Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

You know her more than we do.
The question you should ask yourself is this;

Will she still marry you if you are the one with her medical condition?

The answer to the question should guide you accordingly.

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marriage is a long road... please don't go into it with doubts and fears...if you know the lady is not good for you cus of her Health..just move on... there's someone meant for everyone irrespective of our health status

I wish you the best and hopefully you make the best decision for yourself

Since it runs in her family, just know that one of your children will inherit it. If you love her so much then take the risk.

I didn't know they inherit ulcer, are you sure it's just ulcer

faithfull18:
I didn't know they inherit ulcer, are you sure it's just ulcer

Ulcer isn't a transmittable traip. OP shouldn't just go into marriage if he is not financially capable to take care of her all through

Op, which of the ulcer are talking about, you are making it sound like one deadly illness.i will advice you go the local root to cure it because the end product of that milk and yoghurt you are talking about will only worsen the symptoms.

If you are afraid of herbs it's better to get antacid and all those ulcer related medicine instead of milk and yoghurt.

I used to have ulcer, I went the herbal root and for the past two years I haven't had symptoms. Let her also try to avoid anything that will trigger the symptoms.

I think you should take her for thorough diagnosis in another hospital.
have a personal discussion with the doctor in the hospital you are taking her to.
there may be more to the illness.

on your own,
observe her and her family closely.
try to see if they are trying to offload a problem you don't know on you.

based on the amount being spent frequently to manage the ulcer, you need to check if you can keep up with the expenses for her and your kids.

the comrade below has more to say

Don't marry out of pity
Poor health is dangerous
You can't afford to raise your future child alone

Look at everything from a point of genuine love. Weigh if you can carry the cross or not and make ur decision...

Ulcer is curable, it's an injury in the stomach which can heal if properly treated. Visit a good clinic and she will be fine.

If she is a good lady in all ramifications and the positives outweigh the negatives, go for it bro.

Finding good woman now is not easy so certain illnesses shouldn't even be given serious attention when searching for spouse.

However, check your finances and most importantly, make sure she is able to compromise on issues when needed to. This is very important.

Shalom

Why didn’t find this at the start of the relationship
You were having sex and making promises or what?

Should it be the other way she’ll leave your sorry ass without hesitation abi no be naija women wey we all know, you’re already having mental stress and the real show haven’t started yet, well keep loving while she stress you to frustration, what you see now it can only get worst in marriage

Pillers are always trying to save you guys but una no Dey ever gree, experience is the best teacher anyway

MumEmdy:
Op, which of the ulcer are talking about, you are making it sound like one deadly illness.i will advice you go the local root to cure it because the end product of that milk and yoghurt you are talking about will only worsen the symptoms.

If you are afraid of herbs it's better to get antacid and all those ulcer related medicine instead of milk and yoghurt.

I used to have ulcer both peptic and gastric join together, I went the herbal root and for the past two years I haven't had symptoms, and let her try to avoid anything that will trigger the symptoms.

This advice is dope. I too had it but went the herbal way. What I took was very simple that you can even do it yourself.
But, if you talk here now, niralanders will insult your ancestors.

Oloki:


This advice is dope. I too had it but went the herbal way. What I took was very simple that you can even do it yourself.
But, if you talk here now, niralanders will insult your ancestors.

You shouldn't be bothered about their insults considering the fact that some people here grow up in very toxic and abusive home, the only language they understand is insult.

Don't be bully by their insults cause you have a right to freedom of speech and you also have equal right on nairaland so go ahead and express yourself it could be of help to others.

onyeego:
You know her more than we do.
The question you should ask yourself is this;

Will she still marry you if you are the one with her medical condition?

The answer to the question should guide you accordingly.

Best answer.
If you were in her shoes, will she do the same for you?

Don't cross an ocean for someone who won't cross a gutter for you.

This is 2023. Be wise.

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

The Lord will heal her continue to pray for her
I know how you feel spending money weekly on health related issue and with the current economy, importantly I hope God leads you to her if not you might end up frustrated in the marriage.

I used elicorid first.. After taking elicorid , then i continued with Barole 20mg subsequently.


buy Barole 20mg and take once daily for 8weeks, preferably after morning meal.

Barole is from Mega life sciences.

Please do not skip the barole drug and avoid alcohol, fatty food, fries, peppery food, coffee, caffeine.


You will be fine..

onyeego:
You know her more than we do.
The question you should ask yourself is this;

Will she still marry you if you are the one with her medical condition?

The answer to the question should guide you accordingly.

good

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

This one weak me I swear

What if you do t know about all these and you are already married to her

God will provide money as it's obvious it's in the family and it will definitely pass to your children

So advice yourself so that you don't blame anyone for going ahead or loosing her

Follow your mind

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

Don't put your kids through trauma. Since it runs in their family, one of your kids will likely have it, hereditary trait...and God help you if her gene is dominant, then all your kids will have it. Think of spending on 3 kids plus your wife, just treating ulcer.

Marriage is meant to give you peace of mind. Don't start your early years treating ailments and spending... Which you suppose use to build family wealth.

Most people above don't know what they are saying. Love will fly out of the window. This life no easy to live and those who still have a stress-free marriage are still finding it difficult, how much more those with problems.

Guy, open your eyes well and disappear. Don't do it out of pity or what people will say. I don talk my own.

I would suggest you see the advice of a gastroenterologist. S/he should be able to guide you and with the knowledge, you can make a sound decision.

Better look for anoda lady..lover boi

Ulcers can heal and as suggested above,let her go see a gastroenterologist as I had to go see one when I struggled with Acid Reflux and was made to go for gastroscopy (don't want to remember that, seeing the internals of my stomach live on big screens as a tiny camera was inserted through my throat. ). Based on the test result, I was given the prescription that helped me reclaim my life..

Ulcer is curable.

Mastersure:
■Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues. True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.
■Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue? Thanks and God bless you all.

1. Chronic ulcer on meds and stil she falls sick every week? Has she in fact seen a specialist on her condition. What you describe maybe something other than ulcer like stomach cancer. I would advice you get a second opinion from another specialist asap so you in fact know what she is dealing with.

By the way, since you know yogurt works for her, so do you make your own pot of yogurt then or do you eat store bought? It is way cheaper to make yours using your favorite store bought as culture.

2. There is no law that says people with medical conditions cannot find love and be married. It would be great if the lady in question does not intend to live as a burden on the one who loves her ---- she is gainfully employed and independent---- but not bad if she has someone who cares enough to not mind taking care of her in her situation.

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

Ulcer is permanently treatable!

Look up Heliobqcter Pylori protocol. My wife suffered from ulcer for more than 8 years until I did research and bought the medicine for her. Since October 2018 till date she has never complained about ulcer.

That was when I realized that medicine in Nigeria is still in the stone ages. This Heliobqcter Pylori protocol is well known worldwide and the person that discovered it got international awards yet our so called doctors here in Nigeria will still prescribe antacid and yogurt when the world has moved past that.

Just Google Heliobqcter Pylori Eradication Protocols and take it from there. Treat your wife and cure her of this easily treatable problem and move on with your life.

Nigerian doctors? I don't really rate them like that. They are not serious.

since13o:


Ulcer is permanently treatable!

Look up Heliobqcter Pylori protocol. My wife suffered from ulcer for more than 8 years until I did research and bought the medicine for her. Since October 2018 till date she has never complained about ulcer.

That was when I realized that medicine in Nigeria is still in the stone ages. This Heliobqcter Pylori protocol is well known worldwide and the person that discovered it got international awards yet our so called doctors here in Nigeria will still prescribe antacid and yogurt when the world has moved past that.

Just Google Heliobqcter Pylori Eradication Protocols and take it from there. Treat your wife and cure her of this easily treatable problem and move on with your life.

Nigerian doctors? I don't really rate them like that. They are not serious.

Stop the unnecessary generalization, no doctor will prescribe just antacids as a drug for management of ulcer. They will prescribe proton pump inhibitors like Omeprazole and two other drugs in a three drug regimen.

Mastersure:
Great Nairalanders,
May the new year be good to everyone here.

Please, i have a problem i need to share with us all here, with the hope of sound counsels on how to manage the situation.

Now the thing is, i am in a serious relationship that is leading to marriage with a lady. But this lady is an ulcer patient. This condition makes her to fall sick almost every week. Stomach upsets and general body weakness, but she still works.
Monies are spent in the hospitals steady and in addition, my plan is after wedding, when we would have been married, i will ensure that those products that eases/relief the ailment like, Milk and Yoghurt together with the normal drugs will always be available at home. (She takes Milk and yoghurt steady for reliefs).

Now my problem is, she falls ill almost all the time, Her younger sister is also an ulcer patient, her mother too is an ulcer patient and her uncle is also a chronic ulcer patient. And these have been given me issues.

True i love her 100% but it will not still be a big deal to end the relationship.

Please, Doctors, Mothers, Fathers and all the experienced and learned people here, Is this a big deal? And how can i handle the issue?

Thanks and God bless you all.

Ulcer is a medical condition that can be cured completely.
You can try traditional/herbal medication if the Orthodox medicine you tried did not produce any positive result.

MumEmdy:
Op, which of the ulcer are talking about, you are making it sound like one deadly illness.i will advice you go the local root to cure it because the end product of that milk and yoghurt you are talking about will only worsen the symptoms.

If you are afraid of herbs it's better to get antacid and all those ulcer related medicine instead of milk and yoghurt.

I used to have ulcer, I went the herbal root and for the past two years I haven't had symptoms. Let her also try to avoid anything that will trigger the symptoms.

Please what herbs did you use. I am currently using Ulsakit and honestly it makes me so weak, bloated, restless. I have just used it for 5 days and to be honest I don't think I want to continue it, the drug does'nt make me feel good at all.

Oloki:


This advice is dope. I too had it but went the herbal way. What I took was very simple that you can even do it yourself.
But, if you talk here now, niralanders will insult your ancestors.

What did you take to cure your ulcer?