heartache..

As a Christian you can forgive and forget in a case for cheating, either by the wife or husband.

Please don't jump into conclusions, ask what you feel uncomfortable with, with love and admonishment.

I'm sure it's just a friendly banter, it is well and God bless your home.

Hassanmaye:

Wow what a wise man

The end of his comments clearly reveals there's no wisdom there!

dontrulee:


You go give yourself hypertension!
I have many married women on my WhatsApp that call me darling, sweetheart and my Love. I just use to wonder how their husbands will feel like if they come across such chats??

Many married women that are caged physically become wild online especially WhatsApp. I try and avoid married women as much as possible, many of them are starved of sex and emotional Love. It's so sad

I blocked them sharply to avoid wahala anything married woman someone should be very careful.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

one of stupid comment I never come across on Nairaland.

Truth be told, A good woman will discontinued everything call friendship and focus on building her home, but this generation now take sex as fun not AAluu

MRAKPORS:


She is still ranting that I am insecure

Oga and she still has mouth to talk?
Anyway, truth of the matter is that if all men look at their wife's phones, the number of heart attack and sudden death in the country will be very very high.
I think what men, especially young men just entering marriage should do is to ensure your children are yours. Make it clear from the onset you will do DNA once you have a child. Don't hide mouth and don't let love blind you. This will frighten any woman that will go and bring a child from outside to place on your head. She will rather do a coded abortion. When a child is born also, do a DNA test. Don't assume any woman is innocent.
See, once you guarantee your kids are yours, that is the ultimate. Any other thing is trivial, if she cheats or does what the op says, and you catch her, your kids are yours, you may forgive if you wish, because all you get from her is now companionship.
Guys that are young still have it better, is it men in their 50, 60, 70 you expect to do DNA and then find out kids are not theirs? Best to just live life and take it in good faith all are yours, than to kill yourself.
OP, if you know how married women cheat now, you will be shocked. Especially newly married ones. Those that had sugar daddies, how they still send nudes, want to still poke, disturb men heavily, infact my paddies have to block them, some still poke them steadily. You will be shocked!
That is why I focused on you having peace of mind by focusing on making sure your kids are yours.
Once novice yesterday said one must marry virgin and all problems are gone. I was just laughing.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is w!

Brother, you're not doing well. Ex-not just a former colleague or church member or former class mate or former neighbor. Ex. Abort mission

You are Shariing your wife with her ex

[quote author=MRAKPORS post=119846690]I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?[ Which kinda guys we have in our society nowaday? If you can solve this childish issue what will you do if you have real family issue. Come on! Develop and mature.]

MRAKPORS:


She is still ranting that I am insecure

Sorry to say this. Your wife is a wh0re.

I wouldn’t have said that if I didn’t read what you posted. Any girlfriend or wife who labels her man as insecure after she has been caught flirting with another man is a wh0re.

There is nothing secure about watching and allowing her build romantic tension with another man. It is a defeated man who sees nonsense like that and looks away. You did the right thing.

Let me tell you. No man can ever get to the point of being on romantic terms with your wife if she didn’t allow it. These are the same women who would block you if you guys broke up but she cannot block this guy who is telling a married woman he misses her.

Open your mind bro. Don’t let any woman bully you into accepting nonsense. What she is doing is wrong. If she didn’t like the guy she would have blocked him long ago. She is encouraging him. That is wh0rish behaviour.

@OP women are complicated creatures. Know this and know peace.
Don't bother thinking you can monitor her.

If you have the money, try run DNA on your
kids just to make sure they are truly yours.

Dchair2:


The end of his comments clearly reveals there's no wisdom there!

Whatsapp web is your friend


But you may have married...read the lips

Hehe.... Married woman telling another man i miss you too... If na those days, them go call meeting for the woman head but these days.... The woman sef go dey tell the man say na insecurity dey worry am..... What a life

We respect your style of running your family, to each his own and not any two homes have the same modus operandi.
Im sure at this point, its likely 90% nothing must have happened between wifey and her ex.

My advice is that create space for the future fight to come. This means that we hope a misunderstanding doesn't arise btw wifey and you or between you and her ex or between her and the so called ex. That's when you will hear statements you wish were never said. The ex for sponsoring the US vacation can use it to "see you finish".
Please be mindful, careful, tact, smart and most especially don't solicit financial favours from the so called ex.

quote author=spice123 post=119847718]
My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully![/quote]

I am not exonerating your wife however, why read meaning from I miss you. Don't you tell your real friends irrespective of gender you miss them when you truly do? Or are we so detach from emotions because we are grown up and married?

If you know what is good for you sir scold her to stop chatting with him, only God knows what they have together in the past..any slightest mistake for a reunion, whatever happen in the past will happen again

Reading your partner's WhatsApp is like cutting onions, once you cut am you go shed tears

MRAKPORS:


She is still ranting that I am insecure

Yes you are.
They could be just friends.
Friends are allowed to miss each other.

Not everything Is sexually inclined.

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

The questions I see almost everyday by dumb married Nairaland men. SMH

obinna58:

This guy is shameless
Baba get little sense na which kin lie be this

Hahaha

Rayban25:


What nonsense are you saying?....as long as he paid bride price and is providing for the woman theres no how feelings will not be involved

Must he die because of a woman. Woman matter need diplomacy. A lot of people do things that they don't suppose to do because of woman. If u want to live long becarful of woman.

If u are my wife I see that u fu^k up big time I end the marriage sharp sharp. For me to the follow up the check u. I don't have such time.
Whether u call it nonsense or not I have spoken mine

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

What did I just read? See monkey wey wear shirt oh... My ex will love a goat like you. Kai.
Ehn, you took ur wife to her ex to visit.
Ehya poor man, guuuuuuy, money ain't ever thing.

rickpat:
she truly misses him...but it's wrong for her to continue to keep in touch... honestly,they are vaccums only the deepest friendship can fill and marriage can never fill such vaccum...

confront your wife and let her discontinue the communication with the dude...

LIFE IS FUNNY, SOMETIMES WE DON'T MARRY THE PERSON THAT WE TRULY MISS...

talk to your wife buddy.. good luck

Immediately I read the response, I knew It was you ... lol .. Compliments of the season. Hope you are doing well ?

Divorce her, and get a rest of mind

ifihearam:
If your ex or old classmates tells you they miss you and you reply back with " miss you too' does that mean your wife should be worried?

If she had ulterior motives she would have deleted it.

Nonesen talk. God don catch am and her since is about to catch up with her.

You're not sincere with this clearing or lemme say you were less concern due to the fact that you knew that your wife ex boy is not in the country. No man will allow his wife to engage in that nonsense you called maturity if you truly love your wife and if not that you are weak as a husband.

Talk another one bro.....

The OP should take it serious, women are very mad.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!