There's this person I brought into my line of job. When I brought her in, I wanted her to learn the job very well for like 6 months or a year before she can launch out to get her own clients and be on her own but she left three weeks after following me a few times. She felt she has gotten the hang of the job and started getting her own clients and has been on her own since last year. I overlooked all that. She then started calling me along the line to teach or show her somethings on the job to which I refused because she left of her own accord knowing full well she has not learnt all there is to learn.

Now, there was a place I submitted my proposal letter and after they called me. We had a chat and after a good bargain, they told me to resume the following week. Two days to resumption, they called and told me to hold on. So I felt they got a better bargain. It pained me and I told this person all that happened and what I charged them. After that, I got two other clients who paid the same amount I charged the one that flopped. So I used those ones to console myself and moved on but was still hoping that they would get back to me someday.

Fast-forward to last week. This close pal of mine I trained on the job told me she got a call. In fact she went to that same place I told her I lost an opportunity and submitted a proposal. They now called her and she offered them lower charges and she was given the job.

At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further.

Ok, last year, I confided in her that I want to review my charges with my old clients. Like those I've been with for 4 , 5 years. Today, she called saying she reviewed her charges too with her clients. O boy! Because I reviewed, you too review? I mean something she started last year, she's already reviewing just because I told her I did and my clients have responded to it. These are clients I've had for years and you've only had yours for a few months, cos she started mid last year and she's already increasing fees. Is that how things are done? Anyways I didn't try to warn her of the implication of such act.

Now, I feel this person is just trying to compete with me and I'm thinking it's high time I start concealing somethings from her.

What do you think? Is it safe to continue divulging my plans to this person or am I overreacting?

Believe me you are not overreacting neither she is a bad person.
Just have this at the back your mind, Water wey person go drink no go flow pass you.

You are not smart and you don’t learn from your mistakes, I guess you are this vulnerable because it’s a woman involved. Keep divulging your plans to her, you can as well save up your capital in her bank account.

madridguy:
Believe me you are not overreacting neither she is a bad person.
Just have this at the back your mind, Water wey person go drink no go flow pass you.

Hmmm... I'm trying not to see her as a backstabber but she keeps doing things that make me suspicious of her.

Now the clients are telling her the letter of increment came in late. These are the things I would have taught her about the job if she had stayed a few months with me but she said I was making too much and giving her little. This is someone who didn't pay for the training she was getting o still she was busy calculating how much was coming in and how much was getting to her. That was why she left out of annoyance and had been trying to compete with me in every way. Im shocked.

madridguy:
Believe me you are not overreacting neither she is a bad person.
Just have this at the back your mind, Water wey person go drink no go flow pass you.

But also remember, that unless it's by grace or miracle, as the water dey flow come, you gaz use your sense and ability hustle for the water make e reach you.

You have your life to live so also your friend. Forgive her and move on, then move in silence.
If you're not looking for competition or validation from anyone, is there any reason for you to disclose some vital information about your job with her?


Stay humble and be yourself.

peepydelano:
You are not smart and you don’t learn from your mistakes, I guess you are this vulnerable because it’s a woman involved. Keep divulging your plans to her, you can as well save up your capital in her bank account.

You won't understand.

I perfectly understood you bros. As a human, I will feel the same but be rest assured she will come back to her senses and also to apologize. Just be doing your business, your own customers will still be yours.

EriMma1:


Hmmm... I'm trying not to see her as a backstabber but she keeps doing things they make me suspicious of her.

Now the clients are telling her the letter of increment came in late. These are the things I would have taught her about the job if she had stayed a few months with me but she said I was making too much and giving her little. This is someone who didn't pay for the training she was getting o still she was busy calculating how much was coming in and how much was getting to her. That was why she left out of annoyance and had been trying to compete with me in every way. Im shocked.

BMathew:
You have your life to live so also your friend. Forgive her and move on, then move in silence.
If you're not looking for competition or validation from anyone, is there any reason for you to disclose some vital information about your job with her?


Stay humble and be yourself.

She's more like a family so in a bid to know how every one is faring in business and life generally, we end up disclosing somethings to each other but I don't know why she uses mine against me.

madridguy:
I perfectly understood you bros. As a human, I will feel the same but be rest assured she will come back to her senses and also to apologize. Just be doing your business, your own customers will still be yours.

Ok, bro.
Thank you.

Why do you keep telling her your mind? Can't you keep it to yourself? She is riding on your ideas to get what she wants. Since she is the manipulative type, put her at arms length. It is obvious she is after her own interest.

Op you talk too much…


Keep your cards close to your chest!


Or what’s the essence of you telling your plans?

What's the nature of the job?

You shot yourself in the leg by sharing your plans, your strength and your failures with her.

Must you tell someone your every move in this world where people now take advantage of each other?

In my profession, there are certain skills I still keep to myself. I've instructed in several training sessions and lots of people say I'm a good instructor but I still manage to keep those skills private because I acquired them privately.

I know no one is indispensable but giving them away in a platter will take away the little leverage I still manage to have over some issues.

Learn from your mistakes and good luck.

This post reads like a redacted page.

So much obfuscation.

Anyway, do as you deem fit.

Oloki:
Why do you keep telling her your mind? Can't you keep it to yourself? She is riding on your ideas to get what she wants. Since she is the manipulative type, put her at arms length. It is obvious she is after her own interest.

She's just like a family and a close confidant.
I'll learn to keep things to myself.

Thank you.

JeffreyJunior:
You shot yourself in the leg by sharing your plans, your strength and your failures with her.

Must you tell someone your everyone move in this world where people now take advantage of each other?

In my profession, there are certain skills I still keep to myself. I've instructed in several training sessions and a lot people say I'm a good instructor but I still manage to keep those skills private because I acquired them privately.

I know no one is indispensable but giving them away in a platter will take away the little leverage I still manage to have over some issues.

Learn from your mistakes and good luck.

Thanks for this. I've learnt a thing from your contribution. I'll adjust.
Thank you.

Rexymania:
What's the nature of the job?

Educational Consultancy.

brain54:
Op you talk too much…


Keep your cards close to your chest!


Or what’s the essence of you telling your plans?

Ok. I've heard. I've learnt my lessons.

Thanks everyone for your wise contributions.
Ill make necessary adjustments and learn to be more discreet henceforth.

Don't tell such person ur plans

EriMma1:


Hmmm... I'm trying not to see her as a backstabber but she keeps doing things that make me suspicious of her.

Now the clients are telling her the letter of increment came in late. These are the things I would have taught her about the job if she had stayed a few months with me but she said I was making too much and giving her little. This is someone who didn't pay for the training she was getting o still she was busy calculating how much was coming in and how much was getting to her. That was why she left out of annoyance and had been trying to compete with me in every way. Im shocked.

What are you doing, if i may ask please?

.

I suppose wipe you USB cord before replying you
Guy, she obviously sees you as a competition which is why she refused to be under you even when she only spent 3weeks in training. Do you think she has forgotten that you refused to reach her some stuffs after she left you?
Open your eyes bro.
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Be five steps ahead

At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further.

Your ordeal with the company is non of her Business, its an open world out there, and free for all.
Do you feed her?
Do you pay her bills? Why feel stabbed?
You sounded like a woman on that, are you a woman? That's childish.

Now, I feel this person is just trying to compete with me and I'm thinking it's high time I start concealing somethings from her.

She's not competing with you, she's just a fast learner. Aren't you the one that taught her how to? Why feel sad if she follows your footsteps?
A good learner is the one that learns from people, not the one that sits and wait for experiences to teach them.

If you want to start concealing things from her, that's fine, you don't owe her your business secrets, neither does she owe you the way she wishes to do the business.

TheGoodAmerican:
Why do you keep confiding in her and telling her things after she has shown you she's not to be trusted? Someone like her won't hesitate to stab you in the back just to get ahead of you. This person is not your friend. You need to wisen up and dissociate yourself from her.

Listen to the good American advice.
He's said it all.

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EriMma1:
There's this person I brought into my line of job. When I brought her in, I wanted her to learn the job very well for like 6 months or a year before she can launch out to get her own clients and be on her own but she left three weeks after following me a few times. She felt she has gotten the hang of the job and started getting her own clients and has been on her own since last year. I overlooked all that. She then started calling me along the line to teach or show her somethings on the job to which I refused because she left of her own accord knowing full well she has not learnt all there is to learn.

Now, there was a place I submitted my proposal letter and after they called me. We had a chat and after a good bargain, they told me to resume the following week. Two days to resumption, they called and told me to hold on. So I felt they got a better bargain. It pained me and I told this person all that happened and what I charged them. After that, I got two other clients who paid the same amount I charged the one that flopped. So I used those ones to console myself and moved on but was still hoping that they would get back to me someday.

Fast-forward to last week. This close pal of mine I trained on the job told me she got a call. In fact she went to that same place I told her I lost an opportunity and submitted a proposal. They now called her and she offered them lower charges and she was given the job.

At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further.

Ok, last year, I confided in her that I want to review my charges with my old clients. Like those I've been with for 4 , 5 years. Today, she called saying she reviewed her charges too with her clients. O boy! Because I reviewed, you too review? I mean something she started last year, she's already reviewing just because I told her I did and my clients have responded to it. These are clients I've had for years and you've only had yours for a few months, cos she started mid last year and she's already increasing fees. Is that how things are done? Anyways I didn't try to warn her of the implication of such act.

Now, I feel this person is just trying to compete with me and I'm thinking it's high time I start concealing somethings from her.

What do you think? Is it safe to continue divulging my plans to this person or am I overreacting?

Why are you telling your business information to a competitor? You are being naive is what is happening here.

I didn't know it will be dis long

I don't have time to read all dis please

EriMma1:
There's this person I brought into my line of job. When I brought her in, I wanted her to learn the job very well for like 6 months or a year before she can launch out to get her own clients and be on her own but she left three weeks after following me a few times. She felt she has gotten the hang of the job and started getting her own clients and has been on her own since last year. I overlooked all that. She then started calling me along the line to teach or show her somethings on the job to which I refused because she left of her own accord knowing full well she has not learnt all there is to learn.

Now, there was a place I submitted my proposal letter and after they called me. We had a chat and after a good bargain, they told me to resume the following week. Two days to resumption, they called and told me to hold on. So I felt they got a better bargain. It pained me and I told this person all that happened and what I charged them. After that, I got two other clients who paid the same amount I charged the one that flopped. So I used those ones to console myself and moved on but was still hoping that they would get back to me someday.

Fast-forward to last week. This close pal of mine I trained on the job told me she got a call. In fact she went to that same place I told her I lost an opportunity and submitted a proposal. They now called her and she offered them lower charges and she was given the job.

At first I felt stabbed because she knew about my ordeal with the same company. I just chose not to discuss it further.

Ok, last year, I confided in her that I want to review my charges with my old clients. Like those I've been with for 4 , 5 years. Today, she called saying she reviewed her charges too with her clients. O boy! Because I reviewed, you too review? I mean something she started last year, she's already reviewing just because I told her I did and my clients have responded to it. These are clients I've had for years and you've only had yours for a few months, cos she started mid last year and she's already increasing fees. Is that how things are done? Anyways I didn't try to warn her of the implication of such act.

Now, I feel this person is just trying to compete with me and I'm thinking it's high time I start concealing somethings from her.

What do you think? Is it safe to continue divulging my plans to this person or am I overreacting?

You spill too much for a guy That's your problem

My own question is one, not two.

All these things you did for this girl and according to you is not your babe, can you do the same for your fellow guyman?.


Guys can be very funny

Most people you help are in competition with you.

I’m talking from experience.